Would You Date A Guy Who Wears Heels?

Humble Bee
wrote on September 9 2009 @ 10:15 am: [report]

reminds me of the Devil’s advocate….

_jsw_
wrote on September 9 2009 @ 10:20 am: [report]

Ah, lift shoes. The cheaper, less invasive, no less obvious male equivalent of fake boobs. Well, except that I don’t think there are porn mags with men wearing nothing but lifts (of there are, I don’t want to know).

My worthless opinion? If these get a woman to get to know a guy better instead of immediately blowing him off, there’s nothing wrong with them. It’s not like she’d deceived, but it might give him a few minutes of introduction, which might be all he needs.

Me? I wear stilts with normal shoes at the end, which are much less noticeable. However, for what it’s worth, there aren’t that many women who seem to be interested in 9’ tall guys who walk like a newborn giraffe.

Simcha Whitehill
wrote on September 9 2009 @ 10:33 am: [report]

Those shoes are H-O-T.

*sam*
wrote on September 9 2009 @ 10:41 am: [report]

I wouldn’t mind if my guy wore that. However, chances are, a guy that would wear those would probably be more fashion forward than me, and therefore the chances of us having much in common are probably pretty slim.

majicksand
wrote on September 9 2009 @ 10:44 am: [report]

@jsw: If you don’t stop with that ‘worthless opinion’ crap, I will hunt you down, and beat you!  I can, and you know it!

Moving on.

I must say I like a guy who is tall.  Taller than me at least, is a must.  I’m only 5’6”, so it isn’t hard.  My ideal is around 6’, but my husband (and undisputed love of my life) is only 5’9”.  It’s cool; I rarely wear heels.

These shoes though?  Ehh, not a fan.  I’d rather have a guy who is confident in who he is than one who feels the need to fake it.  I am who I am—take it or leave it.  He should be too.

Lynn
wrote on September 9 2009 @ 10:46 am: [report]

I don’t think those shoes are too bad. I think you need a definite style to pull them off (kind of old-school rock ‘n roll-ish) but I think they CAN be pulled off and not be too crazy. So, if those are as high as his heels get, I say yes I could date someone who wore them.

CheeeeEEEEse
wrote on September 9 2009 @ 10:47 am: [report]

Tom Cruise is a major investor.

_jsw_
wrote on September 9 2009 @ 10:47 am: [report]

@majicksand: You know that I only say those things so that you’ll hunt me down and beat me, right?

But, while I have confidence in my knowledge and abilities in many areas, fashion isn’t one of them. I typically wear outfits that look they were pulled of the tusks of an elephant that had gone rampaging through a dump.

*sam*
wrote on September 9 2009 @ 10:50 am: [report]

@_jsw_: you at least wash them first right?

_jsw_
wrote on September 9 2009 @ 10:54 am: [report]

@*sam*: No. A little known fact is that the musky drool of a rampaging bull elephant is a powerful aphrodisiac, so I leave them as they are.

Sadly, it only works on female elephants, but the trunk jobs are amazing.

On a side note, I think it’s pretty impressive to go from lift shoes to trunk jobs in ten comments or so.

majicksand
wrote on September 9 2009 @ 10:55 am: [report]

@jsw: You may have to settle for eflogging for the moment.  *sigh*  Too many men to make suffer, so little time.  I’m a busy girl.

On a reasonably tall guy, I’d say these could be pulled off as a fashion statement.  On a short guy, it’s compensation based on insecurity.  I just don’t have the patience for that anymore.

Laurel
wrote on September 9 2009 @ 10:57 am: [report]

For me the pleasurable thing about dating a tall man isn’t just that he look taller when dressed—it’s how it feels to lie next to someone that much bigger than me. Shoes aren’t gonna fake that.

Sofjna
wrote on September 9 2009 @ 11:06 am: [report]

@majicksand: if you have too many men to make suffer and need some help, I have a little free time on my hands now and gladly offer my help if needed.

As far as the shoes, I could see some of the Eastern European guys I work with wearing these.  It would take someone with confidence, or complete lack of fashion sense, to wear these.

majicksand
wrote on September 9 2009 @ 11:20 am: [report]

@Sofjna: I live in a house with 4 males, not to mention the endless parade of miscreants the boys bring home.  You’re more than welcome to try your hand at raising the teenagers if you’re feeling sado-masochistic.

_jsw_
wrote on September 9 2009 @ 11:21 am: [report]

@majicksand: If you need help raising the teenagers, those shoes should help.

majicksand
wrote on September 9 2009 @ 11:28 am: [report]

@jsw: And make those hard heads even harder to reach?  No way.

DancerNinja
wrote on September 9 2009 @ 11:34 am: [report]

I’ve dated guys shorter than me, and I wouldn’t want him wearing heels like this. Nor has it stopped me from wearing heels. But some guy dresses this snappy, to echo a previous comment, we probably don’t have much in common.

