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Factors In Making Love Last (Or Not)

A wacky new study called “What’s Love Got To Do With It?” followed 2,500 couples who are married or have lived together for at least six years and discovered there are, gasp, lots of factors that lead to the success (or failure) of a relationship besides just falling in or out of love. For example — this is going to shock you — women who want babies much more than their husbands are more likely to divorce than women who marry men who want kids just as much as they do! People whose parents divorced are more than 50 percent more likely to divorce or separate than those whose parents stayed married. And people who are on their second or third marriage are 90 percent more likely to divorce than spouses who are both on their first marriages. One in five couples who have children before marriage, either from a previous relationship or their current one, will separate, compared to just one in ten couples who do not have children before getting married. Just one in ten? That figure seems to contradict the finding that a quarter of all relationships will end within six years and half within 25, but maybe I’m splitting hairs here. Age is another factor that determines the success of marriage — men who marry before 25 are twice as likely to get divorced as those who marry after turning 25, as are men who are more than nine years older than their wives. Stuff that doesn’t matter so much? A woman’s employment status, country of birth, religious background and education levels. [via Daily Mail]
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What NOT To Do With Your Ex

Your relationship wasn’t working out, so you broke up. Mission accomplished, right? Sometimes, though, having your ex in your life can be more complicated than you’d think. You could be sabotaging your future happiness if you’re making one of six ex-related mistakes. Find out what they are! Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “My Boyfriend’s Jealous Of My High School Ex”

After about 1.5 years of dating (four months of it long distance), my boyfriend, Tom, and I have decided to split so we can focus on our careers/degree. I said I was fine with seeing each other when we could and staying in each other’s lives under one condition: that he sees me in his life when he moves back to NY in a year and half. He said he wasn’t sure because, “I’ve always been bothered by who you have slept with before me.” Tom and I are four years apart but attended the same schools growing up, and therefore have a lot of mutual friends/family friends/neighbors, etc. One in particular is John, whom I had a relationship with and slept with when I was 16 years old. We had a dumb high school relationship that lasted all of 4 months. Five years later, John’s brother married Tom’s sister, and now Tom and John are, well, kind of related. This creeps Tom out. I was 16. It was nine years ago. I guess if Tom were once madly in love with my sister-in-law, I could see it being uncomfortable, but a random high school relationship? He told me, that for guys, learning your ex had SEX with a friend of theirs is the equivalent to how a girl feels when she finds out her ex was in LOVE with one of your friends. Is this true? Could it really be such a big deal for him? I didn’t even know Tom when I was with John! I want to make it work for us, but this is just something I can’t change. — Haunted By My Past

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Dealbreaker: The TMI Guy

When I showed up at the bar, Doug* had not arrived yet. I had seen his picture (he was an online acquisition), so I knew roughly what to expect. I am not a superficial broad and I can usually find just about any dude attractive if he has a good personality. Based on the few emails we exchanged, I felt fairly certain that at worst Doug and I would bond as friends. His emails were funny, honest, and open. “Now that’s what I’m looking for!” I thought to myself. “A guy who can communicate!” Keep reading »

“Unfriending” Is Oxford Dictionary’s 2009 Word Of The Year

First Facebook took over your personal life; now it’s taking over your dictionary. Well, only the New Oxford American Dictionary. Those wordy peeps have chosen the verb “unfriend”—as in, I unfriended Joey so he’d stop pestering me to play that stupid Mafia Wars game!—as their 2009 word of the year, which means it’s been added to their massive publication. “Tramp stamp” and “funemployed” are also new words Oxford included in the dictionary, but (luckily) “unfriend” is the only one we have personal experience with. After the jump, The Frisky’s tales from the trenches of “unfriending!” [Oxford University Press Blog] Keep reading »

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30 Rules To Live By After Turning 30

Now that I’m 30 and have, uh, accomplished some of the things in our 30-before-30 lists, I’m hardly done learning. Here’s a repost of Wendy’s “30 Rules To Live By After Turning 30.” I shall start tomorrow. — Editor

Inspired by the “40 Unwritten Rules to Live By” recently published in Men’s Health, I thought The Frisky could pen a list of our own. So far, we’ve talked about the 30 skills every woman should know before she turns 30, as well as places to do it, things to have, and friends to make before the big 3-0. But what’s really important are the lessons a woman learns from the years before that milestone birthday and how she applies them to life afterward. So, without further ado, here are 30 rules to live by after turning 30, after the jump. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: Find Better Relationships With Positive Thinking

