Poll: What’s Your Number?

alifran
wrote on October 9 2009 @ 08:23 am: [report]

I don’t appreciate the comments after 1-9. I don’t think people who have had more than that are “freaks” I have just personally not chosen to have sex which that many people nor have I been given the chance

n75nva
wrote on October 9 2009 @ 08:35 am: [report]

Excuse me! Having sex with more than 9 people is not being a “freak”! and it’s not “been around the block a few times”
Don’t judge me because I happen to like sex and know what I want.
It’s #&@$% like that that make women feel bad about our sexuality. You wouldn’t see the same comments after a poll like that that’s directed at men.

Emi
wrote on October 9 2009 @ 08:37 am: [report]

Only once for me so far. Still have the same boyfriend~

bethlynn00
wrote on October 9 2009 @ 09:01 am: [report]

I agree sleeping with more than 9 people doesn’t really mean anything.  Besides I be interested to know who is being really honest about this poll, so many of us lie about our number.  I know I have!

SamL
wrote on October 9 2009 @ 09:08 am: [report]

Well I never thought I would be diagnosed with having Sexual OCD. But hey, if the cap fits, I don’t feel guilty!
(We’re a select group of whores….. )

lea322
wrote on October 9 2009 @ 09:29 am: [report]

If you’re lying about your number on an anonymous poll, maybe you should think about why you feel the need to lie about it at all.

SCRMOM
wrote on October 9 2009 @ 09:46 am: [report]

I’ve been with the same guy (now my husband) since I was 14, so that speaks for itself.  However, if I ever ended up in the dating pool again (only upon my husband’s death, of course!), I would probably lie and add one or two because I would think it would be unnerving for a guy to know I’ve only had one true love.  Or, he would think I was lame, which is so not the case.

Perceptible
wrote on October 9 2009 @ 09:47 am: [report]

The 1-9 should really be broken down a bit more, don’tcha think? There’s a big difference between having had one partner and having had 9. Or is it just me?

SCRMOM
wrote on October 9 2009 @ 09:54 am: [report]

@Perceptible: Yes, I would agree with you.

BedRocka
wrote on October 9 2009 @ 11:19 am: [report]

who keeps count ... only sociopaths have a running score of the numbers of people they have slept with! after 3 you kinda lose count!!

SamL
wrote on October 9 2009 @ 11:35 am: [report]

@BedRocka. Yeah that’s me: a sociopath! But I’m a happy sociopath….

bogart4017
wrote on October 9 2009 @ 12:07 pm: [report]

I know i know i know we’ve done this already. Several sites have. This seems to be the year to count past lovers. I’ve never been with a woman that asked me such a strange question before.

CrimsonCurls
wrote on October 9 2009 @ 12:55 pm: [report]

I agree the 1-9 should be broken down alot more… I’m 21 and was saving myself until I found the right guy, was in love and engaged, which has happened and I gave my virginity to him this year (after 1 and a half years together. and I say “gave” because I dont think “losing” your virginity is accurate… I didnt lose anything).

So I dont really think they should be grouped together like that. I dont plan on having more than 1, and thats pretty different from someone who has another worldview of sex than I do and has had 9 partners etc.

CrimsonCurls
wrote on October 9 2009 @ 01:01 pm: [report]

Also, excuse my grammar, word usage etc. I have the flu, an amazing headache, and have just woken up. lol

bellsz
wrote on October 9 2009 @ 01:08 pm: [report]

I agree with alifran, and I also want to add that this poll is obviously going to be wrong because the person who made the poll is obviously biased against people who have sex. I mean look at the way the poll is written. Women that don’t have sex are being praised and women who do are being called, basically, skanks.

If a woman writing the poll had a ton of sex, she might phrase the questions differently:

E.g., “None- I’m a total prude, 1-9- I’m finally learning that it’s okay to be human, 10-50 I’m sexually liberated and am confident in who I am”, etc.

The way the questions are asked here will give totally different results because now women who are having sex are praised whereas women who aren’t having sex are being ridiculed. This is why polls like this are completely useless. Whenever you start passing moral judgments against people, how can you ever expect to get the truth out of them? It makes the whole point of taking the poll pretty useless. Well, that’s not entirely accurate, it will do one thing- it will reinforce the bias of the person who wrote the poll. Women will know that having sex is bad and should be avoided. This poll is basically a self-serving affirmation for the person who wrote it. It basically supports their sexual insecurity.

