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Breaking The Ten Commandments In Dating

It’s a rough and tumble world out there, especially when it comes to dating and relationships. Many of us as children were taught to follow the Ten Commandments, or some version of it, in order to ensure that we become good people or “Leave It To Beaver” neighbors. I can’t remember them all off the top of my head, and it would take a real minor miracle for me to recite them all in order, but in general you can’t go terribly wrong following them…except when it comes to dating. Maybe the commandments were never intended to cover the tricky navigation of romance, but when you apply the Ten Commandments to dating…oh what a mess you find yourself in! Keep reading »

You + Me = Us, Dating Height Calculus

Yesterday I wrote Advice For The Vertically Challenged and was surprised by some of the comments. Many quite fairly pointed out that perhaps my definition of “short” should be revised, or that I should be clear that just because I feel short at 5′ 5″ does not make this height or anything bellow it qualify as “short.” What really struck a chord with me, however, were comments concerning height differences when it comes to dating. I started thinking about my own reasons for feeling short and realized that it was mostly due to the fact that most of the men I have dated have been at least six feet tall. Hmmm, I wonder… Keep reading »

Modern-Day Popeye And Olive Oyl

I’ve only dated a few men that are shorter than me. And when I say “a few” I mean one. Maybe two if I really dig—deep into the Dead Sea perhaps. I have definitely dated a lot of guys that are within an inch or two of my own height.

Being in a relationship with a shorter man does not bother me one bit. In fact, I think there should be more couples with shorter men and taller women. But if I have no problem at all, why do I usually find myself with those 6’2” fellows? Keep reading »

How To Curb Jealousy: A Green-Eyed Monster’s Tips

“My boyfriend has a lot of attractive co-workers that he spends a lot of time with. How can I control my jealousy?” -Jenn, Pennsylvania

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  • Gay Rodeo Clown

    I knew that I was a lesbian very early on. As I reached my twenties, it was clear that I was a butch lesbian, with more “male” energy than “female.” But my long hair and curvy body was not supporting my self-image. That had to change. It’s not that I wanted to be a guy exactly, I just wanted to be able to pass as one—the hair, the look, the attitude. For me, it was not about altering my body so much as it was about altering my hair. The right haircut would put a swagger in my step, a bit of mischief in my eye, and help me attract the femme woman of my dreams. Keep reading »

    Ask The Astrosexologist: Scorpio Man Lacks Communication Skills

    I (8/31/84) have a great man (11/6/86) who couldn’t have a leisurely chat to save his life. He’s of the mindset that he will only speak if it’s of dire importance. The days I feel like being the listener are terrible — filled with awkward silences, where I seek solace in chattier friends and make him feel inadequate. The problem is I’m considering moving in with him after two years of long distance. The times we’ve visited each other are great, because actions really do speak louder than words and he never fails to make me feel like a goddess in person. This only partially quells my fears, because he’s made it very clear he wants to marry me. What is marriage without great communication? I’ve never been with the strong, silent type before, and we get in spats over it all the time. This is our only weak point. I know he’s a great man and I want this to work out. Scorpios have physical down pat, but I am barking up the wrong tree expecting him to ravish my body and my mind? – Verbal Virgo Keep reading »

    Girl Talk: We’re Moving In Together—After Three Months

    Gollum slithered around the picnic tables in a bald wig and a loincloth. Bilbo Baggins manned the barbecue. An elf with pointy ears asked if we had any veggie burgers.

    My boyfriend, David, and I had not come dressed for the “Lord Of The Rings” theme for his family’s annual group vacation with their friends. But costumed or not, I knew I’d be under scrutiny: I’m the first woman he’d brought along to introduce to everybody in his 26 years of attending.

    As Gollum lumbered by towards the card table full of key lime pies and cookie burgers, I turned to David and grinned. “Real love,” I said, “is spending the weekend with your parents and their friends when everyone is dressed like Hobbits.” He grinned back and we kissed.

    Forty-eight hours later, David and I decided that we would move in together, waking up next to each other every morning and falling asleep together every night. Beginning our lives together this way felt like the right thing to do.

    But did I mention we’ve only been dating for two months? Keep reading »

    Decode My Dream: My Left Foot Fell Off!

    I had a really weird dream last night. I went to work at the restaurant where I wait tables, but I had a major problem. My left foot fell off. I was freaking out because I obviously couldn’t wait tables without my left foot. I approached my friend Dan and asked him to keep my foot for me — I trusted him to take good care of it because he is anal-retentive and has a mild case of OCD. He put it in a solution in a large bell jar which was filled with formaldehyde. I knew that my foot was safe.

