Guest columnists and contributors are generously sharing their talents and insights while Wendy is taking some time to care for my new baby. Today’s letter is answered by prolific Dear Wendy commenter and social media consultant, Sarah Huffman.
My year-long relationship recently went long distance. I had gotten into several master’s programs — a few decent ones near him and an amazing one far away — and because of future career potential and pressure from everyone (including him) I chose the more prestigious, far-away program. The problem is that I am completely miserable. I am so in love with my boyfriend and I miss him so much, I don’t know what to do with myself. My school is a lot of work, which adds to the stress level. My fellow classmates go out and have fun – I’d rather get more work done so that I can have a few days to visit the boyfriend. Keep reading »
Mary and I were sitting on her couch, laughing. “But wait, no seriously, is pooping a feminist issue? Why aren’t we talking about this?” I asked.
It was funny, if only because there was some truth in the (often female) phenomenon of “holding it in.” There’s this prevalent idea that girls don’t poop.
“Ugh. I hate that part of dating,” Mary said. “ I can remember holding it in all weekend, waiting until we got to a restaurant or somewhere!”
I knew this move all too well. I wondered, Is this every woman’s secret? Keep reading »
Some of us may be feeling sorry for ourselves that we’re single this holiday season. But it could be worse! We could be getting a 1,615 word missive from a guy we went on one date with, chiding us for leading him on by playing with our hair too much and making eye contact. Such is the case for Lauren, who received a lengthy email from Mike — an investment banker who makes “real money, not Monopoly money” — in which he expresses his disappointment in her for not wanting to go on a second date. After the jump, you’ll find his unedited manifesto, which is making the rounds on the internet. Please read it in its entirety. To be honest, it’s hard to tell if Mike is suffering from some very real issues and, if so, what they are; some have suggested that Mike “obviously” is on the autism spectrum and therefore this email is not to be laughed at, while others think he is simply a Wall Street douchebag with a serious entitlement complex. Perhaps he is all of the above? Anyway, read on and discuss. [Observer]
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A few months ago my fiancée and I watched an episode of “Thirtysomethings” when Elliot and Nancy start seeing a marriage counselor. At first they are both embarrassed and ashamed, and neither wants their circle of friends to know. But as it goes in a television show, the secret gets out and they both feel like crap.
Call me a stereotypical New Yorker, but I love therapy and never understood why people are embarrassed or ashamed about it. I also never got why people wait until they feel like breaking up to start couples’ therapy. Therapy got me through adolescence, depression, disorder, and my relationship with my fiancée. Keep reading »
When I was young, my parents told me I was beautiful and I believed them. I went out into the world feeling confident about my womanly charms and things went smoothly for me. I always managed to find a boy who would tell me I was perfect, even if he did wear suspenders and a really old T-shirt that said “STATISTICS means never having to say you’re certain.” And then I moved to Manhattan when I was 22, and everything changed. Keep reading »
In “Young Adult,” Diablo Cody’s new film opening Dec. 16, Charlize Theron plays Mavis, a divorced novelist who returns to her home in small-town Minnesota determined to rekindle a romance with her high school boyfriend. Mavis may have gotten older, but she hasn’t exactly grown up or figured out how to let go of the past, especially when it comes to her love life.
Let’s face it: generally the expectations and beliefs we have about love in high school are simplistic or just straight up wrong. Oh, how little I knew back then, but hopefully, if you’re not like Mavis, you’ve learned a thing or two. In honor of the release of “Young Adult,” here are seven things we’ve learned about love since high school. Keep reading »