You + Me = Us, Dating Height Calculus
Posted by: Ali Jawin
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9:30AM, Tuesday June 30th 2009
Yesterday I wrote Advice For The Vertically Challenged and was surprised by some of the comments. Many quite fairly pointed out that perhaps my definition of “short” should be revised, or that I should be clear that just because I feel short at 5’ 5” does not make this height or anything bellow it qualify as “short.” What really struck a chord with me, however, were comments concerning height differences when it comes to dating. I started thinking about my own reasons for feeling short and realized that it was mostly due to the fact that most of the men I have dated have been at least six feet tall. Hmmm, I wonder…
Do I feel short because boyfriends have always told me I am? Yes, but let me be very clear, they have only done so in a positive way. Tall boyfriends thought my height was adorable and loved to pick me up. One guy did say I looked like a circus freak, but then again he also said I looked like Rob Reiner, so I think I should put the height comment into perspective. All in all though, guys have never seen the 6+ inch difference in height as a problem. In truth, I am not really bothered by the height difference and even use it to play up the cuteness factor, so why the height complex? My boyfriend didn’t even notice how much shorter I was until I brought it up and now he thinks it’s hilarious. So, why am I insecure about my height when I am average sized for most girls and guys don’t mind the difference?
If anyone can figure out why attractive women sometimes feel insecure, then that person deserves a medal. I doubt I will be able to untangle the complex layers of self-doubt in one post, but at least I can look at three common height and dating related problems. I am going to refrain from commenting or defining what makes someone short, average or tall and instead address feelings about height and dating. Since I obviously have my own height issues to contemplate I am only going to give practical suggestions should you feel uncomfortable with the height difference between you and a dude or if you are having back/neck pain from constantly bending or stretching.
- The Girl Is Shorter Than The Guy: This group tends to avoid social stigma and stares as it is generally accepted that girls are shorter than guys. I doubt anyone will blink at a difference of a few inches, and if the difference is more pronounced, people still probably won’t think twice. I find that the real complication for gals residing in this category is in walking. Girls complain about not being able to reach up and kiss a guy, but darling, that’s what heels and couches are for. Modern technology and a park bench will give you the temporary boost for serious lip-locking. If anything you can legitimately bug your guy to start working out so he can buff up his arms and lift you while he kisses you. Muscles and smooching! But as I was saying, the real trouble with the height difference is that taller guys tend to walk faster than shorter girls. This gets really annoying when you are attempting a romantic stroll and I am sweating like a pig after two blocks. Maybe men’s legs are longer or men just have less patience and are in such a darn rush to get everywhere. I have somewhat successfully dealt with this by pointing the speeding out, and if the guy still insists on “jogging”, I launch myself at him and climb on his back while loudly demanding a piggy ride. Works like a charm.
- The Girl And The Guy Are The Same Height: Congrats! You can walk at a sane pace and kiss with ease. If you want to wear heels you are going to be a bit taller, but the difference probably won’t even be noticeable if you are wearing heels under three inches. If you are a high-heeled woman, and I most certainly am, then you just need to accept that you will be noticeably taller than your dude. If you are really worried about it and he has long hair, you can always pull out the hair gel and spike his strands up a bit, but you will need a tub of gel and you will probably need to physically restrain him to get him to sit still long enough. Yeah, this not your best bet. I doubt anyone will really register a height difference since tall gals with short dudes are pretty common these days, and your man probably won’t even notice because men tend to be oblivious to small changes in appearance.
- The Tall Girl And The Short Guy: While this category may have historically been sniggered at, I think it’s now a hot trend. If a guy couldn’t care less that his gal is taller than him, chances are he won’t be intimidated if she is big in other areas, like her career. A man who doesn’t need to prove his manliness with size (where ever that may be) is a guy who is self assured and won’t need to pull you down to bring himself up. Tall girls have it a bit harder because nothing will make them shorter, and short guys however confident they may be probably don;t feel like rocking the ABBA-esque man platforms. Amazons, rejoice in your height, knowledge of knowing before anyone else that it’s raining and your sheer physical ability to wipe out anyone who has a catty remark.