Plus, I would prefer a shorter, athletic dude than a tall, skinny guy, and I can’t imagine these shoes looking right on a pair of quad-tastic legs.

majicksand
wrote on September 9 2009 @ 11:43 am: [report]

It just occurred to me that I have seen men that looked fabulous in heels.  Their calf definition was amazing.  They were in full drag at the time, therefore automatically not my type, but let’s not argue semantics.

Lilypie
wrote on September 9 2009 @ 11:57 am: [report]

All it needs is a big silver buckle and we’ll be all set for Thanksgiving.

_jsw_
wrote on September 9 2009 @ 11:59 am: [report]

@Lilypie: Don’t forget the hat!

pragmatryst
wrote on September 9 2009 @ 12:19 pm: [report]

@Leonora Epstein: “the pair pictured above by Schuh definitely has a dramatic heel that’s a bit costume-y.”

If women have no problem wearing flip flops with everything from bikinis to business suits, I don’t see how they could object to a man wearing a sensible heel.  Besides, the Telegraph picture gallery of these shoes is labeled “The Sarkozy heel”.  If wearing costume-y shoes is the key to attracting globe trotting rich heiress torch singing former models who used to date Mick Jagger and Eric Clapton, then I’ll take a pair in black, brown, and cordovan please.

rsonnack
wrote on September 9 2009 @ 01:55 pm: [report]

These are 2 inches tall at the most. The guy definitely needs to be somewhat fashion forward, but I think they’re cool looking!

skywalk
wrote on September 9 2009 @ 03:40 pm: [report]

My friends boyfriend (who just got out of prison, yeah she pick em) had pair of white boots very similar to these.  I almost laughed out loud when I saw them.

Pinky
wrote on September 9 2009 @ 03:41 pm: [report]

Those shoes are hot, tight blue jeans, those shoes and a white t-shirt,YUM

Sofjna
wrote on September 9 2009 @ 04:54 pm: [report]

@majick: 4 guys in your house!  No wonder you have some asses to beat.  Eh, I’m not afraid of teenage boys.  I’ve always worked with mostly men, I can handle it.  Teenage girls on the other hand, now that is something that requires being masochistic.

Jill
wrote on September 9 2009 @ 05:12 pm: [report]

While shoe shopping with my boyfriend the other day he said, “I like these shoes, but I wish they had more of a heel…”

He wasn’t talking about shoes for me…he was talking about HIS shoes.

I just find something kind of wrong with guys wearing heels.  Guys in eyeliner?  Okay if they’re in a band.  Guys wearing headbands?  Okay if they’re playing a sport.  Guys in heels?  No.

Anniushka
wrote on September 9 2009 @ 09:58 pm: [report]

I looked at the slideshow and most, or at least half, of the “heels” they were talking about couldn’t have been more than .5-1” high. I don’t think most women would consider that to really be a heel, in the “high-heel” sense—at least, not if they were talking about women’s shoes. Apparently any rise in the heel at all in men’s shoes is a big deal…? I thought some of those heels were fairly standard for men’s dress shoes!

As for the ones that do have high-ish heels… well… they’re no higher than, say, cowboy boot heels. I don’t think I’d even notice that the guy’s shoes had the feature, personally. Except, maybe, for the Dior Homme boots. Those are a bit too much.

ootie
wrote on September 10 2009 @ 12:42 pm: [report]

I’m 5’9"ish, and guys that are shorter than me make me feel gangly.  That said, I actually prefer guys that are only an inch or two taller than me. My brother is 6’6”, so the one time I tried to date a really tall guy, it just made me feel like I was hanging out with my brother. No physical chemistry whatsoever.

BlueVibe
wrote on September 14 2009 @ 08:49 am: [report]

Unless a guy is extremely short (as in, a dwarf) or extremely tall, I don’t even notice.  I’m 5’7”, which is not particularly tall but tall enough that I’m used to being able to look an average-height (5’9” or 5’10”) guy more or less in the eye, especially if I’m in heels.  I think the guys I’ve dated have been mostly 5’9”-ish (but I’m not really sure since, as I said, I don’t pay much attention); I know I’ve been interested in shorter guys in the past.

As for heels: Depends on the context.  Lots of guys here wear [heeled] cowboy boots, which are A-OK under all circumstances in Texas.  Yes, they wear them with tuxes.  It looks awesome.

bearclover
wrote on September 16 2009 @ 06:11 am: [report]

I just realized I don’t think I’ve ever bothered to look at a guys feet when determining his date-ability.  I’m pretty much an upper body/chest/shoulders girl.  Next would be whether or not he had hair (I prefer bald.  If you come by it naturally, please shave off the Friar ring!) and then his hands.  *sigh* I have nearly given up hope of ever finding a learned man with rough hands. 

However, it would be very unlikely that any man that would wear shoes like the ones shown would be into the same activities as I am.