Category Archives: Relationships

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Girl Talk: Are Bad Dates Teachable Moments Or Wastes Of Time?

The other day I caught up with a guy friend over instant messenger. We hadn’t talked in a while, so he had to be filled in on my wonderful boyfriend of nine months. “I just wish I had met him when I was younger, like 18,” I enthused. “It seems like such a waste of time that I didn’t meet him until I was 25.”

“Aww, so you would have had more time together? That’s so romantic,” my friend said.

“Well, yes … but that’s not exactly what I meant. I wish I hadn’t bothered dating other guys,” I explained. “Really, what was the point?” Keep reading »

What Does A Girl Have To Do To Get A Gay BFF Around Here?

As some of you know, nearly four years ago, when I still lived in Chicago, I was set up on a blind date while visiting friends in New York. Things went well; my date and I began a long-distance relationship, I moved to New York a year and a half later, and we were married last July. It’s now been almost two and a half years since I made the move from the Midwest to Manhattan for love, and while much of my life is better than it’s ever been, there’s still one void I have yet to fill: I don’t have any gay guy friends in town. I’ve made some girlfriends, my husband and I have plenty of couple friends, but when it comes to the really important things, like karaoke, watching awards shows, and getting an honest opinion on my hair, I find myself in dire need of a few good gays. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: How I Handled The Great 20-Something Breakup

There will be some point in your career as a 20-something when someone will break your heart, and bad. By bad I mean, you may think you’re having a nervous breakdown and will have the desire to be hospitalized. In some cases, this actually may happen. Here’s how to deal:

Suck it up: When I was crying at my desk, my older, married co-worker sat down and looked me straight in my tear-stained eyes and said, “You have to understand, this guy might be one of a bunch of different guys you will date until you find someone who’s really in it to win it,” he said. Putting this person who had just knocked me on my ass within the context of a long line of potential douche bags down the road somehow made it hurt a bit less. Keep reading »

365 Days In Paris: Social Studies

If you could have your ideal social life, what would that be? Parties every night of the week? Home-oriented with the option to go out? Hanging out at your best friends’ houses?

Creating the tone of your life outside work hours depends on the kind of person you are, but it’s also largely reliant on the city you live in.

It’s taken me a while to realize that cultivating a “normal social life” in Paris can’t rely on my past experiences. Even though I may have grown tired of my going-out habits in New York, I felt engaged in a certain standard culture. In Paris, however, I’ve come to see that I’ve been fighting an uphill battle to tap into what I’ve come to think of as that “standard social culture,” because, duh, the lives of young people here are vastly different. Keep reading »

A Marriage Proposal For Books

Since I already posted an epic save-the-date video today, I thought it fitting to share an epic marriage proposal story to carry on the theme. Actually, this happens to be two stories in one. The guy, you see, a professional illustrator, spent eight months searching for the perfect engagement ring (a “100 year old brass ring with an art nouveau design carved into a piece of red coral”), and then proposed to his girlfriend by writing and illustrating a “magical little story for her that revolved around a story of the ring.” He created 22 drawings, secretly working on them for two weeks, and pasted them into a large antique book in which he was able to actually hide the engagement ring in a secret flap. On New Year’s Day, he presented the book to his girlfriend. Keep reading »

Most Epic Save-The-Date Announcement Ever

If their save-the-date announcement is any indication, the wedding of Jeff Wong and Erin Martin is going to be epic. It may even quite literally bring the house down. No, I don’t know these people, but their announcement is making the rounds on the internet if only to make those of us who sent uninspired email save-the-dates for our weddings feel bad about ourselves. Jeff and Erin have a website where they explain that no, the video was not done professionally (except, apparently, the voice-over), nor on a big budget. It took a little research, a lot of creativity, and some help from their friends. You can read all about how they made the video, as well as their ten-year love story here. Mazel tov, you guys! [via BuzzFfeed and Boing Boing] Keep reading »

Frisky Q&A: Dating Blogger Maura Kelly Dishes On Her Year Of Living Flirtatiously

Maura Kelly has a unique job — she blogs about her dating life for Marie Claire. Her column, “A Year of Living Flirtatiously,” is a frank, humorous, self-deprecating account of her travails on the front lines of dating. The project started when Kelly realized that if she approached finding a man with as much zeal as she approached finding a job, she might find the man of her dreams. So far, no such luck, but here she shares with The Frisky her best dating advice, the weirdest date she’s been on thus far, and why what men really want is to be treated like a woman. Keep reading »

For The Week Of January 25-31, 2009

Virgo (August 23 – September 22)

Things are going to get rough this week, leaving you to wonder if you have made the wrong decisions. Don’t ignore this moment. Take a break to really get back in touch with your mojo, because if you try to keep going while working out your uncertainties, you will never truly get full clarity. Sometimes you really do just have to drop everything.