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CheeeeEEEEse
wrote on June 30 2009 @ 09:57 am: [report]
Little girl = Penis looks bigger in comparison…..works for porn….
Ali Jawin
wrote on June 30 2009 @ 10:00 am: [report]
@CheeeeEEEEse: so does photoshop
sparklestar
wrote on June 30 2009 @ 10:01 am: [report]
My boyfriend is a foot taller than I am (5ft and 6ft) and his long legs are a problem! I have to literally jog beside him in a morning when he is striding about !!
CheeeeEEEEse
wrote on June 30 2009 @ 10:06 am: [report]
@Ali: I watch video. What are you gonna do, photochop every single frame?
idiotfactory
wrote on June 30 2009 @ 10:10 am: [report]
I am 5’ even and my husband is 6’6. He’s the only person that hasn’t treated me like I’m short. He doesn’t pick me up and he lets me use my own methods of getting things off high shelves without interfering. It gets old when people treat me like a helpless child purely because of my height.
juliePS
wrote on June 30 2009 @ 10:16 am: [report]
I’m 4’11” and I know a lot of women my height who refuse to date anyone less than 6’. That blows my mind. I LOVE short men!
Ali Jawin
wrote on June 30 2009 @ 10:18 am: [report]
I actually have nothing against short men. I think the fact that I have mostly dated tall guys is more of a coincidence than a matter of attraction.
IrinaGonzalez
wrote on June 30 2009 @ 10:19 am: [report]
My boyfriend is a foot taller than me (5’2” and 6’2”) and I love it. I used to think I’d want someone under 6” but now I’m addicted to his tallness. He’s a basketball player and I keep joking that after him, I’m going to have to keep dating basketball guys so I can always have the height. haha.
Penthesilea
wrote on June 30 2009 @ 10:25 am: [report]
I’m 5’8” and dated a guy 2” shorter. He hated it when I wore heels, wanted me to always wear flats and slouch so I wouldn’t look so tall next to him. Though he wouldn’t wear anything except thin flip-flops. Awkward! The relationship didn’t last.
GreenAura
wrote on June 30 2009 @ 10:30 am: [report]
My hubby is nearly a foot taller (I’m 5’1”, he’s 6’). Not only are his strides longer, but he is a naturally fast walker. So when we first started dating it was like I was lightly jogging to keep up. But after 10 years, I’ve learned to adapt. My only problem now is that, although I can keep up, my legs move so fast I look like Super Mario Bros. If I wear tennis shoes its no prob, but if I wear heels, I have to keep asking him to slow down, which he does
EarthGoddess
wrote on June 30 2009 @ 10:37 am: [report]
I’m 6’ tall and my husband is 6’ 2”. I have always been tall, and I’m so glad to have found a nice tall guy. In terms of physical appearance for men, height is my
#1 priority. They MUST be taller than me. I’m not a heels girl, either, so I don’t mind wearing flats all the time. I wish I was a little more petite, though ... I love when I meet someone super tall and they can make me feel short. That doesn’t happen all that often, though, but it’s always a treat!
jimnist10
wrote on June 30 2009 @ 10:48 am: [report]
I’m 5’2” with the heart and soul of a 5’6” woman and I’ve dated the range of guys from 5’4” - 6’7”. I have no preference for a guy’s height, just so long as I feel like I can’t beat him up or physically overpower him (12 years of gymnastics made me strong and muscular a la Shawn Johnson). Physical fitness is more important to me than actual height, although a tall guy is handy to have around the house because as much as I love climbing all over my kitchen counters like a monkey, I would just prefer someone else to get me that plate.
Emi
wrote on June 30 2009 @ 10:56 am: [report]
I’m 5’8’’ myself, and my boyfriend is 6’7’‘. I had never met anymore before him who actually made me feel short. 5’8’’ may or may not be really tall, but it’s what I’ve been told ALL my life. “Omg, you’re so tall!” “Wow, you’re tall.” blah de blah. My mom is about my height, but she actually has a thing for guys her height or shorter. Her husband is her height - shorter when she wears heels. And they don’t care :]
Shotputter
wrote on June 30 2009 @ 11:03 am: [report]
I am with Earth Goddess. I am 6’3 and have always looked for men taller than me (my fiance is 6’6). I have dated short guys though and I didn’t much enjoy hugging them when their face goes in between my boobs, but they may have. Plus it awkward to dance with a guy and have him lay his head on your chest.
