I could write a book filled with my friends’ hook up horror stories, but that would be ugly and unproductive. So in the spirit of Liz Lemon, I decided to make a list of dealbreakers to prevent said horror stories. Unfortunately, many of my friends have followed through with a hookup despite a definite deal breaker (I have not of course, because I am perfect and never make mistakes). Enough is enough. Some things are just plain unacceptable and must be addressed.
However, I didn’t just write this list for girls. Pass this post on to a guy friend. Gentlemen, please pay attention. I’m trying to help you. Read more…
My husband is like a child when it comes to giving gifts. He shops big – both big price tags and big impact — and he’s usually even more excited about giving me my gifts than I am about getting them. They’re always really nice – for my 30th birthday I got an iPad – and he literally can’t wait to give them to me. (I got the unwrapped iPad weeks before my actual birthday.) I, on the other hand, gravitate towards thoughtful gifts with smaller price tags. The money he puts behind my (often bling-y) gifts caught me off guard earlier in our relationship, and it’s taken me almost six years to convince him that every holiday doesn’t require an over-the-top gift. Keep reading »
Holiday hookups may be all the rage this season — you know, right alongside temporary boyfriends and desperate attempts to hang out under the mistletoe.
But before you take the plunge into Christmas sex, you might want to take some time to study the rules of such encounters. A new study, published in the Canadian Journal of Human Sexuality, explored the various types of casual relationships among young people (ages 18 to 27) and their “codes of conduct,” so to speak. Keep reading »
In case you were curious about how polyamorous relationships work in practice, especially when a child is involved, Anderson Cooper got up close and personal with a triad on his show. Okay, follow me here: Jaiya Ma and Jon Hanauer have been together since they met at Tantric Yoga teacher training 10 years ago. At some point, Jaiya brought another man into the relationship, but things ended with a bad breakup. Jaiya’s tendency was to “connect” post-breakup, while Jon’s was to “retreat.” So, instead of breaking up, Jon encouraged Jaiya to find someone else. Eventually, she met Ian Ferguson in dance class and they had an instant connection. Jaiya became pregnant with Ian’s baby. Now the three of them live together with two-year-old Eamon. Interestingly, Jon (not the biological father of Eamon) does a good portion of the child care. You can watch an additional clip of Anderson’s interview with them here. Do I smell a sitcom here? Keep reading »
Since 1998, I’ve filled two passports, trundled through innumerable airports and navigated the border crossings of 28 countries — almost always by myself. Occasionally I’ve been accompanied by a boyfriend, sometimes by a brave friend I’ve convinced to join me, but most of the time I wandered out into the throng of waiting touts alone.
Now, when you’re a young woman and you tell people you’re going to travel, the first question will be: “Who are you going with?” Keep reading »