I met a guy off of a dating website recently. He is actually exactly what I’m looking for. Since we met, he has initiated most of the time we spend together. We talk about solid things — everything from weekend plans to our past relationships, families and goals. We have more in common than I ever expected. I feel great around him and happy, but the catch is he says he just wants to be friends. Although hurt, I told him it was perfectly fine because he’s a great guy and I’d love to stay friends. He looked at me and said, “Great! This means we have more opportunities to hang out — sporting events, movies, comedy shows…” and although he IS a great guy, I do have feelings for him. He totally friend-zoned me and I don’t know why. The only possibility is that he’s not physically attracted to me. I don’t know what to do; do I hang out with him and get over my feelings? Do I give him and our friendship time to see if something develops? We’ve only known each other for two months and it’s been great. I’d love to date him but he’s also admitted in the past to not wanting a relationship until he gets a few things taken care of at work, which will be this summer. What’s his deal? — Wanting More

It doesn’t matter whether you have a significant other or not, there’s no avoiding Valentine’s Day’s red roses, candy hearts, sexy lingerie, or cheesy cards (about one billion Valentine’s Day cards are sent each year, according to the Greeting Card Association). So we asked two writers whether they think the holiday is totally lame or super awesome, after the jump.

While I was in NYC, a session with my old shrink told me that I really need to—as much as I hate, hate this expression—“put myself out there” more. “It’s not wrong to want to be in a relationship,” Dr. W reasoned. “It’s unhealthy, however, if you just sit at home all the time and do nothing about it.”

A typical Saturday night for me can be summed up one of two ways: food or sex. Do I skip dinner and start drinking, adopt the “eating is cheating” adage so I can feel thin and attractive and get tipsy quicker, thus increasing the chances I’ll get naked later, or do I cave and open the box of Triscuits, resigned to an evening of stuffing my face in front of the TV and going to bed with a bloated stomach full of carbs and a phone full of sexually frustrated text messages from potential paramours? 

In honor of Valentine’s Day, there’s an article in today’s Daily Mail called “How to ... Seduce a Man,” written by the founder of the popular lingerie boutique Coco de Mer. The advice, which is really applicable to either sex, made me think of this weekend’s “Dear Wendy” column in which a reader asked me why she can’t get a date. I offered her some suggestions, but because a lot of us could use a refresher, check out some of the best tips for seducing someone (or simply getting a date)...

Valentine’s Day is the holiday of love (or crass commercialism, depending on whom you talk to). However, things can get a little bit awkward when Feb. 14 rolls around and you’ve been dating someone very casually. There’s a lot of pressure on V-Day to bring a relationship to the next level, but sometimes you’re just not ready for that.

Of course, you could fake your own death. However, you might not have access to a boat and enough dynamite to get the job done correctly. In these rare situations, you’ve got to do what you can to tone down the date itself, in order to avoid any awkwardness. Here are a few tips to help you out.

Aquarius (January 20-February 19)
Your mouth will be moving much faster than your brain or your heart, and that can lead you into some compromising positions over this week. However, no matter how ridiculous you may feel at times or how brash the comments that fly from you are, stick with it and go with it. Standing your ground and flexing your power are your hottest moves yet. CONTINUE READING >>

Every week, the gentlemen over at GuySpeak answer women’s relationship questions in guy style. Then they handpick some of their favorites and send them over to us to answer (read: fix) them in girl style. We call it GuySpeak/GirlSpeak. This week—is hooking up the best way to get over someone?

I’ve been told by several people that the best way to get over someone is to hook up with someone else. What do you think?

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I’m a Libra and he’s a Gemini. In some ways we are alike and others we are very different. We both have some anxiety, a tendency to be quite anal and organized, but I try not to let it get to me, whereas he has anxiety about it. For example, if his room isn’t clean, suddenly it will get to him and he MUST organize it. Right NOW. Things like that.

I’d like to think, however, that we’re both fun-loving and outgoing, and he just has anxiety about little things. If he loses something, he has to find it IMMEDIATELY. If he can’t find it, he replaces it immediately. I am tired of dumping out all of my stuff in my purse, duffel bag, etc., to find what he will inevitably find in five minutes with some basic searching. My deal: how do I handle him (sometimes) making a mountain out of dung?! Will he ever change? I hate picking up his anxiety and then five minutes later, he’s over it and I’m all stressed out! —Attempting to Chill

When it comes to finding a potential soul mate, getting the date is only half the battle.

These days, small talk isn’t enough to determine if someone is into you, but you can rely on more innate signs based on a person’s body language. Sure, a big, wide smile is a good starting point, but there are other telltale signs that can also tip you off as to whether your date is into you.

We’re not sure where a reader found this stenciled sidewalk, but it’s just about as cute as they come.

Have you seen graffiti that’s kind of sweet (even if it is against the law)? Send your pic to tips@thefrisky.com.

Just the other day, we shared with you the 10 tweeps (plus one!) you should follow on Twitter for all your dating advice needs. That list was pretty incredible, but we’re not done. Oh no. Twitter has too much to offer! Today, we present you with the top 10 guys you should be following on Twitter: guys who tweet about love, dating, relationships and the bro code. Because sometimes it’s nice to have that demystifying male perspective. Without further ado:

I like to think I discovered using the internet to make phone calls long before anyone else did. The year was 2000, and I was backpacking through Asia and had stopped in Calcutta, India to visit with my friend’s extended family. My friend’s cousin and I had gone out nightclubbing and when we returned to his apartment at two o’clock in the morning, he offered for us to call my friend back in San Francisco, for free. Calling from Asia was pricey enough for me to stick to email throughout most of my travels, and I envisioned us breaking Indian law when I watched him put on some headphones and sit down at his computer to make our phone call. The next thing I knew, I sat like a customer service representative with my headphones and talked to my friend while she shopped through Chinatown. After a quick laugh and a shock to her system to hear from her cousin and me, we noted that the connection wasn’t half-bad and marveled that we could chat for nothing while halfway across the world.

I was hooked.

I’m a few months away from turning 20 and I have NEVER had a relationship, serious or casual. I’ve missed out on all the dating during my high school years and I’m afraid that it’ll continue throughout my 20s unless I change something. I’ve always been open to a relationship but not to the point where I had “desperate” labeled across my forehead. I’m not looking for a husband but just someone to casually date. All my girlfriends always comment that they wish they had my personality and all my guy friends always call to do girlfriend-y type stuff (shopping for his clothes, eating out with him on his lunch breaks, etc) with me [rather] than with their own girlfriends, so what’s the deal? Physically, I’ve received flattering looks and enough compliments to at least qualify as decent-looking, I don’t have weight problems as I’m very active, and I was voted most fashionable in school, meaning I don’t go out looking like a dump. Aside from the physical aspect, I’m a great student, I am well traveled, and I can speak several languages. I’m usually very outgoing and make friends easily. I lounge around and watch sports with the guys and dress up for dinner with the girls, which is why I have just as many guy friends as I do girlfriends. To add a heaping pile of salt to my wound, my guy friends and my girlfriends’ boyfriends all say the same thing about me ... that I’m the girl guys want to have as a girlfriend. If that was the case, then why oh freaking why can’t I even remember the last time a guy asked me out on a date? Really, I’m just tired of family members trying to confirm and reconfirm that I am not a lesbian, but just unlucky. — Only the Bridesmaid

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