The Meanest Things Women Say To Men

Little Lamb
wrote on May 20 2009 @ 07:50 am: [report]

I think the last comment was totally called for and not really mean.  There is nothing worse than trying hard to please your man, when he is trying to invoke your gag reflex.  “I’m trying not to puke all over your cock; please remove your hand” isn’t much better!

Jamie Lee
wrote on May 20 2009 @ 07:54 am: [report]

i agree, if a guy tries to push my head down in any way…he is gonna get at the very least bitched at and a broken nose. end of discussion and end of BJ.

DancerNinja
wrote on May 20 2009 @ 07:55 am: [report]

This is mean: A guy I was dating complained about all the healthy and non-typical-junk-food snacks I kept around the house. I just said “I’m so sorry” (something like that) and patted his belly. (By that point in our relationship I was so sick of his mooching I had no filter.)

friskyman68
wrote on May 20 2009 @ 07:59 am: [report]

those are are mean…?  really?  let’s try “you’re just like your father”  or “you never do anything around here” or “I should have married someone else”...geez I could have written a better article than that.

Krissy
wrote on May 20 2009 @ 08:52 am: [report]

“I don’t want to settle”  That was spoken to a guy that had been interested in me.  It is incredibly mean. I normally am not such a b!tch, but the guy is a pompous dbag. I took it upon myself to deflate him a bit. Yes, I know karma’s a b!tch.

wawmama
wrote on May 20 2009 @ 08:59 am: [report]

Ok, meanest thing I have said ever was, “It’s not your d… size that you should worry about being small, it’s that that’s all you worry about that make you small as a person.” Of course he took this to mean that his manhood was small. Of course according to my ex the meanest thing I have ever said is, “I can’t be there for you now, I’m already dealing with being pregnant, crashing at my grandma’s house, trying to pay your ex with my money, and I’m depressed myself. I have nothing to give you right now.” (Yeah, I’m not exactly eloquent in general…stress just makes it worse.)

Taurwen
wrote on May 20 2009 @ 09:15 am: [report]

I believe I may have said something like “Maybe if you were any good in bed I’d be more willing to deal with your sh*t out of it.”

I still feel really bad for that one. Even if the guy was a jerk.

Humble Bee
wrote on May 20 2009 @ 09:23 am: [report]

haha. That picture reminds me of me and my ex. He was always crying.
I never thought I said mean things, just the truth, and most of the time the truth fu*ken hurts.

bittermelon
wrote on May 20 2009 @ 09:25 am: [report]

“You get more like your mother every day.”

“Don’t think, just listen.” (this applies to many situations but most often to not calling when he’s going to be late…I mean, when you’re sitting in traffic and still 30 minutes away, what else are you doing that you can’t call???)

“You did this to me” (when I found out I was pregnant, and throughout my pregnancy)

My husband claims he hated when I told him he was “a bargain”. He took it as meaning he was something no one else wanted, that I had settled, whereas I saw it as I found a great deal before anyone else saw his value and snatched him up.

MoonBabye
wrote on May 20 2009 @ 09:26 am: [report]

I vaguely remember tossing something his mother told me about him and comparing him to his brother and the way his brother was in his relationship? Feels a little foggy, to say the least. Note to self: be less honest with the sensitive ones.

aminata
wrote on May 20 2009 @ 09:35 am: [report]

@wawmama you weren’t being mean.  Just real.  You should congratulate yourself for that one!  I’m proud of you!

The meanest thing I’ve ever said to a guy while patting his tummy in bed, “Everybody loves beer bellies.  Nobody likes beer tits.”

bethylane
wrote on May 20 2009 @ 09:46 am: [report]

I dated a super-sensitive guy who was having issues at work, and I said something like, “I’m sick of hearing you complain about it. If you’re not going to stick up for yourself and do something, don’t bring it up to me anymore. They’re going to keep taking advantage of you if you lay down like a doormat.”
True story, though. The boy needed to grow some balls. I know I hurt him big time when we split, and I feel awful because he WAS a sweetheart, but he’s doing great now and he’s toughened up. We’re on good terms too, strangely, living 2000 miles apart and still friends—both in new relationships but keeping in touch 100% platonically. ...Is that really weird?

jojo32
wrote on May 20 2009 @ 09:51 am: [report]

I try really hard not to say mean things to the significant other in my life.  I’m sure I did…but I cant recall specifically. 

