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Soapbox: Assorted Thoughts On That Gizmodo/OKCupid/Magic The Gathering Dating Essay

Even if you’re not a tech geek or a self-identified nerd, it’s highly possible that you’ve heard about an essay that ran on the blog Gizmodo on Monday (it’s received almost 800K hits as of this writing). In the piece, writer Alyssa Bereznak described how her first attempt at online dating resulted in her going out with a guy who, at first, seemed “normal,” until he revealed that he not only played that admittedly geeky card game Magic the Gathering, but was, in fact, the world champion. In the story, Bereznak also reveals his full name, generally a big time no-no when it comes to writing about personal experiences on the internet. (Although it becomes clear that she almost doesn’t have to give his name, as Jon Finkel — that’s his name — is a legend among the Magic community because of his “world champion” status.) Keep reading »

Ladies, Be Prepared To Fall In Love If You Have Sex

I’ve long called it the orgasm curse — that thing that happens after great sex with a guy. He immediately goes from an insignificant satellite orbiting your universe to the goddamn sun itself. But why? He didn’t even do anything that impressive. You still find him as annoying as you did an hour ago, but you can’t stop thinking about bearing his children. Logically, you know this is completely nuts, but you can’t seem to stop it.

A new study done at Rutgers University explored what exactly goes on in our bodies during orgasm that makes us insane. Keep reading »

Middle Children Don’t Have It As Bad As We Thought

It appears that Jan Brady may have given middle children a bad rep. According to a new book, The Secret Power of Middle Children, they aren’t perpetually complaining about being known at school as Marcia’s younger sister and Cindy’s older sister. No, in fact author Catherine Salmon says there’s rarely “Marcia, Marcia, Marcia” issues at all. Salmon argues that middle children actually have the best place in the birth order, because they are given more leeway than their older siblings and are less coddled than their younger siblings. As a result, Salmon says that middle children tend to develop independence and creativity, plus the diplomacy skills to be leaders in business and politics. In fact, Salmon notes that 52 percent of presidents are middle children. I’m guessing if you’re a middle child, you’ll be all, “Told you so” about this news. And if you were born first or last, or happen to be an only child, you’ll probably roll your eyes a little bit. I think we can all guess where Salmon falls in her family’s birth order. [Newser] Keep reading »

Girl Talk: My Netflix Queue, My Future

I never thought it would get this serious. First it was an after-work thing. Then it was weekends. Eventually we were seeing each other anytime I had two hours to spare. This is the story of how I fell in love with Netflix. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “Am I Turning Into A Bridezilla?”

I’m getting married in August and have been planning the wedding for over a year, so the date has been set for a while now. My brother — my only sibling — got engaged last weekend. I love him and his fiancée, but I was very upset when I found out today that they are planning to get married a mere six weeks before I do. Why couldn’t they get married in May or November, so that there is more turn-around time? What if all of my out-of-state family comes to his wedding and then can’t make it to mine? I invited them first! My mom is on the sickly side and is already stressed about one child getting married, so now I’m worried about her having to deal with two weddings back-to-back.

I’m worried that if I confront my brother and fiancée, it will turn into a sibling grudge match with lots of old dynamics rearing their ugly heads. I already asked my parents to mention how stressful it will be for them. Is that fair? Should I just suck it up and silently resent them so that twenty years from now when we are fighting over who gets mom’s heirlooms I end up screaming, “I get them since you practically ruined my wedding!” — Trying Not To Be A Bridezilla

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For The Week Of August 29-September 4, 2011

Virgo (August 23 – September 22)

Twists and exciting turns are coming, as you’ll start to see the light of a different future. Yes, cryptic happenings are on the horizon, which will change your point of view and ultimately your trajectory. While it doesn’t mean you won’t want the same things, it might just mean changing the form of how you first assumed it will happen.

Libra (September 23 – October 22)

You do know how to present well, but that doesn’t mean that people can’t see through your glossy veneer. Try all you might to appear as if you’ve got it all together, but what really will that get you? If you need help, don’t be shy about accepting it. There is support available and no shame in wanting it. Besides, who really likes perfection anyway? So boring!

Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)

Commitments you’ve made or your ideas about relationships are about to start to slip into reverse and have you going either into a major time warp or into a radical reassessment of what you view as romance. No, life doesn’t always work in linear ways, but this week will have you all over the map and where you will wind up is anyone’s guess.

Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)

You are not the same person as you used to be, so when old temptations come back into play, it might not have the same tragic outcome as it usually would. As it happens, redemption is something that is possible for you now, but unless you face the dragon, you will never know how strong you have actually become.

Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)

People have weird tastes and there’s no accounting for it. If you aren’t their cup of tea, whatever. Accept it and move on, instead of thinking you can work harder to get what you want. Sometimes targets you aim for just aren’t worth the ammo spent. So, this time, if you find you’re in this situation, quit while you are ahead, as there is nothing to win trying to play with a brick wall.

Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)

Use your sixth sense, because it will come in handy in all sorts of ways, even if what your gut is telling you to do is too out of the ordinary. Otherwise, trying to rely on being logical or even kind in the most simplistic way can backfire on you, as the personalities you come into contact with this week will be working in very bizarre ways.

Pisces (February 19 – March 20)

Foibles in communications will make you crazy and it might seem as if you and your honey are slipping off the same page, but if you remember what you truly love about each other and keep that at the forefront of your thoughts, you can rise about the madness that will ensue. Yes, not everything will be smooth, but if you know you’re ultimately in it to win it, then all will be fine.

Aries (March 21 – April 19)

No one is perfect, but as long as you can function, you have nothing to complain about. Yes, getting to the finish line of each day will be an accomplishment unto itself, as your confidence may take a few nosedives throughout the confusion that will arise this week. But if you can take baby steps to at least go through the motions, it will minimize your agony.

Taurus (April 20 – May 20)

People who gloat are annoying, because everyone knows if they were truly happy they wouldn’t have to brag to feel good about themselves. So, this week, when a competitive someone around you feels the need to try to step on you to get a leg up, get in touch with your compassion, because, as it stands, those people suck and need your sympathy, not aggravated attention.

Gemini (May 21 – June 20)

You’ve learned a lot from your past, and have come a long way. However, to leap into the future the way you want, you will have to go over some things that didn’t work out in your favor from days gone by and ask yourself “Why?” Yes, time to do some major soul-searching, as it is time to reconcile some mistakes and sort out how changing the future can correct the past.

Cancer (June 21 – July 22)

A major case of c**kblocking can begin this week and from an unlikely source. Of course, it’s likely it won’t change anything with whomever you are romantically into, but seeing that other in such a light can be problematic. It’s never pleasant to find out that someone who you thought had your back doesn’t actually have it, but in fact might want to stab it instead.

Leo (July 23 – August 22)

The ride to the top will get a little bumpy, but if you can roll with the punches gracefully, it will earn you the support you need to get to the next level. However, the transitions will confuse. Yes, many conundrums to face now, but if you’ve got the brains to sort them out, you’ll also have what it takes to sort out other upcoming opportunities — which could bring you major success.

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