I’ve been doing the online dating thing for a few years now, and after having suffered through one inappropriate message that did nothing other than objectify me too many, I started explaining to men why “Holy fuck, you’re sexy” or “You’re hot” were not appropriate ways to approach strangers, be it in person or online. READ MORE »
I’m embarrassed to admit it, but with Valentine’s Day looming around the corner, I’m getting depressed about not being in a relationship. I know I shouldn’t care and I’ve been giving myself constant pep talks—I’m nice, smart and funny!—but I’m the only single person in my group of friends and it stings. What can I… READ MORE »
Valentine’s Day, a creation of the Hallmark industrial complex, is not real. Conversation hearts and boxes of waxy chocolate that serve as placeholders for the actual work of a relationship are what they look like at face value — a panacea for loneliness, a salve against the supposed void left in a life spent unattached. READ MORE »
I stole one of my favorite people in the world from an ex. They were friends first, but when we met, I knew that she was it. We immediately bonded over a love of whiskey, the United States Postal Service, and indie pop — reinforcing my idea that if this fella had such a great… READ MORE »
Unfortunately, not all romantic songs are created equal–and some, quite frankly, are pretty damned creepy. READ MORE »
After several weeks and one very disruptive snowstorm, The Bartender finally made his way to my city this weekend.
I was, of course, thrilled to host him, but I was also a bit apprehensive: having spent no more than a delirious New Year’s Eve night here together, I had no frame of reference… READ MORE »
Is he smiling at me or is that a grimace? Is she looking at me across the room or she looking at the clock above my head? READ MORE »
Here is some adorable body art that proves love is literally forever–we hope! READ MORE »
Love is a beautiful, complicated thing. True love with another should empower you in new ways as you reach deep levels of connection, understanding, and empathy with another person. But, as we all know, it’s not that easy.
Particularly after a breakup, it’s easy to be confused. Odds are things didn’t end with you… READ MORE »