However, the mean things that spew from my current boyfriends ex are just unbelievable.  I try to consider the source, she’s a complete nutbag, but WOW.  She’s a big fan of the good old “F*ck you” every day, but also called him a “Grey haired fat f*ck” (he has a couple grey hairs and is not fat ANYWHERE, he’s almost too thin for my preference), and when he asked her what he ever did to piss her off so badly she told him “You married me”.  She also tells him she wishes he would kill himself on a regular basis. 

Like I said, just W-O-W.  I cant imagine being that mean.

bethylane
wrote on May 20 2009 @ 09:58 am: [report]

@jojo, OH my gosh!!! What a psychotic c*nt drip! Wooow…

writergirl
wrote on May 20 2009 @ 10:01 am: [report]

“Maybe you should have a penile implant.”

subpar
wrote on May 20 2009 @ 10:12 am: [report]

“You don’t know #&@$% about politics, so just stop talking” (born-into-being-republican ex).

And when we broke up, “My friends hate you and it’s too late to change that” and “I’ve sacrificed everything for this relationship”. The last one made him FLIP, he took it as though I was suggesting he hadn’t sacrificed anything. If he had, I sure didn’t know about it.

I was traveling to see him every weekend and spending time with his family and his friends instead of ever seeing MY family and MY friends. Him? He stopped visiting me at school as soon as we were official, and he met my parents once during the two years we were together.

vanillalatte
wrote on May 20 2009 @ 10:25 am: [report]

in front of an audience i told him that he was not a man and that he was a p**sy.

Helina Handbasket
wrote on May 20 2009 @ 10:39 am: [report]

after break up, at a party at his house, “I could have used a few more inches.”

estrellada
wrote on May 20 2009 @ 10:40 am: [report]

the last one isn’t MEAN…it’s kinda trueee.

I think the meanist thing i have said was when my ex was breaking up with me and i was like : “actually, we broke up like 2 months ago sweetie. I haven’t been in this relationship since and you are simply NOT what I want in my life.”

sorry ex.

Olivia Allin
wrote on May 20 2009 @ 11:13 am: [report]

Jeez. You guys are really nice. I don’t know if blogging counts, but once I said, “He wears my father’s robe wide open so that not only am I utterly repulsed by his hairy pregnant belly, but I will always feel a perversion to my father in his robe now.” I still feel guilty but I was REALLY pissed off at this guy and was dealing with the prospect of losing my mom at the time and he never once asked if she was okay and then he apologized for being awful and begged me to take down the blog.

kristy1584
wrote on May 20 2009 @ 11:13 am: [report]

I told my ex husband in front of 2 of our friends that he was a “sorry piece of #&@$% and I couldnt believe I ever married such an #&@$%.” I look back now and kind of feel bad about it but then again when compared to some of the things he said to/about me to our mutual friends, he deserved it.

PinkRanger
wrote on May 20 2009 @ 11:24 am: [report]

During a breakup with a guy I dated that was of questionable intelligence and was angry and violent about his insecurities relating to brain power:

“if you take one thing away from this relationship, I hope its the f*cking thesaurus.”

bethylane
wrote on May 20 2009 @ 11:27 am: [report]

@pinkranger, that is hilarious. I wish I’d thought of it myself because I know exactly who I’d say it to!

k126
wrote on May 20 2009 @ 11:40 am: [report]

After putting up with three years of relationship hell, I finally decided to pack my things one day. As I passed by him in the living room sitting there crying, I couldn’t resist the urge to turn and say to him,“Oh look. It has feelings,” and then walk out the door. This was also the same day he found out his dog had died. I feel bad about it now, but it felt oh so good at the time

lilrockgoddess4u
wrote on May 20 2009 @ 11:47 am: [report]