    I was worried because I still needed to work and didn’t want my bosses to know that I had no left foot. I could still walk around perfectly, by the way. I started searching for my black tights, because I knew that I would be able to keep my foot on with them and because they are dark that no one would see the bloody cut or the wraps around my ankle. I borrowed a pair of tights from a co-worker, got the foot from Dan, and was going to proceed to attach my foot back on to my leg, although I didn’t actually re-attach it in the dream. Next thing I knew I was showing everyone the bloody cut and we were all in awe of how well the tights were keeping my foot on. What the hell? – Footless Keep reading »

    Marrying A Much Older Man Made Me A Better Person

    Billy Joel and his wife of nearly five years Katie Lee are splitting up. A “friend” of the couple told the New York Daily News that the age difference of 33 years drove the couple apart. I doubt it. Maybe, like so many couples that end up divorced, they just weren’t meant to be. You never hear anyone say “Dick and Jane are the same age—that must have had something to do with their breakup.” I call BS on blaming the age difference when it comes to divorce. Though, admittedly, I’m biased. Older men and younger women? Keep reading »

    For The Week Of June 29-July 5, 2009

    Virgo (August 23 – September 22)

    All the opinions your friends throw at you will make you feel as if they are all nagging bitches that can’t seem to let you have your own life. Sure, you can play on the defensive as long as you want, but that will only be postponing a golden opportunity. Yes, your friends can be a pain in the ass, but this time around there is reason for their incessant goading. DO AS THEY SAY!

    Libra (September 23 – October 22)

    Put your ego in charge and don’t be scared to show off your cockier side to that honey you’ve been eyeing. While the perfect woman routine goes without saying for you, in terms of looks, poise and smarts, you’re going to have to fan the flames a lot harder by throwing more combustion into the fire. Subtly won’t work this week.

    Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)

    If you’re in the midst of a foreign adventure in a literal or metaphoric way, then you are right on track with fate. This is your time to get perspective and not let your standards slack, putting your panties in a bunch. Although it’ll take time to orientate yourself, once you loosen up, you’ll find yourself going full speed ahead commando style in no time.

    Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)

    A more intense and intimate side of you is coming out, throwing off that someone close to you, as this will be a whole new slice of you that will dazzle and amaze — as well as shock. Seems there is only so long you can play the party girl before the serious feelings start to set and voila, emotions take center stage. Don’t worry, the audience is on your side.

    Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)

    You and your baby will be the envy of everyone and everyone will be wishing they were you. Love this time, as this is something you have earned. After all the crap you’ve gone through, this is finally the time you can breath easy and realize you have something solid to rest yourself onto. Expect those bigger talks to start now.

    Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)

    If you take a more practical approach to love this week, you won’t be having any issues. This means letting your boo have a say in things and being more diplomatic. If you are single, then refresh your routines and spruce up your life with detail, as this is the time the little things will shine the most for you.

    Pisces (February 19 – March 20)

    Live a little and take on all last minute opportunities that come you way. The more spontaneous you allow yourself to be, the hotter your prospects will turn, as this is the time when you will need to amp up your energy to attract the same back to you. Otherwise, vegging about and trolling for what’s convenient will get you just that, another schlub.

    Aries (March 21 – April 19)

    Family is going to be crashing your scene, get into costume to play the part that’ll be less drama. Yes, break out the pretty bows and ribbons, because this is when your Betty Crocker side is going to have to make an appearance and show off that more innocent and domestic side to yourself. While you can’t truly hide a tiger’s stripes, camouflage the best you can.

    Taurus (April 20 – May 20)

    What you hear isn’t what is going on. However, if you don’t want to spend the rest of your life deciphering code, then realize this might be the time you take this mission and send it off into the impossible unknown. Sure, he’s cute, coy and flirty, but bizarre and scattered? Sometimes once the sexy is lost, it’s gone forever.

    Gemini (May 21 – June 20)

    Your brain is going to slow down, giving you time to recollect yourself before heading into a more intense part of your summer. Time to make decisions and paint that bigger picture for yourself. Otherwise, someone else might come along and draw it for you and it might not be as fun, comprehensive and beautiful as the job you’d do.

    Cancer (June 21 – July 22)

    Words will fly out of your mouth quicker than you can control and while you might feel a bit of embarrassment and a fear of the consequences, you will find that you have done yourself a favor by putting out what you really feel out there. This will lead to that and for sure, tastier things will be coming at you.

    Leo (July 23 – August 22)

    Your intuition will be gurgling with all sorts of visions and ideas. While some will seem too outrageous to entertain, don’t dismiss it. Seems every thought lurking in your subconscious is super powerful now and if you take the info given to you and lead with it, it will bring you onto a wild and erotic adventure that’ll have you realizing your genius.

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