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Polite (and Effective) Ways To Silence A Chatty Cathy

Thank goodness for caller ID. It’s saved me many a time from having to suffer through a three-hour conversation with my aunt Judy (or “Jawdy,” as I call her). Don’t get me wrong; my aunt is a sweetheart, but she does ramble on.

We all have that person in our lives who just can’t seem to get the hint that it’s time to end a conversation. It can be really difficult to avoid feeling rude without spending your entire day chatting it up, but it is possible. With a little social finessing, you can say “hi” and “bye,” and be on your way. Read more Keep reading »

He Saw Someone Else During Our Separation

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  • Open Marriage Benefit: A Three-Parent Household

    Sometimes I forget things. I don’t mean my keys or why I went into the kitchen, although I forget those too. I mean I forget bigger things. I forget to be thankful, to marvel, to bask in my life and the people I live it with.

    This economy has driven my husband out on the road. He’s working as a consultant. He leaves on Sunday afternoons and comes home on Friday nights. Read more
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    What Would You Put on Display At the Museum Of Broken Relationships?

    At this point in my life, I have enough memorabilia from broken relationships to fill an entire museum. As a writer, I tend to heal after a breakup by writing about it—helps me understand what went wrong. But there aren’t always words to express how painful, sad, annoying, or existentially confusing a breakup can be. And what about the physical, tangible objects left behind—the ones that you come across every so often in the garage that make you laugh, cry, or both. So, after hearing about some of the awesome projects at the Museum of Broken Relationships, a conceptual art museum in Croatia that attempts to create a space of “secure memory” and a safe place to get rid of “controversial objects” that trigger momentarily “undesirable” emotions, I started rummaging through some of my old broken-relationship booty to see what kind of project I could make. Here are my top 10 items. Keep reading »

    Dear Wendy: A Coke-Dealing Boyfriend & A Serial Monogamist

    “I met my current boyfriend about six months ago and there was an INSTANT attraction. At first he was perfect: he would make time for me, we would go out and do things together. He wasn’t like any other guy I’ve ever dated — he was polite, open-minded, caring, funny, and RESPECTFUL. I was the one to kiss him first…he even waited longer than I wanted to have sex with me. Here’s the thing though: he’s a coke dealer. As the relationship has progressed, we’ve broken up and gotten back together numerous times and though we’re together now, and I can honestly say that I’m in love with this man, I hate what he does. We don’t hang out much and he blames it on his “work.” I see him MAYBE once a week… is that normal for people who have been dating for eight months? He tells me he’s going to quit his job one day, but I’m not sure, and I can’t push him to quit because, to him, it’s a nice way of making money. I know he sounds like a loser, but I’ve never been with anyone like him before and I can’t stay away from him. Should I just leave a person who I love and care about because of what he does, and try to find someone with a respectful job?”

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    The Girlfriend Keeper: Nothing Says Love Like Automated Texts And Emails To Your Girlfriend

    How pissed would you be if the schmoopy text messages your boyfriend sent you every other hour were automated from an iPhone app called the Girlfriend Keeper? Alas, the Girlfriend Keeper is actually a real application and costs only 99 cents at the iTunes store. You should be suspicious if you’re getting charming/creepy texts like, “Your birthday is in 45 days, maybe I’ll get you something blue to match your eyes” or “Did you know we started dating 53 days ago?” (Uh, what guy actually talks like that?)

    After the jump, check out some pics of the Girlfriend Keeper app that will seriously depress you regarding the state of modern dating (and datebook-keeping). Keep reading »

    Dating Across America: Sleeping Arrangements When You’re Staying With The ‘Rents

    Even if you get to the point in a relationship where you and your boyfriend are totally comfortable with one another, things change when you bring others into the equation. At some point you may find yourself in a bit of a predicament: managing sleeping arrangements while at his or your parents’ house.

    Some lovebirds will abstain and refrain from giving into their sexual urges. Others will sneak into each other’s rooms, regardless of the rules and etiquette of their host’s home, because when you’re feeling frisky, sometimes you have to give in. Some women are nonchalant about getting caught, while others say the sheer embarrassment causes them to rethink their sleeping arrangements for the future. We asked 10 women: “What’s a normal sleeping arrangement when you and your boyfriend are staying at your parents’ house?” Keep reading »

    Guys Talk About Being Hit By Women

    A friend of mine, Daniel, said, recently, a group of men and women in his neighborhood bar for a parade approached him “looking for some kind of fight.” A woman in the group, he said, “started some shit with me” and “at one point said, ‘What would you do if I threw this drink on you?’” Daniel said he ignored the woman’s threat and directed his attention to the men in the group; after verbal exchanges, the whole group “slinked away” out of the bar. He said the confrontation made him think about what he would have done if the woman had thrown her drink at him. He wrote to me in an email:

    “But I really did consider—would I hit her? And I decided, yeah, I might have. And she would’ve deserved it. Totally unprovoked physical aggression can rightly be met in kind. I probably would’ve slapped her, or I might grabbed her by the shoulders and thrown her aside. Either way, she would’ve deserved some kind of physical reaction.”

    Michael, an ex-colleague of mine, has been on the receiving end of physical violence from an ex-girlfriend.

    “The only time it’s ok to get any kind of physical with a girl, in my mind is when she’s under the influence of something and hitting/kicking violently (at you or someone else),” he wrote. “Only then do I see it appropriate to physically restrain her…but this is the same rule I use for guys too, so it has little to do with the sex of the individuals involved.”

    The Proper Protocol For Dissing An Ex

    On last night’s “Letterman,” Anne Heche spent a seriously large chunk of time making fun of her ex-husband, Coley Laffoon, whom she divorced in 2007 before shacking up with her “Men In Trees” co-star, James Tupper. She not only called Coley a “lazy ass,” but took things even further, having this to say about Coley’s current occupation:
    “He goes out to the mailbox and he opens up the little mailbox door and goes, ‘Oh! I got a check from Anne! Oh! I got a check from Anne! Yay!’”

    After a few minutes of this tirade, Anne started to look pretty vengeful. I mean, really, trash-talking your ex on national TV is just … sad and kind of pathetic. Right? If you must vent some anger over an ex, please keep in mind these 10 rules. Keep reading »

    13 Reasons She Doesn’t Want A Second Date

    In the dating world especially, first impressions are lasting ones. So it’s always rough when you thought you wooed a dude and he never calls you again. Sigh. Luckily, this week, one of our Frisky gentlemen clued us in to the 10 Reasons He Didn’t Ask You Out On A Second Date. Eye opening, am I right, ladies?! While cell phone shenanigans, a lack of physical attraction, talking too much about yourself, and blatant pre-date lies definitely apply to both genders, there are some specific reasons for why a gal won’t give a guy the time of day again. Here are some reasons why she isn’t going to come back for round two. Keep reading »

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