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What Do You Do When A Guy Sends You A Drink?

I went out for dinner on Saturday with a group of friends, and throughout the night, this guy kept catching my eye. I really wasn’t attracted to him so I didn’t make a big deal out of the situation. Then, as my dinner was winding down, the server came over and told me someone at the bar would like to buy me a drink. I accepted another glass of moscato wine and lifted my glass to thank him when he looked over at me. I haven’t been on the dating scene in more than two years and was perplexed over what to do next … and so were my friends, which included one married couple. So when he came over to talk to me, I thought it would be less awkward if we talked alone. I knew I had absolutely no interest in this guy, but I didn’t want to be rude. The conversation, however, was really awkward, especially when he told me he was a “lobstertrician” (whatever that means). And I thought there must have been a polite way I could have accepted the drink, but bowed out of the conversation respectfully without hurting his feelings. Do you have any suggestions on how this situation could have gone differently? And if I had been attracted to the guy, what would have been the suave, flirty way to handle this? Keep reading »

365 Days In Paris: Love Lost

I’m devastated. And so paralyzed by losing Alex that I can hardly move. I don’t know how I’m supposed to get through my day, and feel as if I’ve almost forgotten how to walk, talk, sleep, eat, or think. Things will get better, I know. But for the moment, I’m really in the thick of it, and kicking myself for knowing I’d likely find myself here in the first place.

The week was quiet after Alex left Paris last Sunday. Later that same evening, I heard from him on IM. He told me he had gotten home safe and had a great time. I tried to keep the conversation going, but he was fairly unresponsive, and remained that way in the following days. I figured he was taking time to digest, and that the best thing to do was to give him some space. But around Thursday, my heart couldn’t take the silence for much longer, and after a public breakdown I had to email him. “We obviously have a significant history,” I wrote. “And the wonderful time we had together last week left me wondering if we’re getting back into it, or if I should expect not to see you again.” Keep reading »

For The Week Of January 11-17, 2010

Virgo (August 23 – September 22)

Only you will be to blame if you let low self-esteem plague you into thinking your latest honey is out of your league. Sure, putting another on a pedestal is sweet at first, but after a quick while it gets old and can turn sweet love sour. To avoid this disaster, let him do all the talking first and don’t feel you have to be responsible for anything else, other than feeling good.

Libra (September 23 – October 22)

You can only be polite for so long — you are only human. Besides, who is it serving to sweep irritations under the rug? Instead, time for a major breakdown and changing the trajectory of your life and love, as fresh starts are needed STAT. However, don’t get sloppy and think getting mean will help, as clean breaks are worth their weight in gold now.

Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)

Your mouth will be moving faster than your brain and there’ll be a few times you’ll find yourself saying things that even you can’t believe. That’s not to say these revelations aren’t true, but you thought they were your secrets to keep. However, despite the embarrassment you might initially feel, by the end of this week, you’ll be giving yourself a big pat on your back for brave work well done.

Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)

There’ll be nothing that can touch you this week. Your self-esteem will be shooting off the charts and giving you a cocky confidence that’ll make you able to approach any cute stranger who has been tickling your fancy. You’ll give him something to go crazy on and, thus, he’ll be irresistible to you. No, this won’t be the week to set out to be “just friends.”

Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)

Get ready for anything to happen and go with it, because what may seem like a small opportunity that arrives now can erupt into a whole new level of life, love, success and fulfillment of your deepest wishes. So, don’t sabotage yourself and only see the dark side to offers that come your way, because if you do, you’ll be shortchanging yourself.

Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)

Finally, your mental space is back and you’ll be able to call your own shots without the red tape. While the deluge of freedom may overwhelm you and make you want to run around bottomless, do be prudent with where you indulge yourself, as the only clincher to your life right now is that your world has gotten smaller and actions you perform now will come back to haunt you.

Pisces (February 19 – March 20)

Just as life is cruising along and your flirty friendship seems to be following the same path, a sudden 180 may occur, making you wonder whom exactly you are about to bag. Seems this week, mysteries will arise and some detective work will begin. While it’ll take some effort to control your obsessive nature, realize what you uncover may make you veer onto the platonic route.

Aries (March 21 – April 19)

This week your relationship and career will be fighting for the top priority slot in your life as an incredible opportunity is due to arrive. Unfortunately, it’ll also come just in time to circumvent a more serious turn in your love life — it may take you far away or make you preoccupied for an undetermined time. Either or, needy hanger-oners won’t be tolerated, so let’s hope he behaves.

Taurus (April 20 – May 20)

Not every moment of your love life can be perfect, and woe is the first time you realize that your latest relationship isn’t as idyllic as you thought. Lucky for you, you can still see beyond this rocky moment if you keep your sense of humor intact. Seems all you need is to show a little of your optimism and that leap of faith will take both of you far and on to the next step.

