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Decode My Dream: I Can’t Stop Dreaming About My Deadbeat Baby Daddy!

Three years ago I became pregnant with my son and the father was my then-boyfriend. The day I told him I was pregnant, he hit the road and I didn’t hear from him until my son was three weeks old. He stuck around for a month and then hit the road again, just as quickly as he came back. Since then, the only contact I’ve had with him is via e-mail, until he decided to delete that e-mail address so I could no longer contact him. He is a doctor, not just some deadbeat with no money, so finding him is relatively easy. Over the past two and a half years, he’s pulled some extremely hurtful moves and it goes without saying that I obviously hate him. Well the past few months, I’ve been having tons of dreams about him, where we secretly get back together even though we know it’s wrong. We’re flirty, happy, lovey dovey, having fun, and hanging out with friends like we used to. When I wake up, I feel sick about the idea of ever being romantic or even friendly towards him again. I’m also mad at myself for having these dreams and letting him have any control over me whatsoever, even in my subconscious. Why am I having dreams about him and what do they mean? – Bedbeat

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Love Vandal: Say It, Don’t Spray It

Have you seen graffiti that’s kind of sweet (even if it is against the law)? Send your pic to tips@thefrisky.com. Keep reading »

Ask The Astrosexologist: I Suspect My Libra Husband Is Cheating

I believe my husband is a cheater. He seems so happy in our relationship, yet he is always making new female friends. I have no problem with him having female friends, however he hides the friendships from me and I have found messages from him to other women in which he’s asking them to “hook up.” When I try to discuss these things with him, he does not want to talk about it. When I have no proof, he insists that these girls are only friends. I’m not buying it. I do not understand why he wants to be with me so badly (according to him) if he is interested in other women. I am so confused about my marriage and what I should do. One thing that causes my confusion is the fact that my husband does not talk to me about these things, does not change his actions (such as hiding his cell phone or deleting text conversations between him and his female “friends”), and he acts like he would die without me. By the way, I am a Virgo (9/18/89) and he is a Libra (9/23/87). Please help! – Lost

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GuySpeak/GirlSpeak: The “Ugly Duckling” Wants Revenge

Every week, the editors over at GuySpeak give answers to women’s questions in guy style. Then they handpick some of their favorites and send them over to us to answer (read: fix) them in girl style. This week, what do you do when guys who ignored you in high school crawl out of the Facebook woodwork to hit on the grown up you?

Am I being too harsh by dismissing guys who ignored me in high school? I’m getting attention now from guys who never even considered me back then. Thoughts?

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Dealbreaker: He Hated My Clothes

I am newly single (again). After a fun, but exhausting, up-and-down five months, my boyfriend-ish-person and I broke up this week. I’m sad about it — I really did fall for him and had so much fun with him. But I’m also a little relieved. The drama was wearing thin. Plus, he hated my clothes. Yeah. My clothes. Keep reading »

Girl On Girl: 6 Secrets Lesbians Don’t Want You To Know

I’ve been thinking about writing this essay for a while, but I’ve been putting it off because I feel like a traitor. Since coming out, I’ve struggled with feeling like an outsider in the gay community. Now, I feel totally secure in identifying as a lesbian and when I’m hanging out with a bunch of queer chicks nothing seems amiss. But I can’t help but notice that there are a bunch of things about gay gals that most people don’t know. And, honestly, that’s because we don’t want you to know. They are guarded secrets that we don’t even talk about amongst ourselves. But, lucky for you, I’ve always sucked at keeping secrets. So here goes.
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True Confessions: I Married A Nerd

I love my husband. He’s a fantastic gent who makes swoon-worthy stuffed french toast, fixes my bicycle when it breaks down, and plus he loves me and stuff. But, when there’s a new tech update, I shudder. It’s a reflex. If only Steve Jobs could see what he did to me last night at the bar … Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “My Boyfriend Gives Me A Stupid Stuffed Animal For Every Special Occasion!”

My boyfriend and I have been dating for five years. I feel so confused because he gives me a stupid stuffed animal for every holiday that comes around while I actually put thought into his gifts. We have no problem in our age difference (about 12 years), but lately I’ve been feeling as if he doesn’t care and thinks that this will just gratify me as if I were a little kid. I love him and feel that his feelings should have progressed by now. I don’t ask for a single thing, just an occasional compliment or signs of affection, which he seems to feel as if he doesn’t need to give. I got my hair done and he honestly looked at me and laughed and then said, “What happened to the curls?” I make sacrifices for him, but he seems to always have a problem with making them for me. I know everything is pointing to breakup, but I just can’t do it. I love him so much more than he’ll ever know. I am about to tell him that if he can’t give me anything else for the upcoming Valentine’s Day then just don’t get me anything at all. I cannot bear to get another stuffed animal. Would this be wrong to say? — Had Enough and Ready to Go

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Girl Talk: (Not So) Independent Woman (Anymore)

Just a few years ago, I had a huge pair of balls. Big, old honkin’ balls. And then I moved in with my boyfriend.

He’s not a particularly “Grr! I’m a man! I’m going to take care of you!” kind of guy. But he does like taking care of me, so I try to let him do that, and it’s nice having him around to do the unpleasant stuff. He lugs the garbage downstairs twice a week. He carries the heaviest grocery bags. He’ll get up in the middle of the night if I think I hear an axe murderer padding around our kitchen. It’s sweet and I love it. But if I’m honest with myself, being taken care of by a guy for the first time is making me a little soft. And I know this because just a few weeks ago, when he was out at band practice, I was walking up the stairs in my high-heeled boots, and I thought to myself, “I hope I don’t fall trip and fall! That would be bad! He’s not around to help me if I get hurt!”

I wasn’t always like this, I swear! I used to actually be, you know, independent. Let me take you back to spring 2004 … Keep reading »

Dealbreaker: Wusses

Recently a rather naive friend was telling me about the new girl he was dating. They’d been out a few times, but he hadn’t heard from her since the last date, when he went over to her place and then had to lie down because he felt sick.

Now, wait just a minute. What? No, no, no! I took him to task. I won’t agree to the oft-voiced claim that women flat-out don’t want nice guys. But I will admit to drunkenly advising this friend that he has to be a little bit more like an asshole if he doesn’t want to come across as a pansy.
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