I have a theory. Happiness isn’t about the situation we’re in. It’s about how we see and feel about the situation we’re in. And this is awesome news. Because that part is completely in our control. Which means you don’t have to change your life to get happier—you don’t need a bigger apartment, more expensive shoes or a perfect relationship to be happy—you just have to change how you look at the life you already have. That’s what I call seeing life “bright side up” and in my new book, Bright Side Up, I offer one hundred ways to do just that. To get you started, here are eight ways to see your next situation from a better perspective so you can feel happier right now. Keep reading »
It’s officially Valentine’s Day and we know what you’re thinking – dinner date, bottle of wine, new lingerie – check, check, check. Even if you aren’t madly in love, who says you have to spend the evening alone? Send this naughty eCard as foreplay and let the sexy hijinks begin! Keep reading »
Tomorrow is the sexiest of holidays for serious and not-so serious couples alike. And whether your V-Day date involves staying at home with a movie or a weekend in wine country, the best way to set the sexy mood with your partner is by donning some hot lingerie. So depending on the type of pair you’re in, be it friends with benefits or long-time marrieds, we’ve got 10 different Valentine’s Day lingerie recommendations. Get your sexy inspiration now! Read more…
My senior year of college I mentored a group of teen girls at an alternative high school outside of Portland, and it was one of the most powerful and moving experiences I’ve ever had. Not only did I meet my best friend in the process (she was my co-mentor), I saw what an amazing impact we can have on the lives of teens if we just give them a safe space to express themselves. The 5 young women in the group didn’t know each other that well, and they didn’t know my friend and me at all, but when we gathered around a table and asked them to tell us about their lives, the results were absolutely magical. I’ve always believed that since I made it out of adolescence relatively unscathed, the least I can do is offer other young women a little guidance and support along the way. Whether you’re an aunt, a big sister, or a family friend of a teenage girl, you can make a huge difference in that young woman’s life, so I encourage you to reach out and try.
Here are a few lessons I’ve learned in my years of mentoring. Every girl’s communication style is unique, and every interaction might not be perfect, but remember: every conversation is valuable, and every effort really does make a difference. Keep reading »
The first rule of man boobs: Don’t talk about the man boobs. Following that: Don’t touch the man boobs. And like a lackey on a Nicholas Cage set, do not look the man boobs in the eye. Errr, nipple.
In my decade and a half experience negotiating male bodies, I have seen some things. Male genitalia obviously comes in all shapes, sizes and easterly orientations. Y chromosomes often cause their carrier vessels to have hair in the strangest of places (and shapes).
But what I had never encountered until age 31 was the man boob — until recently. I may be an anomaly. None of my friends were shocked when I told them I chanced upon a man with breasts. There is even a slang for them. The gays apparently call them “moobs.” Of course in that community, they are shunned and sentenced to the David Barton Gym for immediate alteration. Doctors, I have been told, refer to it as gynecomastia. It’s the abnormal development of larger than normal mammary glands in men resulting in the appearance of breasts. The terms literally comes from the Greek, gyne, meaning woman, and mastos, meaning breasts: men with lady breasts. It often happens when men past 30 let themselves go. Meaning it often happens to men past 30.
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Aquarius (January 20-February 19): There is only so much you can do to make people be more honest with you. If they’re going to be jerks, then you just have to see it for what it’s worth and go with it. Otherwise, trying to reform anyone now will only make you lose your mind and your faith in humanity. Don’t let that one a-hole ruin your party!
Pisces (February 20-March 20): Just because something sounds pretty doesn’t mean it’ll work. Be prudent about the circumstances you’re in and what kind of words you use to compensate for something that might not be there. In the end, the truth will always catch up to you, so realize sugarcoating things now will only lead to decay. Keep reading »