Gemini (May 21 – June 20)

Chemistry is a beautiful thing. When it’s so strong it almost makes you forget you have to do anything but lie back and look pretty — but don’t get lazy or react like you have no upbringing. You’ve been down this route enough times to know how it ends if you ignite the spark too soon, so be more discriminating. If he’s worth it, the taste will be gourmet with some anticipation.

Cancer (June 21 – July 22)

Your family can’t agree with everything you do, but has that stopped you before? This week, don’t let their voices in your head stop you from going after what makes you tingle in places that matter. This is your time to cross new boundaries and break out of theirs. What suits you best can only be found far from their comfort zone and they are just going to have to deal.

Leo (July 23 – August 22)

Best to stick to old worn routines now, as your brain is going a bit haywire and communications with the outer world won’t be at its optimum. To ensure cruising at an OK speed, with minimal scarring, best to stay in your comfort zone and indulge yourself in all that is familiar — and if anyone asks any more of you, know they obviously don’t know what is best for you.

4 Friends Every Woman Should Have

One of the most important parts of life are the friendships you have. Close friends are like a chosen family: they are the people you choose to have in your life on a long-term basis and you love them as if they were your sisters or brothers.

Friends are one of the biggest enhancements to life. They are there to laugh with you, cry with you, and share the ups and downs of life with you. Keep reading »

Love Vandal: Shadowy Figure

Reader Jenna took this photo six years ago when she was in college at SUNY Oneonta in Upstate New York: “I saw it on the street during one of our many morning walks to breakfast after a long night out.” Eggs and toast taste best on mornings like those.

Have you seen graffiti that’s kind of sweet (even if it is against the law)? Send your pic to Keep reading »

10 Dating Mindsets Sabotaging Your Love Life

It’s easy to lose yourself over a man, but what if it happens before you even meet him? Ill-fated past relationships may have already warped your dating personality and consequently sabotaged your future with someone else.

In her latest book, Ms. Typed: Discover Your True Dating Personality and Rewrite Your Romantic Future, Dr. Michelle Callahan says she has the cure for women whose dating characteristics no longer accurately reflect who they truly are. The seasoned psychologist has formulated 10 dating archetypes that women fall into after too many relationships gone wrong: Keep reading »

How To Start Anew In Your Relationship This Year

January 1 is one of the few times of the year that truly feels like the first day of the rest of your life. It is also a great excuse to do a little relationship maintenance, under the guide of New Year’s resolutions.

This year we recruited a team of experts, including Mars Venus Success Coach Melodie Tucker, Dating Coach Evan Marc Katz, psychotherapist and author Elisabeth LaMotte, Dating Makeover Coach Kira Sabin, and Dr. Diana Kirschner, author of Love in 90 Days: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Own True Love to advise couples on how to make 2010 their best year yet. Use these five tips as a guide, but make the process your own. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “I Found Condoms In My Boyfriend’s Bag!”

This morning when my boyfriend was in the shower, I was going to surprise him by putting a note in one of the small section in his backpack. We’ve been going through a rough patch recently, so I thought it would be nice to give him it. When I reached in, I found two condoms in there which were unused. I was too surprised to process it, I just put them in his drawer and I forgot to give him the note. We’ve been together for eight months, so I’m trying to trust him but there’s a huge part of me that is wondering if I am being naive and stupid. I want to tell him what happened but I don’t want to sound like I’m attacking him or like I’m snooping. How do I approach him about this, if at all? — Should I Even Ask?

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Decode My Dream: Is My Mother Going To Die?

Two nights ago I had a nightmare. My dream started with my grandma being in the hospital. The doctor said she needed a transplant and my mom was willing to donate whatever she needed. They started doing the operation on her and then the doctor came out and told me that my mom had died during the procedure. I was crying and in grief, but then I saw my mom’s ghost and I was in shock. Immediately she started fading away. I woke up in tears and I was crying for a while. Last night my sister had a dream that my whole family died and it was just her, my cousin, and me left. She is seven. Then last night I dreamed of arranging funerals. Please help. I don’t understand the meaning of these dreams. – Scared For My Mom

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Woman Getting Married: The Holidaze Are Over

We took down the Christmas tree this week, along with all our holiday stuff (a penguin with a Christmas hat, a reindeer doing a split), which means the holidays are officially over.

The visit with the FIL (future in-laws) over Christmas went well for the most part, if you discount the fact that Future Husband and I both ended up in the Urgent Care center. Before we left for Ohio, FH had a 102 temperature. It was better the next day so we decided to make the drive up there, but he just never felt 100%. Then I came down with a tonsil infection … before you knew it, we were being seen by a tiny Indian doctor who thankfully prescribed us some antibiotics. Keep reading »

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