“Thank God you’re not with him anymore.” My friend rolled her eyes. “I don’t know how you dated him.”
Whoa. What? My friend’s distaste for my now ex-boyfriend was news to me. How my family and friends feel about the person I’m dating is almost as important as how I feel about him. So if my ex had been so unpopular with my inner circle, why hadn’t someone said something before?
Whether or not to clue a friend or family member into the fact that her significant other is lazy, noncommittal, mean, a couple sandwiches short of a picnic, or dealing something shady out of his basement can be a delicate situation, but it doesn’t have to end your relationship. Keep reading »
A couple years ago, the storytelling magazine SMITH issued a challenge to its readers: “Can you tell your life story in six words?” Inspired by the legend that Ernest Hemingway once won a bet that he could complete a story in just six words (His story: “For Sale: baby shoes, never worn.”), the magazine’s call for mini-memoirs was answered with thousands of submissions and resulted in the New York Times bestseller Not Quite What I Was Planning. Because so many people’s submissions dealt with love and heartbreak, SMITH followed up with the newly published book, Six-Word Memoirs on Love and Heartbreak. We talked to SMITH co-founder Larry Smith about what will get your story included in the next book and how his own love story goes.
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Dan and Serena, decided to get back together on last week’s episode of “Gossip Girl.” But Lonely Boy and S were in for a surprise when they found out that they are…RELATED. Sort of. Their parents had a secret love-child many, many years ago and the twosome share a half-brother. EEK! Sure, their love runs deeper than Chuck Bass’ pockets, but this is an obvious reason to break up with someone, right? Because as Serena said, “it’s a little too hillbilly.” (And you know they don’t stand for that on Park Ave.) Instead, these two decided to stay together, for now, and make the best out of a redneck situation.
This does bring up an interesting point. No matter how deep in love you may be, isn’t there a point in some relationships where it’s time to breakup? Couples stay together out of convenience and comfort, but deep down you may know it’s just not working between the two of you. And if being related in some sick twisted scenario isn’t a reason enough to throw in the towel, here are five reasons to breakup, after the jump. Keep reading »
The emotional affair is when your lover is looking for someone with whom he can experience an intense emotional experience. His primary reason for the affair isn’t sex. Since emotional affairs are more subtle, you’ll have to spend more time gathering evidence because this type of affair is simply easier to deny. Here’s what you should look for, according to Ronald T. Potter-Efron, Ph.D., M.S.W. and co-author of The Emotional Affair after the jump. Keep reading »
Okay, real talk. This isn’t exactly the happy-ending story I’d like it to be, but I’ve got to share with you the details of my recent fantasy crush cum real mini-relationship, if only to encourage everyone to buck up and make some moves in the new year.
Have you ever seen a guy working in a store you frequent, and developed a massive crush on him? Er…I have! For the past eight months, I’ve been completely smitten with a guy who works at my local bookstore. I’ll admit the crush had become a bit extreme; I’d spent over a hundred bucks on books and befriended the entire security staff in an effort to work up the nerve to talk to this dude. Why? Because he was, hands-down, the hottest guy I’d ever seen. Also, anytime we’d spoken, (i.e. “Did you find everything, okay?”) I thought it was obvious that we’d have a real connection. Clearly, things were getting serious. I’d even started setting aside Chris Brown during my sexytime fantasies, and thinking of bookstore boy. So, eight months after the inception of the mega-crush, I introduced myself. Keep reading »
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Have you seen graffiti that’s kind of sweet (even if it is against the law)? Send your pic to email@example.com. Keep reading »
We’ve all had those moments. First, you feel your face start to tingle, then your heart begins to pound, and then you ball up your fists and feel like kicking a wall (or at least tearing to shreds that “service agreement” that after three weeks brought you no service at all.) Anger can be powerful– but there are healthy and unhealthy ways of dealing with it. Handle your frustration properly, and it can get your blood flowing and spur you on to make positive changes. Here’s how to tame your inner raging bull… Keep reading »
Watching Kate Winslet’s acceptance speech last night for her Best Actress Golden Globe award, I was struck by several things. First, my God, the woman has tremendous skin. What do you think is her secret, besides, you know, regular facials, expensive creams and living the good life? Second, was that an orgasm Kate was having as she stepped on stage? If so, does that make her the first person in history to experience a live, televised climax during an awards ceremony? Is there a separate award for that? Third, do you think Kate would seem as elegant and lovely if she spoke with, say, a thick Jersey accent? And fourth, Kate really, really loves her some Leo. She loves him so much, in fact, it’s a bit, well, awkward. All her gushing (“Leo, I’m so happy I can stand here and tell you how much I love you and how much I’ve loved you for thirteen years.”) even elicited some nervous laughter from the audience, which got me thinking: what are the rules for platonic male-female friendships? Is there a line — especially when either party is romantically involved with someone else — that shouldn’t be crossed? Who decides what the line is? And if there’s a line, did Kate cross it last night when she told Leo, “I love you with all my heart, I really do” as her husband sat by and watched? Keep reading »
“Dinner and a movie” may sound like the most boring, clichéd date ever, but I think movie dates are hot. When you go to the movies with someone, you learn a lot about them: what kinds of films they like, whether they pay for the tickets, how they behave in the theater. You may not be talking during the movie, but there’s a lot to be said for body language. Keep reading »
Recently, I committed the ultimate relationship taboo: I told a man who wanted to spend the rest of his life with me that I couldn’t marry him. Even worse, I broke off my engagement at a time in my life when many of my close girlfriends are blissfully picking out wedding dresses and drafting tender vows of love to their soon-to-be husbands. Welcome to your late twenties, ladies.
During my engagement purgatory phase, when I’d finally gathered enough courage to share my indecision with a few confidantes, I was met with a collection of theories on how I would know if my fiancé was “the one” or not. After the jump, find out why all the nuptial advice I got amounted to a load of courtship crap when it came to my relationship. Keep reading »