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What Are Your Secret Turn-Ons?

Do you like strictly tall, dark and handsome men, or does your taste tend to deviate just a bit from the norm? While I would never kick Gilles Marini out of bed — um, unless my husband walked in on us, I guess — I have a few turn-ons that are a little less mainstream and wasn’t at all surprised to learn I’m not alone. In a recent study of 2,500 women, it was revealed that women name “facial stubble,” a “geeky personality,” and a “hairy chest” as their top three “secret turn-ons.” Other traits included in the top ten were: “grey hair, glasses and being a passionate supporter of a sports team.” Glasses are hot, but being a sports fan? That one surprises me. Keep reading »

365 Days In Paris: Mea Culpa

Dear readers,

Je suis désolée. I’m sorry. I spent some time last week reading my posts from the past two months and realized that, well, I’ve been a complete Debbie Downer lately. This is the supposedly adventurous life of some girl in Paris??? I thought as I clicked through. Sure, the whole Alex fiasco was definitely a dramatic romance, but looking back at my words, I saw how I was missing everything around me. My waking up was in part prompted by a random IM from an acquaintance back in NYC. An older man with whom I’ve always had a guiltily flirtatious rapport with. When I told him I’d been a bit down lately, he almost berated me. “You have to have adventures. You are so free now. You’ll see: later, there will be no time for this type of stuff. You need to just go places and see things.” For a moment this made me depressed. As if I were barreling headfirst towards this place of older age and responsibility, and was already regretting not being more fun right now. But then I saw that he was right. Why do we spend so much of our lives living in the future? Or lingering in the past? Why does it never occur to you to just not think too much about things? (Well, because it’s really hard to do this, but it shouldn’t be.) That day, I made two swift decisions. Keep reading »

For The Week Of February 22-28, 2010

Virgo (August 23 – September 22)

The fidgety anxiety that has been crawling up your spine as of late isn’t going away. This is the time when you will have had it and could possibly be throwing the gauntlet down. Changes in relationship status are coming and it’s not going to be a shock — it’s been a long time in the making. However, who throws it down first could determine where the story takes a big turn.

Libra (September 23 – October 22)

Surprises are in store for you and they can go either way. Chances are you have had hints all the while where this next chapter in your love life will go, but confirmation will arrive by the week’s end. Seems not all that you see is what appears and secrets that get revealed will be just the kind to make you really stop and wonder.

Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)

Spring is just around the corner and you can think about love then. Until then, this is your time to get yourself together, hang with friends and keep life plutonic. Even if you are in a relationship, forget being concerned with too much other than communicating, laughing and just being. As you’ll find, miracles appear when you’re not looking for them.

Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)

You’ll be moving on up, as prestige and status are in your stars! Yes, seems you and your baby are on the fast track to a new level of happiness and togetherness. The spotlight is shining upon you and you’ll be setting a new standard for those around you. Call it power coupling or what have you, but expect everyone will want a piece of it and it’ll feel delicious.

Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)

Your idealism is about to get a dose of reality. You’ll see that not all the logistics of a plan you are working on with your honey are going to match up and could even throw you two on opposite sides of the fence. Yes, expect some quibbling and moments of intense sparing, but, whatever, nothing to worry about. There are just some common growing pains all normal relationships should have.

Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)

Throw away the plans and work from your instincts — this will bring about more positive results than trying to be painstakingly careful. As it stands, whomever you’re dealing with wants to see that inner you, and if you don’t unleash some of the mystery within, you might as well walk away. Danger, intrigue and seduction are all in you. Express them and watch the love pour in.

Pisces (February 19 – March 20)

You can’t keep sitting on the fence thinking that the miracle you are waiting for is going to work itself out. While there are small steps forward, things will never go at the speed you want them to, unless you get behind what you believe and give it a big ole shove. Sure, this means taking a chance, but this is love. If you want to be in it to win it, you’re going to have to gamble.

Aries (March 21 – April 19)

Stop freaking yourself out! It’s not doing a thing for your state of mind. If you keep this panic up, you will most likely be sick by the end of the week and forced to deal with your worst-case scenarios from the sidelines. Time to have some faith in that someone near you and stop holding on so tight. If you squeeze any harder, there will be an explosion.

Taurus (April 20 – May 20)

Who says you can’t have it all? This week your hopes and wishes start coming into sight and romance starts coming alive, as planets align and epiphanies light up your life with just the right dash of magic and revelation, making you turn into the sap ball you never thought you could be. Superbly enough, this role will fit you like a glove.

