In the fictional “Star Trek” universe, the Kobayashi Maru is a Starfleet Academy training exercise for those cadets who are training for command roles. Without getting in to deep with the nerdy specifics, in the simulated exercise, the Kobayashi Maru is the name of a disabled civilian vessel located in the Klingon Neutral Zone. The cadets participating in the exercise must decide whether to enter the Neutral Zone to rescue the crew of the Kobayashi Maru — violating a treaty between the Klingons and Starfleet, and risking all out war — or leave the Kobayashi Maru to certain destruction. Essentially, the exercise tests how a cadet would handle and react to a no-win scenario.
In our real lives, no-win situations arise in all facets of life — work, friendship, and, of course, dating. After the jump are five examples of the Kobayashi Maru in sex and relationships — how would you handle these no-win scenarios? Keep reading »
Spring is in the air – and in your nose. You sneeze, ooze, and actively resist the urge to claw your itching eyes out. That is, if you’re allergic like me. I cope with an assortment of antihistamines and avoidance tactics: yes, I’m totally fine NOT going outside today, or for the next three weeks! My brother jokes that he should build a portable bubble for me to live in during pollen season, and some days I really would prefer to hibernate in a hypoallergenic biosphere for the entire spring and summer. It’s just that I’m single. So I can’t. There are dates to be had.
Living with allergies, I’ve learned to avoid any of the following: cats (or people in coats covered with cat hair); shrimp, oysters, and any other annoying member of the shellfish family; fresh strawberries and apples. Damn farmer’s market! Having allergies is simply part of who I am – who needs to go apple picking anyway? But to a non-allergic person, like that Jon Hamm lookalike who asked me out, I fear coming off like a human science experiment. For highly allergic people everywhere, here’s some tips for navigating your spring/summer dates: Keep reading »
Happy Star Trek Week everyone! I have been waiting for this week to begin for months! My fellow Trekkie cohort, Winona, and I are excited to take you on our continuing mission to explore the many connections between “Star Trek” lore and sex, dating, relationships, style and feminism. As Benedict Cumberbatch in “Star Trek Into Darkness” would say, SHALL WE BEGIN?
The “Star Trek” canon is filled with a multitude of alien races with their own histories, philosophies, and personality traits, all of which lend themselves to specific dating types. So which one are you? Let’s review eight alien races and how they would be as modern daters. Which one fits your dating personality? Click on to find out and share in the comments!
Dear Gentlemen Of The World:
Hello. My name is Sara Benincasa. Pleased to meet you. I’m an author and a comedian and a human with a vagina, otherwise known as a “lady-person.” I’m about to school you in exactly how to tell a stranger lady that she is great. I’m also going to teach you how not to talk to girls you don’t know.
But first, I’d like to tell you a story. I know, women be talking, am I right? But seriously guys, listen up, for I have knowledge to share. Useful knowledge. Think of my words as tools, and your brain as a box in which to place said tools, and a mutually satisfying encounter as the project you are building with these tools.
Okay then. On to the story. Keep reading »
Taurus (April 20-May 20): You may have surrendered to a lazy sense of logic as of late, but stop freaking yourself out about it. This is exactly what the universe wants of you. If you truly want happiness, you will see that simplicity is the foundation of all and the more you take responsibility for others, the more complicated it gets. Untangle your brain, retrain their’s.
Gemini (May 21-June 20): Borderline behavior isn’t odd for you and no one will even be the wiser when you decide to take a leap off into the great unknown. There isn’t much you can sort out in the future, so don’t damn yourself by making a commitment to something you don’t care about. At the very least, changing the scenery is your lucky charm now. Keep reading »
We’ve all had those good, bad and ugly moments in our lives. We all love the good ones, and take the time to reminisce with our best friends. But then there are those bad and ugly incidents. The ones you don’t want to talk about or even think about ever again. The ones where you wish you could erase from your memory because just thinking about it makes your cringe.
Here are 10 moments no girl wants to relive. Read more on College Candy…
A new survey breaks down teenage angst by the numbers. According to the findings, in one year, the average teen girl will have 183 disagreements with her mom, 157 with her father, 257 with her siblings, and 127 with her friends, during which she’ll slam 164 doors. In addition to all the time she’ll spend fighting and slamming doors, she’ll cry a whole lot over boys. About 123 times a year to be precise. That’s a lot of Kleenex wasted on boys, if you ask me.
This survey highlights the worst about teenage girls. And yes, it’s true that they can be overly emotional, ultra dramatic and super combative. HORMONES! But as a former high school teacher at an all-girls school, I know that as irritating as teen girls can be, they also have so many amazing qualities that they don’t get enough appreciation for. My favorite things about these strange and wonderful creatures after the jump. Keep reading »
Everyone gets crushes all the time, but the way we act on them (or not) varies widely from person to person. Some people keep their crush secret for years, others confess their feelings ASAP. Some people get super nervous around their crush, others stay cool and turn on the charm. We thought it would be fun to see how the different zodiac signs handle their crushes. Read on to find out how your sign acts when you’ve got a raging crush on someone! Keep reading »
“My mother always taught me that. There was a rule in our house, no calling guys. I wasn’t allowed to call guys, they had to call me. Men like a chase.”
–Avril Lavigne shares the old-fashioned courtship tip that presumably worked wonders in her relationship with Chad Kroeger, especially since he proposed with a monster rock after just one month of dating the “Here’s To Never Growing Up” singer.
Also, you guys, I have to tell you about this photo. So, this morning I found a batch of paparazzi photos titled “Avril Lavigne Departing LAX,” and when I clicked on them, I realized that Chad Kroeger was there with her too, but had been cropped out of all the photos! He was able to photobomb his way into exactly one picture (shown above) with his more famous fiance, which I will be framing and placing above my mantle later today. Oh Chavril, never change. [Daily Mail]
Last week, I was in a conversation on Facebook in which I admitted to not liking kids. (My comment: “Real talk: I don’t actually like babies, actually, or children.”) I thought about taking it down as soon as I posted it. An hour later, I was still thinking about taking it down. No one paid much attention to the comment; it’s not really a secret among my friends that I feel this way, although one friend wrote “Yikes,” which I’m still not sure how to respond to. Nevertheless, I felt like I had crossed some serious line. I post everything I write — mostly personal essays that connect to my political beliefs — on social media. As such, this status is definitely not the first time I’ve insulted someone with my beliefs. Yet affirming my dislike of children on Facebook seemed like a whole new level of evil.
But still, I didn’t take the status down. Keep reading »