In Bad Mother, author Ayelet Waldman encourages women to aspire to be “not bad” mothers and resist the pressure to meet the extremely high standards of success that society has for women and motherhood. Waldman wants women to stop trying so hard and just be. She argues that mothers can and should be honest, flawed, and, yes, selfish sometimes — your ability to care for your children will not suffer.
Waldman’s book is a welcome change from the usual motherhood self-help nonsense that lines the shelves at Barnes & Noble. The book deal was struck after Waldman wrote a controversial piece for the New York Times‘s “Modern Love” column a few years ago. In “Truly, Madly, Guiltily,” she wrote about loving her husband, author Michael Chabon, more than their four children. Her confession came about after observing how many other mothers didn’t seem to have as active a sex life with their husbands, a fact she attributed to their focus on being moms rather than wives.
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The Post-It note has a bad rap. After Berger the narcissistic novelist dumped Carrie Bradshaw via Post-It on “Sex In the City,” the sticky yellow paper has been seen as a wussy way to get served. Of all the horrible ways a gal can get dumped, this message was by far the worst! But last night on the “Grey’s Anatomy” season finale, McDreamy and Meredith vindicated the little square. When they ran out of time to get married for real, the two exchanged memos, er, vows, and sealed it with their signatures on a Post-It note. We hope the marriage sticks too! Keep reading »
The Huffington Post reports five things not to do on a date. They include talking about an ex, being cheap, and getting drunk. (Really? Getting drunk made the list? We can fondly remember many dates when getting drunk was the saving grace!) While we agree with some of the list, we can’t help wondering why they stopped at five. Drawing on our own dating past for inspiration, we can think of plenty more dating don’ts to include. After the jump, 15 more things never to do on a date.
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At some point, nearly every woman will have to decide if a breakup means that ties are completely severed with her ex or if they are going to remain friends. Whether your ex is an ex-boyfriend, ex-husband, or somewhere in between, trying to remain friends with your ex is a recipe for disaster. Of course, if you have a child with your ex, you will still see your ex from time to time and you will need to remain civil to one another, but I would still caution against a true friendship with your ex. Keep reading »
Earlier this week, our friends at Holy Taco posted a man’s “flowchart for lying to your girlfriend.” We found it pretty funny and appreciated the peek into men’s psyches. We thought we’d return the favor, so here’s a woman’s flowchart for manipulating her boyfriend.
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I recently read Jeff Mac’s very funny book, Manslations (Sourcebooks), which is basically a phrase book for ladies to help us decipher the Language of Lads. It’s certainly a time-saver for those of us used to spending hours IM’ing our friends, dissecting last night’s date’s behavior.
But the fact is, men aren’t the only ones who say one thing and mean another . . . some miscommunications transcend gender lines. Here are eight… Keep reading »
Are you a sex machine? A bag lady? A perpetual second-place finalist? According to a new book called Ms. Typed, you just might be. Author Dr. Michelle Callahan was on the “Today Show” yesterday morning promoting the book, which offers advice based women’s dating personalities. In this clip, she explains how you can identify your type and what you can do to overcome some of your destructive dating habits. I wonder if there’s a type called “Doesn’t really want to watch televised sports” because, honestly, that’s, like, a recurring issue in ever relationship I’ve ever had.
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Askmen.com recently published a cute, albeit, standard little ditty about hitting on chicks at your high school reunion. The writer thought celebrating the passing years since high school graduation was a perfect opportunity to play catch up and score with all the ladies you wanted to but (because you were a pimple-infested, dork-virgin) never did.
Fair enough, but this had us thinking: What places should you absolutely under no circumstances (well … never say never …) try to get laid? Keep reading »
We’re supposed to abandon our childish ways as we age, but right now I want to be selfish. Recently, I learned that my stepmother’s sister is getting remarried at 54. She’s going all out — wearing a white dress, recruiting bridesmaids, and won’t spend nights with her fiance until they’re wed. Oh, and she wants my father to give her away. Keep reading »