Little Lamb
wrote on June 30 2009 @ 11:23 am: [report]
My boyfriend is 6’4”, but I am just 5’2”. The only time there is a “problem” with our height difference is when I wear heels!!! I cannot walk quickly enough in heels to keep up with his strides!!! Grrr….
DancerNinja
wrote on June 30 2009 @ 11:53 am: [report]
I’m kinda like jimnist10. Only I’m 5’8 and dated guys anywhere from 5’6 to 6’. Just so long as I can’t beat them up, and as a judo player and weightlifter, one that isn’t intimidated by my ability to beat people up.
brackishfaun
wrote on June 30 2009 @ 11:54 am: [report]
i’m 5’4”... almost, and my boyfriend says he’s 5’6”, but i think he’s a bit shorter. i have no problem with being close in height, but i do notice my bf trying to stand up extra tall when i wear heels. i love heels that are 4” or more, so if i put them on, i’m definitely taller. i think being almost the same height is awesome and makes hugs the best. I actually find men that are hugely taller than me unattractive, well not quite, but i’ve never thought a really tall guy was hot.
B
wrote on June 30 2009 @ 12:03 pm: [report]
My girlfriend is a good 4 inches taller than I (I’m 5’10”, she’s 6’2”) and I FREAKING LOVE IT! At first it was sorta odd, for example, during one of our first dates some random passers by remarked that she was, “Too tall for you, dude!” Of course I now realize that the poor sap most likely had a small penis, thus his aversion to taller-than-average vixens (refer to CheeeeEEEEse’s comment above).
Anyhow, like I said, I love my girlfriend’s height- she’s a stunning woman and she looks utterly astounding in heels. Never mind the fact that she’s 8 inches taller than I am when she wears them, she wants to wear them and looks good doing so. Therefore, I think people definitely don’t see the height disparity between us as much- or me hardly at all- due to the Extreme Sexiness Distraction Factor (oh, it’s real people). A tall girl should wear high heels if she wants, damn it! It’s silly for an attractive girl to worry about other people judging her based on height alone. I think that, now, I would feel a little weird dating someone shorter than myself. I’d say I’ve habituated to her tallness- it’s one of the attributes I like most about her.
MissChaotic
wrote on June 30 2009 @ 12:07 pm: [report]
I tend to date guy that are taller, but its not something I just do. I have dated a few guys my height (5’6”) or shorter than me, but they often show signs of insecurity and pull the fade, even thought everything was going well.
I had a good date with one guy (it was a blind date, but the guy was nice), and he disappeared. I had no problem with him being shorter than me, but I think he felt self conscious.
Guys, if you’re shorter, and a girl still likes you, there’s no reason to be insecure. Nobody is perfect, and nobody (outside of plastic surgery success stories) looks like how they want to look. Be happy with yourself and your self confidence will outshine the height issue and you will find someone decent.
I Go To 11
wrote on June 30 2009 @ 12:14 pm: [report]
I’m 5’4”, and I’ve never been into much taller guys. My fiance’s 5’8”, which works perfectly for me; I like guys that are just slightly taller than I am. It’s much less awkward for kissing, etc., IMO. The tallest guy I’ve dated was 6’, and it just wasn’t for me. My high school sweetheart was 5’6” if he actually stood up straight. I’m with brackishfaun; I’m just not attracted to taller guys, either.
My best friend is 5’1” and her boyfriend is 6’3”; my dad’s 5’7” and his girlfriend is 6’, so different strokes for different folks.
One of my friends, who’s 5’9”, said she was always upset that the tall guys went for the tiny girls; apparently, this is a common complaint from taller women, from what I hear. Luckily, she did manage to find her husband, who’s 6’6”, so it worked out for her in the end. I told her that at least I wouldn’t have been competition for her.
