Have you ever wondered if people who are blind can experience “love at first sight” without being able to see? Well, Damon Rose, who is blind, writes in an article for BBC News, that they can, but with different criteria. It’s more like “first listen” than “first sight” when it comes to attraction, and voices can communicate everything from humor and intelligence to quirkiness and attitude. If you have a gross, croaky voice, well, good luck finding love.
But don’t think that just because they can’t see, blind people aren’t as shallow as the rest of us when it comes to looks. Rose writes that when he and his male classmates at a boarding school for blind children heard that the new girl was blond, she instantly became attractive in their minds simply because flaxen-haired women are classified in society’s “hot” category. Instantly, this girl became popular, and all the boys wanted her despite not knowing whether she looked like Blake Lively or Brooke Hogan. When one of Rose’s blind friends was told that the girl he was totally into was a dog, he dumped her. Apparently, superficiality doesn’t discriminate. It’s an ailment from which we all suffer. [BBC] Keep reading »
Earlier this week, New York Times columnist, Ross Douthat, wrote an op-ed piece about how feminism has made women increasingly unhappy over the last 30 years. Despite being wealthier, healthier and better educated than they were a generation ago, women in post-feminist America aren’t as happy as they used to be. He suggested this may have something to do with the number of women “stuck raising kids alone,” a “depressing” lifestyle that’s much more common among women in the lower socioeconomic class. This hardly explains why so many wealthy women in East Hampton are so miserable, though, Douthat admits. He suggests women’s unhappiness may have something to do with their politics — maybe women “prefer egalitarian, low-risk societies, and the cowboy capitalism of the Reagan era had an anxiety-inducing effect on the American female,” he writes. Um, sure. Or, it could also be the famous “second shift,” Douthat offers, “in which women continue to do the lion’s share of household chores even as they’re handed more and more workplace responsibility.” Hmm, you think? And whose fault is it that women continue doing the lion’s share of household chores? Is it possible that women, who have more options now than ever, are making the wrong choices, creating their own unhappiness?
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Whether you’re getting married or have decided to live in (gasp!) sin, the decision to cohabitate is one of the most nerve-wracking, potentially fight-provoking, all-around-scariest things you will do as a couple. Here are some pitfalls to avoid:
1. The Money-Saver Move-In: The recession is kicking everyone’s ass, but if the major reasoning behind your decision to shack up is to save money, don’t. Living together, while fun, is also hard work and you’re going to need a big fat love connection when things get rough. Keep reading »
When it comes to dating, what many women would see as charming, I find repulsive. From nauseating nick-names to gag-worthy gifts, I’m often left wondering, Is this guy for real? While I love a caring man, I also love my space. Sometimes, sweet becomes just a little bit too sweet (yes, it’s possible for a guy to be too clingy). Is the new guy you’re dating cute, or is his behavior so sweet it’s mildly repulsive? Find out after the jump.
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Sex sells and Madonna’s made 500 million bucks at it. But even M, one of the most lusted after women in the world and is the author of a porn tome simply called Sex, can get the brush off by a boy toy. In a recent interview, Jesus Luz, Madonna’s supposed future husband, said, “She is my friend, just a friend.” As if! Haven’t we all heard the “just friends” line once or twice? There’s plenty of bad news we’d rather hear from a guy that’s seen us naked than that kinda of buddy line. A bunch of not-so-hot things we’d rather hear from guy, after the jump…
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We’re sick of shopping metaphors being used to explain dating. Maybe it’s because we watched way too much “Sex and the City” back in the day and grew tired of the comparisons, but we don’t see how men are anything like purses, shoes, jewelry, or little black dresses. Author Janice Lieberman does just this in her new book, How to Shop for A Husband, in which the guy equivalent of the LBD is the PGHM, or “perfectly good husband material.” Barf. If finding a date were anything akin to scoring a mint-condition vintage bag on eBay, we’d have triumphed ages ago. [Today] Keep reading »
Last week the site Truth Merchants posted a long article that shed light on some of the many things that confuse women about men. (Don’t understand why guys ask for your phone number only to text or email, never call you? Check out the article for an explanation.). We figured there were probably just as many men who are as confused by women’s behavior as we are by theirs, so we asked a bunch of guys what they’d like answered about us and our inbox was flooded with questions. After the jump, I tackle 10 of those questions — feel free to email the answers to your boyfriends, brothers, guy friends or anyone you think would benefit from a little insight into the female psyche, and be sure to check back tomorrow when I tackle 10 more pressing questions about why we women are the way we are. Keep reading »
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