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Make It Stop: “I Can’t Stop Being Jealous Of My Boyfriend’s Ex”

Make It Stop: "I Can't Stop Being Jealous Of My Boyfriend's Ex"

My boyfriend, Sven (not his real name), and I have been together for about seven months. And while he’s incredible, there’s just one thing that makes me uncomfortable. My BF is very close with his ex-girlfriend Veronica (not her real name either). They hang out with each other one-on-one, share a circle of friends and common interests, they dated through college and even lived together.

I like this girl, and I want to be capable of forming a friendship with her, for both my boyfriend’s happiness and my own peace of mind. But every time I am put in a social situation with her, I freeze up, internally panic, and start comparing myself to her. Veronica is pretty, funny, and I can totally envision her and my boyfriend as having been/being a couple. I think she picks up on this vibe, which I find completely mortifying. Keep reading »

If You’re Going To Tell Us Banging Your Dad Is Okay, Please Be An Actual Adult

New York magazine’s splendid “Science of Us” section released a whopper of an interview today, talking to an anonymous female who was in a sexual relationship with her father. The opening narrative of the article focused on “Genetic Sexual Attraction,” a phrase coined by an incest support group to describe the relationships between adopted children and the biological relatives they’d reconnected with later in life, before jumping into an interview with the anonymous woman, who New York assured readers was a consenting adult. And while the girl in question is technically a consenting adult, the biggest takeaway from reading the article wasn’t the intricacies of her taboo relationship: it was how young she was, clocking in at just 18-years-old. Keep reading »

Hitched 2.0: Why My Brother-In-Law Is Officiating Our Ceremony

Hitched 2.0: Why My Brother-In-Law Is Officiating Our Ceremony

It was almost as if we communicated by ESP. My fiancé and I got engaged, sat down over lunch to start talking wedding stuff, and at the same exact time, both blurted out, “Let’s have a friend officiate!”

Okay, it didn’t go exactly like that. But I swear, it may as well have.  As soon as we started wedding planning, it was already an unspoken truth that our ceremony wouldn’t be led by a rabbi, a priest, a judge, or any other “official” figure. No, Andy and I both seemed to know even before we got engaged that we’d have a friend officiate. Keep reading »

Dater X: Conducting A Love Experiment

Dater X: Conducting A Love Experiment

After returning from a much-needed vacation, I got back into my daily groove of hitting the snooze button, rushing out the door at 8am in a haphazard, almost Kramer-like fashion and finally settling in on my commute into work. Usually I skim through Instagram and Twitter during my ride, a thoughtless way to ease into the day, but occasionally I check out the New York Times, depending on how prepared I am to be depressed about the world before I’ve even had my first cup of coffee. This week, I opted to be educational, and stumbled across the Times’ latest Modern Love column called “To Fall In Love With Anyone, Do This.”

Say no more. Keep reading »

This Photo Booth Pregnancy Announcement Is Giving Me So Many Feels

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I'm Melting

I’m clearly a sucker for emotional photo booth moments, because I can’t even watch 10 seconds of this video without tearing up. From their very first date, Jessica Devins and her husband have been fans of photo booths. When the couple ducked into one in a Minneapolis pizzeria, she orchestrated the perfect surprise to share with him that she’s pregnant. When he registers that they’re going to be parents, the two of them crumple into an adorable feels-fest. It seems a little too special for us strangers to be witnessing, but I’m selfishly glad they shared it because it’s lovely to watch. Congrats, you two! [USA Today]

Make It Stop: “My Sister’s Boyfriend Moved In With Us And It’s Ruining Our Relationship”

Make It Stop: "My Sister's Boyfriend Moved In With Us And It's Ruining Our Relationship"
I read Jessica Wakeman’s piece, “True Story: Married…With A Roommate,” and I totally related to it. Except in my case, I’m the roommate who lives with a couple and it’s not my best friend who’s shacking up with a dude, it’s my younger sister letting her deadbeat boyfriend stay at the apartment we share. While Jessica talked with regret about how the strain of the living situation ended their friendship, I don’t want the same fate with my sister, who I’ll call Polly. She’s been dating Derek for eight months, six of which he’s been at our place. He’s in a band so he should be on tour a good portion of the year, but the band is recording so he’s been crashing with us non-stop. He’s a nice guy, I guess, but unlike Jessica’s husband, he doesn’t pay rent, doesn’t contribute to the bills, and is always here. Every time I ask Polly when Derek’s planning on leaving she says she doesn’t know, but it should be soon. I’m at my limit with this guy! I want him gone, but I’m afraid if I put my foot down and kick him out it will create a rift with my sister which sucks because our relationship is already strained due to this. How do I make Derek and his freeloading ass stop while at the same time repairing my relationship with my sister?

Yes, Polly’s being immature by letting this situation drag on, but don’t use it as an excuse to lose your cool. It sucks that he’s crashing at your place without contributing, but it’s not like he’s putting you in any danger or causing you harm. He’s just an unpleasant inconvenience. Most likely he’s puttering around the joint in socks with holes in the toes, checking Instagram on his old-ass iPhone with a cracked screen and trying to stream “The Wire” on a shitty laptop using his parents’ HBOGo account. Sure every stray hair of his in the bathroom shower makes you want to strangle him with his unwashed skinny jeans, but try to resist for now. Keep reading »

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