BluePixie
wrote on June 30 2009 @ 12:27 pm: [report]
My boyfriend is 6’4” and I’m at a whooping height of 4’11”, and the odds of me finding a guy near my height is slim, and I’m perfectly happy with him. I mean it’s hard to kiss him without heels, but he loves my short factor, and I love his height, especially at concerts, he usually can easily get past all the crowd with me due to my height, but at the rare occasions that we can’t do that I just use his height to my advantage - I sit on his shoulders and enjoy the show (obviously not the entire show though)
musu
wrote on June 30 2009 @ 12:46 pm: [report]
I really do think that it is the size of the personality (and heart) that creates the physical impression….silly me….
ot2b2009
wrote on June 30 2009 @ 01:06 pm: [report]
I have to agree with musu. I’m 5’10”-ish and my boyfriend is 5’7”. Without a doubt, he’s one of the best men I’ve ever known. His heart makes him 10’ tall in my book.
wnbass
wrote on June 30 2009 @ 01:22 pm: [report]
I am a giant at 6’1” and my boyfriend is about 5’10/11”. I LOVE wearing heels and sometimes feel less feminine than i might look because i just feel HUGE. I have dated guys who are about the same height as me or taller and it’s great because I get to feel like a cute little girl. It’s not really the height of the guy, but the confidence he exudes that makes a difference to me and makes me feel “girly”. I love being tall though, and I’ve always sort of had a thing for shorter men (like I had much of a choice)
Anniekins
wrote on June 30 2009 @ 02:38 pm: [report]
My husband is an inch or two shorter than me. I tend to wear heels a lot; he’s not a fan of my jumbo shoes, but he usually just rolls his eyes.
On the other end, my mom is 4’11 and my dad is 6’3. When they dance, she used to hang around his neck and he’d swing her around. It was kinda cute.
IrishErin
wrote on June 30 2009 @ 02:41 pm: [report]
I have to say I sort of hate all you tiny girls for taking men that are 6’7”. WTF. Come on. Those of us who are 5’11” would like to corner that market please. That being said, my boyfriend is 5’ 9.5” so there isn’t a LOAD of height difference, but he’s built like a runner, so he’s very lean. And I…am Southern. And curvy. With my father’s shoulders. So that sometimes causes issues (only in my head as I often wonder if we look ludicrous together).
sailor_girl
wrote on June 30 2009 @ 02:59 pm: [report]
@EarthGoddess & Shotputter: It’s nice to hear about other tall girls. I’m 6’3’’ as well and I do have the height rule. The shortest guy I have ever dated was 6’1’’ and that height difference killed me. I prefer 6’5’’ and above. I know its terrible but I feel less like a woman around short men and it creeps me out when shorter men hit on me. I can’t figure out why a 5’7’’ man would find anything attractive about a woman my size.
EarthGoddess
wrote on June 30 2009 @ 04:12 pm: [report]
@sailor_girl: I know what you mean about feeling “less like a woman”. I love that my husband is taller than me and built like a football player (played in high school and college). He can wrap himself around me and I feel so protected and secure. I couldn’t get that from a shorter man, or a slender one, which is why I also prefer my men with some meat on their bones.
As for the attractiveness of a taller woman, I had a guy friend explain it to me this way: A tall woman is a trophy for a shorter man to show off and make up for not being all big and manly. I guess I can see their point ... maybe. I remember going to a Junior Prom when I was a Freshman in high school as a favor to a friend, and the guy I was set up with was chest-level. I swear he was trying to motorboat me all night long ... and he got a lot of high fives from his friends. Then he assumed we were a couple and it just got uglier from there ... ugh.
likeOMGkbye
wrote on June 30 2009 @ 04:42 pm: [report]
I’m 5’10” and my boyfriend is 5’11”, and it works out pretty well. I do get self-conscious wearing heels normally, putting me at 6’2”+, but they look so good! I think I notice the height difference between us more because I’ll bring it up and hes just like “uh, I dont care wear heels”. But I totally agree with whoever said being tall(er) makes them feel less feminine, sometimes I feel like an amazon and that people are looking at me funny for prancing around at 6’2” with my heels on
alleigh25
wrote on June 30 2009 @ 04:48 pm: [report]
I’m 5’2” and even though I know I shouldn’t care, I’d feel really weird with a guy that wasn’t at least a few inches taller than me.
