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365 Days In Paris: Two Americans In Paris

“So … I’ve kind of been hanging out with American Boy,” I confessed hesitantly on the phone to my friend, S. I held my breath, a bit worried about what she would say. S and I went to high school together (she is, in fact, my only remaining friend from high school), and she now lives in Paris. It was through S that I met American Boy in the first place—they’ve been friends for a while, and I met him at a group outing in a bar back in September. I wasn’t sure how S would feel about me tumbling into bed with one of her good friends. Not that she would be disappointed, necessarily, but that she’d maybe feel awkward about the whole scenario. I should have guessed that it was just me who felt awkward about the whole scenario. Keep reading »

For The Week Of November 16-22, 2009

Virgo (August 23 – September 22)

The only person standing in the way of your peace of mind this week will be you, as self-defeating ideas permeate your mind and you consider backtracking to a place you never should have been in the first place. Yes, the past will be haunting you. While it might feel good in that instant gratification way, trust the consequences will cut far deeper than you’d assume.

Libra (September 23 – October 22)

You never know what inner reserves of self-esteem you have until backed against a wall and made to defend yourself. This will be one of those Wonder Woman weeks. You’ll feel as if some crazy force of nature from inside you will erupt and throw others into a state of shock, in total awe of the amazing hero you truly are.

Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)

A whole new flash of thrills, excitement and genius is about to light up your life — especially if your birthday is on the 16th! A new moon is happening on that very day. As astro legend has it, if your birthday falls under a new moon, you are granted a super lucky year. If you aren’t born on that day, sexy surprises will occur nonetheless, so make a wish and watch it happen.

Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)

Vindication comes as all those suspicions you have had about that certain someone start to make sense in a definitive way. This could mean him unveiling his flood of emotions, confirming it all, or it could mean finally being released from his hold, as you realize he’s truly an ass. Either which way, a cathartic moment is about to begin, and it’ll give you the freedom you ultimately crave.

Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)

Listen closely to what friends have to say, as there could be information circulating around your social group that is vital to your romantic well-being. Seems someone you know has been playing confidante to someone who should be directly telling you this news. Be willing to ask the tough questions, as nothing right now will be cut-and-dry.

Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)

Power struggles will create all sorts of tensions in your love life. While it’ll bode well in the boudoir, it won’t be doing so well when it comes to the real world. Expect tempers to flare at bizarre times and a high chance of disputes to break out publicly. While this isn’t your style, the trade-off of discovering this new form of foreplay will be totally intriguing.

Pisces (February 19 – March 20)

Forget wishing for that old worn-out miracle — there’s one a new one that’s truly worth your while in reach. All you have to do to grab it is give up old illusions. Understand you can take responsibility for your emotions and still maintain your dignity, and life will open up like a magic forest and drop you off right into the fairy tale you’ve dreamt of — but with a better casted lead!

Aries (March 21 – April 19)

Maintaining a sense of mystery is pertinent now, as revealing all your cards won’t do a thing for heating up your object of desire in just the way that will win you big prizes. Not to say you should play games for the material benefits, but being patient will up the ante and give you a definitive scale in which you can see your power and see whom, exactly, you are playing with.

Taurus (April 20 – May 20)

You can’t always bank on knowing everything about the one you love. This week, when conversations take a sharp turn to the intense, you will love what you learn. You’ll want to curl up even tighter with the one you are closest to, as it seems that fate is forcing the obvious and for you two to go that extra step toward true intimacy.

Gemini (May 21 – June 20)

Detective work isn’t going to work. The only way to get the answer you are looking for will be to go directly to the source. Otherwise, trying to piece together information will only make you skeptical of what you can trust, and, as it stands right now, you are being your own worst enemy by not just stepping it up and showing off your courage.

Cancer (June 21 – July 22)

Don’t over-think your situation. Instead, take a few deep breaths and see practicality is your friend. If you just do what is logical, the solution is within arm’s reach. Avoid trying to protect yourself so fiercely that you don’t get the obvious accomplished. Yes, this will require that you have to step out of your comfort zone, but don’t worry — it’ll feel amazing.

Leo (July 23 – August 22)

You aren’t one to ever settle and this time you will be forced to do so, if you don’t come up with a better plan of action. The cards are not stacked in your favor. To turn the tides will mean laying on some thick sweet talking and real workable ideas that can inspire the impossible.

