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Dating Detox: I Took A 3-Year Break From Men

When you hear the word “detox” all sorts of things come to mind: spas, juice fasts, colonics, rehab centers. People enter detoxification programs to rid their bodies of toxins, lose a little weight, maybe look and feel better about the damage they’ve done to their bodies. Detoxifications are done when you eat too many chips, drink too many drinks, do too many drugs. But how do you detoxify from poor love decisions? Is there a Promises out there for people who have had one toxic relationship after another? How do you take the damage done from too many bad relationships to enable a fresh start? Keep reading »

Have A Killer Valentine’s Day

I’m already a fan of the strange creature art made by LA-based artist Liz McGrath — and I love this weirdly special, customized Valentine’s Day gift that she’s selling in her online store. If you want to say “I love you” this Valentine’s Day in a totally unique way, McGrath’s four-inch, mini-butcher knife with your loved one’s name painted on it is sure to drive your message home to the heart. It comes in its own special knife box, it’s dusted with glitter, and it’s only $25. Remember: “The heart has its reasons, of which reason knows nothing.” — Blaise Pascal [Boing Boing] Keep reading »

Reader Valentine’s Day Love Story: An Alternative To Romantic Dinners For Two

Valentine’s Day is probably the most emotionally charged day of the year — and we’re not just talking about lovey-dovey feelings. To celebrate cupid’s special day, we’re posting your stories about your best and worst Valentine’s Days. To submit, email vdaytales@thefrisky.com by Monday, Feb. 9, and include “Best Valentine’s Day” or “Worst Valentine’s Day” in the subject.

After the jump, Nora tells us how she’ll be celebrating Feb. 14. Keep reading »

Dating Don’ts: How NOT To Date A Coworker

Q: The best part of having a workplace boyfriend?
A: Kissing on the sly in the utility closet at your office.
Q: The worst part about having an office boyfriend?
A: Your boss walking in on the two of you kissing on the sly in the utility closet at your office.

Kidding. The worst part is when you have to deal with Mr. Once-Wonderful after you dump him. Or—far worse—he kicks you to the curb. But let’s try to look at the bright side. I know everyone swears that office dating is a recipe for disaster, but according to recent studies cited in Fortune and GQ magazines, somewhere between 22 and 50 percent of office romances lead to marriage. So someone’s doing something right. Possibly in the cubicle right next to yours! Keep reading »

Zagat Wants To Help You Pick The Perfect Location For Your Breakup

There are Zagat guides covering everything — from restaurants, hotels, and nightlife to spas, shopping, and golf courses. Now, the guidebook company is getting into the relationship advice arena. The new New York City Dating (And Dumping) Guide offers suggestions for intimate bars, couple-friendly activities, and the best places to break up. Sure, you could end a relationship over the phone, but wouldn’t it be better if you did it in a place where you knew there’d be hot bartenders? We hope editions for other cities are soon to come. [Zagat] Keep reading »

I Love You, But…

I still remember the day I realized my first love wasn’t perfect. We’d been together for about 2- 1/2 months and decided to go camping for the weekend. I wasn’t much of an outdoorsy person and ended up wearing, like, Keds on our long hike up to the campsite (which really wasn’t a campsite, but more of a clearing in the woods with enough room to pitch a tent). Rather than slow his pace and enjoy the beautiful day with me, my boyfriend laughed at my footwear and sped off, keeping a good ½ mile ahead of me all afternoon. It was then that I realized I loved him, but he hiked too damn fast (and was really kind of a jerk).

Loveyoubut.com celebrates exactly this kind of realization in a relationship. Created by Alex Holder and Ross Neil, the site is a “picture book about the moment in a relationship when you realize you don’t love someone completely, because there is just one little thing that keeps bothering you.” While I’d argue it’s often that one little thing that makes you realize just how unconditionally you do love someone — seriously, if you can love your man despite his hairy back or the loud slurpy sound he makes when he drinks beer, that’s when you know it’s real — the site is totally worth checking out. Filled with funky, hand-drawn portraits and great quips like, “I love you, but you still read articles about Princess Diana,” and “I love you, but you say ‘pacific’ instead of ‘specific’,” loveyoubut.com reminds us that no one is perfect, and sometimes what we don’t like about someone says a lot more about us than it does about the other person.

What’s your “I love you, but” quote? [via Nothing But Bonfires] Keep reading »

When It Comes To Marriage And Divorce, Gay People Are Like Everyone Else

A lesbian couple that was the public face of the same-sex marriage debate in Massachusetts is ending their marriage after four years. Julie and Hillary Goodridge, along with six other gay couples, filed a lawsuit that led Massachusetts becoming the first state in the U.S. to legalize same-sex marriage. The couple, together for nearly two decades before they wed, were married in May of 2004 on the first day same-sex marriage became legal. They announced their separation in 2006 and filed for divorce last week.

A source close to the women said Hillary enjoyed her status as a gay rights pioneer and wanted to try new things, whereas Julie was more reserved. After they won their lawsuit and got married, they seemed to have less in common. What tore apart their marriage had nothing to do with their homosexuality. Like so many other straight and gay couples, they just grew apart. Keep reading »

Reader Valentine’s Day Sob Story: A Garbage Disposal Eruption

Valentine’s Day is probably the most emotionally charged day of the year — and we’re not just talking about lovey-dovey feelings (though there is a lot of that). To celebrate cupid’s special day, we’re posting your stories about your best and worst Valentine’s Days. To submit, just email vdaytales@thefrisky.com by Monday, Feb. 9, and include “Best Valentine’s Day” or “Worst Valentine’s Day” in the subject.

After the jump, Kirsten tells how her garbage disposal ruined Valentine’s Day for her and a repairman’s wife. Keep reading »

Love Vandal: A Pessimist’s Point Of View

[Photo: Heather Letzkus]

Have you seen graffiti that’s kind of sweet (even if it is against the law)? Send your pic to tips@thefrisky.com. Keep reading »

Cheating For The Kids

I thought I had heard every excuse for cheating — it’s payback, my needs aren’t being met, I was drunk, etc. — but this excuse takes the cake. A woman revealed to an acquaintance that she is cheating for her kids. Yep, you read that right. She’s not planning on staying in her marriage, so she’s trying to find a daddy replacement for her children before kicking their jerky father to curb. Keep reading »