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The TV Shows And Phrases Guys Should Mention If They Want To Attract The Ladies

OKCupid loves crunching the data on its daters. This week, they took a look at the most common words and phrases in the profiles of New York singletons. The results are fascinating. For both genders, not only is the most common phrase a TV show, it’s the same TV show—”30 Rock.” From there, the lists diverge, but there are an awful lot of TV shows on both gender’s lists. For men, the most used words are: “30 Rock,” “Arrested Development,” “Always Sunny in Philadelphia,” Bob Dylan, born and raised, and my iPhone. For women, the list is: “30 Rock,” “True Blood,” Jay-Z, obsessed with, ice cream, and wine.

Presumably, people mention these TV shows because (a) they like them and (b) they think liking them will appeal to potential suitors. And so we’d like to give the straight guys out there some help. After the jump, the shows guys should name check, in addition to “30 Rock” and “Arrested Development,” if they want to pique a woman’s interest. Plus some more random words that will help, too. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: Finding The Good In Goodbye

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About a month ago I was standing in a sandwich shop near my office and my mind went to the place it usually does, which is wondering what I would do if Ex-Mr. Jessica walked in. His office is only 10 blocks away from my own, so there is a very real possibility we may run into each other by accident sometime. I looked at the men dressed the same way he would dress — glasses, dress shirt, slacks, an iPod — and imagined him walking in.

And then I realized I wouldn’t have cared. I could nod my head at him and ignore him. I could even muster a small smile and a “hi.” In the day’s experiences, it would register as “whatever.”

And that release felt huge. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “I Keep Thinking About Cheating”

I have been seeing my boyfriend for the past eight months. I would describe our relationship so far as “perfect.” We rarely argue and when we do it is settled within minutes. He is so caring and actually talks to me about his feelings and wants to know the way I feel about a lot things that really do matter. Our relationship has no drama whatsoever and we are perfectly happy. The thing is, I have been known to cheat on my ex-boyfriends in the past. He does not know this nor ever will, and I have no urge to cheat on my current boyfriend whatsoever.

However, my job recently made me relocate to a different location for six months. We both agreed to stay together during this time and so far it has been great but I’m finding myself thinking about being with other men. When I see men I think to myself, “If I wanted him, I could probably have him.” I am realizing these are the exact thoughts I was thinking when I would cheat on my exes. I don’t understand why I feel this way. I know I love my boyfriend and would never ever cheat on him but how do I keep myself from having these thoughts? Is this something all people in a relationship think about but just never say anything? — Once a Cheater

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The Most Important Things We Learned In College

In college, you learn many things. A smattering of organic chemistry principles and formulas. An assortment of historic dates, and what exactly happened to lead to the events that went down on them. Not to mention the plots to, oh, 10 or so books per semester of an English class. Those things are awesome. But I think most of us agree that the bigger things you learn in college won’t ever be found on a midterm. After the jump, The Frisky staff shares the most important things we learned from our college experiences. Keep reading »

How To Deal With Your (Crazy) College Roommate

Roommates are a wild bunch, by nature, by definition. A major part of the college experience is being thrown in with a complete stranger and forced to live with them, adapt to them and somehow learn to get along without killing one another. In my view, given the roommates I’ve had over the years, they should start giving out degrees just for that, but no, no. You’re expected to figure it out all your own. We’ve devised a handy guide to some of the most difficult-to-get-along-with roommates. When in doubt, use it as a reference, or don’t be afraid to “accidentally” set it as the homepage on your roommate’s computer. Just saying. And don’t forget to click here for more back to school content! Keep reading »

Soapbox: On Withholding Sex As Punishment

After I started giving blowjobs to my high school boyfriend, I soon became aware of my newfound sexual power. I had something he wanted. For a 16-year-old girl stuck in a lot of circumstances she had no control over, the tangibility of that power felt amazing.

Then my high school boo and I were joking around, he did something to razz me, and I told him teasingly, “No blowjobs for a week for you as punishment!”

The teasing tone vanished. He became serious — and seriously angry. “Don’t threaten me like that,” he said in a stern voice. “You can’t control me with threats.”

“I was teasing,” I insisted, though I immediately felt guilty for seeming like I may have been using my sexual power to control him. I never know what’s OK to joke about and what’s not; I never have. “I’m not seriously not going to give you blowjobs for a week. Jesus.”

That was over 10 years ago and I’ve long since chalked the conversation up to 16-year-old stupidity. That is, until I heard last night that some adult women actually do punish their men by withholding sex. Keep reading »

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