Poll: Do You Use Lube?
Posted by: Amelia McDonell-Parry | Filed in: polls, sex
2:30PM, Friday August 21st 2009
Comments (22)
Earlier this week Jessica wrote about "The 10 Things Men Forget To Do During Sex." One of them sparked a little bit of debate amongst our commenters -- lube use. She advised men to remember to use lube and that, in general, women like to be as wet as they can get. Some of you agreed with us. But QTGirl disagreed:"I don’t like to use a lot lube because it makes my man feel I’m more into it than I may be. When it starts getting a little drier he knows it’s time to switch things up to get it going again. To me, it’s like faking an orgasm -- using lots of lube doesn’t teach him to use a multidimensional approach to lovemaking."Others said they simply didn't need lube. When the rest of us Frisky girls chatted about it, we discovered we were just as split. So -- where do you stand on lube?
Do You Use Lube?
Comments (22)
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Kiki T
wrote on August 21 2009 @ 01:59 pm: [report]
if you have to use lube, and you’re having him enter the back door, then I would say that as a bad sign
Shasta
wrote on August 21 2009 @ 02:26 pm: [report]
Seems to be a little arrogance on the part of women who do not use/do not need lube. As if they are sexier, younger or in a more stimulating relationship.
What do men think about its use?
Coral
wrote on August 21 2009 @ 02:28 pm: [report]
Wow. I kind of am surprised at the results.
writergirl
wrote on August 21 2009 @ 02:33 pm: [report]
@Shasta—what do you mean? How can not needing lube be arrogant? Just curious, since I don’t use it/don’t need it.
lalaland
wrote on August 21 2009 @ 02:36 pm: [report]
How is it arrogant to say you prefer not to use it? It’s a personal preference, not a statement about one’s age, sex-life or sexiness. For me it just doesn’t add to the experience.
tabby
wrote on August 21 2009 @ 02:37 pm: [report]
I used to be a non-lube user, then I meet my S.O. who can last forever. Even if I am crazy turned on, after a while the friction starts to happen a bit more than necessary and lube makes it much better. Also, for those of you who have never tried it, it can make good sex jump to great sex with a little dab. Try it before you knock it.
*sam*
wrote on August 21 2009 @ 02:44 pm: [report]
@tabby: it’s not that I refuse to use it, it’s just that I personally don’t need it. and yes, if the ceiling fan is on, I’ll dry out a bit, but that’s when the bf just stops, turns the fan off, and goes down on me to get everything lubed up again
and @shasta: again, how does not needing lube = arrogance?? we’re not on here bragging and saying things like “eww, gross, I would *NEVER* use lube! if you can’t get me wet enough for my own lubricants to suffice, then you’re not doing it right!” or “eww, if you’re too old/dry to produce adequate lube yourself, then that’s nature’s way of telling you to stop having sex!!”
spatula
wrote on August 21 2009 @ 02:46 pm: [report]
From what I can see, no one is “knocking” the use of lube. I, like @writergirl, am curious as to know what it is about not using lube that comes off as arrogant?
I personally very, very rarely need it. My body produces (way) more than enough lubrication, generally speaking. On the extremely rare occasion that I do dry out a little, we grab some lube. SO I was torn between the last 2 choices. But I voted never, since honestly I can’t remember the last time I’ve used it. IT’s been years.
writergirl
wrote on August 21 2009 @ 02:50 pm: [report]
I used lube once. The first time I had sex after I gave birth (about 7 weeks after) And I was sore for days and it was hands down the worst sex of my life.
So after that—when we finally did have sex again, when the kid turned three (I’m kidding!) I didn’t need it and everything was fine. So I don’t use it. That one bad experience scared me off. LOL.