Gemini (May 21 – June 20)

If only your honey could keep his mouth shut, he’d get way more loving. Seems too many stupid opinions will pour from his mouth and make you wonder what kind of idiot you’ve hooked up with. While differing opinions will cause riffs, forget trying to change the situation. Fortunately for you, overtime at work will be just what saves you from the ultimate relationship meltdown.

Cancer (June 21 – July 22)

Sharing your feelings doesn’t have to be a big deal. It’s not like you have to reveal all the skeletons in your closet or have a state of the union speech that puts everything on the line. In other words, don’t over-think it. A simple gesture of kindness will do. From there, you can feel your way out further. It’s all about subtly, but with purpose. Yes, “I like you” will do the trick.

Leo (July 23 – August 22)

Get what you can and forget the rest. Whatever makes you feel good will be all that matters, and if that means hooking up just for kicks, go for it. It’s every man or woman for himself or herself this week and that is just how the cookie is going to crumble. After all, chips will fall where they may and too bad for the sap who can’t have any control over where they land.

Meditate Your Way To True Love

The way Francesco broke up with me was as simple as it was shocking. It was a Saturday afternoon in July and we’d just seen a movie at the Museum of Modern Art in New York City. Riding the subway back downtown, we sat side by side, him in an inexplicable and smoldering silence. Then he got up and walked out of the train. I never saw him again. Keep reading »

Ask The Astrosexologist: Will My Aries Boyfriend Always Want To “Improve” Me?

I’m a Virgo, currently in the middle of a whirlwind romance with my Aries boyfriend. We love each other and were/are planning on moving in together; we have so many things in common, but enough is different to make it interesting. I love being with him and constantly miss him when he’s not around. He has told me many times that he wants to give me everything he possibly can.

Recently however, he developed an obsession with “improving” me. I’ve always had a bit of an identity crisis, but he’s convinced he can take me and turn me into something extraordinary. However when I had a moment of clarity, he told me that I was finally figuring out how “amazing” I am and that I deserved the best — namely, not him. He said he didn’t want to “waste” my time and broke up with me. The exact moment I felt really good about where I was in life, he told me that he couldn’t be with me anymore, but that he would always be there for me if I needed him.

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Love Vandal: A Roll In The Hay

Reader Angela sent us this photo of a spray-painted bale of hay. “There’s a farm on the drive to my parents’ houses that decorates a hay bale depending on the holiday,” she wrote. “This is the first time I’ve liked one enough to take a photograph.”

Have you seen graffiti that’s kind of sweet (even if it is against the law)? Send your pic to Keep reading »

How Far Is Too Far When It Comes To Flirting?

Every week, the gentlemen over at GuySpeak answer questions from women the only way they know how: in guy style. Then they handpick some of their favorites and send them over to us to answer (read: fix) them in girl style. We call it GuySpeak/GirlSpeak. This week — how do you help a guy understand the difference between flirting and being creepy?

Oh, wise one, I require your sacred advice. There is this guy I flirt with sometimes, and its all good until the flirting turns into lewd comments. Is there a polite way to tell him he crossed the line without totally turning him off?

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Philadelphia’s Collection Of Sweet Graffiti

Ever since The Frisky launched in 2008, we’ve been collecting “Love Vandals,” photos of charming if illegal graffiti. Well, Philadelphia stole our idea! Not really, but the Mural Arts Program did get artist Stephen Powers and a team of 40 painters to cover parts of the city with love letters over the summer. The clever murals tell different love stories, and if you’re visiting Philly, you can see them out from a window on the Market-Frankford train, like we recently did. Keep reading to see a couple of our favorites. [A Love Letter for You] Keep reading »

5 Tips For Spending Quality Time With Your Significant Other

With long work hours and busy social schedules, alone time with a significant other isn’t as easy to come by as most of us would like. But, as the saying goes, quality, not quantity, is what’s important. We asked Frisky readers for their advice on making every second count. Keep reading for five tips for bonding with your boo when the clock’s a-ticking. Keep reading »

How I Got Over Being Afraid To Get Married

I had always been sure I wanted to get married, and the longer I dated Dean, the more sure I was that he was the right one for me. That is … until I got engaged.

Dean’s proposal wasn’t a surprise. I was too nosy to not know it was happening, and I enthusiastically said yes the moment he asked. However, once it happened (in a sweet and thoughtful way, I should add), I began to feel these nagging questions eating away at me: Did I really want to be married? Would we be any good at it? Keep reading »

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