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True Story: Unfriending My Ex-Boyfriend On Facebook Was One Of The Most Empowering Choices I’ve Ever Made

Unfriend Him Already!
6 lame excuses for not unfriending your ex on Facebook. Read More »
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How to do it with minimal drama. Read More »
FB Types To Unfriend
Eight types of people who are too negative to be your Facebook friend. Read More »

I did it. I actually did it.

What may sound unsubstantial, I experienced with a great deal of deliberation ending in elation. I felt heroic even. What I had always imagined was simple for others felt practically impossible to me. Yes, I’m talking about the ex-boyfriend unfriend. Keep reading »

10 Signs You’re Hosting A Pity Party (In GIFs!)

Ever have a bad day? Maybe someone cut you off on the way to work, your favorite show was canceled, the last cookie in the jar was covered in mold, or you broke a bone on vacation (sigh, that would be me). Whatever it is, it’s healthy to acknowledge what’s bothering you, but don’t linger there too long. Take a few minutes to sing the blues and move on, or you may find yourself hosting a sad, pathetic pity party for one. Keep reading »

Sorry, But There’s No Age Limit To Going Topless

No Age Limit On Top Less

Fashion mogul Diane von Furstenberg told NYMag.com’s The Cut that women over a certain age should not go sans shirt. The site asked what she thought about Instagram’s policy on female nudity, which has been debated heavily lately after Scout Willis went topless in New York to protest the app’s banning of female breasts. Read more on The Gloss…

Piercing A Baby’s Ears Is Not Child Abuse

Baby Girl With Earrings

I am a mother of sons. I do not have any daughters. I recognize that it is a cultural norm to pierce women’s ears, especially young girls as infants. If I had a daughter, you better believe I would carry her right into Claire’s Boutique and pop a few shiny gold studs into her baby ears. I’ve also toyed with the idea of piercing both of my sons’ ears, but unfortunately, ‘N Sync caused that trend to crash and burn for men in the late ’90s. I’m mostly kidding, but I still don’t consider piercing a baby’s ears, regardless of gender, to be child abuse. Read more on The Gloss…

 

Dater X: Getting Over The “What Ifs”

Dater X: Getting Over The "What Ifs"
Dater X: What If...?
Dater X: What Ifs
Dater X is dating a guy she likes, but should she be open to other men? Read More »

I’m sure you’re all wondering what happened with the whole Andrew/Marky Mark situation, and I’m going to get to that—I promise. But before I do, I want to thank those of you who left insightful, kind, constructive criticism about my dilemma on last week’s Dater X post. While some opinions were a bit harsh (damn, y’all, I have feelings), I still read all of your advice, followed my heart, and was able to approach the situation having really, really thought about what my actions might mean. Your feedback also forced me to dissect my feelings for Andrew and look at the possible implications of what might happen if I followed through with meeting Marky Mark. You may or may not agree with how things played out, but at the end of the day, the only person I have to answer to is myself. Keep reading »

An Open Letter To The Gawker Essayist Who Wrote About Dating White Women While Black

An Open Letter To The Gawker Essayist Who Wrote About Dating White Women While Black
First Black GF
Girl Talk: On Being My Black Boyfriend's First Black Girlfriend
Tiffanie Drayton on being her Black BF's first Black girlfriend. Read More »

Dear Ernest Baker,

In your recent personal essay on Gawker titled “The Reality of Dating White Women When You Are Black,” you stated unequivocally that you are not a “sell out” because you are a Black man who chooses to seriously date only White women. As a 24-year-old Black woman with very similar life circumstances, I can assure you that after reading your piece — although you may not believe that you are a “sell-out” or that you are riddled by “self hate” —the man who wrote that piece is both. Keep reading »

Dating Don’ts: The Case For Being The Third Wheel

Third Wheel Dating

I am the only person in my friend group not in a relationship, a swinging single floating in the midst of the happily coupled. Nights out are often curtailed early. Someone’s boyfriend is tired, someone else’s boyfriend has the stomach flu. One couple stayed out too late and now has to go home to rest their eyes and watch DVR’ed episodes of “Orphan Black,” together, natch.

Hanging out with couples used to make me uncomfortable. I never knew what to do when their tiny domestic disputes were laid bare in front of me at the bar. One of the most uncomfortable brunches I have ever encountered was before Christmas, with my best friend and his boyfriend. I pushed a pile of Eggs Benedict around my plate as they exchanged carefully shrouded barbs about present exchanges and quality time before the holidays. I left them standing quietly on the street in front of the restaurant, speaking in hushed tones about what to do next. Keep reading »

The Soapbox: How Talking About Maya Angelou & Her Rape Made Me A Better Mom

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It must had been in third grade that my daughter Ella was assigned a project for Black History Month. She was assigned Maya Angelou.

I was unaware of how this selection would impact my view of being a feminist mom.

We eagerly trekked to the public library to check out children’s books on Angelou. I expected the usual broad view on Angelou’s life illustrated by cute watercolors — not so much a whitewash of Angelou’s life, but one that would be generally acceptable for elementary children to read. As with any revolutionary figure, the book would have to deal with racism and discrimination. What I had not planned on was the book, if not both, to deal head on with Angelou’s rape at the age of eight by her mother’s boyfriend. Keep reading »

Frisky Rant: Sorry Kid, You’re Not The Man Of The House

Sorry Kid, You're Not The Man Of The House

A few months ago, I was having a rough time with my son. This is not unusual, as he is going through a particularly ornery stage and I am stubborn as a mule who is really good at yelling but not much else in the discipline realm. I ended up calling my parents for backup, and put them on the phone with my son as I stood in the bathroom listening to the conversation. Most of it was great. My dad was telling my son that he needs to listen to me because I’m the Mom and I have his best interests at heart and all that. But then! Then he told my son that he needed to change his behavior because he is “the man of the house,” and I “need” him to take care of me and our home. And that’s when I almost punched a hole through the wall. Keep reading »

Study: Husbands Are Happiest When Wives Earn As Much — Or More — Money

A wife bringing home the bacon isn’t the death knoll of a relationship that it has been made out to be. According to a new survey of 1,000 married couples over age 25 by MONEY magazine, husbands are actually happier when on equal financial footing with their wives. Keep reading »

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