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Single For The Holidays: Tips For Making It Fun

As if the holidays aren’t already depressing enough, they can be just a tad bit more depressing when you’re single. There’s no one to buy gifts for, and worse, no one to buy gifts for you. Worse still, after the gift-giving holidays are over, there’s no one to kiss on New Year’s Eve.

Well, now that we’ve thoroughly depressed you, we’ll cheer you up with our tips for handling the holidays when you’re flying solo. Keep reading »

GuySpeak/GirlSpeak And The Case Of The Disappearing Date

Welcome back to GuySpeak/GirlSpeak, where we take a crack at the questions submitted by girls to the guy experts over at GuySpeak. Sometimes we agree, sometimes we disagree, and after everyone weighs in, it’s your turn! This week’s topic is the Old Faithful of dating questions: Why doesn’t he call? Read more Keep reading »

6 Heartwarming Stories Of Old Love From 2009

The bad things that happen in the world tend to stick in our minds a little more than the good stuff, which is unfortunate, because a lot of wonderful things happened in 2009. Even more heartwarming than stories about young people falling in love are ones about older people who are still in love or reunited with a childhood crush. There’s something really special about seniors who feel affectionate about their partner after all those years (and those who found love later in life), so we compiled six of the best old people love stories of the past year to warm your heart. Keep reading »

365 Days In Paris: Christmas in Paree

The French are crazy about Christmas. It was sometime after Halloween that I gradually began to see a sprig of holly here and there. My cousin, an ex-pat married to a Frenchman, hypothesizes that the Christmas Craze occurs because they have no Thanksgiving, and, therefore, nothing else in between to look forward to.

Now that it’s just a few days away, the entire city feels like it’s celebrating. The winding streets of the Latin Quarter are lit up with twinkly lights, the windows of the department stores have been transformed into lavish, glittery displays, and on just about every corner you’ll get a whiff of a hearty, nutty smell—street vendors roasting chestnuts. And the food. Oh my God. The food. I spent about a half-hour browsing the new Christmas section in my grocery store, fingering packages of foie gras, caviar, and pâté. Marzipan shaped like cherries. Pale green pistachio macaroons. Sugary marrons glacés.

Being a Jew, I’ve never really celebrated Christmas, but the idea is highly appealing to me. It feels warm and festive, and more about love and the feeling of being home. It was because of this that I was initially terrified of Christmas’ arrival—a painful reminder that I’m not exactly in my dream life yet. To follow Mindy Kaling’s relatable “Scripting a Fantasy of a Family” essay that ran in the Sunday Times, my ideal holiday season would look something like this …
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Why Guys Can’t Forgive Us for Cheating (But We Can Forgive Them)

As we earn more money and work longer hours, new statistics show that more women are cheating on their husbands — but that doesn’t mean that men are as forgiving about affairs as we can be.

According to a 2001 survey, about 15 percent of men admit to cheating on their wives or girlfriends, and women were not far behind with a 10-percent cheat rate.

But here’s one thing that hasn’t changed — women are willing to forgive their husbands for infidelity, and men aren’t. A recent study found that men were significantly more likely to end a marriage based on spousal infidelity than women. Read more Keep reading »

For The Week Of December 21-27, 2009

Virgo (August 23 – September 22)

You’ll be on top of the world, as true love and mutual feelings light up your life. However, don’t turn this into fuel to burn others, as bragging isn’t going to do you any favors. This feeling of bliss should be making you rise above rather than pouring salt over frenemies’ wounds. If you do find yourself using your emotions as a weapon, it’s time to reconsider your motives.

Libra (September 23 – October 22)

You’ll find solace in someone you least expect, as you and your honey won’t be seeing eye-to-eye on much and creating havoc everywhere you go. Just as you’ll feel as if you are totally alone, compassion will arrive, giving you the insight you need to see past the agony and help make all things right for there to be a happy Christmas for all.

Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)

It’s not what that someone says that will matter now. It’ll be his actions that will give you all the information you need to know. Yes, as it goes, the pressure of the holidays makes people dumb and words sometimes can escape. But oh well, not all that you desire can come to you on a silver platter, so be thankful for the little things — they’ll be far more powerful than talk.

Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)

Travel plans hit snags, making you think your happy holidays will get obliterated, but surprise, surprise, your honey finds a way to save the day, reinforcing why you love him so. However, if you’re single, snafus will wind up playing fate into your hands in the most bizarre ways, landing you in a place where things heat up fast and redefining “chestnuts roasting over an open fire.”

Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)

Don’t blame the holidays for the insanity you’ll feel, because the universe will be hitting the stall button right as you’re on the precipice of a major enlightening event. Expect plans to hits snags, dirty secrets to pop out and gossip to run amok. Sure, the holidays are always messy, but you will take the prize for the most tales to tell. At the least, marvelous presents should compensate.

Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)

Your honey is going to be turning into a major passive-aggressive freak in T-minus zero minutes and there’s nothing you can do about it. Insanity will spew from his mouth; deciphering any remnants of logic will be impossible. While this might be temporary, it doesn’t mean you have to coddle this behavior. Instead, make sure all your drinks this season are doubles and bottoms up!