Libra (September 23 – October 22)

Romance and friendship clash this week, leaving people to take sides and create an all-around dramatic turn of events. Seems some things can’t be left inside the bedroom and when that news does get out, expect a wave of pandemonium and havoc to hit your social scene. At the least, with the added support around you, you won’t think you’re crazy, just him.

Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)

The limelight hits you big-time this week, bringing the masses to adore you at your feet. While this is amazing for you, your boo might not be so fast on the uptake. Get ready to see his true colors and a shot of how faithful you truly are or aren’t. As it goes, ambition and power are your aphrodisiacs and if your baby can’t be the ying to your yang, prepare to get a bit turned off.

Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)

Even the greatest love affairs have a phase when it sucks. Yes, the idealism comes crashing down and it’s about work and learning how to deal with the flaws of your honey and your relationship. While this one will happen a bit faster and more sudden than ideal, do understand nothing that happens now is forever and that what goes down will eventually pop back up.

Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)

Go where your libido leads you, as its aim is on — the chemistry that heats up this week will be otherworldly on many levels. While there is a bit of mystery attached to this tasty treat that might not have you feeling as if you can trust it 100 percent, don’t get lost in trying to make it more than it has to be. Being in the moment now is the only way to experience it and assess it.

Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)

Your week will start off slow but is going to end crazy, with you having all the answers. The obvious won’t be avoidable anymore and your relationship is going to start launching off in a new direction whether or not you’ve made any preparations. Destiny is calling and can’t take “hold on” for an answer anymore.

Pisces (February 19 – March 20)

Major obstacles are going to pop into your life – you’ll have to think fast and scramble for solutions. How your baby rises to this occasion with you will be quite telling and most likely shocking, as you will see a new side to him that you didn’t expect. This could be the make-or-break moment you’ve been waiting for.

Aries (March 21 – April 19)

The power of lust is going to make you do things that go way beyond your comfort zone and prove to be straight up dangerous. Whatever you have going on in your love life now is about to heat up to the umpteenth degree and when you step into this hot zone, you will have to play your bets with an all-or-nothing attitude. You know it; let the games begin!

Taurus (April 20 – May 20)

When it comes to your home, you’re very specific with how you want to live. So, as this week starts taking shape, and you see that not all is as beautiful as you’d like, hold back from just reacting. Things are not as extreme as you think, but to realize paradise again won’t be easy. Understand diplomacy is the key to the heart of this matter and from there all is possible.

Gemini (May 21 – June 20)

Having your curiosity raised to the point of stopping your wheels from spinning to focus on one person or thing is a rare occurrence. So, when a monkey wrench is thrown into your spokes, don’t gloss over it. Instead, stay on the DL, investigate deeper and ask questions. Soon enough the pieces of the puzzle will fit together and a surprise will be revealed.

Cancer (June 21 – July 22)

Money issues might blindside you this week and throw you off your game. However, instead of hiding away, thinking you have to suffer in silence, do the opposite. As it goes, magic can only happen if you are out circulating in the field. This just happens to be the time you are due for a karmic miracle, but you do have to be in it to win it.

Leo (July 23 – August 22)

New Year’s may have been a month ago, but it’s this week that you’ll feel the real beginning of a new cycle. It’ll be now that you’ll reach your emotional limits with someone and need a big ole time-out. Seems current compromises have hit your glass ceiling, with no more room to give. Time to reassess once again. Lessons are here and they won’t be easy, so get ready to rumble!

Love Vandal: Slow Dance

Reader Karinne sent us this photo of what looks like a couple at a high school dance. The reason we think they’re in their teens is because the girls date is clearly looking down her dress.

Have you seen graffiti that’s kind of sweet (even if it is against the law)? Send your pic to Keep reading »

Ask The Astrosexologist: Can A Scorpio/Gemini Pairing Ever Work?

“I am a Gemini (6/15) who got involved with a Scorpio (11/10) early last year. Things were GREAT before he left for school. We were even making plans for me to follow him out there after I finished school. However, things did not work out for him and he moved back home early this year. He has changed into a completely different person! He cheated on me constantly while he was gone, but I know how important sex is to Scorpios so I’m willing to let that go. However, everything that I’ve read on astrology tells me that Gemini/Scorpio is the WORST love combination (although we will have great sex, which we do) and that I should run screaming for the hills while I can. But I’ve fallen hard for this guy, even though we constantly fight and I don’t trust him as far as I can throw him. My question is: is there something that maybe us Geminis do wrong that makes a relationship with a Scorpio so impossible? Or is it really just not in the stars for us?” – Spent

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