Category Archives: Relationships

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Dear Wendy: Husband Hates Wife’s Natural Hair

Wendy is stuck at jury duty this week and will hopefully—knock on wood!—be back tomorrow or Thursday next week. Until then, here’s one of her best Dear Wendy columns.

I wanted another female’s approach to dealing with an unsatisfied husband. I am a black female who generally used to relax her hair straight since childhood. A year ago I told my husband that I had a desire to go natural, which he responded to with “whatever makes you happy.” So then began my journey – and it wasn’t an easy one. Needless to say I cringe at the idea of getting a relaxer again, since it took so much time to get it naturally to the length which it is now. I love my hair, and I feel confident – the problem? My husband hates it, and at least once a week tells me how unkempt, ugly and socially incorrect I look. Says he finds himself less attracted to me, and that he feels embarrassed to be seen with me unless my hair is bone straight. (Occasionally when I have flat ironed my hair, I have had the challenge of dealing with seriously frizzy hair.) Everyone else has been quite supportive, so these regular comments have been a great blow to my self-esteem, but how can I deal – or better yet how can I help change my husband’s instilled negative viewpoint on the hair that I was born with? It’s starting to become a really big problem in our marriage. Thing is my hair isn’t a statement which I am trying to make to the world, I just feel good about myself, I feel a sense of comfort in my own skin which I never thought existed. So what now? Should I just cave in to his persistence — or wait it out? — Frustrated Natural Wife

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Girl Talk: Oops … It’s Almost Time To Give Birth!

I’m now six days away from the official due date of my unplanned (but now certainly wanted) first baby, and I think I have learned what it might be like to be disabled in America. It’s not very pleasant. I am certainly a spectacle, but unlike other disabled people, the woman with a giant rotund belly warrants comments from nearly everyone she passes, whether it’s kind strangers who say “Congratulations!” on the street or the bitch who works at Target who warned me not to have my baby on the floor. And if I have to hear “OMG you’re SO pregnant,” one more time (from friends, family and strangers), I really might lose it. I’m hormonal, chunky and need a drink, so stating the obvious is getting plain annoying. Keep reading »

Astrosexologist Kiki T Breaks Down The Perfect Date For Each Sign


Dating is hard. Luckily, we have super babelicious Astrosexologist Kiki T to help us take the guess work out of planning the perfect night out. Here, our very own Frisky guru aligns the stars with sexy times as she runs through the zodiac to help “The Tyra Show” — and you — plan the spiciest date. If you were wondering what to do with your honey, this vid can show you how to seal the deal! For more of Kiki T’s awesome advice, check back right here, every Monday for her oh-so-saucy and accurate Friskyscopes. Keep reading »

8 Tips For Eco-Friendly Dating

Since today is Earth Day and all, now’s the perfect time to think about — and implement — ways you can be better about reducing, reusing, and recycling. We all know you can shop green, but you can also date green. Click through for eight eco-friendly dating tips. Keep reading »

Girl On Girl: My Girlfriend’s Family Is Homophobic

A few weeks ago, my girlfriend’s father told her the family is taking a vacation to Maryland this summer. Her immediate response was, “I’m not going.” Desperate to get his very un-family-oriented daughter to participate, he quickly added, “Your girlfriend can come.”

She mentioned this to me on the phone later and, naturally, I was very enthusiastic. The two of us talked about how nice it would be to lie on the beach together, especially at night. We discussed swimming in the ocean and sleeping in every day for a week. By the end of our phone conversation, the two of us had talked so much about the trip, it felt like the trip had already happened.

But things changed when my girlfriend excitedly told her mother that I’d likely be going, too. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: There Is No Such Thing As “The One”

Awhile ago, I went to one of those psychic-type people. I don’t think she called herself that, but you get the point. Anyway, she said something that has stuck in my head ever since. I think I made a passing reference to finding “The One,” and she made a face.

“There’s no such thing as ‘The One,’” she explained. “There is only the one who is ‘The One’ right now.”

And, you know what? I think she was right. Keep reading »

8 Reasons NOT To Get It On

As I’m sure you’re well aware, there are many good reasons to have sex. In fact, sometimes you don’t need any reason at all—other than, say, loving your partner.

