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Debate This: Do You Need Your Parents To Approve Of Your Significant Other?

On last night’s episode of “The Bachelorette,” the four remaining bachelors took Ashley home to meet their families. You can read all about the details of the episode in Kate’s recap, but the thing that stuck out most to me was the fact that each of the guys made sure to emphasize just how essential it was that their families approved of Ashley. And if they didn’t? Each dude seem to imply that not getting the thumbs up from mom, dad, and their siblings would make pursuing a more serious relationship impossible.

This was fascinating to me. There’s no doubt that having your parents like — and even love — your significant other is a wonderful thing, but I don’t know that it’s essential for me. Keep reading »

Dealbreaker: I Wasn’t Jewish Enough

I never thought I’d be the type of woman to date a religious guy.

A Reform Jew by upbringing, my family ate bagels, lox, and pickled herring on Sundays, lit our Menorah every Hanukkah, and sat through services on the High Holy Days. I learned how to pronounce the word afikomen. My mom referred to my face as a beautiful punim and hoped that someday I would meet a nice mensch and get married. Throughout elementary and middle school, I attended Hebrew school, but mostly for the social rather than the religious aspect. The most exciting part of my Bat Mitzvah, I’m ashamed to admit, was the lavish reception I had in my temple’s ballroom complete with street dancers, a DJ, and gourmet buffet. After I had opened the last of my Bat Mitzvah gifts, I left organized Judaism to pursue more free-spirited religious activities of the bohemian/New Age persuasion. It wasn’t that I stopped believing in the Jewish faith — though I’m not sure I ever completely bought the doctrine — it was just that it never moved me. Keep reading »

5 Rules For Happier Hunting In The World Of Online Dating

I’ve been online dating and I have not met my one true love, my soul mate, my Prince Charming, my knight in shining armor, or my other half. You may consider this a failure, but by my metrics, it’s going just fine. I’ve met fascinating, attractive, intelligent, opinionated, funny people and enjoyed a ridiculous range of conversation over a delicious assortment of snacks and beverages.

I have a lot of male friends who are online dating as well, and I’ve learned that the rules are a little different for straight dudes. What follows are some suggestions for gentleman who want to meet some ladies from the safety of their living rooms. Caveat #1: I cannot speak for all ladies dating online, I can only speak for myself. That said, my advice is aimed at men who want to appeal to the set of women whose profile features more than a bikini pic. Caveat #2: This is not advice to get you laid. Keep reading »

Limerence: A Psychological Condition To Describe A Crush That Won’t Go Away

My senior year of college, I fell head over heels in love (or so I thought) for the first time. Aaron* and I had an on-and-off friends with benefits type situation that I kept hoping would evolve into more. It didn’t and I probably should have stopped hooking up with him because it really wasn’t benefitting me mentally. But I just couldn’t. Not being with him literally made me sick. I thought about him almost constantly, completely involuntarily. The obsessive thoughts continued even after I graduated and moved to New York, when having a FWB relationship wasn’t even possible. I would think about him while I was at work, while I was on the subway, before I went to bed at night, all the time. In total, my mind and heart’s obsession with him lasted for three goddamn years. Sounds kind of crazy, right?

Turns out, my crush may have actually been a sign of a rare psychological disorder called “limerence,” in which someone “is in a constant state of compulsory longing for another person.” Keep reading »

“Tush,” “Booty” And Other Inappropriate Ways Grown Men Have Referred To My Butt

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I am not a picky woman. I haven’t chucked a guy to the curb for being super short or for liberally quoting “Family Guy” without realizing that’s the last recourse of the unoriginal. I try to accept men with all their imperfections. Even the guy who always referred to my butt as a “tush” in bed. Keep reading »

For The Week Of July 18-24, 2011

Virgo (August 23 – September 22)

You can worry yourself sick over everything you have and don’t have, but why put yourself on such a paranoid path? Who cares? Every day can bring new surprises, which can lead you through varying standards by-the-day. The only one judging yourself is you, and why play that game when you always put yourself last on every list? Yes, time to rethink your approach.

Libra (September 23 – October 22)

Who cares what gets in your way now, you have the force to make anything happen, as your will to succeed will be indomitable! So, remember this as this week starts with some curve balls thrown your way, leaving you wondering what the point is. However, know if you work through it, the pot of gold at the end of this rainbow will be larger than you expect!

Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)

Hold tight, as your rise to fame is going to go faster and much more direct! Yes, good news is coming, as what you’ve been wishing on a star for will finally start to show hints that it’s going to happen. Just don’t hesitate to know you deserve this moment and go with it. Consequences? They’ll be minor and you can deal with them later. For now, time to celebrate!

Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)

Sometimes it’s what others expect of you that makes you work harder to reach that goal, so don’t slack off and give up on that someone that has been showing sluggish signs of inferiority. As it goes, it is in them, but it will just take a bit more encouragement. Thankfully, this is a week when playing cheerleader will suit your style.

Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)

Don‘t hold back the animal in you, as bringing it fully now is what it’ll take to get that other to open their eyes and see the real you. Sure, the coy routine works if you want to spend your life as a bottom, but why suffer at the whims of another? Time to grab the bull by the horns and show it what you’ve got, because that’s the only way to incite their passion from within.

Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)

Money can’t buy you love, but it can get you blown the way you like. Yes, buying favors now will be what gets your honey to do as you wish. Not that you have to be extravagant, but showing some appreciation with your wallet will be just what is needed to revive the magic once again, as flashing a little green will get you tickled pink.

Pisces (February 19 – March 20)

No matter how lackluster you’re feeling, fake it until you can make it. Yes, bring those bells and whistles to your style and show off, even if you have to put on a happy face. As the sign of theatrics, you know you can play any part if need be, and that is what will be required of you. You never know what you can spark to ignite another and yourself at any moment’s notice.

Aries (March 21 – April 19)

You love to bark out orders, so this week will be right up your alley — knowing what direction you want to go in and how you want others to follow suit will matter. Seems as though it’ll also require some risk-taking, as going along worn paths won’t be where you will find your treasure. In fact, the more left of center you aim, the more on target you will be.

Taurus (April 20 – May 20)

If you aren’t feeling it, there is no need to let yourself loose all over town. This week, if you want to get it good, the odds are in your favor to get it delivered right to your door. Yes, time to host some impromptu get togethers and invite one and all, as who winds up ringing your doorbell could be just what you’ve been waiting for.

Gemini (May 21 – June 20)

You have a gift with words, so don’t let anyone out talk you when it comes to your feelings, ideas or decisions. They can say whatever they want, but be ready to throw back what you’ve got, even if you have to drag some drama into your case. In fact, hearing you say what you must may be your biggest eye-opener yet!

Cancer (June 21 – July 22)

To be at your best, you need to feel as your best. If this requires you indulge some of your naughty little vices, well, then so be it. After all, you’re not applying for sainthood and god knows you need the release. So, do what you will, as it’s all about the decadence and glamour you submit yourself into now that’ll bring you back round to feeling like the real you.

Leo (July 23 – August 22)

Break free of that someone that doesn’t get it and be done with it already. No more beating your head against a brick wall trying to get them to see the obvious, as they just won’t. Best to cut your loses now, as nothing should be this hard and the only conclusion you can make at this point is that they truly are that stupid.

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