On Sunday afternoon, my little sister Lizz is marrying one of my best friends from high school, Pat. They’ve been together for 11 years, and are the kind of couple that looks alike, talks alike, and complements each other in every way, giving me a touch of faith in this whole crazy love thing. I am pumped for the ceremony, which will be held in my favorite park in New York City, right under the Brooklyn Bridge. I am pumped that Pat will finally be my brother-in-law, a term I’ve used to describe him for years anyway. I am pumped for the reception, which will feature barbecue and cupcakes, and a “Celebrate Good Times”-free wedding dance mix created by yours truly. Heck, I’m even pumped to wear my bridesmaid dress. But there is just one little thing I’m dreading about Sunday: I have no date. Keep reading »
“I’m a Libra woman (10/01/85) dating a Gemini woman (05/30/86). We started as friends, but then developed an attraction to each other. I’m a lesbian, but she made all the first moves, even though she identified as straight. She introduced herself, gave me her phone number, invited me over, asked me to be her girlfriend, etc. I feel like I can’t trust her because she has a lot of guy ‘friends,’ some are closer then others. When I try to get intimate with her, she pulls away and says, ‘If I let you, that’s when things will get crazy and I’ll want you all the time.’
I’m a virgin and I feel like she is having sex with other people. I tried talking to her about it, but she says it’s not all about sex. She always talks about herself and hardly anyone knows we’re together. I like her a lot, but I feel she could care less, though she claims to. I’m lost. Help!” – Lost Libra Keep reading »
Lately I’ve been getting a lot of advice. Solicited, unsolicited, much of it from female friends, most of it contradictory. Many of my female friends are in relationships, including my four closest girl friends, two of whom are married and two who are headed in that direction. They all are living vicariously through my “dating adventures,” though I’ve tried to tell them that it’s about as exciting as a bowl of oatmeal.
People give advice based on their own experiences. What works for them has got to work for you too, right? Like following a cake recipe, if you follow the right steps, you’ll get the end result you want. Except dating is nothing like baking and there’s no “right” way when it comes to matters of the heart. I watched “He’s Just Not That Into You” this weekend (out tomorrow on DVD) and if there’s a takeaway from that movies it’s this: everyone has a dating tale that is an exception to another person’s rule. Which is why all of the advice I’ve been getting has been making my head spin. Keep reading »
We’ve talked a lot on The Frisky about first dates and what not to do on them, but apparently not everyone is taking our advice. A recent article in the Daily Mail claims that first date behavior has gotten so bad that at least a third of all 18 million first dates in the U.K. end in “disaster.” The writer never explains what qualifies a date as a disaster, but in my experience, hoping for a sudden natural disaster to relieve you of his company is a pretty good indicator it sucks. To find out what’s going on to make all these first dates so terrible, an online dating firm called parship.co.uk polled 1,300 singles about their behavior. After the jump, the top ten bad dating behaviors they discovered. Keep reading »
Virgo (August 23 – September 22)
Your ideals about domestic bliss are about to get a shocking dose of reality. On one hand, it’ll bring you to a new understanding of your honey, but on the other, it’ll make you a little more queasy at the responsibilities of commitment. At the least, it’ll give you tons to think about and analyze and by the week’s end, expect a beautiful epiphany.
Libra (September 23 – October 22)
Secrets and sexy mysteries are the theme of the week and the more you explore the naughty unknown, the more you’ll feel tingly in places you never thought you were bad enough to feel. Yes, this is the week your mindset turns around and it’s no more Miss Nice Girl, as heading off into the dark side is where you’ll find its really happening.
Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)
When it comes to your relationship this week, it’ll feel as if you’ve been ruffied. Everything he says and does will feel as if there’s a sexy genius behind his power to turn you on and out. Every time he walks into the room, calls you up, or takes off his clothes, all of it will seem so extra potent that you’ll have a hard time resisting from falling onto your knees.
Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)
If you want your honey to listen to what you say, you’re going to have to get more forceful and really put your foot down and your feelings on the line. While it will take time to get the understanding you want, if you push passionately and stand firm, you will start to see that getting on the same page isn’t so impossible.
Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)
You’re going to have to switch your mind into a more idealistic gear and your heart into fantasy mode, because the more you let yourself float out there on a limb, the more you will be rewarded as that special someone is waiting in the wings for you to just accept what you feel and go for it. Besides, what do you have to lose? If anything, this one will feed your ego quite nicely.
Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)
Staying in your comfort zone isn’t going to get you laid. Although your mental pursuits do keep you occupied, you know it’s not enough to ward off that itchy curiosity you get down there. To put your ass back into the game effectively, this is your time to break out and hit new places, to find new faces. Inspiration is out there, but it’s only if you take the initiative to find it.
