Poll: Would You Dump A Guy If He Showed His Buddies A Racy Photo You Sent Him?

secretsquirrel
wrote on October 17 2009 @ 08:52 am: [report]

I’m always amused by people who are offended when someone shares out their “private pics.”  It’s not ok for 15 year olds to do it and we all get up in arms about sexting, but somehow, we expect different behavior in adults.  As you said, Amelia, we want to share with our closest buddies to show off a little.  If you don’t want your pics shared out, don’t. send. them.

Oh, and here’s a thought….what happens to those pics when/if you break up?  You have no control over them at that point.  Think it through, folks.

bogart4017
wrote on October 17 2009 @ 10:29 am: [report]

You won’t have worry about getting mad if you DON’T POSE! People who carry these photos eventually show them to someone so if you’re modest keep covered when the cameras are rolling.

Laurel
wrote on October 17 2009 @ 12:39 pm: [report]

I don’t see what the big deal is. A sexy flirty photo is fun, and if your bf/gf shows it to friends it’s because s/he wants to show you off!

joyy
wrote on October 17 2009 @ 12:48 pm: [report]

My initial reaction was “hell yes”.  But then I thought about how much #&@$% it took for me to get to the point of even considering breaking up with my bf, and this just seems way too small of a thing to end years of love and shared life together over.  I mean I would be pissed, and I would find a way to make him pay/make up for it, for sure, but honestly, I would stay. 

That said, this is why I never allow nude pictures.  Ever.  Because sometimes you’re looking for pictures and have to open some random files or view thumbnails to find what you’re looking for.  Or sometimes you go to show someone a picture on your phone and they inevitably see the thumbnails.  And sometimes guys get drunk and do remarkably stupid things (I know I sure have).  If it were someone I hadn’t been dating that long, might be a different story though.

Knitter79
wrote on October 17 2009 @ 01:14 pm: [report]

It would depend on the content of the photo…if my face wasn’t in it I could always deny it was me.  Unless his friend has seen me naked, then who cares.

Coral
wrote on October 17 2009 @ 10:19 pm: [report]

I think it’s two different situations with varying degrees of consequences here. If a boyfriend shows his friends pictures that are on his phone, that’s one thing—but if he SENDS them to his friends, that is certainly another thing. And of course, it all depends on the person of whether or not that is acceptable behavior or not.

dizzy
wrote on October 17 2009 @ 10:38 pm: [report]

The point is that he didn’t ask first. Sure, other posters have rightfully noted that if you breakup you have no control over the pictures. But if he shows/sends them without asking you, that is grounds for dumping. Take it to an extreme. What if he showed them a sex tape? Your underwear? Of course, if he really wants to brag and had any sense he’d ask first. Not asking means that he knows that you would refuse and therefore he is completely disrespecting you. He’s not worth another minute of your time.

Queen Frostine
wrote on October 18 2009 @ 11:05 am: [report]

It would solely depend on the photo. Is it hot? Do I look good? Then it’s probably not an issue. I’m fairly comfortable with my body and I’ve posed nude for artistic photos before. However if it was an unflattering picture (too graphic, vulgar, I was unaware of it being taken, etc.) then I’d be upset. But I’d use that as an opportunity to discuss privacy/respect issues with my man.

Perceptible
wrote on October 18 2009 @ 11:21 am: [report]

@Queen, that’s a good point. By sharing, is he “showing off” a good photo, or making fun of a bad one?

I’m pretty comfortable with my body and am usually more modest out of respect to whomever else is around. However, I still can’t see me sending a revealing pic of me to anyone. You just never know. Never mind a diamond – a photo is forever.

SatomiRoberts
wrote on October 22 2009 @ 08:42 pm: [report]

I only send my bf pics of me that I think are good, and NONE of them are completely nude pics. why did i say no, i wouldn’t?

1) I sent the pics. I know there’s a possibility of others seeing them, especially since he has a habit of making the best ones his background. -.-

2) If you really would end a relationship over him showing ((not sending)) a few pics to some close friends, then shame on you for clearly not really cherishing or giving a da*n about your relationship in the first palce. especially since YOU sent HIM the pics.

3) Why send a full-body/nude shot? a pic of you wrapped up in a towel leaves more to his imagination than a “here i am!” pic. And let me tell you from experience with my bf, he is more likely to be frisky the next time you see him if you leave him with a cliffhanger and that can do wonders in bed. -wink-

god, i’m so bad sometimes. but its true! =3