Breaking up is hard to do especially when you have to go to work the next day. After spending an entire evening arguing with your, now ex-boyfriend, the last thing you want to do is deal with the idiots in accounting or the crazy client who can’t make up her mind. Unfortunately, business doesn’t cease because of your broken heart. Here, readers tell us how they survived a breakup—and the ensuing workweek—and lived to love again. Keep reading »
Every time I get all skeptical about this whole l-o-v-e thing, something happens to pull me back. Earlier this week, Frank and Anita Milford Devon, Britain’s oldest married couple, celebrated their 81st anniversary. The two met at a YMCA dance in 1926 and got hitched two years later. Today, they are both 101 and have two children (their son is now 74), five grandkids, and seven great-grandkids. And I thought making it to six-months was a big deal? Three cheers for old people! [BBC] Keep reading »
When it came to my dating life, I wasn’t sure I should listen to Patti Stanger, host of Bravo’s “The Millionaire Matchmaker” and author of the book Become Your Own Matchmaker: 8 Easy Steps for Attracting Your Perfect Mate. Could someone hoisting a gold, ruby-encrusted Cupid’s arrow on her book cover, whose ample bosom was jammed into a white Liberace pantsuit, help me, an outdoorsy New Yorker with an A cup seeking a sweet, humble, non-cologne wearing guy with no roommates?
I was doubtful. But as an early thirties lady swinging and missing on the New York dating scene, I figured, “What have you got to lose, Singles McGonigle?” See if she’s got some news you can use. Keep reading »
Last night, I found myself packing up my ex-boyfriend’s stuff in preparation for his move. He didn’t have anyone else willing to help, including friends and family, so he was doing it alone. My main reason for helping, obviously, was because after three months of separation, I missed him. We’ve talked occasionally, so it wasn’t like he had called me out of the blue and said, “Help me pack my s**t!”
Even though we hadn’t seen each other in a while, it still felt like we were friends when I saw him. Not being his girl anymore made it easier to deal with the bra (that wasn’t mine) I found in his drawer. To be fair, he warned me, saying that I might find some things I didn’t want to see. (I believe it was from a previous girlfriend long ago because it was all stretched out and I know he has better taste now.) During the packing process, I started to wonder whether I’m a pushover. He’s not my boyfriend anymore — was helping him with his move too nice a thing for an ex to do, or was I just being a good friend?
After the jump, instances when it’s okay to be good to an ex and when you’re being too nice to the jerk who broke your heart. Keep reading »
Last week the site Truth Merchants posted a long article that shed light on some of the many things that confuse women about men. (Don’t understand why guys ask for your phone number only to text or email, never call you? Check out the article for an explanation.). We figured there were probably just as many men who are as confused by women’s behavior as we are by theirs, so we asked a bunch of guys what they’d like answered about us and our inbox was flooded with questions. Wednesday I answered 10 of those questions; after the jump, I tackle 10 more — email the answers to your boyfriends, brothers, or anyone you think would benefit from a little insight into the female psyche. Keep reading »
Have you ever wondered if people who are blind can experience “love at first sight” without being able to see? Well, Damon Rose, who is blind, writes in an article for BBC News, that they can, but with different criteria. It’s more like “first listen” than “first sight” when it comes to attraction, and voices can communicate everything from humor and intelligence to quirkiness and attitude. If you have a gross, croaky voice, well, good luck finding love.
But don’t think that just because they can’t see, blind people aren’t as shallow as the rest of us when it comes to looks. Rose writes that when he and his male classmates at a boarding school for blind children heard that the new girl was blond, she instantly became attractive in their minds simply because flaxen-haired women are classified in society’s “hot” category. Instantly, this girl became popular, and all the boys wanted her despite not knowing whether she looked like Blake Lively or Brooke Hogan. When one of Rose’s blind friends was told that the girl he was totally into was a dog, he dumped her. Apparently, superficiality doesn’t discriminate. It’s an ailment from which we all suffer. [BBC] Keep reading »
Earlier this week, New York Times columnist, Ross Douthat, wrote an op-ed piece about how feminism has made women increasingly unhappy over the last 30 years. Despite being wealthier, healthier and better educated than they were a generation ago, women in post-feminist America aren’t as happy as they used to be. He suggested this may have something to do with the number of women “stuck raising kids alone,” a “depressing” lifestyle that’s much more common among women in the lower socioeconomic class. This hardly explains why so many wealthy women in East Hampton are so miserable, though, Douthat admits. He suggests women’s unhappiness may have something to do with their politics — maybe women “prefer egalitarian, low-risk societies, and the cowboy capitalism of the Reagan era had an anxiety-inducing effect on the American female,” he writes. Um, sure. Or, it could also be the famous “second shift,” Douthat offers, “in which women continue to do the lion’s share of household chores even as they’re handed more and more workplace responsibility.” Hmm, you think? And whose fault is it that women continue doing the lion’s share of household chores? Is it possible that women, who have more options now than ever, are making the wrong choices, creating their own unhappiness?
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Whether you’re getting married or have decided to live in (gasp!) sin, the decision to cohabitate is one of the most nerve-wracking, potentially fight-provoking, all-around-scariest things you will do as a couple. Here are some pitfalls to avoid:
1. The Money-Saver Move-In: The recession is kicking everyone’s ass, but if the major reasoning behind your decision to shack up is to save money, don’t. Living together, while fun, is also hard work and you’re going to need a big fat love connection when things get rough. Keep reading »