Category Archives: Relationships

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Dating Fact: At A Certain Point, A Long First Date Actually Becomes A Second Date

A few months ago I was flipping out to one of my guy friends about my love life, as I often do. (Sorry, guys.) I had gone on a second date to eat a home-cooked meal at a gentleman’s apartment and ended up spending the night. We didn’t have sex, but we did in lots of other activities that aren’t your typical second date material. Of course, come Monday morning, I started freaking out that this gentleman caller would lose interest in me because we’d done too much too soon. So I instant messaged my friend D., who is also single, and asked what he thought.

“What time did all this happen?” He IMed back.

“I don’t know,” I wrote. “I came over for dinner at eight, we ate dinner and dessert, then we talked on the couch for a long time and he gave me a footrub. After midnight?”

“Oh, that’s fine, then,” D. wrote back. “When a date goes into the wee hours of the morning, it really becomes another date. And hooking up on a third date is pretty standard.”

Oooooh, I thought to myself. That makes sense! Let’s call this “the principle of elongated dating.” Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “It’s Been Five Years And My Boyfriend Still Won’t Propose!”

I’m a 27-year-old female, and I’ve been with my 31-year-old boyfriend for over five years now. We have made a happy and loving life together, including sharing a home, sharing our finances, being closely involved with each other’s families, and we even have two cats and a puppy together. About a year ago we started talking seriously about getting engaged within the next six months, but by the time fall rolled around, my boyfriend told me that though he loves me and wants nothing more than a future with me, he was just not ready for an engagement yet. He had some issues from his parents’ divorces, and decided to begin counseling to deal with them.

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Girl Talk: I Fell In Love With My Best Friend

When I first met Ethan, I was in love with his friend.

Josh, however, was not in love with me, and told me so. We hadn’t been dating long, but I had met his mother over the holidays and thought things were getting serious, that we might have a future. When he assured me we didn’t, I felt confused, misled and heartbroken.

Ethan had no idea how I felt or that I had given up sugar, gluten, fried food, meat, dairy, alcohol and caffeine in an attempt to cleanse my body of the pain. Ethan had just moved to New York City and was simply looking to meet new people. I agreed to lunch, thinking Ethan might report back to Josh that I was cool and pretty, and what the hell was he thinking?! Keep reading »

What Was Your Biggest Friend Blowout?

In middle school and high school, it seemed like there was drama with friends every five minutes over stupid crap, like who was copying whose outfit, or who the cutest boy in school liked more. Now that we’re adults — well, most of the time — friend blowouts are few and far between. But when they happen, they are seriously gory. If I flip out on a friend, it has to be over something really major. Sometimes the friendships survive and get stronger and sometimes … not so much. After the jump, some Frisky staffers share their worst friend battles in recent history. Share yours in the comments. Keep reading »

How To Spot A Selfish Man In 5 Seconds

Meet a guy at a party? Browsing through online dating profiles? You might not actually have to waste time going on a date with him to discover the sad fact that he’s self-absorbed. According to a new study, if his face is ridiculously symmetrical (i.e. he’s super hot and everything lines up perfectly) he is significantly more selfish than the average bear. Due to his biological blessings, he is less likely to cooperate with others, more likely to have his own interests at heart. Why? Because his beauty makes him too self-sufficient for the likes of you, peon. The same goes for symmetrically-faced ladies. Got it! Beautiful people are not really fun to date, unless you are also beautiful. Us plebeians should go “uglier” when given the option. But what if that “uglier” guy is also a selfish a**hole because he mistakenly thinks he’s hot? How do we spot him just by looking? He’s much more dangerous. Help us, science! [Daily Mail UK] Keep reading »

For The Week Of August 15-21, 2011

Virgo (August 23 – September 22)

You’re going to have to hustle a bit to get your schemes in order now, as things will likely be falling apart fast if you don’t stay on it like white on rice. Yes, time to push back all unimportant appointments and put out fires as they spark, even if they aren’t yours. No, this won’t be the sexiest week — that is, until you save the day.

Libra (September 23 – October 22)

Trying to be friends is impossible. After all, if things don’t come natural to you, forcing yourself to “try” always equals coming across as false — to yourself and often times to that other. So, as you move ahead with this week, pay attention to your feelings, as the trepidation is there for a reason, like a form of self-protection.

Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)

People can be such crackheads. While you make it a job to be painfully honest, understand it’s not the same for others. So, keep this in mind as someone talking an impressive game might not be as forthright as you want. Not that you should sympathize, as it is likely they are trying to sound as if they’re on your equal plane. No matter, a liar is a liar.

Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)

Hot attractions make you burst at the seams, as you’re not one to hide excitement when you’re feeling it. However, this week, someone will be stirring your curiosity in a more mysterious way and it’d be best if you keep this one on the down-low until you can sort it all out and figure this secret’s place in your life. He or she will not have proven their worth in just a week.

Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)

Perhaps it’s work stress or annoying family issues, but whatever the case, it’ll be making you need your outlets in a bigger way. Yes, expect to feel dirtier and hornier this week — but lucky you, your honey will be on that same vibe to, so don’t be shy in initiating XXX scenes, as they’ll be one thing in your life that will be as easy and tasty as pie.

Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)

Life is flying by you so fast, it might seem as if you’ve hardly have anytime to absorb all the recent events and sort out where you want the future to go. You know it, that mood to break out those talks with your latest piece will be happening, as you’ll be feeling a bigger need to find a secure set of shoulders you can count on.

Pisces (February 19 – March 20)

Every day will feel like a struggle, as everyone around you will think they’re right and of course, everyone will have a differing opinion. While you’ll wonder if it’s worth the battle, don’t waste time deciphering that answer. As it goes, when things get so hectic, it’s best to just bow out and let the bloody mess work itself out. Until then, enjoy going under the radar at the beach instead.

Aries (March 21 – April 19)

This week, don’t bother with the underwear. It’ll just be another thing getting in your way, as your unbridled passion and inner romantic will be taking over and making you act out on all sorts of insane impulses. No matter, it’s about time you had something in your life that makes you want to get off the couch.

Taurus (April 20 – May 20)

Get ready as the flakes will be out this week, making you want to kill as the disappointments add up. So, as you read this now, save yourself and make a note not to set any plan in stone this week, because there will be more than enough communication snafus that will be out to bite your ass.

Gemini (May 21 – June 20)

Don’t wait for your turn to talk. Strike while the iron is hot, even if it’s just for you. Yes, your show of power will put another off, but a change of mind will come in time. After all, there is never a good time for truth, especially when it comes with a painful sting, but once it settles, you’ll get the respect and results you’re ultimately aiming for.

Cancer (June 21 – July 22)

You’re just getting your stride going, so keep your eye on the prize. As it goes, this is your time to move ahead of the pack, as you have all the elements going for you — expect people. No, you won’t be getting the support you will need, but screw it, that validation isn’t necessary now. In fact, it may help you — sticking it to those slackers will be your best motivation yet.

Leo (July 23 – August 22)

You’re not one to be shy, but somehow someone will be making you a bit timid — despite the fact you can talk night and day about them to others. Honey, wake up and realized you’re obsessed! While talking non-stop to others may make it somewhat real, only actions can make it truly come alive. So, work it now and don’t settle for looking without touching.

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