Category Archives: Relationships

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4 Life Lessons From An Ugly Duckling

Life Lessons Since HS
The things we've learned about life since high school. Read More »
You Are Beautiful
Here are 50 reasons why. Read More »

I was not a super cute kid, and my awkward phase lasted from second grade to sometime around my sophomore year of college. In elementary school I was chubby with scraggly blond hair. In high school I had low self-esteem and a pretty intense case of dandruff. When I was younger getting called fat and ugly was a daily occurrence, and it was very rare for anyone who wasn’t my grandmother to comment on my appearance in a positive way (and even she got her jabs in every once in awhile).

Looking back, I’m not sure if I was actually so hideous, but I certainly felt like an ugly duckling, and one thing’s for sure: the word “beautiful” never figured into my identity. It took a long time for me to finally feel like a swan. Here are a few life lessons I learned along the way… Keep reading »

“Linsanity” & Our Squicky Relationship With Asian-American Male Sexuality

ESPN's Lin Headline
Jeremy Lin photo
An xoJane blogger defended the ESPN journalist who got fired. Read More »
Topless Basketball?
Dennis Rodman is launching a topless women's b-ball team. Read More »
An $1,800 Sports Bra
You probably don't need it. Read More »
Jeremy Lin photo

Jeremy Lin is not just the basketball player who has launched a thousand bad “Lin” puns — and prompted a refresher course on why the word “chink” is unacceptable for an ESPN headline.

His sudden emergence in pop culture has also underscored how strangely acceptable it is in America to make make racial comments about Asians, whether they are considered complimentary (like “all Asians are good at math” or “all Asian women are hot”) or insulting (like “Asian men are not sexy.”)

The thing is, if you’ve never seen an attractive, sexy Asian man, you probably ought to check either your eyes or your prejudices — like all hot men, they’ve been all around us all along.
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Girl Talk: Please Don’t Invite Me To Your Pity Party

Dear Wendy
Uh oh, this writer is having a quarter-life crisis. Read More »
Ex Sex
Ex sex helped this woman get over her ex. Read More »
Spot A Midlife Crisis
How to spot a man going through a midlife crisis. Read More »

Anyone who thinks that women are the needy gender when it comes to Valentine’s Day was not up in my inbox on this particular Hallmark holiday.

Without fail I receive three phone calls on the special day, whether or not I am in a relationship. One call comes from my mother — who, like Viola Davis bolstering the egos of pudgy babies in “The Help” —reminds me that I am smart, pretty and have an OK job.

One of my girlfriends inevitably calls to wail about her douche boyfriend/lack of a douche boyfriend.

And without fail, at least one ex-boyfriend will leave a voicemail just saying, “Hey.” Keep reading »

First Time For Everything: A Televised First Kiss

Dating Basics
5 ways to get back to dating basics. Read More »
How NOT To Kiss
The worst smooches ever. Read More »
First Moves
One guy talks about making the first move. Read More »

The other night I went on a date. I was following my own advice about getting back to dating basics, and thought it would be a good idea to invite my date to a live taping of a game show that I was offered tickets to. Perfect. A date where we could just have some good, clean fun. Three minutes in the door and the woman checking us in, who I should mention had a raging herpes outbreak on her lip, asked: “Are you a couple?”  Keep reading »

Girl Talk: My Date Told Me To Wear More Makeup

He Told Me To Lose Weight
When he told me to lose weight, I got rid of him. Read More »
Online Dating Lies
Here's some of the whoppers people use in their profile. Read More »

A few months ago, I went on two dates with a guy I met on the online dating site OKCupid. We emailed and talked a bit before the first; I was looking forward to meeting him and wanted to look good. I usually date people I’m friends with first, so the blind date aspect of online dating makes me want to put forward a greater first impression. Keep reading »

Astrology 101: The Bad Side Of Each Sign

Every astrological sign has good and bad qualities. Last week we gave you seven glowing compliments about each sign. This week, do you dare to read about your bad qualities? Just as astrology can be a warm and fuzzy reminder about how awesome we are, it also gives us a chance to reflect on the things we might want to improve on. If you think you can handle it, click through to check out the top three not-so-nice things about each sign…

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