Pisces (February 19 – March 20)
Make sensuality and lengthy sexcapades the priority for this week, because as it goes, your stamina will be soaring to never levels of hunger that will make you feel like a sex starved animal that just can’t get enough. Plus, with work stress also nipping into your brain, you will need a fast escape into pleasure to keep you sane.
Aries (March 21 – April 19)
Money luck arrives just in time for you and your baby to start taking about bigger dreams and goals. Time to step up the ambition in your relationship and get an agenda set. Enough of playing house with no real direction in sight, as you know deep down inside that novelty has worn out. Now, time to see what the other is truly made of.
Taurus (April 20 – May 20)
Your charm will be indomitable and all that you say and do will be a powerful aphrodisiac to judo flip anyone you want onto his back, hands or knees. If you are taken, this will mean much time with your legs in the air. If single, watch out world, because as it stands, the market is in dire need for a ladylove just like you.
Gemini (May 21 – June 20)
Your anxiety levels are about to go down a notch and some clarity in your love life is coming. This could be a major breakthrough or meeting someone that seems to come out of nowhere, but has all the hot qualities you seek. Yup, this week is the turning point where your year starts to look up and that dreamy state of being you begins.
Cancer (June 21 – July 22)
An itching sensation will be coming over you at a most bizarre time, as someone you have been lightly seeing with will start to appear different to you and make you act out in freaky ways. Instead of trying to convince yourself that it’s not real, consider the options and realize that what you have been craving this whole time could be right under your nose.
Leo (July 23 – August 22)
A steamy flirtation is about to put you into the danger zone. This is not the time to get careless, as your ambitions are also on the line and splitting your priorities could have you faced with decisions that won’t bode well for you, driving up your stress levels to the point that your brain won’t function the way it should. Seriously, consider all options before making a move.
Breaking up is hard to do especially when you have to go to work the next day. After spending an entire evening arguing with your, now ex-boyfriend, the last thing you want to do is deal with the idiots in accounting or the crazy client who can’t make up her mind. Unfortunately, business doesn’t cease because of your broken heart. Here, readers tell us how they survived a breakup—and the ensuing workweek—and lived to love again. Keep reading »
Every time I get all skeptical about this whole l-o-v-e thing, something happens to pull me back. Earlier this week, Frank and Anita Milford Devon, Britain’s oldest married couple, celebrated their 81st anniversary. The two met at a YMCA dance in 1926 and got hitched two years later. Today, they are both 101 and have two children (their son is now 74), five grandkids, and seven great-grandkids. And I thought making it to six-months was a big deal? Three cheers for old people! [BBC] Keep reading »
When it came to my dating life, I wasn’t sure I should listen to Patti Stanger, host of Bravo’s “The Millionaire Matchmaker” and author of the book Become Your Own Matchmaker: 8 Easy Steps for Attracting Your Perfect Mate. Could someone hoisting a gold, ruby-encrusted Cupid’s arrow on her book cover, whose ample bosom was jammed into a white Liberace pantsuit, help me, an outdoorsy New Yorker with an A cup seeking a sweet, humble, non-cologne wearing guy with no roommates?
I was doubtful. But as an early thirties lady swinging and missing on the New York dating scene, I figured, “What have you got to lose, Singles McGonigle?” See if she’s got some news you can use. Keep reading »
Last night, I found myself packing up my ex-boyfriend’s stuff in preparation for his move. He didn’t have anyone else willing to help, including friends and family, so he was doing it alone. My main reason for helping, obviously, was because after three months of separation, I missed him. We’ve talked occasionally, so it wasn’t like he had called me out of the blue and said, “Help me pack my s**t!”
Even though we hadn’t seen each other in a while, it still felt like we were friends when I saw him. Not being his girl anymore made it easier to deal with the bra (that wasn’t mine) I found in his drawer. To be fair, he warned me, saying that I might find some things I didn’t want to see. (I believe it was from a previous girlfriend long ago because it was all stretched out and I know he has better taste now.) During the packing process, I started to wonder whether I’m a pushover. He’s not my boyfriend anymore — was helping him with his move too nice a thing for an ex to do, or was I just being a good friend?
After the jump, instances when it’s okay to be good to an ex and when you’re being too nice to the jerk who broke your heart. Keep reading »
Last week the site Truth Merchants posted a long article that shed light on some of the many things that confuse women about men. (Don’t understand why guys ask for your phone number only to text or email, never call you? Check out the article for an explanation.). We figured there were probably just as many men who are as confused by women’s behavior as we are by theirs, so we asked a bunch of guys what they’d like answered about us and our inbox was flooded with questions. Wednesday I answered 10 of those questions; after the jump, I tackle 10 more — email the answers to your boyfriends, brothers, or anyone you think would benefit from a little insight into the female psyche. Keep reading »