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Dear Wendy: “What’s The REAL Reason He Doesn’t Want To Date Me?”

A week ago I met a really nice guy and we hit it off right away. We both are newly single and expressed to one another that we were just looking for someone to go out and spend time with. We went on our first official date a couple of days ago and it went very well. I was pretty certain that we’d see each other again because at certain moments during the date he would make references to future dates. Well, a few hours after the date he texted me saying that while he had a nice time with me and liked me he wasn’t ready for any kind of commitment and wanted to keep his options open. He also said that he felt like if we continued to see one another we’d likely end up in a serious relationship, and that that’s not what he wants right now. I know the answer here should be obvious to me, but it just really sucks! I have never connected this soon with someone before and we had a great first date and I could tell he was into me, but now suddenly I’m rejected because he likes me too much? He said he didn’t want to hurt me and that I deserve a lot more than he can give me right now. Do you think he was he being genuine and really looking out for me? Or was this just his way of saying he’s not into me without actually saying it? — Bummed After First Date

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Girl Talk: How I Overdosed On Self-Help

This is how I used to start my day: I’d meditate for five minutes, read the daily passage in The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie, and do the daily reading and writing exercises from my Buddhism book. Then I’d log onto my computer and type my gratitude list of 30-50 items I was grateful for, followed by the 3-5 affirmations I was currently working with, written 1-10 times each. I’d email this to the approximately 40 women I exchanged gratitude lists with, and then read their lists in my inbox. Before turning off my computer, I’d scan Twitter for inspirational quotes to retweet. 

On the subway to work, I’d listen to an uplifting playlist on my iPod, and/or recite affirmations in my mind. Keep reading »

Man Proposes To Girlfriend Via Mural (Updated With An Awesome Time-Lapse Video!)

Around the corner from my apartment, there’s a wall that is frequently reserved by graffiti artists for commissioned murals. Sometimes those murals are hideous, often they’re merely “meh,” and occasionally they are truly beautiful. Such is the case with the mural currently occupying the space. Jeff Gurwin, 28, proposed to his girlfriend, Caitlin Fitzsimons, 27, by having the above mural painted on the East Village wall — the Scrabble tiles are a reference to the couple’s mutual love of the game, and the pug is representative of Caitlin’s mom’s dog Parky. Fitzsimons saw the mural on her way to meet Jeff for dinner — she cried and said yes! Thank goodness, as the mural is going to be up for a month. Congrats to the happy couple! And check out an awesome time-lapse video of the mural going up, after the jump… [Village Voice, EV Grieve] Keep reading »

For The Week Of May 30-June 5, 2011

Virgo (August 23 – September 22)

You won’t care to be tied down by too much right now, so get ready with excuses because you will want to dole them out by the dozen this week. The less you make your unavailability a grand announcement, the bigger your freedom will be. So plan in advance!

Libra (September 23 – October 22)

Don’t hold back and get too controlling about anything right now, as it’s spontaneity and being open-minded that’ll brighten your life now. Yes, slated on your astral agenda this week are romantic scenarios that put you back into the spotlight of your own life. Miracles will appear out of nowhere and love blooms alive. Just one word of caution, don’t ignore reality completely.

Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)

Just when you think you’re about to have your cake and eat it too, something mysterious and powerful will strike at the heart of the matter and turn up the volume in a big way. Forget what you think you want, because the menu is about to change up — but don’t worry, it’ll expand in a bigger way, with better items to choose from. Yes, better than even you think you have it now.

Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)

You’ll have a whole new reason to want to take a bigger step into your commitments now, as understanding and passion will reign supreme and you’ll want to hold that source of inspiration tighter. Of course, nothing is without its foibles, so for you, that’ll mean needing to ignore the comments from the peanut gallery, as some people just don’t know how to be happy for others.

Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)

Communications are going to get crazier than ever, as fast decision are made, changing what you know and making you feel as if there isn’t anything to ground you. However, it’s only temporary and it won’t be so dramatic if you just allow these changes to take their course. New routines are just what you need, but something you never would have done on your own.

Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)

Life literally will be doing a 180, as big surprises come into play and have you needing to move faster than ever — but that won’t be a problem, as the opportunity that springs at you now will be so delicious, you won’t be able to stop yourself. So go full force, as this is something you deserve and have most likely been secretly wishing for, for a very long time.

Pisces (February 19 – March 20)

Just because your optimism may drop this week, don’t give up hope that you’ll get some understanding. Family or those closest to you will be able to pull out some serious magic. However, nothing comes without effort, so do share some of your concerns and give some direction of your needs, if only a hint.

Aries (March 21 – April 19)

Answers you’ve been waiting for are going to happen now and be better than you imagined. The only catch though is there are a few humbling strings attached to the situation, but nothing you can’t work around or eventually lose. To detour the drama over these imperfections, think of the long term. When you do, chances are all those little aggravations will likely fade away.

Taurus (April 20 – May 20)

It’s not like you need to live in the lap of luxury, but having the cushiness is undeniable. So, as life opens up in a more pampering way this week, dive in and suck it all up without any boundaries. Now won’t be the time to be prim and proper, because if you do, it might send the wrong message to that someone and damn you to more of this stuff down the line.

Gemini (May 21 – June 20)

Crazy events will start to percolate, throwing your brain into gear to try to rearrange all that you want to fit together. However, know you aren’t totally alone, as there is another that can have a say in it all; when they do, it might blow your mind how much love is out there in this world to have.

Cancer (June 21 – July 22)

Despite all the odds that you think you’re up against, a big psychological breakthrough is coming that will throw you into such a new perspective so powerfully, it will change your trajectory quite suddenly and drastically. New goals, new ideas and new motives will be taking you over soon, so don’t get weighed down by the past for one more day.

Leo (July 23 – August 22)

You’ll hear all sorts of crazy talk now, making you wonder what and whom you can trust. No, not everything will be so black and white, but at the least you’ll have some sort of reaction that’ll make obvious what you inherently feel. So take it for what it’s worth, because at the end of the day, your gut is all that you should answer to.

The Dating Cycle Explained

It is difficult to break free from the vicious dating cycle, which is so perfectly summed up in this diagram. Like hamsters on wheels, we keep going in the hope that at some point someone wonderful will come along. Then we can break the cycle … hopefully forever. Until then, we just keep running. [I Love Charts] Keep reading »

The Wedding Dos And Don’ts That You Can’t Get Married Without

One thing I learned before I got married is that nobody loves to talk about weddings more than women who just got married. They’ll grab on to any socially acceptable opportunity to relive their experiences. Now, I’m one of those women who’s full of tips on how to get through your wedding day. One day, maybe you can pass a few of these dos and don’ts on to the next girl when you go to blab about your wedding. Keep reading »

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