SCRMOM
wrote on October 9 2009 @ 02:39 pm: [report]

@bellsz: Why are you equating the number of sex partners to how much sex a person is having?  The two are not necessarily correlated, and in many situtions, are inversely related because of the intimacy with a long-term partner.

Ginger
wrote on October 9 2009 @ 03:14 pm: [report]

I’m in the 1-9 range, but I’m not trying to stay there.
Hell, I want to get to double digits. 10 sounds much more satisfying than 7.

remembercedricdiggory
wrote on October 9 2009 @ 04:27 pm: [report]

I didn’t even vote, because I think the blurbs after each option are incredibly rude…and I don’t think having had sex with nine people is anything like my two.

remembercedricdiggory
wrote on October 9 2009 @ 04:29 pm: [report]

Also, wouldn’t the 100 option be more like “sexual OCD”? It’s an even number, for god’s sake.

bellsz
wrote on October 9 2009 @ 04:31 pm: [report]

SCRMOM, I’m talking about how the poll is written. And it is related to the results of the poll. That’s why this poll isn’t really that great.

bellsz
wrote on October 9 2009 @ 04:32 pm: [report]

lea332, people lie all the time on polls. People are insecure, especially girls and they typically want people to think the best of them. That’s usually why they lie in the first place. Not because they are intimidated by an anonymous poll.

dandrean
wrote on October 9 2009 @ 04:43 pm: [report]

way to sound sort of condescending on the whole zero thing… i can’t help it if i’m just a late bloomer.

Taurwen
wrote on October 9 2009 @ 05:14 pm: [report]

jeez, I can’t say I took much offense to how it was worded, it’s more a joke than anything. Apparently experienced sluts are touchy

bellsz
wrote on October 10 2009 @ 11:00 am: [report]

dandrean, so you’re saying that it’s condescending to tell the truth? Way to support dishonesty then I guess? Your point doesn’t even make sense.

taurwen, yeah we should keep shaming these sluts and see how much we can skew the results =)

BeckiLG
wrote on October 11 2009 @ 10:36 am: [report]

Dandrean makes perfect sense, and I came in to make the same comment! Although I don’t use the term late bloomer necessarily, my number being 0 doesn’t mean I’m saving myself. Or that I think I’m super special. It just means my count is 0, and that may or may not change at some point.

mmkw
wrote on October 12 2009 @ 09:54 am: [report]

Its really funny that this poll was posted when it was. The night before it came up, I was at a friend’s birthday party, talking with two people outside when the question of “the number” came up. They were both 9. I said I was zero and they looked at me like I said I had leprosy. I’ve never really felt ashamed about it until that point. I’m not a prude, awkward, religiously motivated or unattractive, I just know what I want and I’m not afraid to wait for it. They definitely did not understand that. In fact, one offered to “relieve me of my burden”. No thanks, I think I can wait a little longer.

GreenAura
wrote on October 12 2009 @ 04:00 pm: [report]

I totally relate w/ @SCRMOM.  I’ve been with my hubby since I was 16, he was my first and the way things are with our marriage, he will probably be my only (thats a good thing).  I’m not ashamed at all.  I found my true love early in life and I am proud of it.  And no, I’m no prude.  Its just that I’ve only been slutty with one person.  Also, I guarantee that I have had more amazing sex with one man then many of you have had with 100+ men.

Ginger
wrote on October 12 2009 @ 10:31 pm: [report]

@GreenAura You had me until the last comment (it just bugs me when people in relationships insist they have had better sex with their one and only).

But way to go on finding that one person who you’ll love forever and who can rev your engine early on in life. Not many people are that lucky.

GreenAura
wrote on October 13 2009 @ 09:39 am: [report]

@ Ginger: I was thinking about that last sentence that I put in there and I think that stems from an automatic defense that I used to put up.  Other women would always make fun of me and tell me that I am “missing out” and how sorry they feel for me, so I used to say that as a defense.  I’ve grown out of that now and I feel proud about my marriage, but I guess I still have a little bit of that defense mechanism left over   I meant no offense

Ginger
wrote on October 13 2009 @ 03:23 pm: [report]

@ Green Aura Alright. And I think it’s a vicious that plays out between some married women and some single women. They just go back and forth about who has the better sex instead of basking in the fact that everyone is having good sex and is happy with what they have. Which is really what matters.

Domina
wrote on October 26 2009 @ 12:59 pm: [report]

do women count?