Sometimes when I am sitting in a Starbucks on my lunch break, I will remember sitting there with Joey* nine years ago. I will see my 20-something self a few tables over, leaning forward towards him, my cheeks flushed. I will see my hands flailing through the air as I talk to him about my acting classes and ideas I have for future projects. I will see him looking sideways at me, biting his bottom lip, trying not to smile.
Sometimes when I find myself in the subway station a block from where he used to live, I will feel my feet hitting the concrete of the platform, and imagine his feet tracing those same steps over and over again on his daily routine. I will walk through his neighborhood and picture us walking together, our bodies so close I could feel the heat pass between our arms, but not quite letting them touch. Keep reading »
Here’s how the almost 2,000 people arrested in Chatham-Kent, Ontario this year break down by zodiac sign. It looks like Aries are the official criminals of the zodiac according to the stats. An astrologer suggests that this is because Aries dive into everything head first and love adventure. And in case you were thinking Sagittarius were goody goodies, forget it. Those smooth Sags know how to avoid getting caught. [I Love Charts]
When I look back at all the relationships that didn’t work out (that I so wanted to at the time), I realize that in every case, there were early warning signs that each guy gave me that could have given me some idea of the heartbreak I was about to experience if I had only been aware of what to look for. To spare you from what happened to me, to give you the inside scoop on what you can be on the lookout for, here’s my list of the warning signs that clearly let you know that this is a guy to avoid if it’s a real relationship you’re looking for. Keep reading »
Capricorn (December 22-January 19): You made it this far, so be happy and just enjoy the view. There is nothing that should be pressing hard on you in terms of responsibility, so don’t stir up trouble unnecessarily. If you do have to keep busy somehow, think recreationally. In time, the tables will turn and you’ll be ready, set and in motion once again, but for now, while you can, stop and smell the roses.
Aquarius (January 20-February 19): This year will bring a lot of crazy twists and turns, so to get a head start on changing it all up, think from the outside in, and work on the superficial aspects of your life, tweaking all to perfection. This can mean making yourself, your home or your man over. No matter what, it’s all about the pretty now, so make it work at maximum levels. Keep reading »
Every year, the majority of us — stemming from the most noble of intentions, or the most nauseating of eggnog overindulgence — declare our desire to start anew and totally revise our lives. For most of us, though, Groundhog Day brings not just an excuse to settle in with a Bill Murray movie, but the milestone of having let ourselves down once more. And yet by the time the ball drops anew in Times Square ten months later, we’re happily preparing to drop our own ball all over again.
What would it take to make our resolutions stick? Psychological research on goal-setting and achievement has a lot to teach us: they need be the right balance of realistic and challenging, and we need to have clear, specific pathways to reach them. We also are better off focusing on only one or two resolutions rather than attempting the equivalent of a floor-to-ceiling structural renovation of our inner selves. Sound too complicated? Here’s how to give the most common resolutions a psychological makeover, after the jump… Keep reading »