Pisces (February 19 – March 20)

Not all friendships are the same caliber. The ones that are true gold will be more than apparent, as the one that’s total crap will practically drive you to murder. This “friend” will start mouthing off in the wrong way, trying to interfere with your bliss and turn this season inside out. Luckily, you’ll have the decorum to acknowledge this person’s behavior discreetly and to dispose of her/him immediately.

Aries (March 21 – April 19)

You’ll be hot and cold when it comes to love. On one hand, there’ll be many things that will make you grateful for your boo, but then on the other, you’ll see how short he falls in many other categories. Solution: make the most of the social invites. Not everything can be perfect all the time, but with beer goggles you’ll at least numb yourself from turning into a total psycho.

Taurus (April 20 – May 20)

Who cares what delusions you’ll have to convince yourself of, because, as you know, the drill of the holidays is that family is always a bit over the top and that your love life is what it is — the more low key you can make it, the better you will be for it. ‘Tis the season for you to turn the other cheek and let bygones by bygones; if you can do this, next week will be all yours.

Gemini (May 21 – June 20)

If you’ve said all that you want to say, then you will be doing OK. However, what other people admit to you may make your eyeballs pop out of your head and have you doing a double take on their character. Thankfully, their actions should be more comical than conniving. However, if you are withholding secrets, expect the guilt to finally eat you alive this week and for guts to spill.

Cancer (June 21 – July 22)

You can’t fight the system now, so you might as well just fall in line and take what you can, as this isn’t the time to make a fuss with anyone — least of all your honey. Best to lay low and keep that sense of humor intact, because if you think too deeply on anything, you’ll be asking for a big ole heaping spoonful of depression and confusion. Accept love is stupid and keep on keeping on.

Leo (July 23 – August 22)

Your motivation will be dropping at fast levels and you will have not much interest in other people’s festivities. However, going through the motions won’t kill you. If you can manage to do the least, you will come out alive and can give yourself a big ole pat on the back for being so selfless, because as it goes, this week won’t feel as if it has anything to do with you.

Love Vandal: Yoko And John In An Alleyway

Reader Meagan found this homage to John Lennon and Yoko Ono stenciled on an electric box in Paris.

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Ask The Astrosexologist: How Do I Handle A Scorpio Man?

“I’m a Leo (08/10/84) and he’s a Scorpio (11/03/80). Long story short, we were in a long distance relationship for almost a year up until a few months. He fell hard for me initially. I was hesitant at first, but my feelings became pretty strong over time. We have plenty of similar qualities and great chemistry, and both of us are very passionate. Every relationship has its highs and lows, and it was during our last ‘low’ as a couple that he became wishy-washy and decided he wanted to ‘transition to more of a friendship.’ I think he found the distance part of it more difficult than I did, and while I didn’t want to give up on our relationship, I wanted to try to remain close friends since I love him and want him in my life.

It has been a bumpy road at times and we both have admitted we still have strong feelings for each other. There seems to be a double standard in that he expresses jealousy at the thought of me with another guy, but he thinks I should be okay with it if he meets some other girl sometime down the road. (He’ll often reference his Scorpio sign as a reason for this, stating that Scorpios can be possessive.) Thing is, I don’t wanna be with another guy. When I visited him a month ago, everything was same as usual — fun and romantic. Any advice for a gal trying to handle a Scorpio? Where do I go from here?” – JDub

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Dear Wendy: “My Boyfriend Won’t Get A Job. ADHD Or Just Plain Laziness?”

My boyfriend and I have been together for a year. I have known him since I was thirteen, his family adores me, we talk about the future, and I am so happy when I am with him. However, we have a few issues. I graduated from college almost three years ago and work a full-time job. We’re the same age, but my boyfriend is still working on community college and lives at home and has no job. He knows how much I value an education, but not so much that he’s motivated and driven to succeed. Now, to be fair, he has severe ADHD, and schoolwork has never been easy for him, not because he isn’t bright, but because of his inability to concentrate. However, he doesn’t seem to WANT to do better. I think he gets nervous about failure, but at 24 years old he doesn’t seem to want to get a job, or accelerate his schooling any quicker, and I want to move on to the next stage of our relationship (not marriage, but just a more mature stage). I love him and don’t want to lose him, but I don’t know if I can handle a lifetime of this. Do I stick it out? Is it the ADHD or just laziness? — Motivated

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How To Survive Holidays In Transition

Sure, the holidays are filled with great food, fun parties, and general good cheer (I was at a crowded Macy’s yesterday, and I wasn’t shoved once!), but for a lot of people, this is anything but the most wonderful time of year. Those of us in periods of transition — even positive ones — are especially susceptible to the feelings of loneliness, frustration, depression, and the stress the holidays can elicit. After the jump, a few tips for surviving the holidays during some of life’s biggest transitions. Keep reading »

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