Coming out of the closet is like having a gay bat mitzvah. It’s a rite of passage during an awkward era of your life full of questionable fashion choices and uncomfortable self-discovery until you say some things in front of a bunch of people and suddenly find yourself with a new status in society.
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With things mostly calm here in my world, I thought this week might be a good one for a recap, and with it, some additional stories that haven’t always fit into my weekly columns since I started seeing The Bartender.
I noticed that there seem to be some misunderstandings about how much time… More »
Oh, Reddit. One could get lost on there for days. Most of the time you’re just watching cat videos or looking for the most ridiculous answers on Ask Reddits questions, but other times you come across true gems.
Take, for example, this short and true story by Redditor InsaneRN. When he found out his wife was cheating… More »
When you need a nice, smooth whiskey after the long work week or when your girlfriend has been stressing you out and you need to talk about anything — anything! — other than your relationship, your buddies are there for you. While you may not be tagging them in Instagram posts as you #besties, your… More »
Look, I get it — relationships get stale. You’ve been together for, like, 56 years, and it can feel as though you’ve both seen all there is to see. He’s walked in on you peeing. You’ve witnessed him shaving his manhood. He’s heard you singing Adele into your hairbrush. You found his secret stash of… More »
How do I rekindle the flame?! More »
There is nothing worse than being in a relationship with a man who only thinks about himself. You know this guy, he’s the one who constantly needs attention; whose ego is bruised at the slightest criticism; who always needs to get his way whether it’s by picking the restaurant or deciding which side of the bed… More »
When The Weather Girls wrote their hit ’80s song “It’s Raining Men,” I believe they were preemptively singing about my first Summer in San Francisco. I had just graduated and moved to the city. I had great girlfriends and a cool new job but absolutely zero love life. After the initial thrill of being a… More »
It’s about time I admitted something that you probably already knew or guessed: This column has an undeniable impact on my dating life. More »
“Single and ready to mingle”? Please. Being single is so much more complex and unpredictable than that. More »
Have you ever wondered if the way you act makes women cringe? Have you ever worried that your behavior might be making them run in the other direction?
Just as women are attracted to certain archetypal men, there are other types of men that women go out of their way to avoid. And… More »
One night during my junior year of college, I found myself sobbing in the closet of my dorm room. In the middle of coming to terms with a childhood of sexual abuse and recent date rape, I was full of intense emotions that were often visceral and always intense. That night, I refused to come… More »
Whether it’s on a platonic or romantic level, we’re often attracted to people who make us laugh. And yet comedians have gotten a consistently bad reputation for bombing in relationships. If you’ve sat through even part of a comedy show, you’d know that comedians might be their own category of snowflakes, but they’re all still different. Being similarly sucky at relationships… More »
“Do you think I’m the kind of person who can pull off saying the word ‘lover’?” I ask my husband over coffee one Thursday morning a few weeks ago. I am sitting on the couch in my underwear, watching him flip casually through his phone. He is probably checking the OKCupid app, seeing if any… More »
Slated to open in May, the idea was inspired by the original Museum of Broken Relationships in Zagrab, Croatia, which was started in 2003 by the artists Olinka Vištica and Dražen Grubišić after the dissolution of their two year relationship. More »
This week’s trip to The Bartender’s city has been a little more fraught than most.
As we work on settling into “normal” life, despite one of us more or less always being “on vacation” in the other’s city when we see each other, we’ve both started trying to build some personal time into… More »
I bet you didn’t think there was anything good about getting cheated on, huh?
I know what you’re thinking… how could I possibly learn anything from getting cheated on? You can though. Take it from me… the minute you get passed the fact that he cheated on you, you’re able to see the beauty in… More »
A hashtag called #UnhingedDatingTips has emerged on Twitter and we could all stand to learn a thing or two from it. Put on your sarcasm goggles because you’re going to be reading through a lot of it. And if any of these dating “tips” seem like a good idea to you, well you might be… More »
Well, since you’re here, we know that she’s better at flirting and dating than you are.
I was being sarcastic, of course. I know you’ve mastered the art of flirting and dating, but just in case you were curious here are six reasons why sarcastic women are better at flirting and dating. Let’s… More »