Besides making a lot of gay and lesbian couples very happy, extending marriage to same-sex couples would help the economy, according to a report from the Williams Institute School of Law at UCLA. The report only covered the state of Maine, but in that state alone it is estimated that there would be $60 million in economic gains within three years with as many as 1,000 new jobs created. After the jump, eight ways we think same-sex marriage would help the economy. Keep reading »
Over at Tracie Egan’s blog One D At A Time, she writes about a recent fight she had with her fiance, in which she was left so enraged (and convinced that they were through) that she put his electric guitar in her bathtub and proceeded to pee on it over the course of a day. Oh, and she had her period too, “so it was extra destructive and stinky. The guitar, of course, is ruined.”
This anecdote is buried within a larger post about the Rihanna/Chris Brown scandal and she tells it as a way of conveying what it’s like to be both the offender and the offendee. And while the context of the post is sad — the image of Rihanna post-beating is at the bottom — this particular nugget made me almost wet myself. Haven’t we all done something out of control to the one we love/like in a crazy rage? I have. Years ago, when I was drunk and out on the town, the guy I loved (loved, like, madly) told me he had a new girlfriend — in a rage (he had waited to tell me this information until after I had taken an eight hour bus ride down to visit him in D.C.) I kind of, sort of, maybe shoved him into oncoming traffic. He didn’t get hurt at all, thank god, and somehow has forgiven me. We’re even friends! What’s the nuttiest thing you’ve ever done when you’ve been pissed at a significant other? Keep reading »
Here’s a tragic story. Elizabeth and her boyfriend dated for about a year and a half. They had some pets, and some fights, and one day, sick of him being a total douchebag, Elizabeth kicked him to the curb. A few weeks later, Elizabeth’s ex came knocking, along with his hefty father, papers in hand. After he moved his belongings out of her apartment, he had Elizabeth sign the papers, and in her confusion, she didn’t pay much attention. Later, she looked at what she had signed, and realized it was a bill for every dime her ex had ever spent on her during their relationship, from groceries to Valentine’s Day presents. Of course this “document” would never hold up in an actual court of law, but Elizabeth was pretty sure it would make people laugh, so she scanned and posted it on a blog, where we saw it. All of this got us thinking — while the idea of actually compiling a bill and delivering it to an ex is ridiculous and laughable, we can’t help but think that’s there’s some stuff we’d like to charge our exes for. Actual expenses yes, but also pain and suffering too. After the jump, how much you could feasibly charge an ex, after a breakup. Keep reading »
Reader Yolanda J. found this sentiment written in purple glitter nail polish on a pillar in an Illinois strip mall. Yolanda writes, ‘Either “Dwayne’ is a pseudonym for Prince, or some kid at Hot Topic just got his first girlfriend.” Awww.
I like to think of myself as a logical, control-my-own destiny kind of girl. I think most of my friends see themselves as equally levelheaded. But recently a friend was describing the physical sensations she gets when she meets someone that she really likes — butterflies, sweaty palms, quick heartbeat. No matter how hard she tries to think her way out of this silliness, she can’t. Since we’ve all been there, I figured there had to be more to it, something powerful enough to give even the most strong-willed a run for her sanity. Hoping for some insight into why these feelings take over, I went looking for the science behind lust and love. Why, physiologically speaking, do these things happen, and what are they trying to tell us? Keep reading »
I met him through mutual friends, and I noticed him immediately because he looked like my ex-best friend — but, like, a way hotter version of the ex-BFF. We hung out a few times, and one night, after some drunken bonding over tattoos and the psychological and scientific validity of the art of pickup, he asked if I was coming home with him, and I said yes.
What I was looking for at the time was a fun, casual fling with someone I could be friendly with — without it turning into anything emotional. Neither of us were into having a relationship, and I knew that he was seeing someone else casually, too. He was smart and sarcastic and seemed like the type to bottle up his feelings and never reveal them to me. I thought it was the perfect setup. Keep reading »
Virgo (August 23 – September 22)
Clicking with that special someone will make you feel as if you’re on top of the world. Having gone through many trials and too many tribulations, why be shy to express your feelings? Go ahead; indulge in all the silly things that being in love means, drawing hearts, special ring tones — because if ever there were a time to gush, it’s now.
Libra (September 23 – October 22)
Your management skills go under the wire again, as your honey once again hits a rocky patch. While you can’t be everywhere at once, being fast on your feet and honing your organizational skills is required. Sure, detouring chaos at a moment’s notice sucks, but perhaps this when you should start paying attention to these repetitious cycles and the cause and effect.
Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)
Finally, romance comes back into your life in a big way, reminding you once again why you are the sign of sex. Although it’ll feel like a glass of water after a long walk in the desert, pace yourself; more options are set to come — and although you might have made your pick already, there will be nothing wrong or hotter than letting your decision stew.
Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)
Stop putting off that phone call you know you should of made ages ago. This is your last time to redeem yourself to a wronged lover and it’s in your best interest not to let this chance go to waste. You’ll find distance has made the heart grow fonder and in this case, it’ll be in your favor as this is the time to wipe your marred karmic slate clean.
Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)
You’ve always been realistic about your finances, perhaps a little too much so. This week, loosen up the slack and see that opening up those purse strings can now buy you a few adventures and opportunities that are priceless. If you’re attached, this means a mountain retreat weekend f*ck-fest; if single, this means a beach resort weekend f*ckfest.
Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)
Not everyone is out to get you and the sooner you realize that being angry isn’t the only way to get attention or feel edgy, the closer you’ll be to a place where unsettling drama isn’t the commodity and good times are. Seriously, the only thing that’s going down on you with these theatrics is your stock.
Pisces (February 19 – March 20)
A breath of fresh air is coming, as you’ll be seeing your way out of a sticky situation that you thinking you had no power. Seems now, there is nothing to lose when it comes down to being as bad as you want. So whip out the leather, put on your most dramatic f’ck me heels and lay down the law, because no one will be getting off quite the same anymore.
Aries (March 21 – April 19)
Your compassion will be rearing its little head, making you act in ways that’ll surprise someone close to you. While it might not be turning over a new leaf completely, it’ll at least shake up preconceived notions he had about you. Seems he’ll be able to understand that sweet soft spot of yours a little easier and wanting to touch it just a little bit more too.
Taurus (April 20 – May 20)
As you know, relationships are never perfect and as much as you’d like to think you’ve behaved properly throughout your affairs, there are always two sides to every story. With a reunion seeming inevitable, do look both ways before crossing that line. However, know that when you do, come out with both arms fighting.
Gemini (May 21 – June 20)
With your love life seeming a bit dubious these days, best to put your energy somewhere else. So, if you’ve been dabbling with the idea of being your own boss or some sort of big career move, go for it. The stars are aligned for you, lighting a new path, one in which you won’t have to keep looking over your shoulder. Enter this new direction and magic will follow.
Cancer (June 21 – July 22)
Relish in your freedom, because if you don’t see that you control your fate, you might find yourself guilted into actions that are sub par in the happiness and self-satisfaction category. Sure, help if someone deserves it, but to just dole it out thinking you owe it to anyone — hell no! Being a good person doesn’t mean being obedient.
Leo (July 23 – August 22)
This week, a situation will appear that’ll put your intelligence, savvy and charisma to the test. How you handle this situation will prove to be a major factor in your future. Don’t feel ashamed to ask questions or move slowly. In fact, the more deliberate your pace, the more exciting the build up and in this case, a little mystery will go a long way.
I have been to many social outings lately, from the Sundance Film Festival to parties in Vegas, and I keep hearing women talking about wanting to meet their husbands. Really? Are you sure? Why not write a book or take up guitar lessons or go dance by yourself? Keep reading »
“I’m a Leo girl (Capricorn Ascendant, Moon in Aries, Mars in Capricorn, Venus in Libra) and I’m extremely emotional. I’m dating a really great guy (Sun in Virgo, Sagittarius Ascendant, Moon in Aquarius, Mars in Leo, Venus in Libra) who is really into me. We have been together for over a year and have a great relationship. We rarely argue, still have an exciting sex life and I think we balance each other out very well. My emotional personality goes well with his practicality and discipline. However, our relationship started out while he was in the process of getting divorced — he and his ex wife have been divorced for eight months now. We’ve gone through numerous difficulties and have come out of those issues closer and stronger than before. My problem seems to be trusting him and controlling my jealous impulses. I want to put my wandering mind to rest and believe that he is faithful. I have no reason NOT to believe this, as he constantly speaks with me and tells me he loves and misses me, but sometimes I can’t help but think that he is sleeping with his ex or someone he works with.
He talks about the future constantly. However, he is skeptical about moving too fast because he thinks that was his issue with his ex-wife. He says that things will develop naturally over time. However, my impatient nature has me ready to move in with him right away. He frequently says, ‘It’s not the right time for us.’ I know I should be patient, trust him and give him time, especially since he just recently got divorced, but I can’t seem to lock my emotions down and trust that this is the right thing for us right now. Help!” – Leo Lady Keep reading »
It seems that all anyone is talking about lately is the economy, so why is money still such a tough topic to discuss with your nearest and dearest? They say married couples fight over money more than anything else, but what about when you just started dating? That’s possibly even more awkward. Keep reading »