“I’m not upset about this breakup because you and this relationship are just not important to me anymore.”  Said to my ex as he asked me how I could be so calm about ending our 2yr relationship.

subpar
wrote on May 20 2009 @ 12:06 pm: [report]

@k126

Win. You may as well have kicked him in the balls. Sucks about the dog, but still pretty hilarious.

retro chic
wrote on May 20 2009 @ 12:31 pm: [report]

Yeah, those samples seem tame. How about that battery-acid silence that foams out of your eyes or his phone receiver?

bittermelon/vinallalatte, Yes! The worst thing you can call a man—is a woman. Any female trait or person, even without derog terms or button-pushing, will do it! I don’t, j/s.

Usually, whatever I thought *must* be said, was best served up clinically cold—never in anger. Thank god my laser-focused, bloodless verbal death-blows you can imagine were delivered—in my head. I try to be a “do unto others” person preferring to stay on the smoother sidewalk of karma. My father was (un)affectionately known as “Ol’ Yeller” and is mostly alone.

Any temptation now, has been replaced with more direct sparring along the way, instead of banked anger for the big payoff at the end.

anatomization
wrote on May 20 2009 @ 03:08 pm: [report]

Wow, this isn’t exactly the same as the other article, this is the worst things you have said and its interesting how women and men look at this, cause being a man I have heard some of these but also things alot worse from girls mouths.  One thing I don’t understand is why you all relish the amount of pain you caused someone???  Half of these post say something like “I feel bad about it now but at the time it was great”???  Really, im sure ive said and done some mean things but I felt bad about it then and now…I wasn’t enjoying being in a situation where I was hurting someone.  Most men I have known hurt someone because they are either defending themselves or hurting themselves, not because they like it, unless they are sociopaths.

PinkRanger
wrote on May 20 2009 @ 05:31 pm: [report]

@atomization: I can’t speak for everyone on this post obviously, but in general there are times when we have such strong urges for revenge, or even just to stand up for ourselves, that we do and say things that are regrettable. Does it not feel good to defend yourself sometimes? I don’t think it makes you a sociopath because you have regrets. The fact that someone feels bad about mistakes they’ve made shows character, but you can’t change the emotion you were feeling at the time.

Also on this thread we aren’t hearing about everything that led up to what was said. AS for my guy that my post is about, I was downright gentle with him. My experiences with that man changed who I am, and not in a good way. I have had to overcome so many obstacles since then, including learning not to fear men. He took away my feeling of safety and self worth in ways that I cant’ even begin to explain on here, and saying something cruel to him was the only way I knew at the time to do anything about it. Does that still make me a sociopath because I insulted him and it felt good?
He is now in prison for his decisions in the aftermath of our breakup, and I"m proud of the fact that I helped put him there, does that also make me a sociopath?

It has nothing to do with how women view things, its about personal experiences, and finding yourself again and saying “wait a sec, I’m not gonna put up with bs anymore”

wittybitch
wrote on May 20 2009 @ 05:41 pm: [report]

“You aren’t hot enough to be such an #&@$%.”

Yep, thats right, I went there.

yarngasm
wrote on May 20 2009 @ 06:21 pm: [report]

“I need you like I need AIDS.”

After an ex told me I should apologize because I needed him. Ooook, smart guy… then why did I dump your ass in the first place?

roastchicken
wrote on May 20 2009 @ 06:57 pm: [report]

After my douchbag of an ex tried telling me he was amazing in bed, because he ‘thought’ he could give me mulitple orgasms.

“Please, any woman can fake an orgasm, and men won’t know the diffrence.”

Apparently my Oscar’s in the mail.

s'more please
wrote on May 20 2009 @ 06:58 pm: [report]

I told the man that cheated on me (and got someone preggers) that I hoped his new baby was as ugly on the outside as he was on the inside.

abbylyn
wrote on May 20 2009 @ 07:14 pm: [report]

“I faked.  Yes, every time.  Yes, even that one time.”

