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For The Week Of October 26-November 1, 2009

Virgo (August 23 – September 22)

You will feel suspicious this week. It seems as if your sweetie isn’t telling you everything. However, this could mean ruining a surprise that is meant to be fun. So, if you want to keep pushing for answers, do it, but at your own risk. Of course, if your nerves are telling you it’s not something delightful, then go ahead and burst the bubble.

Libra (September 23 – October 22)

Budget concerns will make you want to hide, but this is the time when you really can see how far and strong you can be as a team. Let out your innermost fears and wear your vulnerabilities on your sleeve. Let your boo sort out the dilemma and hear him out. If you put two heads together, it’ll most definitely ignite a genius plan and a few white-hot flames.

Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)

Don’t let anything hold you back if another can’t keep up with you. It’s not that you should be slowing down; they should be speeding up. As much compassion as you would like to have, there really isn’t any point because after time you will find that despite all the empathy you might have now, it will eventually turn into aggravation.

Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)

Digging back to your past is crucial to help you bridge the gap between your ideals and your reality. Somehow you always start off on the right foot, but after a while you can easily lose sight of your needs and think that it’ll all piece itself together nicely in the end. However, you should know better now. Moving into this week, don’t forget lessons you have already learned.

Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)

When it comes to dealing with your baby, prepare for some frustration ahead. Although you may have his utmost loyalty, you will have to share him, as needy friends will be entering the picture and testing your patience. Although he will think he is being altruistic, you will think he’s being a sucker. This week will be about reconciling those differences.

Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)

You’ll be in full-on workaholic mode, making you more focused on yourself than ever. This will give you just the right mindset to start thinking for the long-term and what you really want your life to be about. The legacy you leave begins now. This will be reflected in your love life too — you’ll decide which booty-call number to delete and which one to reconsider.

Pisces (February 19 – March 20)

Take off into fantasyland ASAP! Let your mind go and don’t stop to think about repercussions. Life has its own agenda right now. As long as you are open and willing to play the game of blind faith, you will find there is more than enough exquisiteness to set your loins on fire for at least the next few weeks!

Aries (March 21 – April 19)

Let your sex kitten out of the cage. The only thing that is going to feel right this week is being bad. If you think this is going to intimidate others, let it. Don’t lie to yourself anymore, thinking you have to be softer on the sidelines to get what you are after, because the more power in your punch, the better the balls that get thrown back into your court.

Taurus (April 20 – May 20)

You don’t have to have all the answers right now, but you do have to ask the right questions. When it comes to perfecting your love life to be a sleek machine of passion, devotion and inspiration, it’ll mean verbally dissecting what’s happening and knowing your options. However, don’t feel the need to be the whole equation, only half.

Gemini (May 21 – June 20)

Keeping your head in the clouds is fantastic for the beginning stages of a relationship. But if you are several months in and you aren’t feeling as if there is a routine being established, then you have to wonder what is up and if you are getting all the facts straight. Are there valid reasons for why you are only getting half the picture? Time for more research.

Cancer (June 21 – July 22)

Despite how uptight you may get over the thrilling love ride you are about to go on — because control will be taken out of your hands — if you are creative, you will find places to put your hands that will be exciting enough to quell your anxieties. Ignore the rules and forget the consequences: trust fate. If you do, life is about to turn a very interesting corner for you.

Leo (July 23 – August 22)

Take some down time with your honey and slow it up. Pace yourself. This is the time to really dig deep into each other’s psyches and get to the heart of your emotions, relationship and dreams. Chances are this will go well and will result in intense bonding and hot sex. However, to get, you will have to give. Share the spotlight and you’ll see there is room for two.

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