Category Archives: Relationships

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6 Things You Do On Facebook That Turn Him Off

If a guy doesn’t check you out on Facebook before your first date, he definitely will afterwards. While your profile and posting habits aren’t a be-all end-all, they can push a man who’s teetering toward calling it quits. After polling several men, we found six common Facebook faux pas that will cause a dude to re-evaluate the relationship and redirect his affection elsewhere.

1. You bash your ex. Relegate all man-hating to girls-only nights. Comments about ex-boyfriends and bad dates make you look petty, immature and hung up the past. Plus, guys simply hate whiners. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: I Won’t Cook For Just Any Man Ever Again

Learning To Cook
How a breakup and a set of copper pots taught Jess to cook. Read More »
He Was Autistic
How dating a man with autism taught the writer to be herself. Read More »
Bitchin' In The Kitchen
All the Frisky's recipes and tips for Bitchin' in the Kitchen. Read More »

For as long as I can remember, I’ve loved to cook. And while I love cooking for myself, I especially love cooking for others. It’s one of the ways I feel most comfortable showing affection. Cooking brings out a nurturing side that, quite frankly, is just waiting to kick into high gear once I have a kid. Cooking makes me feel womanly and, by extension, cooking for a man makes me feel sexy. But cooking for men I’ve dated over the last few years, since I became single following the breakup of my engagement, hasn’t been as positive an experience as I would have hoped. In fact, it’s something that I now vow I won’t do until I feel a certain security with the man sitting across from me at the dinner table. Keep reading »

First Time For Everything: Deflowering A 30-Year-Old Virgin

Virginity Regrets
Regretting the way you lost your v-card. Read More »
5 Sex Moves
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Five sex moves women love in bed but can be too afraid to ask for. Read More »
Failure To Squirt
Should you feel bad if you can't squirt? Read More »

I’d never slept with a virgin. On our second date, Jim and I escaped from a hot and overcrowded bar and sat on a bench outside. Fueled by a few pints of Guinness and the urge to confess, Jim admitted to being a 30-year-old virgin. He’d never even had a girlfriend. After a long moment of silence, I asked him, trying to sound as non-intimidating as possible, why that was.

Jim didn’t have a concrete reason. He rattled off details about his life. He was Catholic, but didn’t go to church and definitely wasn’t saving himself. He went to an all-boys high school. He lived at home during college and grad school, though he owned an apartment now. He really didn’t know why. The desire was there; the opportunity just hadn’t presented itself. Keep reading »

Guy Talk: Why Cougars Are Better Than Silver Foxes

Is It Natural?
Here's what women are really looking for in older men. Read More »
Hot For The Gos
Women lust, and men lust. Why we can't just leave it at that? Read More »
Women Aren't Crazy
Has gaslighting conditioned women into thinking they're unstable? Read More »

Hugo’s piece was originally published at the Good Men Project Magazine.

Both at the Good Men Project and at my own blog, my most popular posts in terms of page-views are invariably those that focus on one particularly controversial subject: older men and younger women. (Here’s “What Young Women Are Really Looking For From Older Men.”)

As I’ve laid out in those pieces, for a number of reasons I think we should be suspicious of age-disparate heterosexual relationships in which the male partner is substantially older than the female one, and in which the woman is still quite young (say, under 23). Put simply, the potential problems in these relationships seem to diminish based less upon the actual number of years in between the partners and more upon the age of the woman involved. I’m more concerned about an 18 year-old woman and a 30 year-old man than I am about a 30 year-old woman and a 55 year-old man, even though the latter relationship has twice the number of years separating the partners. The research of psychologists like Lynn Phillips—who has written extensively about relationships between teen girls (including those above the age of consent) and older men—bears out how damaging these relationships can be. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: How I Learned To Cook

Welcome To Heartbreak
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Jessica is suddenly single. Find out what happened. Read More »
The Good In Goodbye
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Jessica feels so relieved to be moving on from her breakup. Read More »
Bitchin' In The Kitchen
All the Frisky's recipes and tips for Bitchin' in the Kitchen. Read More »
Single Gal Recipes
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Dinner for one? Here's our best random single gal recipes! Read More »

I didn’t learn how to cook growing up. It’s not that my mom and dad didn’t know how to cook themselves; they’re both quite good cooks, actually. Dad makes a mean spaghetti sauce and I’ve planned entire weekends around Mom’s French onion soup, endive salad, and eggplant parm. But both of them are, and always have been, so absurdly territorial in the kitchen that I never much felt welcome. There’s many times I’ve tried to help out and perhaps pick something up, and gotten shooed away.

So I stopped trying. I cultivated indifference. I sat back while they cooked real meals for me well into adulthood. Whatever meals I cooked for myself were not real meals — in fact, I don’t know if you could say I “cooked” them. All throughout college and after college, I ate the kind of “instant meals” that American grocery stores are known for: macaroni and cheese, instant rice, ramen noodles, pasta sauce out of a jar. Maybe if I was getting fancy, I’d make a salad or scrambled eggs.   Keep reading »

For The Week Of November 7-13, 2011

2011 Astro Guide!
Find out what Kiki T predicts for your sign! Read More »

Scorpio (October 23-November 21): Compromise is not a talent that comes easy to you, as you’d rather disintegrate than have to bend your ideals. However, this week’s view of the bigger picture is going to start to morph, making you see that going back to the drawing board with that other might not be the worst thing to happen. If anything, getting this second chance will make you feel refreshed.

Sagittarius (November 22-December 21): Time to switch gears and get new goals on the agenda, particularly ones that truly get you back on track with your purpose. Even if you aren’t even sure at this point what that is, follow your passions a little closer, as any change up now will do wonders for your morale and perspective. After all, if you want to live the dream, it’ll mean owning up to it. Keep reading »

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