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I’m not even engaged and I frequently have thoughts like, “I have to tone my upper arms so they look skinny in my wedding dress!” How screwed up is that?!?! A blogger who actually is engaged and “sick and tired of seeing ads for ‘wedding weight loss,’” started up a blog where brides of all sizes can contribute wedding pics. We hope it’s a relief for blushing brides-to-be needs who’re sick of all the body-hating noise from shows like “Bulging Brides.” [This Is What A Beautiful Bride Looks Like] Keep reading »
I am 24 years old and currently in a committed, loving, happy relationship. My boyfriend of 2.5 years is cute, sexy, kind, intelligent, AND we are so compatible that we barely fight; we are really really good together. Before him, I dated non-seriously, but he is my first love and my first really serious relationship. Although I am happy now and fully committed, I can’t help but think that though I want to end up with him in the long run, I would like to be single again, experiment or date around a little bit, and be on my own before I REALLY settle down and get married. There have been no serious marriage talks, engagements, or proposals yet, but once I did mention this want to him before and it kind of hurt him, because it made him feel sick to his stomach to imagine me with anyone else but him. For some reason I thought that he, being a guy, would want the same thing and to experiment/be free a bit before settling down, but I assumed wrong. And having these feelings makes me feel bad or greedy or like I shouldn’t want to date other people before I settle down, but I definitely don’t want to get married with ANY doubts. Am I wrong or is it bad to want this? Will it ruin our relationship in the long run, or make things too complicated? I am afraid that I would make this decision and then regret it later after realizing how much it hurts both of us, or something like that … but then again like I said I don’t want to have any doubts. — Wondering
In three weeks I am turning 30 years old. This is apparently a big deal, or so says everyone around me, and I am feeling a lot of pressure to celebrate it as such. But for some reason, I can’t really get worked up about it — either in a positive or negative way — and I don’t think that’s such a bad thing. Keep reading »
So this is by far the strangest dream I’ve ever had. I’m going to preface it by telling you that I’m female, which is the main reason why this dream was so disturbing. In my dream I was in a small bathroom, one I’ve never seen before. I was sitting on the toilet, and when I looked down, much to my shock, I had a penis. I remember being briefly confused, and then amazed as I thought to myself, “Wow, for never having a penis before, mine is really nice!” The shock and confusion gave way to a feeling of pride. I was impressed with my newest body member. Then for some reason I had a condom in my hand that I needed to put on. Not quite sure why, seeing as how I was alone in the bathroom. I spent the rest of my dream trying to figure out how to “get my penis to work” because, to my dismay, I had no idea how to use it or make it function properly. When I woke up I was very perplexed by the dream, I’m still not sure what it means. – Chick With A Dick
OK, I’m about to discuss a short scene from last night’s episode of “Mad Men,” so if you haven’t watch it yet — oh my God, you have to watch it!!! — you may want to stop reading. Are we all good now? Good. Now that we can speak freely, first, how awesome was Joan’s big moment last night when she finally gave Dr. Rape what he had coming? I cheered! And then I rewound and watched it several times over. If you don’t have the show recorded, luckily NYMag.com created an animated GIF.
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Despite valiant human rights work on behalf of Angelina Jolie to make “the other woman” not look like a big ol’ skank, the truth is most people still think “the other woman” is … well, a big ol’ skank. And guess what, ladies?! There’s this awesome double standard where people shrug their shoulders at Mr. Married But Couldn’t Keep His Pants Zipped and say, “Boys will be boys,” while they give you the stink-eye, you home-wreckin’ ho! So you have your work cut out for you! Unfortunately, instead of hopping a cheap-o flight out of town to wash that man right out of her hair, some “other women” go a little bonkers when the man doesn’t ditch his wife.
I barely felt anything about breaking up with Mr. Cupid until a few days ago. Being back to my old life was great. No more obligations in the evening. Nights slept in my own (much prettier) bed. No more stressing about whatever next “surprise” Cupid would do, that would scare me into thinking his next one would be proposing marriage.
