When you’re dating someone new, it’s obviously good advice to be wary of their exes. But since college is a fishbowl, exes aren’t the only type of people you need to be worried about. There’s tons of people who can make your life as miserable as possible or just ruin it all together.
Here are the potential time bombs just ready to mess up your relationship. Read more… Keep reading »
I almost feel bad for black women. It seems like the majority of the time they’re written about in the mainstream media, it’s about one of two topics: Why aren’t any of them married? as a question or None of them are married! as a statement. How frustrating that their representation in culture is thinned down to their marital status, right? The latest example is a new book by Stanford law professor Ralph Richard Banks called Is Marriage for White People? How the African American Marriage Decline Affects Everyone about the so-called “man shortage” among middle-class blacks. As promotion for his book, Banks also published a piece in The New York Daily News last week entitled, “Why Black Women Are Justifiably Bitter: The Bleak Relationship Picture For African-American Females,” which began with the paragraph:
“Stereotypes of black women as angry or bitter are pervasive. They are also more accurate than many people would like to acknowledge: many black women have perfectly good reasons to be angry or bitter.”
Oof. Keep reading »
“It was like I had to do something serious, something to cause a rift, that we couldn’t come back from.”
That was my friend Caitlin*. She stopped me dead in my tracks. We were walking off brunch last Sunday afternoon, a brunch filled with sharing our mutual dating tales and reminiscing about our past relationships that brought us to where we are today. Caitlin started telling me for the first time about her ex-boyfriend, a guy she had been with for four years in her late teens and early-20s. They’d fallen in love, moved in together and settled down seemingly happily. Then Caitlin started to feel anxious. She was too young to settle down. She wanted to “go out.” She wanted to have more life experiences that didn’t necessarily involve him. It wasn’t that he was doing anything wrong; in fact, she still recalled him sweetly. So she started to sabotage the relationship, to hurt him so badly that they had to break up.
She had carpetbombed the relationship. She needed to carpetbomb the relationship. Keep reading »
You know who doesn’t get enough appreciation around here? Those hardworking folks we jerk off to. I mean, talk about a group constantly overlooked year after year on Labor Day. Most of them toil away busily in our brains, meeting our every sexual need, and what do they have to show for it? Nothing. That’s where ThankYourWank.com fills a much-needed gap in the masturbation-related gratitude industry. Not only can you post photographs of that girl who sits next to you in Comp Sci — which we’re sure her family and future employers will appreciate — but you can also thank celebrities who star in your sexual fantasies. (Let me say it loud and clear so I can never be accused of not being appreciative enough: CLIVE OWEN, THANK YOU.) Basically, Thank Your Wank is just a masturbation-themed Hot Or Not knockoff. But at least you can get weekly email alerts about how many people have gotten themselves off while thinking about you. [ThankYourWank.com via YourTango] Keep reading »
Good news for those of you who are bending over backwards to figure out how to attract your dream guy/girl. As it turns out, the equation is very simple. Pretty much everyone — guys and girls, gay and straight, young and old — is looking for the same ten things in a partner.
No one in their right mind really expects to find a partner who excels in every single one of these areas. After all, if you’re already perfect, what do you need a relationship for anyway.
Identifying which of these areas you may be lacking in and beginning to work on them, will not only improve your chances of finding someone, but it will make you happier with yourself. Keep reading »
If you have gay male friends, you’ve probably heard them mention Grindr at least once, if not a thousand times. For those of you not familiar with the app, it uses GPS technology to track other gay men in your vicinity available for “meetups.” Basically, you can look on your phone and find out which men are in the same bar, on the same block as you at the same moment. You can check out their stats and photos, chat, and decide on a meeting place if you choose. According to one of my single gay friends, this app has “revolutionized his dating life.” Another calls it “a slutty hookup heaven.” Soon, we’ll be able to draw our own conclusions. This week, the company is launching a version of the app for heteros called Project Amicus. Keep reading »