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Ask The Astrosexologist: “I’m Pregnant And My Baby Daddy Wants Nothing To Do With it!”

I’m a Scorpio and my ex is a Pisces. We’ve known each other (tenuously) since we were young. Every few years we’d run into each other, but timing was never right to date. Last November, we re-connected and began hanging out. I kinda helped him through a difficult surgery and after that we got into a habit of late night visits. That eventually stopped, then started up again in January.

Around the end of January, I told him I wanted more. I told him I liked him a lot, but I wasn’t going to wait around. He was NOT HAPPY. Then last weekend, I took a pregnancy test after I was late and dropped the bomb on my Pisces. It has not been pretty since. First he said it wasn’t his, then he didn’t believe me, and now he wants me to terminate. I can’t do that.

He got some devastating news about his job recently. Now he’s worried about paying his mortgage. He also had another major surgery in the past two weeks. He says he wants nothing to do with the kid or me. I NEVER thought he could be that kind of guy, especially growing up with his own deadbeat dad. My heart is breaking. I don’t want to raise this baby alone. The little bugger got through a condom to get here; I figure he has a reason! (Due 10.11.10) Can we make this work? Will Pisces baby daddy step up? Am I going to be alone forever? – Times Two

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Love Vandal: We’ll Ignore That Last Part

Reader Dance snapped this photo in the Mission part of San Francisco.

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Dear Wendy: “Should I Break Up With My Deployed Boyfriend?”

I have been with my boyfriend for about three years now. He is my first real boyfriend and my first real love. We have a wonderful relationship; he treats me so well, and is incredibly loving. Everyone we know always says that he is one of the best people they’ve ever met. So what’s the problem? He’s been enlisted in the military for almost our entire relationship, and we see each other about four times a year. Right now, he is deployed in Afghanistan and won’t be back till September, so communication is extremely limited. I love him so much, but I often find myself frustrated with our relationship because of the distance. I’m in college, and I sometimes feel like I hold myself back from having more fun because I have a boyfriend who I rarely see. When he’s home, I am so happy and I know that he is someone that I could spend my life with. But every time he leaves, I find myself in the same place. I feel like I can’t talk to any of my friends because they can’t relate to what I’m going through, so I feel stuck. I’m still young, and I feel like a “military wife” when I don’t want to be. Should I give up the love of my life to feel more my age? — Lonely in Minnesota

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Quotable: Dr. Oz Gives His Prescription For Remaining In Love

“The most important thing I can ever say to a married couple is reinvent the relationship every seven years. The person you’re married to will change, and so will you. Every couple years, when the biological handcuffs come off that keep us together – the oxytocin and all the chemicals that come together so they can bear children and raise them to five or six years of age — when that chemical wears off, you’ve got to reconnect emotionally. So I’ve been married to three women. It’s going pretty well … Being intimate with the people you love is critically important to longevity … the basic rule of thumb is that if the average American has sex once a week, you want to have sex at least twice a week. It increases longevity by about three years. For women, it’s more about quality than quantity. If you don’t have that loving, conjugal relationship with someone you can grow with in life, then you’re not fun and fearless.”

Dr. Oz, who has been married for 25 years, gives the secrets to a lasting marriage. [OK!] Keep reading »

Girl Talk: Getting A Dog Changed Our Relationship More Than Moving In Together

A year into our relationship, I knew Michael was about to pop the question. After all, we were crazy about each other, lived together, and made a great team despite our many differences. Now it was just time to make our union official.

“Babe,” he finally said one day. “Are you ready to get a dog together?”

I practically squealed with delight. Yes, I was an unabashed “dog person,” the type who regularly accosts cute canines on the street. But my real excitement was about getting a dog with Michael. In my eyes, our future pup would be a sort living, breathing, slobbering symbol of our intention to build a life together. Keep reading »

Dating Don’ts: How To Travel As A Couple Without Killing Each Other

Second only to his inexplicable ardor for overhead lighting, my boyfriend Spyro’s extreme loathing for travel is probably our number-one topic of, uh, discussion.

I love to travel and I’m not picky—I’ll go pretty much anywhere my credit cards can afford to take me. Once I decide where I’m going, I carefully research the best deals, amp up my excitement with guidebooks and daily internet searches, and so by the day I split town, I’m in a happy tizzy. I carefully pack the night before and make sure I’m at the airport two hours ahead of time so I can get in a quick pre-boarding glass of wine and maybe a little duty-free shopping. Keep reading »

The Juliet Club Keeps The Love Story Of Romeo And Juliet Alive

Last night, I was watching a travel show, and I learned about The Juliet Club. Based in Verona, Italy, where Shakespeare’s Juliet Capulet of Romeo and Juliet lived, the group receives thousands of letters every year addressed to Juliet. The notes arrive from around the world and come for a variety of reasons and from a diverse group of people — those looking for love advice, people seeking out Juliet herself, or lonely souls wanting to understand the secret to finding true love. In turn, the members of The Juliet Club reply to each and every Juliet letter they receive. Many of the letters are addressed simply to “Juliet, Verona, Italy,” but they find their way to Verona eventually. As the letters are written in a wide range of languages — from Braille to Chinese — the club seeks out an appropriate volunteer to answer, so no love note goes unresponded to. Sweet, no? [The Juliet Club] Keep reading »

What Does “Having It All” Mean To You?

Recently, I read a Tweet from someone — oh, fine, it was Julia Allison — who had just finished reading the Vogue interview with Gisele Bundchen and said she challenged anyone to tell her the woman didn’t have it all. OK, I’ll bite. I’m definitely not convinced the woman has it all. Sure, she’s drop-dead beautiful, rich, famous, has a successful career, and is married to a hot football star whom she has a brand-new baby with, but so what? Two weeks ago you could have said Sandra Bullock had it all, too, and looked what happened there. And call me cynical, but I have a hard time believing that a guy like Tom Brady, a handsome professional athlete who, let’s not forget, left his ex-girlfriend, Bridget Moynahan, when she was pregnant with their first baby to hook up with Gisele, is like some super committed, stand-up guy who would never dream of cheating on his wife. Please! So, no, I wouldn’t say Gisele necessarily “has it all.” But, what is having it all, anyway? Keep reading »

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In Case You Need More Reasons To Be Skeptical About Online Dating

OK, folks. Not to be a wet rag, but here’s further proof that online dating can be kind of sketchy even though it’s supposedly a perfectly acceptable way to meet a mate. Check out some of the cold, hard stats about that hot stranger you think you’re sending winky faces to. Hint: they may be lying about stuff. Also, can it be true that “1 of 3 women who meet men online have sex on the first encounter”? That’s just crazy. All the more reason to get excited about non-lame online dating sites like Just sayin’. [BuzzFeed]

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