However, sometimes a lady finds herself doing all the right things for all the wrong reasons. That’s what we’re here to cover. So if you find yourself in any of the following situations, please extricate yourself as quickly as possible:

Revenge: The most popular very-wrong reason to have sex, revenge sex never ends well. Hooking up with his best friend because you’re angry at your boyfriend will get you nowhere.

I’m not knocking or talking about the sex professionals out there—this is for the amateurs among us. Just because he bought you a lobster doesn’t mean you need to give up dessert. Catch my drift?

Ego Gratification: You must be fine if that scorching hot bartender took you home. Or not. Men have been known to do some unsavory things for physical gratification—surely you’ve heard the recent story of the guy who tried to fornicate with a park bench? The fact that he’s willing and able doesn’t say squat about your appeal.

Appliance Envy: Your roommate “doesn’t believe” in air conditioning. You can’t afford premium cable and are addicted to “Weeds.” You’re desperate to try out Wii Fit. All of these desires are perfectly rational. However, they are absolutely not worth the price of waking up next to someone you otherwise cannot stand. (Well, except for the AC, but that’s only if it’s above 100 F.)

Weight Loss: Yes, you may have read those women’s magazine articles about how being physically intimate can help you shed pounds. However, a 120-pound woman burns only 57 calories during 15 minutes of sex. That’s less than half a Hostess Ho-Ho. The sweat could do nice things for your skin, but your waist will remain the same size.

Clarity: Ever since you were nine years old and saw that topless Kate Moss Calvin Klein ad, you’ve had a hunch you were same-sex oriented. Unfortunately, the thought of sharing this with anyone scares you, so you get yourself a boyfriend. But you can’t stop thinking about that ad….

Mercy: Empathy for a sad soul is one thing; holding an intimate pity party is quite another. Oh, and you know that saying, “no good deed goes unpunished?” It goes triple in this instance. Misery loves company—good luck getting him out of your apartment.

Quid Pro Quo:

I’m not knocking or talking about the sex professionals out there—this is for the amateurs among us. Just because he bought you a lobster doesn’t mean you need to give up dessert. Catch my drift?

Fame By Association: He’s famous, you want to be. Contrary to what you might’ve surmised from that old Pamela Des Barres book, “I’m With The Band: Confessions Of A Groupie,” fame is not transmissible through intimate contact. However, lots of other things are, so watch out.

Dear Wendy: Will I Ever Find Love?

Wendy is stuck at jury duty this week and will hopefully—knock on wood!—be back tomorrow or Thursday next week. Until then, here’s one of her best Dear Wendy columns.

I am the last single girl standing in my group of friends. At 26, almost 27, it probably isn’t the worst place to be but I do have concerns. Three of my best friends found their husbands through me. Basically I befriended a guy, introduced them and then a courtship started. I don’t want to sound bitter because my friends are wonderful amazing human beings and they have truly found their match in these men. My concern is that my friends have all married and it makes complete sense to me that men would want to spend their lives with them. They all are such beautiful, talented, amazing women so of course they are desirable. I’m worried that I may never find a love because in the scope of things I am just a plain ordinary girl. While I don’t necessarily think there is anything wrong with me being plain and ordinary, I am worried that I will never attract a man. How could someone choose to be with me when there are amazing women everywhere and upgrading is fairly easy? Do I have a chance at finding love or should I just get used to the fact that I might always be single? — Young Maid

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What To Do Before A First Date

Congratulations! The upbeat, All-American-esque cutie you met last week has asked you out on a date. You’re pretty darn happy for yourself, but let’s face it, you’re also slightly nervous because first dates are, well, nerve-wracking. Never fear—luck is on your side, as are we. Follow these seven tips for first date preparation and tell us how your night turned out. Keep reading »

“You Stuck My Flash Drive In Your … ” And More Crazy Dating Horror Stories

Craigslist is a dependable source for roommates, concert tickets, bromancing and, best of all, missed connections! Feast your eyes on how the tale of this date started out:

”You stuck my flash drive in your vagina. If you are reading this, you know who you are. I don’t think this is a fad sweeping the city, so this one’s for you.”

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