“I was dating a guy recently for a little over a month. Things were going great – we went on dates every weekend, occasionally hung out during the week and we had started to meet each other’s friends. We were definitely progressing towards a relationship. But suddenly, from one day to the next, he didn’t make plans to see me. I made a last effort to contact him — we talked on the phone and I let him know that I did want to see him. He had said definitely and that he would call… but, as you can guess, that was our last conversation as he never called. I am very hurt and confused. I’ve been left in the pouring rain. Why do guys disappear? Why don’t they have the decency to tell us that it isn’t working out instead of pulling the disappearing act and pretending we didn’t matter at all? Especially when things were going fantastic?” — Left in the Rain

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365 Days In Paris: Two Americans In Paris

“So … I’ve kind of been hanging out with American Boy,” I confessed hesitantly on the phone to my friend, S. I held my breath, a bit worried about what she would say. S and I went to high school together (she is, in fact, my only remaining friend from high school), and she now lives in Paris. It was through S that I met American Boy in the first place—they’ve been friends for a while, and I met him at a group outing in a bar back in September. I wasn’t sure how S would feel about me tumbling into bed with one of her good friends. Not that she would be disappointed, necessarily, but that she’d maybe feel awkward about the whole scenario. I should have guessed that it was just me who felt awkward about the whole scenario. Keep reading »

For The Week Of November 16-22, 2009

Virgo (August 23 – September 22)

The only person standing in the way of your peace of mind this week will be you, as self-defeating ideas permeate your mind and you consider backtracking to a place you never should have been in the first place. Yes, the past will be haunting you. While it might feel good in that instant gratification way, trust the consequences will cut far deeper than you’d assume.

Libra (September 23 – October 22)

You never know what inner reserves of self-esteem you have until backed against a wall and made to defend yourself. This will be one of those Wonder Woman weeks. You’ll feel as if some crazy force of nature from inside you will erupt and throw others into a state of shock, in total awe of the amazing hero you truly are.

Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)

A whole new flash of thrills, excitement and genius is about to light up your life — especially if your birthday is on the 16th! A new moon is happening on that very day. As astro legend has it, if your birthday falls under a new moon, you are granted a super lucky year. If you aren’t born on that day, sexy surprises will occur nonetheless, so make a wish and watch it happen.

Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)

Vindication comes as all those suspicions you have had about that certain someone start to make sense in a definitive way. This could mean him unveiling his flood of emotions, confirming it all, or it could mean finally being released from his hold, as you realize he’s truly an ass. Either which way, a cathartic moment is about to begin, and it’ll give you the freedom you ultimately crave.

Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)

Listen closely to what friends have to say, as there could be information circulating around your social group that is vital to your romantic well-being. Seems someone you know has been playing confidante to someone who should be directly telling you this news. Be willing to ask the tough questions, as nothing right now will be cut-and-dry.

Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)

Power struggles will create all sorts of tensions in your love life. While it’ll bode well in the boudoir, it won’t be doing so well when it comes to the real world. Expect tempers to flare at bizarre times and a high chance of disputes to break out publicly. While this isn’t your style, the trade-off of discovering this new form of foreplay will be totally intriguing.

Pisces (February 19 – March 20)

Forget wishing for that old worn-out miracle — there’s one a new one that’s truly worth your while in reach. All you have to do to grab it is give up old illusions. Understand you can take responsibility for your emotions and still maintain your dignity, and life will open up like a magic forest and drop you off right into the fairy tale you’ve dreamt of — but with a better casted lead!

Aries (March 21 – April 19)

Maintaining a sense of mystery is pertinent now, as revealing all your cards won’t do a thing for heating up your object of desire in just the way that will win you big prizes. Not to say you should play games for the material benefits, but being patient will up the ante and give you a definitive scale in which you can see your power and see whom, exactly, you are playing with.

Taurus (April 20 – May 20)

You can’t always bank on knowing everything about the one you love. This week, when conversations take a sharp turn to the intense, you will love what you learn. You’ll want to curl up even tighter with the one you are closest to, as it seems that fate is forcing the obvious and for you two to go that extra step toward true intimacy.

Gemini (May 21 – June 20)

Detective work isn’t going to work. The only way to get the answer you are looking for will be to go directly to the source. Otherwise, trying to piece together information will only make you skeptical of what you can trust, and, as it stands right now, you are being your own worst enemy by not just stepping it up and showing off your courage.

Cancer (June 21 – July 22)

Don’t over-think your situation. Instead, take a few deep breaths and see practicality is your friend. If you just do what is logical, the solution is within arm’s reach. Avoid trying to protect yourself so fiercely that you don’t get the obvious accomplished. Yes, this will require that you have to step out of your comfort zone, but don’t worry — it’ll feel amazing.

Leo (July 23 – August 22)

You aren’t one to ever settle and this time you will be forced to do so, if you don’t come up with a better plan of action. The cards are not stacked in your favor. To turn the tides will mean laying on some thick sweet talking and real workable ideas that can inspire the impossible.

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