Yet, while I am totally glad we’re over, I did feel a momentary pang of sadness a few days ago, not so much about him, but about the disappointment in not having something be what you want it to be. Why couldn’t he just be a bit more driven and mature? All the things I want in a Frenchman I think I now see in all the couples who get in my way by making out in the middle of the sidewalk while accordions play and kids in berets skip around with ice cream cones.
I’ve completely abandoned online dating. If anyone asked me two months ago about what the difference between online dating in NYC and in France is, I would have said, “Well, in New York, a lot of people do it. And the stigma has really loosened up. France is where NYC was five years ago, so I’m positive that things will turn around with the handful of dating sites here.” Now if you asked me this question, I’d say, “If a guy in Paris is doing online dating, something is wrong with him.” Sorry. But the selection is weak. Keep reading »
You will feel suspicious this week. It seems as if your sweetie isn’t telling you everything. However, this could mean ruining a surprise that is meant to be fun. So, if you want to keep pushing for answers, do it, but at your own risk. Of course, if your nerves are telling you it’s not something delightful, then go ahead and burst the bubble.
Budget concerns will make you want to hide, but this is the time when you really can see how far and strong you can be as a team. Let out your innermost fears and wear your vulnerabilities on your sleeve. Let your boo sort out the dilemma and hear him out. If you put two heads together, it’ll most definitely ignite a genius plan and a few white-hot flames.
Don’t let anything hold you back if another can’t keep up with you. It’s not that you should be slowing down; they should be speeding up. As much compassion as you would like to have, there really isn’t any point because after time you will find that despite all the empathy you might have now, it will eventually turn into aggravation.
Digging back to your past is crucial to help you bridge the gap between your ideals and your reality. Somehow you always start off on the right foot, but after a while you can easily lose sight of your needs and think that it’ll all piece itself together nicely in the end. However, you should know better now. Moving into this week, don’t forget lessons you have already learned.
When it comes to dealing with your baby, prepare for some frustration ahead. Although you may have his utmost loyalty, you will have to share him, as needy friends will be entering the picture and testing your patience. Although he will think he is being altruistic, you will think he’s being a sucker. This week will be about reconciling those differences.
You’ll be in full-on workaholic mode, making you more focused on yourself than ever. This will give you just the right mindset to start thinking for the long-term and what you really want your life to be about. The legacy you leave begins now. This will be reflected in your love life too — you’ll decide which booty-call number to delete and which one to reconsider.
Take off into fantasyland ASAP! Let your mind go and don’t stop to think about repercussions. Life has its own agenda right now. As long as you are open and willing to play the game of blind faith, you will find there is more than enough exquisiteness to set your loins on fire for at least the next few weeks!
Let your sex kitten out of the cage. The only thing that is going to feel right this week is being bad. If you think this is going to intimidate others, let it. Don’t lie to yourself anymore, thinking you have to be softer on the sidelines to get what you are after, because the more power in your punch, the better the balls that get thrown back into your court.
You don’t have to have all the answers right now, but you do have to ask the right questions. When it comes to perfecting your love life to be a sleek machine of passion, devotion and inspiration, it’ll mean verbally dissecting what’s happening and knowing your options. However, don’t feel the need to be the whole equation, only half.
Keeping your head in the clouds is fantastic for the beginning stages of a relationship. But if you are several months in and you aren’t feeling as if there is a routine being established, then you have to wonder what is up and if you are getting all the facts straight. Are there valid reasons for why you are only getting half the picture? Time for more research.
Despite how uptight you may get over the thrilling love ride you are about to go on — because control will be taken out of your hands — if you are creative, you will find places to put your hands that will be exciting enough to quell your anxieties. Ignore the rules and forget the consequences: trust fate. If you do, life is about to turn a very interesting corner for you.
Take some down time with your honey and slow it up. Pace yourself. This is the time to really dig deep into each other’s psyches and get to the heart of your emotions, relationship and dreams. Chances are this will go well and will result in intense bonding and hot sex. However, to get, you will have to give. Share the spotlight and you’ll see there is room for two.