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Girl Talk: How I Stopped Falling For Guys Who Failed To Mention They Had Girlfriends

When I was in my late 20s, I had a crush on a guy I worked with. He was tall and preppy, and looked like he’d stepped out of a J. Crew catalog. Every Monday morning I’d skip down the aisle, lean on the wall of his cubicle, and ask him how his weekend was, and he’d tell me about the restaurant he went to or the movie he saw.

He loved music, and I thought I could love him, so I invited him to see my friend and her band rehearse one night. She was an incredible up-and-coming singer who had the same manager as Alicia Keys, and my crush was thrilled to get to go to her rehearsal.

Afterwards, we stopped at his apartment. I took my Joss Stone CD out of my knapsack. “I think you’ll like this,” I said, handing it to him. He put it in his stereo, turned up the music, and turned off the lights.
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Soapbox: Assorted Thoughts On That Gizmodo/OKCupid/Magic The Gathering Dating Essay

Even if you’re not a tech geek or a self-identified nerd, it’s highly possible that you’ve heard about an essay that ran on the blog Gizmodo on Monday (it’s received almost 800K hits as of this writing). In the piece, writer Alyssa Bereznak described how her first attempt at online dating resulted in her going out with a guy who, at first, seemed “normal,” until he revealed that he not only played that admittedly geeky card game Magic the Gathering, but was, in fact, the world champion. In the story, Bereznak also reveals his full name, generally a big time no-no when it comes to writing about personal experiences on the internet. (Although it becomes clear that she almost doesn’t have to give his name, as Jon Finkel — that’s his name — is a legend among the Magic community because of his “world champion” status.) Keep reading »

Ladies, Be Prepared To Fall In Love If You Have Sex

I’ve long called it the orgasm curse — that thing that happens after great sex with a guy. He immediately goes from an insignificant satellite orbiting your universe to the goddamn sun itself. But why? He didn’t even do anything that impressive. You still find him as annoying as you did an hour ago, but you can’t stop thinking about bearing his children. Logically, you know this is completely nuts, but you can’t seem to stop it.

A new study done at Rutgers University explored what exactly goes on in our bodies during orgasm that makes us insane. Keep reading »

Middle Children Don’t Have It As Bad As We Thought

It appears that Jan Brady may have given middle children a bad rep. According to a new book, The Secret Power of Middle Children, they aren’t perpetually complaining about being known at school as Marcia’s younger sister and Cindy’s older sister. No, in fact author Catherine Salmon says there’s rarely “Marcia, Marcia, Marcia” issues at all. Salmon argues that middle children actually have the best place in the birth order, because they are given more leeway than their older siblings and are less coddled than their younger siblings. As a result, Salmon says that middle children tend to develop independence and creativity, plus the diplomacy skills to be leaders in business and politics. In fact, Salmon notes that 52 percent of presidents are middle children. I’m guessing if you’re a middle child, you’ll be all, “Told you so” about this news. And if you were born first or last, or happen to be an only child, you’ll probably roll your eyes a little bit. I think we can all guess where Salmon falls in her family’s birth order. [Newser] Keep reading »

Girl Talk: My Netflix Queue, My Future

I never thought it would get this serious. First it was an after-work thing. Then it was weekends. Eventually we were seeing each other anytime I had two hours to spare. This is the story of how I fell in love with Netflix. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “Am I Turning Into A Bridezilla?”

I’m getting married in August and have been planning the wedding for over a year, so the date has been set for a while now. My brother — my only sibling — got engaged last weekend. I love him and his fiancée, but I was very upset when I found out today that they are planning to get married a mere six weeks before I do. Why couldn’t they get married in May or November, so that there is more turn-around time? What if all of my out-of-state family comes to his wedding and then can’t make it to mine? I invited them first! My mom is on the sickly side and is already stressed about one child getting married, so now I’m worried about her having to deal with two weddings back-to-back.

I’m worried that if I confront my brother and fiancée, it will turn into a sibling grudge match with lots of old dynamics rearing their ugly heads. I already asked my parents to mention how stressful it will be for them. Is that fair? Should I just suck it up and silently resent them so that twenty years from now when we are fighting over who gets mom’s heirlooms I end up screaming, “I get them since you practically ruined my wedding!” — Trying Not To Be A Bridezilla

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