Britney Spears’ ex-sperm donor, Kevin Federline, has clearly got a type: blond chicks who suck down Starbucks coffee. But his new GF, Victoria Prince, can’t really be in it for the “star” factor. Maybe it’s his divorce settlement “bucks”? [Vancouver, 5/11/09] Keep reading »
I’m getting married in a little over two months, and though this is a happy, exciting time in my life, there’s a bittersweetness. It started when I moved to New York a year and a half ago to be with my boyfriend. Up until then, our relationship had been long-distance; he was in Manhattan, and I was in Chicago. Through daily phone calls and frequent trips back and forth, we fell in love while still maintaining solo lives in our respective cities. It was a unique experience to be in a fully committed relationship, but continue living the same single-girl life I’d known since my last serious relationship (minus all the unsuccessful dating, of course). When I wasn’t in New York or hosting my boyfriend in Chicago, my weekends were filled cultivating other relationships — those with my closest friends. Life was filled with wine-drenched, late-night talks, long bike rides along the lake, picnics in the park, afternoon shopping frenzies, potlucks, brunches, and impromptu sleep-overs — all with my single friends. Now that I’m fully immersed in “coupled life,” I realize I’ll probably never have friendships like those again.
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For many of us, the rise in popularity of social networking sites like Facebook and Twitter means we’re rubbing elbows with family members more often than for Sunday night dinner. Maybe it’s not so strange when it’s a cousin or sister whose lives we’re getting a unique, new peek into, but when our moms and dads start signing up, things have the potential to get awkward. Take, for example, the story of a 19-year-old girl who wrote to Slate’s resident advice columnist, Prudence, after she discovered that her 50-year-old mom had reconnected with an old boyfriend via Facebook. Keep reading »
While you’re more likely to hear women complain about their boyfriends and husbands never listening to them than the other way around, a recent poll discovered that men actually listen more carefully to others than women do. “The poll of 2,000 people found that more than one in five men reckon they always listen carefully to every word, and while less than one in five of women said the same.” Among the situations where women tend to tune out: listening to work colleagues (the average woman listens intently just 64% of the time), listening to their boss (women pick up just 2/3 of their boss’ communication), and listening to their partners (they catch 70% of those conversations). If women aren’t listening to their colleagues, bosses, or partners, what are they paying attention to? The poll says women give the most focus to gossip and eavesdropping! Don’t worry, though — “when it comes to talking to their best friend, women give their full attention to more than three quarters of what is spoken.” I’m guessing the 25% of the time women are tuning their best friends out is when the following is being discussed: their kids, how the wedding planning is going, or how, like, totally great their relationship is. Snooze-ville! [via Telegraph U.K.]
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“My ‘was-boyfriend’ (2/20/87) decided that he and I (5/07/86) should take some time apart after almost three years together. Our first year together was wonderful, and the second was great, but the third had become a little too comfortable — less about love and more about being best friends. He says this isn’t about anyone else, but he isn’t sure that I’m ‘the one.’ Sometimes I feel the same, but I think back to how amazing things were in the beginning. We’ve dealt with more than our fair share of long-distance love, and now he’ll be going to grad school while I’m out in the workforce. Do you think we have a chance of rekindling the romance and falling back in love?” – Tepid Taurus Keep reading »
Virgo (August 23 – September 22)
As the cliché says, “Just fake it, until you make it.” This means if you have to fib and turn the truth up a bit to impress that someone, go ahead. You have a tendency to “under talk” yourself anyway and if you think you are bragging, it’ll end up just being what really is going on anyway. You only have yourself to sell yourself and always hawk it to the highest bidder.
Libra (September 23 – October 22)
They’ll be no accounting for your taste this week, but why judge yourself? Whatever gets your rocks off this week, just do it. No one is going to hold you responsible for all the decisions you make in life and nothing has to be forever, so lighten up and do what feels right and exciting, despite the unfamiliar surroundings.
Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)
Your love life is about to hit a skid and whomever you are palling around these days with will have a high chance of driving nails into your brain and heart with thoughtless behavior. How you deal with this seemingly fatal flaw is up to you, as freewill be giving you a lot of leeway to do what you must this week to maintain your sanity.
Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)
Don’t let other’s promises hold you up from what you want to do. Not to say this is a week of flakes, although they will be a part of your week, but knowing you can’t rely too much on the day-to-day favors you’ll hear, as there will be something unexplainably ridiculous in the air that will cause obstacles. It’s nothing personal either, just inevitable.
Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)
Don’t make everything out to be a big drama this week, because if you clutter your mind with garbage, everything will stink. It’s mind over matter time and owning up to the fact that you have full control and that no one can talk you off your dreams and if they do, know it’s wrong and then let it slide off your back and keep on keeping on.
Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)
Love won’t be easy because when it comes to what really matters to you, you won’t be able to see eye-to-eye and the controversy will burn you hot under the collar. However, people are entitled to their opinions and while you can argue your side, you can’t expect you are going to change anyone. If you do, you’re just asking for disappointment.
Pisces (February 19 – March 20)
Finding the right words will escape you and being misunderstood can cause some long-term repercussions. Be clear with what you say and don’t let small arguments get out of hand. As it goes, this isn’t the time to be dealing with any heavy communications right now, as the lighter it stays, the less chance you have of falling into an emotional danger zone.
Aries (March 21 – April 19)
A little stubbornness will get you what you want and when faced with this as your challenge to win victory, you might as well just put down your armor and enjoy waiting it out. Standstills are the best crossroads to bear right now, as it gives you time to rest and focus on other areas of your life. As it goes, this time around, you do have the upper hand to make the opposition sweat.
Taurus (April 20 – May 20)
Your sense of reasoning can’t always help you, especially now because essentially you’ll be using your skills to lie to yourself with a thick helping of excuses, which aren’t going to get you the love you want. Unless you get honest with yourself, there is no real joy. However, not all is lost if you just admit what you want, how you want it and without apology.
Gemini (May 21 – June 20)
You have learned every lesson you need to know to get your life in the order you want. When it comes to love, even doubly so. This is no time to short change yourself into playing games that really aren’t worth your time, efforts or ego. Your skill and cleverness have far exceeded present situations. Don’t waste the energy.
Cancer (June 21 – July 22)
Your emotions are going to flip flop once again and you’ll repeal a commitment. Don’t worry, this sudden shift will be strong enough to push your off into a new and more exciting direction with a steadier pace. Trust you have plenty of karmic points to cruise you through this transition with grace and a positive upturn finale.
Leo (July 23 – August 22)
You’ll be feeling as if your sense of authority is going to be undermined by someone close to you, causing major power struggles that won’t make your libido burn as hot as its known to. Instead, your tempers will be short and those around you will have to fend for themselves, as you won’t be someone to mess with.
A few months ago, I posted about a list of “women’s sexual fantasies” that appeared in Men’s Health. I wrote that the majority of the fantasies listed were “so off-the-mark and absurd, I [worried] about men incorporating these fantasies into their sexual routines and turning off women so dramatically that all sex becomes just a fantasy.” Many of you agreed that the list didn’t come close to reflecting women’s true fantasies, and Men’s Health must have listened because they’ve published a new list of women’s sexual fantasies — only these sound suspiciously like men’s top desires! After the jump, see what the publication is telling its (mostly male) readers we women want in the sack. Keep reading »
Much has been written in the media this week about men cheating on their wives. We have the tale of two Jo(h)ns: John Edwards, whose scorned wife, Elizabeth Edwards, appeared on “Oprah” yesterday to promote her new book, Resilence, in which she addresses her husband’s much publicized affair, and Jon Gosselin, costar of the hit TLC reality show “Jon & Kate Plus 8,” whose rumored affair has become tabloid fodder. The former is a tale as old as journalism itself: a man in power cheats on a wife who, from the outside, seemed a supporting and loving spouse undeserving of her husband’s unfaithfulness. The latter is another familiar tale: a man under an enormous amount of pressure is regularly and publicly emasculated and treated like dirt by his wife and seemingly seeks solace with another woman. In both cases, the men are vilified — but is it possible that maybe, just maybe, at least one of the women had it coming?
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Men can say some really crappy things, even if they’re not necessarily jerks. They’ve been socialized to speak their minds and disconnect from emotions, so maybe they don’t realize words can hurt. But then again, their intention could have been to inflict pain. We’ve rounded up the meanest things a guy has ever said to us, and some other women, in an effort to dull the pain. Keep reading »