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Sassy sophisticated relationship advice for real women everywhere: dating advice, love advice, and more!

The 6 Things I Was Embarrassed To Learn As An Adult

I know there are a lot of things I don’t know even though I’m a fairly well-educated woman. The revelation that you have been totally in the dark about some widely-known piece of information can be, well, humiliating. Especially when it happens in front of a group of people. On their Facebook page, NPR asked readers to share something they were embarrassed to learn as an adult that they should have learned much earlier like “realizing that New York City is not just Manhattan or that ‘character witnesses’ are not witnesses who are ‘characters.’” The research was for a piece called “I Was Absent That Day” about educated adults’ unavoidable knowledge gaps. Nothing to be ashamed of, we all have them. But people’s confessions of ignorance were oh-so-entertaining, like the person who thought that “pubic hair” was pronounced “public hair.” Haha! After the jump, I share with you a few of my most embarrassing knowledge gaps. I encourage you to share yours in the comments. Keep reading »

Soapbox: Why I Must Consider Non-Monogamy

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The other day, I was talking to one of my lesbian friends about the difference between gay and straight relationships. “Being a straight woman, who may want to get married someday, means I have to entertain the notion of having a nonmonogamous marriage,” I argued.

“Why?” she challenged me. (I get this reaction a lot. Especially from women, gay or straight, who tend to get defensive when I say something to this effect.)

“Not to consider it would mean I’m in denial,” I replied. Keep reading »

For The Week Of July 3-10, 2011

Virgo (August 23 – September 22)

Love and relationships don’t have to be one in the same. So, if it’s just a friends with benefits situation that suits your lifestyle now, then so be it. You don’t have to apologize for any of your actions and you certainly don’t have to explain yourself to anyone either. Just enjoy the thrills as they come, as your Cheshire grin will say all it needs to the world around you.

Libra (September 23 – October 22)

The popular vote is in your hands, so do with it what you will, as people all have their eyes on and trust in you. While it will be a big ego boost to know how much others believe in you, it can get a bit daunting thinking about the responsibility you have in your hands. However, don’t placate your motivations to suit others, as it’s your own judgment that will keep you on top.

Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)

You’re a competitor through and through. So, when it comes to reaching for that brass ring, don’t hold back. There is no need to feel humble now, as you do have credentials to brag about, impressing anyone in earshot. This isn’t the time to let others read in-between the lines, so be clear and direct. After all, it’s not just having a dream, but knowing you deserve it too.

Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)

Sex is a powerful form of communication. With some, you can take it for what it is, as depth isn’t always part of the dialogue, but then there are those that speak with nuances that make you stop to think. So, when you are feeling this, reach deeper into it. After all, nothing hits the spot quite like when you’re both on the same page, intensely stirring the plot just so.

Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)

You’ll be bragging about your baby to everyone this week, as love will be making you feel all is right with the world. Yes, your honey will be taking care of business in a bigger and bolder way, making you feel cared for and loved in a way you never quite expected. Even if you were already in love, expect to fall even deeper.

Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)

You’re not one to follow the path most taken; so don’t get frazzled now, as what you expected didn’t come to fruition. Consider it an eye-opening experience, but don’t waste another second trying to sort out the aftermath. Chalk this one up for what it is and then wipe the slate clean, as there is a method to your madness, but with an even more unique twist.

Pisces (February 19 – March 20)

You love drama, excitement and flying around the emotional spectrum at breaking speeds. Remember this, as this week’s vibe is all about that. Yes, surprises are in stores, sudden twists can occur and all the while, you won’t know up from down — but in the most exciting and glamorous way possible.

Aries (March 21 – April 19)

You know how to talk a big game, but don’t go there, unless you can back it up. As it goes, life is moving faster now and nothing will go unnoticed. Big results will come from what you say, so unless you are ready to deal with the consequences, avoid those subject matters. Of course, knowing how to keeping your mouth shut has never been a strong point, so be ready to wing it.

Taurus (April 20 – May 20)

You’ll be feeling extra astute this week, tuning into feelings in a sharper way. While this can mean getting a bit more defensive with some, it can also open you up to a few that you’ve kept at a distance. Yes, there’ll be lots of moving and grooving on the communication scene and it can wind up with a few new lines that’ll have you ringing with an interesting curiosity.

Gemini (May 21 – June 20)

Focus on one wish at a time. Even though you do have a capacity to juggle a few things at once, now isn’t the time to play with your time in that way. Instead, work those baby steps in procuring the most immediate issue at hand, because once you open up one door, others will fling open and will make you happy you weren’t too fast to jump the gun with those other decisions.

Cancer (June 21 – July 22)

Hopefully, you’re feeling a whole new level of freedom, optimism and lust for your future, as the stars shine down upon you now. Don’t hesitate to deny yourself pleasure, as opportunities are there to feed your desires the way they are meant to, stuffing them to the gills if need be. Yes, throw caution to the wind, because even the danger will be exhilarating now.

Leo (July 23 – August 22)

This week can cost you more than you wish, but think of the bigger picture. Investments take time to pay off, so just take in the pressure and breathe through it. In time, it will work to your favor, but not now. It’s just how the cookie crumbles, but if you can see it for what it is, put your neurosis on the backburner and trust all will be just fine.

Girl Talk: Compromising Positions

I made decision when I was a young adult on the kind of regrets I’d try to have: I want to regret only the things I did do, not the things I didn’t. So far it’s worked out just as I’ve hoped. I have never had to look back and wish I had fallen deeply in love, or traveled around Europe when I was young, or quit a steady job to freelance write fulltime, because I’ve done all of those things. I’m proud that I have very few regrets about things in my life I have done — very, very few, like, I’m struggling to think of examples now. But as each month brings more and more distance between myself and a devastating heartbreak I suffered with the guy I wanted to spend my life with, one regret is becoming pronounced. I look back now and I’m not proud of all the small compromises that I made for him without, I think, getting as much as I should have in return. Keep reading »

Learn From My Crappy Personal History: 7 Relationship & Dating Mistakes I Made In My 20s

I spent much of my twenties locked in one simpering relationship after another. I don’t blame the guys I dated, but rather the choices I made, and I’m determined that somebody learn from — and avoid — my crappy decisions. Take a look at these seven tips — and please, feel free to add your own in the comments. Keep reading »

How To Get Closure In Your Relationship

How did I miss this masterpiece at the library by author Big Boom? What a funky nom de plume by the way! I look forward to learning more about how to keep my legs closed. [This Isn't Happiness] Keep reading »

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