Ever since seeing the trailer for “Friends With Kids” we’ve been excited to see the romantic comedy starring some of our favorite actors and actresses from Bridesmaids: Jon Hamm, Kristen Wiig, Maya Rudolph, and Chris O’Dowd. And now the wait’s over, as Friends With Kids hit theaters Friday! The movie’s about two friends (played by Adam Scott and Jennifer Westfeldt) deciding to have a child together without a romantic relationship. And even though it features a hilarious cast, this isn’t your typical lighthearted comedy, thanks in big part to the relationships possibly hitting close to home. Since the couple dynamics and struggles are pretty realistic — showing both the good and the bad sides of marriage, dating, and parenting (writer/directorJennifer Westfeldt explains her inspiration here) — there are many relationship lessons you can glean from the film. So check out 10 relationship dos and don’ts from “Friends With Kids” now. Minor spoilers ahead! Read more…
We’ve all planned dates and meetups with friends — but what about sexytimes? An article by “life intimacy coach” Kim Anami suggests that if you really want to maintain a sense of intimacy with your partner, you better get your iCals synced. “Knowing what we know about the power of sex to energize and uplift, mind, body and soul, it’s important to prioritize it in our lives,” says Anami. “To schedule it even.” In her practice as a couples counselor, she often recommends that couples designate certain times of the week as sex time. And she recommends that couples spend at least three hours per week having sex. Keep reading »
This weekend, The New York Post printed an op-ed titled “A warning to a new generation of women — don’t let ‘Sex and the City’ ruin your life,” written by “internet celebrity” Julia Allison and her friend Julia Price. At first I was like “huh,” and then I skimmed it and was like “UGH,” and then I read it and found it all sorts of horrifying and insulting and wrong.
The overall problem I find with their open letter to “women” — besides the fact that it’s referencing a TV show that ended eight years ago about women twice the age of most college grads — is that it speaks to a demographic I hardly ever encountered in NYC. Are there tube-top dress wearing, Pink Elephant frequenting, banker-flirting women in NY? Sure. Are most of the women living/moving to the city only interested in those things? NO. So please allow me to speak to the rest of the female population who might also feel slighted or offended by the Julias’ out-of-touch words of “wisdom.” Keep reading »
There are lots of things one should not do in college, such as eat ramen noodles for every meal 16 weeks straight, but that does not stop most of us from doing it anyway. Several colleges are trying to put the kibosh on at least one at-times ill-advised decision: a ban on professors banging their students. The New York Post reported this weekend that the City University of New York (CUNY) has proposed a tightening of its sexual harassment policy to ban sexual relationships between professors and “students for whom they have professional responsibility.” Teacher/student hookups are currently “strongly discouraged” in the policy, but the faculty senate and legal counsel both say they should be banned. Columbia University, also in New York, is finalizing a similar ban on professor/student relationships this month. Keep reading »
Last week, my mom and I were on one of our regular “dates,” headed to see the Dead Sea Scrolls exhibit at Discovery Times Square. Times Square is definitely an area of NYC that most New Yorkers try to avoid unless necessary — it’s overrun with tourists, who make it difficult to get to your destination. I figured I’d get over the annoyance, like I usually do. Boy was I wrong!
As we made our way across a busy and crowded 45th Street, a woman about my age shoved me out of her way. Without thinking, I shoved her back. And she shoved me again. At this point — and I’m assuming here, as I don’t remember consciously making any of the decisions that follow — I reached out for her with my right hand and began swinging my rather large and heavy handbag at her head. I don’t recall deciding to hit her with my bag; I just remember seeing my bag fly at her head and thinking: Oh, good idea! Keep reading »
There are some basic things women feel are the most important qualities a man must have when looking for a mate. Things like a sense of humor, must be attractive (to that woman), some smarts, and of course together you must have that spark to ignite the bed sheets into a smoldering pile of hot sexiness.
But there are other things us women want that we may not readily admit to yet can be a dealbreaker. I asked many women from all over the country about what they really want in a man. Some of these qualities may surprise some men, but I think all of us ladies have at least some of these on our “list.” Read more…