I was in an online networking group, for a while, in which there coincidentally happened to be many, many children of narcissistic parents, mothers especially. Well, either it was a coincidence, or there are more narcissistic parents in the world than one would imagine. It sounds horrible. Apparently, narcissistic parents rely on their children for their own self-esteem, keep their kids possessively close to them, and then when the child starts to branch out and become independent, the parent gets jealous. It can be, and apparently often is, abusive. It leaves those children with a lot of baggage. (The link above has good information and resources for adult children of narcissistic parents.)
It got me thinking, though: My mom is kind of awesome. Well, no, she just is awesome. During the conversations about narcissistic mothers in that networking group, I’d just think, “I should probably show myself out.” I didn’t want to rub my awesome mom in the faces of people who struggled with their mothers. Keep reading »
We still have seven months until our wedding, but I can’t help but wonder about our guests: how they’ll act, what their reactions will be, how they’ll get along. I’ve been to enough weddings to know that there are bound to be certain people who emerge in some pretty standard guest roles, especially when you have representatives from all different aspects of your life in one room. Rather than let ourselves be caught off-guard, my fiancé and I are mentally preparing ourselves for the following people to, um, grace us with their presences. Keep reading »
This January, every single season and episode of “Friends” will be available on Netflix, giving us all 236 perfect excuses to hibernate in bed and never leave the house. But for those of you who don’t have over 7,000 hours to kill binge watching the gang at Central Perk, we’ve put together a quick list of some of the most noteworthy relationship moments between Ross & Rachel and Chandler & Monica. Start your New Year off with a sentimental walk down Memory Lane by skipping to these episodes for some of the most memorable moments in “Friends” romance.
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Michelle Markowitz apparently had the same experience on Tinder that I had on OKCupid: Eventually, you begin to realize that not only are most of the potential matches exactly the same types of guys with the same types of baggage, they’re usually also incompatible (which is OK!), but often in a way that is borderline-if-not-definitely offensive (which is not so great). Keep reading »
Earlier this week, a friend of mine sent me an article by Mark Manson titled “Fuck Yes or No,” with a simple directive: “Read this.” Since it had the word ‘fuck’ in it, I was obviously sold, considering the F-bomb has been my favorite word since I was old enough to pronounce consonants.
The piece describes the all-too-common “grey area” of dating, where “feelings are ambiguous or one person has stronger feelings than the other.” We’ve all been there (and I can admit when I’m guilty). But according to Manson, if you’re in the grey area to begin with, you’ve already lost. To help assure you that you’re entering into an equally beneficial and enthusiastic partnership, Manson says you should apply “The Law Of Fuck Yes Or No” (TLOFYON) to each and every romantic situation. Keep reading »
I can’t go to your holiday because I’m an introvert who has better things to do.
You wouldn’t understand because you’re not an introvert. You’re probably an extrovert, or worse, a warm, emotionally-stable person who can relate to other people.
I’m an introvert. Ask my life coach. He says I’m an introvert, which is what he would expect from a Gemini with a Cancer rising.
I didn’t choose to be an introvert. Does the shark choose to be a shark? Does the panther choose to be a panther? One of the great things about being an introvert is you can ask questions out loud and not have to worry about ever hearing an answer. Keep reading »