It Just Wasn’t Enough

I’m suddenly reminded of a quote from a book I read long ago. The book is titled Midnight in the Garden of Good and Evil (you may remember the movie of the same name starring Kevin Spacey). “Truth, like art, is in the eye of the beholder. You believe what you want, and I’ll believe what I know.” Keep reading »

The 7 Deadly Sins Of Dating

Sometimes dating is pure joy—basking in the thrill of meeting a potential Mr. Right can be exciting and energizing. But other times, dating is a chore. It’s discouraging—after so many people you should have clicked with someone by now, right? How come your relationships don’t last—or never even get started? Keep reading »

Love Vandal: Adding An R Changes Everything

Reader Alexis snapped this in Williamsburg, Brooklyn.

Have you seen graffiti that’s kind of sweet (even if it is against the law)? Send your pic to Keep reading »

10 Reasons To Consider Going On A Blind Date

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The idea of going on a blind date can seem nerve-wracking. Contrary to common misconception, blind dates can actually lead to long-term relationships. Here are ten reasons to consider going on a blind date. Keep reading »

Ask The Astrosexologist: “Should I Risk Long-Term Potential For Youthful Freedom?”

I’m a Libra with a Cancer boyfriend. We’ve been together four years now. Currently, we’re going to college in different states a couple hours apart. The problem is, I want a chance to be single before I can consider getting married (which is definitely the path we’re headed down). The thought of talking to him about it pains me so much and I’ve been avoiding it. I love him, and I would never, EVER want to hurt him. Not to mention our lives are so intertwined, being not-completely-together would probably cause much awkwardness back home. To complicate matters, I have a Libra friend who apparently has serious feelings for me, and after a great deal of self-denial, I’ve realized I am extremely attracted to him. There’s a chemistry there that I lack with my boyfriend, BUT I think my boyfriend and I have the compatibility to one day make a great marriage. I am just nervous about settling down for life with someone I’ve been with since I was barely old enough to drive. What should I do? Risk the long-term with my boyfriend for youthful freedom, or stay committed to something that’s most likely a sure thing? – Indecisive Libra

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Dating Across America: Worst First Dates

Pull up a seat as women across America dredge up memories about their worst dating experiences.

“The worst date I can think of was the time I was taken to Waffle House in the part of Cincinnati where you’re advised to roll up your car windows during the day, and to carry pepper spray at night. Not only was I scared, but also the food was bad and I was asked not to get a meal over $5. The night was topped off by a bad ’80s movie about break dancing that I couldn’t watch anyways because my date’s friend had a foot-tall Mohawk, and insisted on sitting in front of the tiny television. I don’t mind cheap nights at Waffle House, Mohawks, or bad movies, but combined and on the first date, it’s just not impressive. Woo a lady first!” – Amanda King; Fairbanks, Alaska

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What Does “A Real Wife” Do? Let’s Ask Twitter

If you use Twitter, you know that in the lower right-hand corner of your page, there is always a list of the top 10 “trending topics” that tells you what everyone is tweeting about. Sometimes everyone’s got “paranormal activity” or Taylor Swift on the brain, but oftentimes, people sound off on random topic ideas. Fun, right?

Well, things “a real wife …” should do has become a trending topic on Twitter and just wait until you read the hardy-har-har list of things people have come up with! I know some people are being silly and joking, but it’s got to be some statement on gender roles if literally hundreds of people are suggesting “a real wife” should keep her man happy with food and sex. Or maybe these clowns are just confusing a real wife with “A Real Housewife”? After the jump, the most barf-tastic, as well as funniest, favorites. Keep reading »

Dater X: The Curse Of The Second Date

People always freak out about first dates. But as a 30-year-old woman who’s been dating on and off for, oh, the past decade, I’ve mastered the art of a first date. You meet and have a drink to loosen things up. You talk about what you do, what you’d like to be doing, and where you come from. If it’s not going well, you can tell within 10 minutes and get the heck out of there. If it is going well, the conversation juts out in complicated tangents. You find yourself laughing, and leaning in closer. You realize that the amount of information you have about someone is increasing exponentially each minute. There’s the thrill of when you accidentally touch each other. And then there’s the first kiss, where you find all sorts of lovely idiosyncrasies, like that the bad boy has the softest lips you’ve ever encountered. No, first dates are easy.

It’s second dates that I fear. Keep reading »

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