CaleeKay
wrote on August 21 2009 @ 03:49 pm: [report]
My boyfriend and i didnt use lube for like 4 years, then we decided to try it, because spit wasnt enough, and my body only produces a little bit, and then i get dry even though im turned on, and it works great. You dont have to put on an excessive amount, just enough so you dont chafe and get puffy or something. And there isnt a big deal about not using it either, i dont see how its arrogant either, i am quite jealous actually.
cali_candy
wrote on August 21 2009 @ 04:36 pm: [report]
I think I’m allergic to some lubes (astroglide) because it feels like burning. Also one time I used the warming lube and it polymerized (or something) inside of me and came out as a really gross goo when I went to go pee afterwards. Usually my hubby and I don’t use lube except when he’s using a condom (when I’m on antibiotics, for example, and don’t trust the pill to work).
Mags
wrote on August 21 2009 @ 05:11 pm: [report]
Don’t be so hasty as to be jealous of us natural producers. I have issues with things being too juicy and wanting more friction. I miss the days of using condoms, and may go back to that with as much as I’ve go going on. But these decisions must be made as a couple….
raqueleza
wrote on August 21 2009 @ 06:04 pm: [report]
I think everyone should try lube at least once…making things more slippery certainly doesn’t make anything worse. And going lubeless during anal is just dangerous!
The worst is when a dude whips out the warming stuff without telling me (yes, it’s happened more than once!). For some reason, instead of “warming” it just…burns my vadge. Not sexy.
Alexa
wrote on August 21 2009 @ 07:37 pm: [report]
Some women don’t need to use it (though everyone needs/should use it for anal). Some women just naturally produce more lubrication than others - mostly due to hormone levels. It doesn’t have anything to do with arrogance. lol
*sam*
wrote on August 21 2009 @ 07:43 pm: [report]
LostInStars
wrote on August 21 2009 @ 08:01 pm: [report]
Don’t use it every time, usually I’m excited and wet enough to get by without it. BUT sometimes we use it for a little extra fun. We got the KY Warming Sensations, haha.
catscratchfever
wrote on August 21 2009 @ 11:45 pm: [report]
That warming stuff is not made for people with sensitive skin! It burned me so badly, the guy might as well have rubbed habanero peppers all over his junk before we went at it.
ARealGuy4Ever
wrote on August 22 2009 @ 12:08 am: [report]
It’s no big surprise that every woman is different. Go with what works, but don’t settle for discomfort.
I suspect the “arrogance” comment came from the “10 things men should do in bed” column where some of the gals made comments that made it sound like using lube means your doing something wrong. Just like some men don’t like to admit using Viagra because they feel it makes them less of a man maybe some women feel needing lube makes them less of a woman.
One gal in her early 20s liked to use lube because she felt it made her climax faster and more often. Another in her late 30s was a drowning hazard. Significant size differences in fun parts can also increase or decrease the need for lube (a gal that never needed lube before may want it with her new guys who’s bigger then anyone she’s had before).
In the end (no pun intended) go with what makes you feel best. There is no “cool” way to have sex. Only what feels good for you and your partner.
stiffinp
wrote on August 22 2009 @ 08:26 am: [report]
My buddy’s ex-girlfriend never needed lube. He seemed to think she drank so much alcohol she was always wet.
Shasta
wrote on August 22 2009 @ 11:00 pm: [report]
@Spatula and @WriterGirl.
Ooo. I didn’t mean to imply that just because you don’t use it you are automatically arrogant. I observed that those who don’t sometimes lord it over those who do.
EarthGoddess Remarked to Jessica’s 10 Things that
“I’m also not a huge fan of lube ... I can get there just fine myself, thank you. Nothing artificial required. “
The “..nothing artifical required” smacked of self-righteousness,” which I have heard before.
But I don’t care. Lube. No Lube. Warming whatever. As long as it works for you.
bogart4017
wrote on August 24 2009 @ 01:14 pm: [report]
Save money on lube and try oral sex.
remembercedricdiggory
wrote on September 25 2009 @ 04:40 pm: [report]
@Kiki T; Maybe you typed that wrong…Why the hell would you have anal sex without lube?
@bogart4017; Wow, that was rude. Saying that people who use lube do not have oral sex implies that they do not have “adequate” sex lives. Which is just ridiculous.