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I’m Jealous Of His Female Friends

My boyfriend has lots of friends who are girls. Likewise, I have tons of friends who are guys. The problem is both of us are slightly jealous people, but neither one of us wants to give up our friends first. What should we do? Read more Keep reading »

Ask The Astrosexologist: “Can I Convince A Stubborn Taurus To Move?”

I’m a Gemini (Capricorn rising, Scorpio moon) in a long-distance relationship with a Taurus man (5/2/80). We have incredible chemistry and have been together just over a year, six months of which we lived in the same town before I left to pursue a Masters and PhD . He works in my hometown and has lived in the city where I’m studying before, but had a bad experience with an ex, as well as trouble finding work in his field here. He seems to be carrying around a lot of baggage about that period in his life. He says he wants to be with me, just preferably not in this city. I love him, but I really hate the distance — and though I haven’t cheated, I am starting to find being faithful rather difficult.

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Does A Boring Sex Life Give A Guy The Right To Cheat?

Standing by the side of an unfaithful husband may get you some shaking heads of disapproval, but it still happens all the time.

So when Silda Wall held herself responsible for her husband Eliot Spitzer’s extramarital affair with a hooker, we got kind of riled up. Sure, it takes two for a marriage to work — but Wall shouldered all the blame for Spitzer’s behavior, saying that she hadn’t been “adequate in taking care of the sex.” Which we presume to mean “keeping him happy in bed.”

So we asked you: Does lackluster (or a lack of) sex give a guy the right to stray? Read more Keep reading »

Debate This: Should You Invite Your Ex To Your Wedding?

OMG, you guys. Katy Perry and Russell Brand have hit a bit of a snafu in planning their wedding. According to “sources,” Katy wants to invite her ex, Travis McCoy of Gym Class Heroes, to the wedding. Russell is like, “Hell no, girl.” What to do?! Luckily, we investigated this important issue a few months ago, asking two women for their opinions on the subject. Katy and Russell. Take notes. Keep reading »

Questions For Our Mothers: Jessica’s Mom

In honor of Mother’s Day, we’re interviewing our moms to find out how their lives changed when we were born and what they learned about love and life as a parent. First up, Jessica’s mom.

In 2010, “blended families” — from death or divorce (or multiple divorces, as in Donald Trump’s household) — are extremely mainstream. Back in the ’70s and early ’80s, I’m not sure they were too common at all. Though it has not always been easy, that’s been the case for the Wakeman family: At just 28 years old, my father became a widower with three little girls. But lucky for me, a few years later my dad married my mom and she adopted his kids, my beloved older half-sisters, Catherine, Joanna and Allison. Then, together, Mom and Dad had my older brother, Christian, and me.

In our interview for this Mother’s Day series, Mom explained to me what it was like for her to become an “instant mother” and then have two more biological children of her own. She even shared the scandalous revelation that her pregnancy with me was “a surprise.”

I must say, Mom is so effusively proud of me that it makes me think she doesn’t actually read too much of my stuff on The Frisky. (What a relief …) Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “Is it Shallow To Want A Unique Engagement Ring?”

I have been dating my boyfriend for three years and we have lived together for two. Recently, we have been talking seriously about getting married, and I’m 99 percent sure he’s planning to propose soon. I decided that what I really want is an antique engagement ring, preferably something one-of-a-kind. I know my boyfriend is the type of man who will more than likely pick out something from the mall jewelry store the day before he plans to propose so I have been dropping hints (maybe too many) that I don’t want a mass manufactured ring that everyone else could get. As a result he recently got angry with me and told me that he was sick of me trying to “pick out my own ring” and now he feels like whatever he gets will not be “good enough for me” because I have so many “dream rings” picked out. I really was just trying to help but now he apparently thinks that I’m shallow. I just feel like if I’m going to be wearing the ring for the rest of my life I want it to be really special. Am I shallow? How do I fix this? — One-of-a-Kind

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9 Things I’ve Learned One Year Into A Relationship

I used to have an expiration date, like eggs or 2% milk. Nine months was my limit; nine months of dating and then a guy gave me my walking papers. But tomorrow will be one year since my boyfriend and I met each other at a birthday party and sometime in the next couple of weeks, we will have been dating for one year.

This whole experience has definitely been weird for me: I’d been single for the past two years and now I share a sock drawer and a toothbrush holder with someone. I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how much things have changed in the last year:

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365 Days In Paris: Summer Planning

“Hi honeeeyyy! So have you talked to your sister about July?”

“Mom, what? What’s happening in July?”

“You’re coming home. You and your sister are going to come up to Maine.”

