Zergnet: Simply Irresistible
Our editor Amelia is turning 30 in a few short weeks and her essay on the subject really resonated with Frisky readers, both younger and older than 30. With that in mind, we’ll be reposting our “30 Before 30″ series, which originally ran late last year, over the next few weeks. Enjoy!
We’ve talked a lot about the things you should know and do before turning the big 3-0, but until now, we have yet to discuss the things you’d be crazy to try before your 30th birthday. While you may be in a rush to squeeze in as many adventures and escapades as you can before the clock strikes midnight and the curtain drops on your 20s, there are quite a few things you’d be a total fool to willfully experience. After the jump, 30 things you should not try before turning 30*… Keep reading »
When I first met my good buddy, Zac, three years ago, I had a huge crush on him, but he let me know he didn’t feel the same and the feeling eventually went away. We’ve been on good terms since then, and recently we decided to become f**k buddies. Things have been going alright, and we really haven’t been experiencing any of the usual problems associated with the friends with benefits situation. The thing is, I sometimes want a more intimate relationship. I get the urge to just hug him or kiss him or the want to be held by him, and I look forward to the times we get to be alone together, even if we’re just watching tv and doing homework (we’re roommates too — easy booty call). I’ve started having daydreams about him, and I know it’s a bad move but I feel myself slipping back into the old crush habit.
He’s always given very mixed signals to me, one of the things that led to problems between us earlier in our friendship when I wanted things to move in a more steady direction with him but he turned me down. Our level of sexual chemistry is extremely high, and we’re so close on a friendship level that I feel like I almost want more. Am I being naive in thinking and hoping that a sex buddy could turn into something more? I don’t know whether to bring it up and risk ruining what we already share, let it go and keep heading down this path, or cutting it off before I get my heart broken. — More Than A Buddy
I haven’t been much of a believer in gut instincts until now. I’m one of those neurotic, analytical, thinks-too-much girls who tends to question her reasoning and feelings. But in the past few months, I’ve let go and gone solely on the gut. It’s what made me leave my job in New York and what brought me to Paris (so, thanks, Gut). And last Tuesday night, as I was rushing to my date with TDH (the tall, dark, and handsome Frenchman whom I met through friends), my gut was telling me, “This is not a good idea. This isn’t going to go well.” Keep reading »
Perhaps the better question isn’t whether you would tell your BFF that you slept with her ex, but whether you’d sleep with her ex in the first place. And maybe a more interesting question is: how would you react if your best friend confessed she slept with your ex? A woman writing to the Daily Mail’s advice columnist, Rowan Pelling, may find out the answer to that very question. In her letter to Pelling, she writes:
Six months ago, my best friend split up with her boyfriend of five years. She was desperately in love with him and heartbroken when he told her the relationship was over. I never thought they were ideally suited (neither did most of their friends) and wasn’t surprised that he told her he didn’t love her enough to marry her. A few weeks ago, I went to a party where my friend’s ex was also a guest. He talked to me all night, we danced and ended up going home together and having incredible sex. He says he’s always found me attractive and wanted to tell me years ago. We have amazing chemistry and if he were any other man we would be dating by now. But I know my best friend would be devastated. I’ve always told her everything, but now I feel too guilty to lift the phone for a chat. What should I do?
Virgo (August 23 – September 22)
Seems still waters do run deep, as circumstances that you didn’t think were really moving along will give you a jolt of surprise when confessions start to pour in and emotions you didn’t suspect were there are, in fact, there. This will turn you a bit topsy-turvy. Your instincts will kick into autopilot. Get ready for a cliffhanger kind of week.
Libra (September 23 – October 22)
Image matters to you. Not to say you are totally superficial, but you do believe the way someone holds him/herself is not just on the surface – you think what shines from the inside should be powerful enough to negate the flaws on the outside. Of course, these little tensions have a strange way of turning you on and, well, sometimes you have to dig deeper to find the beauty within.
Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)
There will be a major moment of clarity when it comes to your feelings for that special someone and knowing what you are willing to lay on the line. Seems transformations are in store, and to get that ball rolling, fate will throw you a crazy oddball surprise – one that’ll assure you that your current state of affairs is truly on the up-and-up.
Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)
End your boring routines this week. You know what works for you and what doesn’t. Trying to make any more excuses is directing your energy the wrong way. Be bold and be willing to start to make those changes that will effectively lay down the foundation to a lifestyle more your speed. If this means changing up the scenery altogether, do it for your libido.
Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)
You will be acting out in all sorts of ways that may make you unrecognizable to even yourself. Instead of going the loner route, trying to sort out crazy emotions that seem to erupt suddenly, ride it out. Hit the town and have fun with this new side of you. This will help you unleash pent-up emotions and teach you that being safe won’t get you laid.
Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)
You’ll be in a more serious mindset, which will make you dive into an introspective mood. However, what you will discover is that emotions from the past are not as dead and buried as you thought. With nagging sentiment lurking about, be ready to dig deep into your psyche to sort through the mess. Yes, this is your week for the full exorcism that will finally set you free, once and for all.
Pisces (February 19 – March 20)
Loosen up those lips and let the words pour out of your mouth. Realize your hopes and ideals are within arms’ reach and make the efforts to make that stretch. Although you do think the world should come to you, there is no time to be petty about who should do what and sticking to roles. Be progressive: your body will thank you for it.
Aries (March 21 – April 19)
Who cares how much pride you are going to have to fork over if it means your redemption? It’s never too late to win back something you’ve lost, especially if it’s holding you back from moving ahead. Yeah, groveling and backtracking are not your speed, but to show you care, humility will be as effective as Spanish Fly.
Taurus (April 20 – May 20)
As long as you can stand your ground and be pushy with your agenda, it’ll work wonders in the sexy bravado category. It will captivate your boo more intensely and get him to do as you say. If you’re single, don’t waste any of your mystique on lying around at home in your grubbies. Work it where you can and watch your love life take a turn into more exquisite territory.
Gemini (May 21 – June 20)
There is nothing wrong with living in fantasy land, but don’t think that you have to be the only one steering the wheels. Give that someone who has the imagination to keep up the chance to co-pilot the ride. While this will require you to give up some of your control freak tendencies, realize you’re not always the one with all the good ideas.
Cancer (June 21 – July 22)
You can run and you can hide, but it’ll only buy you time. The inevitable is coming and there’s nothing you can do. The more you resist your emotions and the situation you’ve gotten yourself in, the more dismal other parts of your life will get, as your focus and anxiety levels will suffer. Get real with yourself and step up to the plate already — not everyone is out to burn you.
Leo (July 23 – August 22)
Put your foot down and let him know where your boundaries lie. The nurturing route is sweet, but not everyone responds to the soft touch; obviously, by now you see he doesn’t. This time, it’s all about tough love and doling it out as you see fit. Besides, as you should know by now, breaking out the whip is your most effective method to getting want you want.
With titles like “When Harry Ate Sally,” “ET: The Extra Testicle,” and “The Bare Bitch Project,” it’s no wonder porn has a bad wrap. But, not all porn is of the absurd nature. In fact, porn’s intimidating nature is disintegrating and actually more and more women are seeking it out—to invigorate their sex lives. Keep reading »
I’m a Capricorn (25/12/91) and I’ve been seeing a Pisces (24/02/93) for about one and a half years. Our relationship has been very good most of the time. He is everything a Pisces guy should be: romantic, giving, loving and gentle. However, for the past few months, we’ve had several quarrels that lasted for days, but everything turned out all right in the end and things went back to normal — but just last week, we had another quarrel over a minor issue and I pushed him away in a moment of anger and used harsh words. He took it all in and acted fine, but then later the same day he told me he needed a break. At first, he told me that the reason was because he didn’t want us to continue like we have been and for things where we wouldn’t be able to keep in contact. I took it for real and told him I would move on. Right after that, he told me he still loved me a lot and that he was simply very tired from the quarrels and needed time to pick himself up. He added that he would return for me when he was feeling better again. I love him very much and asked him to stay. He did. He still tells me he loves me and we still go out often, but he doesn’t seem to be the same. When I am not out with him, he doesn’t talk to me and told me he needed some time alone. He used to be very caring, but now he seems to keep to himself. It is making me feel insecure. I am confused by the reasons he gave for the breakup and I am worried things will remain this way. Is there any way that I can help him or am I just wasting my time hoping things would be like how it was before the breakup? – Lost Capricorn
It’d be great if dating and flirting were easy—things you could approach with excitement and nonchalance. Unfortunately, that’s not always the case. You want to make a good impression on your potential love-interest, yet the very act of pondering how the other person perceives you can make you less confident! Below are four tricks for making a great first impression whether you’re cruising the pick-up scene at a bar or on a first date. Keep reading »