So you’ve finally found The One (or at least The One For The Foreseeable Future) and you’ve committed to a serious relationship. Now what? In our new weekly column, Life After Dating, we’ll discuss the unique joys and challenges of coupledom.
Dear Single Friends,
We haven’t seen a lot of you lately. And when we have, there have been strained exchanges and tense subtext. We can see you stifling an eye roll when we bring up our S.O.’s name. So we stopped bringing up his name because we didn’t want to make you feel weird. That only made us feel weird.
Single friends, we’re not dead, we’re just coupled. Everything has changed, but at the same time, nothing has changed. That sounds really esoteric, but it’s not. All the little things have changed — like, we now spend Sunday mornings snuggling instead of getting a pedicure and we’re not going to be around to do orphan Thanksgiving this year. Sorry. And no, we can’t be your single wingwoman on Saturday nights. But that doesn’t mean we don’t want to hang out on Saturday night. We do. Because despite our relationship status, everything else is the same. Our friendships, especially. Keep reading »
Those of us with significant others who travel for work often spend days and weeks at a time alone. This solitude can be wonderful — control of the TV, a bed to yourself, tons of quality “me time.” What inevitably happens to us non-traveling partners is laziness. With no one watching, you end up forgetting to do some of the basics. Never fear, your jet-setting lover never has to know! Keep reading »
Of all the reasons to sue Ashley Madison, Doriana Silva certainly has an original one. The Brazilian immigrant living in Toronto is suing the dating service for married people for $20 million, claiming that she permanently damaged her wrists typing hundreds of “fake female profiles” for the site. Keep reading »
Think about it. The majority of female-centric movies — films about women and/or for women — are about the loss, pursuit of and eventual attainment of romantic love. Believe me, I love a good teary chick flick or cheesy romantic comedy, but it says something that I am surprised when a movie marketed towards women is not primarily about the main female character’s relationship with a man. And I’m surprised and delighted when that movie is instead about her relationship with other women. The following gallery of films (which is by no mean’s exhaustive!) are not necessarily entirely about female friendship, but have women’s relationships with each other at the forefront of the story. Passing the Bechdel Test with flying colors are…
Scorpio (October 23-November 21): A dream-like period is going to begin and once your brain is entrenched in it, your heart will turn into a marshmallow. Yes, on one hand, gooey and delicious, but full of empty calories too. Not that it’s always is going to be this way, just don’t stuff this hotness into your mouth too fast. Otherwise, it’ll burn. Best to blow first, devour later.
Sagittarius (November 22-December 21): You may not be able to see two feet in front of you, but it’ll hardly matter. You’ll be feeling compelled to move with life’s flow now, despite your need for security. There are tender issues to deal with and all your choices do bring great sacrifice. Of course, the one you’ll least regret is the one that makes you happy in those places you didn’t think existed. So, calm down and feel it. Keep reading »
Pregnancy may come with a whole host of unpleasant side effects, but you gotta admit, it kind of makes us seem like super heroes at times too. (Hello? You know Wonder Woman is hiding underneath that baby bump disguise you’re wearing.)
For one thing, we’re housing a human being for nine months, which is noteworthy enough as it is. But there are plenty of other things that pregnant women probably don’t give themselves enough credit for.
1. Hypnotizing men — Think about it for a second — don’t you have dudes opening doors and offering to help you out like, 100 times more than before you were preggo? It’s like some men are immediately put into a trance at the first glance of a big old belly. Discover nine more super powers on The Stir…
My mother is vindictive, controlling and outright mean. If I could list the ways she passive aggressively told me I was fat, told me my boyfriend was too stupid, too nerdy, too poor, to high maintenance, whatever—if I could count the times she’s implied I was stupid, that my only success would come with marrying a wealthy man or that what I was doing was just not good enough—I’d have a very long list. Read more on College Candy…
You grew up playing Pokémon. They grew up right along with you. Over all these years, you haven’t ever really stopped thinking about them. It never occurred to you before, but – you know what? Pokémon are fun. Pokémon are easygoing. Pokémon are sexy (look, just go with it). Pokémon know you, and you know Pokémon.
Pocket monsters are total relationship material. But which one is right for you?
DISCLAIMER: We’re narrowing our scope to the original 151 species because a) we are old and b) dear sweet Jesus why are there so many Pokémon now? Lighten up, nerds. Keep reading »
There’s probably never been a time in your adult life where a potential partner has turned you away because you’re too young — or too old. In a lot of ways, it makes the mystery of love all the more elusive: Does it really know no bounds? Is it really just a number?
The answer is, according to the men in the room, a resounding Yes: Love, when it comes to dudes, really does know no limits — and it really is just a number. Except, of course, for one teensy, tiny exception (that you actually won’t believe). Read more on Your Tango…
When I started dating at age 13, I approached relationships completely unaware that I could and would fall—and with faith that, if I did, the net below would catch me. I put all of my trust in the boys I gave my heart to, and was blindsided again and again when, despite my total devotion, they didn’t love me the way I deserved to be loved.
And it wasn’t just men. Fair-weather friends also disillusioned me. I didn’t truly understand that being a devoted friend or girlfriend didn’t guarantee that others would act in kind. Instead of becoming hip to the ways of people who would mistreat me and avoiding them accordingly, I retreated into myself and tried unsuccessfully to block out potential sources of pain. Read more on Your Tango…