“Uh, we are?”

I shouldn’t have been surprised when talking on the phone with my mother last week because stuff like this is typical mom-behavior. You know, telling you what to do, or making plans and then “informing” you of them, rather than scheduling them. Ever since I knew I might stay in Paris for a few extra months, I also knew I’d probably want to make a trip home at some point, but hadn’t gotten that far yet. With my mom on my back about July—not a month I would have picked for travel to the U.S.—it’s started to remind me of this weird relationship space I’m entering with my parents, one that I don’t know how to negotiate yet. Keep reading »

For The Week Of May 3-10, 2010

Virgo (August 23 – September 22)

When it comes to love, you can’t think with boundaries. Sharing is caring and if you want it to go to the next step, you’re going to have to open yourself up more and give, no matter how scary it might feel. Sometimes placing the bets without caring about the odds is the only way you can play to win.

Libra (September 23 – October 22)

Boink this week away. It’s your best time to reignite the sparks with your baby. No matter what your schedule is, clear it. Now is when the hot bed of starry action will be shining down upon you. Trust this little foray into XXX-ville will be so hot it’ll leave you feeling so sexy. Nothing else could compare in confidence-boosting energy.

Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)

Trying to be perfect to impress that certain someone will go awry this week, as no one can keep up that kind of façade too long. Plus, it’s just not sexy. So, as things falls apart, putting you into a disturbed state of mind, don’t get caught up in trying to paint on a happy face. Just go with it. Right now it’s showing your vulnerabilities that’ll make so-and-so hot for you.

Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)

Get ready for several rounds of petty arguments and little annoyances that’ll make you want to slam-dunk your honey into the garbage disposal and hit mince. To say the least, power struggles will be running rampant, throwing you two on the opposite ends of logic. Thankfully, these will all be small and ridiculous fights but nonetheless aggravating, so prepare!

Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)

What goes up will go down, as in your week will start off high and end up low — but not necessarily low in a bad way. You’ll just feel wiped and ready to veg. Whatever the case may be, feel free to take some couch potato time with the one you love. Those daily routines this week will be your most romantic.

Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)

Domestic issues hit a whole new level, as this week it’ll be about organizing and getting priorities in order, as in getting both of you pulling equal weight or reconsidering what to do next. Seems the crossroads you hit won’t be so easy to solve, as really being honest with yourself and emotions now will be hard to run from.

Pisces (February 19 – March 20)

Communications are going to be messy. So don’t expect to hear anything back quickly and especially don’t say anything that you aren’t 100 percent certain about. There might be no way to avoid mishaps, but there is a way to deter them from going to the extremes. If anything, do play nice all week as best you can.

Aries (March 21 – April 19)

Self-doubt plagues everyone, but it doesn’t have to be a bad thing. Take this time to look at all your plans and seal them from leaking into failure, by reworking the details. As it goes, a gal like you needs reminders to slow down every so often, and this week, if you do try to go too fast, you will only find dead ends.

Taurus (April 20 – May 20)

You have arms and legs. It’s time to use them! Who cares if there is confusion in the air that isn’t going away easily? As long as you physically get yourself moving and put the analyzing on the backburner, all will be fine. Yes, hit the town! Dance till dawn! Once you get some festivity into your bones, you’ll be better tuned into the invincibleness in you.

Gemini (May 21 – June 20)

The past will try to come back to haunt you, but you don’t have to take it lying down. You’ve been through enough to know that whatever resurfaces no longer has a power over you and you don’t owe it anything. As it goes, you’re free – free to love and free to hate whom you want. If it’s the latter, well, time to school them that karma is a bitch.

Cancer (June 21 – July 22)

If you’re not OK with the condescending comments someone is spewing at you, don’t shrug them off. The bitchiness is there and there is no reason you need to take it. Call the shots, because if you try to sweep this under the rug, it’ll only make you seethe more and kill your buzz, which is the one thing you feel you have going for you right now.

Leo (July 23 – August 22)

Just as you feel you are taking three steps forward, something will happen to make you feel like you are taking two steps back. But don’t fret! You aren’t; it’s all a state of mind. Let things sink in before making your judgments, because not all will be quite as it seems. In the end it will work out in your favor.

Love Vandal: Fortress Of Feelings

Writer Judy McGuire snapped this scrawled on the wall of an ancient fort while sightseeing in Puerto Rico. Apparently it translates to: “Jumaris: I want to know what sets your heart on fire so that I can be that and more. I love you, Jose.”

Have you seen graffiti that’s kind of sweet (even if it is against the law)? Send your pic to Keep reading »

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