On the plus side, a guy who is 5’7” is usually considered short, but is plenty taller than me. Height has never been an issue because most guys are taller than me.
little_nurse
wrote on June 30 2009 @ 08:59 pm: [report]
I’m 5’ and my boyfriend is 6’6” and we love our height difference! I don’t mind being tossed around playfully on occasion and its nice to not have to climb on the counters like a monkey to get something on the top shelf. I think you just have to be comfortable in your own skin!
stringbeans
wrote on July 1 2009 @ 01:00 am: [report]
i’m 5’6” and my current guy is the tallest i’ve ever been with at about 6’2” and has been really strange for me, i even refused to wear flats around him for the first few months just because i’ve been so used to dating guys my height. i had an intense fear of looking up at nostrils but those shorter guys always loved me to wear heels even my 5’ platform ones.
But i also know that my 5’9” best friend hates the fact that all the tall guys are taken by girls shorter than her.
Karmatir
wrote on July 1 2009 @ 03:24 am: [report]
Nice to hear there are other tall ladies out there! I’m 6’2” and my bf is 6’6”. He’s actually the tallest I have ever dated. My ex-husband was an inch shorter than me. When I first started dating I established a rule, no one under 6’. I broke it a couple times, and immediately regretted it. There is just something about a guy just smashing his face into your boobs and getting to enjoy a hug/kiss on top of all of it. I got tried of it.
BlueVibe
wrote on July 1 2009 @ 12:04 pm: [report]
I don’t really notice guys’ height, though, unless they’re REALLY tall or short. I’m 5’7”, which is not particularly tall for a girl, but I’m still tall enough that I can look an average-height guy more or less in the eye, especially if I’m wearing boots or heels. Most of the guys I’ve dated have been slightly taller than I am—5’9”-ish, which I suppose makes sense since that’s about average. I’m tall enough, though, and I’m muscular, that I’ve always felt sort of big and horsey. I *do* tend to date stocky, broad-shouldered guys; I never thought I was actually choosing them based on that, but now that I think about it, it does make me feel more feminine, even if we’re about the same height.
redheadedrowdy
wrote on July 1 2009 @ 09:21 pm: [report]
I’m glad other people are saying this so I don’t feel bad, but I definitely like taller guys. I am 5’6” and my ex of 5 years was 5’5”. It was not a big deal in my opinion, but it’s obvious he had a complex about being short (not about our height difference, but being short in general). He just *had* to be the strongest guy around and was obsessed with working out, so he was ridiculously muscular. The first guy I went out with after him was 6’4”... which I giggled about. I didn’t seek out the tallest guy I could find, it just worked out that way. I remember going out with a bunch of my ex’s friends (also my friends) right after the breakup, and one of them commenting, “Wow, you look great in heels. Guess you can wear ‘em now!” Not that I’m really a heels girl, but I realized I had been shying away from them, and had secretly felt bad about thinking we’d look weird at our wedding.
My boyfriend is 6’ and I love dipping just a little bit to fit my entire head under his chin. I love that he makes me feel short. He’s also amazing, but that has nothing to do with his height
Infamous
wrote on July 2 2009 @ 12:12 pm: [report]
I’m 5’10” and I, too, resent the fact that the shorter girls are taking all the tall men! Haha. But seriously, I’m not comfortable w/ a guy’s height unless my face is even w/ his throat. I like to feel feminine, and shorter guys just don’t have that effect for me. I know, I shouldn’t base my feelings on the physicality of someone else blah blah blah but it is what it is.
snap
wrote on July 2 2009 @ 06:25 pm: [report]
i’m 5’1 and i LOVE LOVE LOVE tall men. nothing under 5’7, please. 5’8, okay. 5’9, getting there. 5’10-6’0 perfect! 6’1+, okay now that’s getting too tall.
