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Casey Anthony Wasn’t Ready To Be A Mom, And Neither Was I

When Caylee Anthony disappeared in 2008, I followed the news coverage with a sick heart. I hugged my then-6-year-old daughter a little tighter and whispered multiple prayers of thanksgiving for her safety. Caylee’s story made me imagine what it would be like to have a child disappear, and those thoughts terrified me on a level I didn’t know existed.

As it became clear that Caylee probably wouldn’t come home safely, the nation learned more about her mother, Casey. A young, single mom with an irresponsible streak, it was obvious that she wasn’t ready to be a parent. And as I held my own child, it wasn’t only Caylee’s story that scared me, it was Casey’s. Just as Caylee brought to mind my daughter, Casey reminded me of myself when she was first born. Keep reading »

Lies We Wish We Never Told — Share Yours!

Some lies go off without a hitch, like the time I swore to my parents that the strange smell coming from my room was definitely incense. Sorry mom and dad! And then there are the other kinds of lies, the ones that go so terribly, terribly wrong they make you wish you could dig yourself a hole and hide there forever and ever. In honor of To Tell the Truth Day, Frisky staffers (including myself) fess up about their most regrettable whoppers. Share yours in the comments if you’re ready to finally come clean. Keep reading »

Adele Fans Rule At Online Dating

Adele fan? That’s good news for your online dating game. The most successful online daters happen to be fans of Adele, at least according to a new online dating site called Tastebuds.fm, which matches potential dates with similar music tastes. Also successful: male fans that like Arcade Fire, Kings of Leon and the Arctic Monkeys. The least popular male daters? No surprise here: Metallica, Linkin Park and Eminem fans. [Tastebuds.fm] Keep reading »

Girl Talk: Why Do Girls Slut-Shame Each Other?

There’s that scene in “Mean Girls” where Tina Fey, exasperated by the high school antics, shouts, “You’ve got to stop calling each other sluts and whores. It just makes it okay for guys to call you sluts and whores.” I had just graduated from high school when the movie came out and sitting in the theater, I couldn’t believe how much this line resonated for me. All of a sudden, I was transported back to those halls I’d just escaped. I could hear the cool girls greeting each other at their lockers with the words, “What up, sluuuuut?”

Reclaiming words like bitch and slut may have started as something political, something third wave feminist, but the words ended up in malls, emblazoned in rhinestones on baby tees at Deb and Rave. Keep reading »

The 6 Things I Was Embarrassed To Learn As An Adult

I know there are a lot of things I don’t know even though I’m a fairly well-educated woman. The revelation that you have been totally in the dark about some widely-known piece of information can be, well, humiliating. Especially when it happens in front of a group of people. On their Facebook page, NPR asked readers to share something they were embarrassed to learn as an adult that they should have learned much earlier like “realizing that New York City is not just Manhattan or that ‘character witnesses’ are not witnesses who are ‘characters.’” The research was for a piece called “I Was Absent That Day” about educated adults’ unavoidable knowledge gaps. Nothing to be ashamed of, we all have them. But people’s confessions of ignorance were oh-so-entertaining, like the person who thought that “pubic hair” was pronounced “public hair.” Haha! After the jump, I share with you a few of my most embarrassing knowledge gaps. I encourage you to share yours in the comments. Keep reading »

Soapbox: Why I Must Consider Non-Monogamy

My First Time...
...being polyamorous. Read More »
My Open Marriage
How an open relationship works for one married couple. Read More »
Open Isn't For Everyone
John DeVore opens up about polyamory. Read More »

The other day, I was talking to one of my lesbian friends about the difference between gay and straight relationships. “Being a straight woman, who may want to get married someday, means I have to entertain the notion of having a nonmonogamous marriage,” I argued.

“Why?” she challenged me. (I get this reaction a lot. Especially from women, gay or straight, who tend to get defensive when I say something to this effect.)

“Not to consider it would mean I’m in denial,” I replied. Keep reading »

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