Poll: Should You Tell Your Ex That You’ve Gotten Engaged?
Posted by: Amelia McDonell-Parry | Filed in: relationships, polls
2:40PM, Tuesday September 08th 2009
A friend of mine just got engaged this weekend -- congrats! -- and is wondering what the protocol is when it comes to informing ex-boyfriends of this big news. I get where she's coming from. If you're friendly with an ex, should you let him know personally before he finds out via the rumor mill? Or is it presumptuous to assume that he would even care? So, where do you stand?
Should You Tell An Ex That You've Gotten Engaged?
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DancerNinja
wrote on September 8 2009 @ 01:46 pm: [report]
I was friends with an ex, a dude I dated when I was 18 (I’m 28 now). I found out he was engaged when a mutual friend of mine said “When you’re in Houston for his wedding, how long will you be around?” Ahhhh… he’s engaged?
So much for being friends.
CaleeKay
wrote on September 8 2009 @ 06:31 pm: [report]
this is silly, if youre still friends with them, shouldnt they be finding out from you soon anyway? you often tell your friends youre engaged, let alone they probably know its coming if youre in a relationship with someone. If you dont talk to them often, or anymore, why bother? im confused as to why this is a hard thing to figure out.
Tart and Soul
wrote on September 9 2009 @ 08:57 am: [report]
One of my exes just got married and I found out on Facebook. Ouch! We’ve been out of touch for years, and though I wasn’t carrying a torch, it still bothered me to know he’d found bliss with someone else. How timely, I just wrote a blog post about this, called, “I Won’t Let You Be Happy, Why Should I?” Check it out:
http://tartandsoul.com/2009/09/07/i-wont-let-you-be-happy-why-should-i/
Humble Bee
wrote on September 11 2009 @ 11:04 am: [report]
it shouldn’t matter unless your still banging the dude or have feelings for him. If he’s and ‘ex’ then everything should be over with, if you really care what your ex thinks, the you should be re-thinking your marriage…
hereshestands
wrote on September 11 2009 @ 08:13 pm: [report]
@Humble Bee. Dam straight.
SouthOC
wrote on October 7 2009 @ 11:22 am: [report]
The only time it should matter is if you have children together. If you still have feelings, deal with it. Otherwise, all ex’s should be in the category of “someone I used to know…”
shawbrooke
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 04:55 pm: [report]
If you still see an ex from the past 3 or 4 years in business or around town, or have kids together, then I think that you should tell him/her. A group email might do, unless you were an item recently, then tell him in person privately in a public place, like his front porch or a sidewalk somewhere.
Common sense - If four years ago you spent the weekend together, forget it. If you were living together 8 months ago, then tell him. Between those extremes, use judgement, it’s not a dirty word.