becktasm
wrote on July 2 2009 @ 06:50 pm: [report]
Man! I’m 6’1” and absolutely REFUSE to date anyone shorter than me (actually, I require that they be at least 6’3”, since I wear heels) and I just HATE seeing tiny girls with really tall guys. C’mon ladies, do you have any idea how limited my dating pool is? I’ve tried dating shorter men, and it just doesn’t work. I’m fine with it, but the men absolutely are not. Too intimidating, I guess. But I’m head over heels for my current boy, who’s 6’7”, so I suppose that works out, THOUGH his last girlfriend was 5’2” (and before me he’d never dated anyone over 5’5”). I always tease him and say that he must have had to put her on top of stacks of phone books to have sex standing up. He now waxes poetic on a regular basis about how wonderful it is to be with someone height-compatible in the bedroom.
angel001717
wrote on July 2 2009 @ 09:16 pm: [report]
ive only had one boyfriend but i LOVED how tall he was. im not skinny so him being taller made me feel cute and womanly… not to mention how just the way he treated me made me feel adorable and sexy. :D
carofiro
wrote on July 3 2009 @ 12:43 am: [report]
Where do all you tall ladies get your shoes?!?! I am 5’10” and i wear a freakin’ size 11… all heels are so uncomfortable. My feet aren’t wide or anything, its just that it seems like most shoes are too big and cheap (like payless) or super expensive (special order from some designer who doesn’t want to actually SELL BIG SHOES at a store and makes you order them online).
PS I also don’t like dating short guys. Being the height of the average man makes it tough… rules out half of them!
shannooonski
wrote on July 3 2009 @ 11:33 pm: [report]
im six feet tall barefoot! i can also see very far even in a crowd. when i wear heels, i am seriously towering over most of my friends. sometimes i am in the mood to tower over people! but as far as dating, it can be awkward. for example, even if i like you, i dont want to feel like i’m going to break you. but if a man is sexy and confident, we can totally work out the height issue. as long as he is comfortable and not fragile, we’re cool. but i do really prefer a man who can walk in stride with me, i can fit in their nook, someone i could potentially make tall babies with.
Monty
wrote on July 4 2009 @ 07:52 am: [report]
I’m really surprised that so many women commenting here would really not date a guy shorter than them. I just can’t imagine passing up the opportunity to have a relationship with someone amazing purely because they’re shorter than me.
I’m 6’1” (and happily wear heels when I want to) and the majority of my boyfriends have been shorter than me - I think the shortest was about 5’7” - and have loved my height. I’ve had one or two taller boyfriends, but I just can’t see the issue. In almost all couples one of you will be shorter - what earthly difference does it make which of you it is?
My currently boyfriend is 6’4” and, to be honest, I occasionally get a bit jealous of his being taller than me.
becktasm
wrote on July 4 2009 @ 01:21 pm: [report]
@carofiro: I’m a size 11 too and man, shoes ARE a pain. Generally I do stick to Payless, since they always carry my size, but if you’re looking for something nicer just go to Amazon. They have hundreds of cute shoes in size 11, ranging in price from $10 to upwards of $300. Target normally carries elevens as well, if you’re looking for something fast.
keana019
wrote on July 4 2009 @ 11:03 pm: [report]
HAHA @ musu. so right. height shouldnt matter as much as it does for some, but that would make me a hypocrite too. im 5’6 and i prefer my guys to be at least my height. im young regardless and will probably grow out of it, but only after having to come to the realization that right guys usually arent so perfect. i like the idea of them being the masculine or “dominant” one, so that’s probably where it roots from.
One Big Voice
wrote on July 5 2009 @ 04:02 pm: [report]
@ EarthGoddess et al. - height is your #1 priority? Way to severely limit your dating pool. When I was in middle school, I was one of the shorter boys. I had several girls tell me that I was “too short” for them. I didn’t understand then, and I still don’t - I’m average height now. The only way it makes sense to me is if the girl is worried about “what people will think”. I, on the other hand, care very little about that.
