At 13, it was being the odd kid and Zoloft. At 16, dark self-loathing and Prozac. My 17th birthday brought parental issues and Celexa, while my 19th pushed me to anorexia and Prozac again. My early 20s: failed relationships, Effexor, Ativan, fear of getting nowhere, issues at work, and Lexapro. Long story short: I’ve never been a happy camper. True, depression does run in my family, but being diagnosed with it so young, it’s come to be something that’s part of my personality. Keep reading »
The two of you are inseparable. You’re every romantic comedy cliché come to life. He’s the cream in your coffee. The Jim to your Pam—not that you even remember who they are, because with all the lovemaking, you hardly have time to waste on sitcoms like “The Office.”
When you’re not busy rutting, you spend hours just staring at each other, marveling at your good fortune. Everything reminds you of him and you can’t stop talking about how fantastically happy you are. In fact, you’re so busy, you probably haven’t even noticed that, except for calls from your shmoopie, your phone has stopped ringing. (Unless it’s your mom calling to wonder if you’re finally going to squeeze out some grandchildren for her.)
But your friends? They seem to have disappeared. In the haze of your love drunkenness, you might believe this is because they’re jealous. But more likely it’s because you’ve become one of the “smug marrieds” from Bridget Jones’ Diary—a book I loathed, but she sure got that part right. And you’re not even married. Yet. Keep reading »
Consider the following: you’ve started dating a new guy, and things have progressed to the point where you’re beginning to have sleepovers. Naturally, one of two things happens then. You can either sleep or you can’t.
So, do you believe that how you sleep with (and real sleep, not sexytimes) a new boyfriend is an indicator of compatibility and long-term potential? Is it good if you can sleep like logs together on your first night? Does restless slumber mean you’re uncomfortable? Or does no sleep, because you can’t keep your hands off each and he’s occupying lovely thoughts in your head, point to passion? (Although, we imagine, this could lead to burnout.)
Do you have beliefs about bedtime compatibility? Duke it out in the comments below. Keep reading »
I am a Virgo (9/4/87) who recently started dating a Scorpio (11/2/83) and despite how much I like him, I can’t understand a thing he says or does. I learned very early on that he had pegged me as having potential for a long-term relationship, which makes me pretty uncomfortable since he wants a career, and all I want right now is to make some money and go travel the world — but despite his desire for something significant, he has a really hard time wanting to get to know me.
I’ve met his family and his friends and heard all about his past, but he has stated several times that he doesn’t want to meet the people in my life. I think he’s uncomfortable that my best friend is male (6/10/85). I’m not sure how he can want to be with me, but not want to understand where I’m coming from or get to know the people in my life. I’m worried that things are going to get difficult, as my friends are so important to me. I really don’t know if he is going to let up, especially since Scorpios are so stubborn and he is getting me so involved in his life. Help! – Confused Virgo Keep reading »
The other day I was reading the personal blog of an old acquaintance of mine who’s currently going through a rather painful breakup. She’s in her mid-30s, has been married at least once before and has children from two different men, so clearly this is a road she’s at least a little familiar with, which is why I was so surprised by her most recent breakup confession. She wrote on her blog that the hardest thing she’s done so far — that one thing that has made this breakup “real” in her mind — was changing her Facebook status from “in a relationship” to “single.” Really? I thought. It wasn’t telling him you can’t see him anymore, or getting the key to your apartment back from him, or returning the clothes he kept in the corner of one of your dresser drawers that made you realize how over and done your relationship is? It was changing a line in your Facebook profile that sealed the deal for you and made it real? Keep reading »
Reader Tamara photographed this in downtown Ann Arbor, MI.
Have you seen graffiti that’s kind of sweet (even if it is against the law)? Send your pic to email@example.com. Keep reading »
When I’m having boy trouble, you know who I wish I could call? The twins from “Sister, Sister.” On this episode of “MERRIme.com,” Merri seeks advice from Tia and Tamera after a slip of the “L” word causes her to panic. Later, Stephen makes a move on a vulnerable but aggressive Merri. [MERRIme.com
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Ladies, I’m wondering if you’ve been having the same problem as me … men just seem too eager to get hitched lately. Really it’s quite concerning. (For those who are unsure, this is sarcasm.) Well, luckily, a new website has come along to show all those marriage-ready men the folly of their ways. Just Don’t Wife Her promises to help guys avoid the old ball and chain by exposing gold diggers and cheaters, one at a time. Moral of the story: There are just sooo many “hoes” out there. Keep reading »