EarthGoddess
wrote on July 5 2009 @ 05:34 pm: [report]
@One Big Voice: I’m sorry if I offended you ... I am just not attracted to men shorter than me. There are other physical attributes that I am not attracted to, as well, so it’s just something else on the list of things that I don’t find appealing. It’s really not a big deal when you think of it, and I’m happily married so I’m already limited. My dating pool consists of one man and one man only.
grapefruitdiet
wrote on July 5 2009 @ 09:18 pm: [report]
I’m going to forever associate short men with my miserable middle school years. Long story short, a short boy with some serious issues took a shine to me and my crush of over a year walked up to me during a slow song at a school dance and then asked me to dance with his friend, the short boy. I cried. For several hours, and I was left with a permanent bad connotation with short men. Sorry. I really can’t help it.
I’m about 5’7”, and my boyfriend is just over 6’ and seems to be still growing. Its very stereotypical, I know, but I love feeling so safe and protected when i’m with him. He walks at a normal pace, and I walk pretty fast. If I wear heels, which i’m quite lame about, we even out height-wise. It works for us. And if he is walking too fast, he’s more than happy to give me a ride.
ohsnapitzauddy
wrote on July 6 2009 @ 06:38 pm: [report]
So I’m 5’8” and I used to only date guys who were 6’2” and above.But for almost two years now, I’ve been dating a wonderful man who is 5’6”, and he absolutely loves the idea that I’m tall. He is very strong, hardworking, and confidant in himself so I still get to feel like a total girl even while strutting around in stilettos.
Everywhere you look, all you see is the guy being taller than the girl and it just seems right. So I grew up thinking that that’s the way it has to be. I used to feel that I needed a big tall guy to make me feel all girly and keep me ‘in place’. But I learned that sometimes its worth looking in that one place you never thought of looking for love. For me, that was non-super tall guys. And all I know is that I’m truly happy!
Karly
wrote on July 9 2009 @ 09:43 am: [report]
My boyfriend is only two inches taller than me-though I have my suspicions that it might really only be like an inch or an inch and a half, I love to wear heels and he once commented that he felt insecure when I wore them because dudes probaply looked at us and thought that he was too short for me…whatever..
LoveTea
wrote on July 9 2009 @ 11:28 am: [report]
I’ve dated guys taller than me, and it frustrated me. I hate getting on my tiptoes to kiss someone, and they often made fun of me for being shorter than they are.
Once I dated a guy who was the same height as me, and he always complained when I wore heels, and would sometimes try to puff himself up to look taller than me. That was one of many issues and the relationship didn’t last long.
But currently I’m dating a shorter man. We’ve been together for 3 years, and the only issue is that it makes holding hands a bit awkward. I’m 5’8” and he’s 5’2”, though we often giggle and I fess up I’m 5’7 3/4” and he says he’s close enough to 5’3”, we think it’s cute.
I never really understood the big deal about height, it’s not a deciding factor in who I’ve dated. But it’s interesting when families make loud commentaries about the height difference. The same height guy I dated in high school, well I wore heels to prom and thus, his family made comments about me being a big girl.
Height is just some awkward thing I’ve learned to deal with, I’ve always been pretty tall, and my mom is 5’2” so we’ve always talked about it.
Oh, and comments about taller people being hard to keep up with, I’ve experienced the opposite. I’ve found shorter people move so fast and are hard to keep an eye on,and not because of them being short! I always had this issue shopping with my mom, one moment she was next to me and the next she was halfway across the store! I’m still not used to this, my boyfriend is the same way and I have to yell ahead for him to slow down.
@ohsnapitzauddy - my boyfriend is the same way! I was so shy about wearing heels around him at first but he doesn’t care! The first time I wore heels with him though was my 21st birthday… not the best of ideas. haha
mavsqueen2010
wrote on July 9 2009 @ 06:32 pm: [report]
As I taller girl, about 5’9”, I’ve dated tall and short guys and must admit dating a man shorter than I was wasn’t my thing. I always felt like I was kneeling or bending, and I am far from lazy, but being comfortable during intimacy is kinda important. I can’t help but turn towards the taller males, but hopefully, if i meet a guy who is awesome but shorter, I’ll be able to open up and give shorter dudes a fair shot.