IrishErin
wrote on May 20 2009 @ 08:21 pm: [report]

“You’re like jello. You just become whatever the people you’re around want you to be. You’re so scared that you won’t be liked by the right people. You have absolutely no idea who you really are you do? And I think that’s really sad. I feel sorry for you”

Our mutual friends would later refer to the letter this came from as “the letter that destroyed his soul”. Score.

becktasm
wrote on May 20 2009 @ 08:44 pm: [report]

“The only thing I learned from you was how to fake an orgasm.”

“I don’t know why I wasted my time on a 22 year old who’d never even gone to college. You might as well start drinking, because now that I’m leaving you’ve got nothing exciting going on at all.”

and, my favorite:
“I f*cked your best friend. I hope you don’t mind.”
Turns out he minded- whatever, I did it after he cheated on me and and broke my little heart. What goes around comes around.

Blenderzz
wrote on May 20 2009 @ 09:32 pm: [report]

“It’s not that I don’t want to get married. I just don’t want to marry you.”

Nefret
wrote on May 21 2009 @ 05:47 am: [report]

ex-Friend #1: “I’m breaking up with you because I want my kids to have blond hair and blue eyes.” (as a reason to end an interracial relationship)

ex-Friend #2: “I’ll think about saying yes when you come back with a bigger ring.”

Me: “In case you haven’t figured it out by now - I wouldn’t f*** you with someone else’s p****.”

lindseylee21
wrote on May 21 2009 @ 08:10 am: [report]

@ Nefret - Wow, that first one is really awful, probably the worst one I read in all of these comments. Are you seriously that racist? What a terrible thing to say.

joyy
wrote on May 21 2009 @ 08:19 am: [report]

@Nefret - it looks like she’s quoting a former friend, not actually something she herself said.

Lynn
wrote on May 21 2009 @ 10:20 am: [report]

Ohhhh man. This one was so hard to say, but it was the truth. I went out on a date with a friend, and 10 minutes in, I knew it was a mistake to try and make something more of our friendship. Then, because of a super bad storm (trees and power lines all over the road, it was illegal to drive for a non-emergency), I was stuck at his house overnight. A couple days later I called him and said that it wasn’t going to work. After dancing around the reason for a while, I finally said,

“As soon as you kissed me, the ONLY thing I wanted to do was get out and get as far away as I could. I don’t know why. I told you I was going to brave the storm because I had to leave and go to work, but really I went down the street to my aunt’s house to wait out the storm just so I wouldn’t have to stay at yours.”

Nefret
wrote on May 21 2009 @ 10:38 am: [report]

@lindseylee21: joyy is correct, I didn’t say that but I posted it because it fit the topic and is definitely the meanest thing I’ve ever heard *anyone* to say to an ex. It’s also a huge factor in why she is a former friend, when she told me that she said that I was completely floored.

PinkRanger
wrote on May 21 2009 @ 11:11 am: [report]

Oh I remembered one from a former friend of mine from college, who unfortunately brought out the worst in me.

This is what she told one guy she had been casually dating after sleeping with him for the first time:*I have to add that he is one of the nicest guys I’ve ever known*

“This isn’t going anywhere. I mean, we had sex for 20 minutes with only three positions. Come on…..you wouldn’t even choke me you p*ssy!!”

Hearing about this was the moment I realized that our friendship wasn’t gonna work out lol. Completely uncalled for comment.

Squidtermz
wrote on May 21 2009 @ 01:11 pm: [report]

Those aren’t bad at all.

wild-ting
wrote on May 22 2009 @ 05:26 am: [report]

ROFLMAO at “Get your f**king hand off my head, or I will never be going south again.”

That’s not mean just direct! :D :D

wild-ting
wrote on May 22 2009 @ 05:51 am: [report]

I confess to saying something that may be termed “mean” but I say it was coming clean and being truthful and very factual. What I said to an ex:

You’re an ass. A liar. And sick and pathetic on so many levels. You are a lonely and lost man. You will remain a lonely and lost man because you treat people very badly. The trick for living beings is to stay out of your path of destruction.

Later I sent him a text/music message with the chorus to a song by The Sounds titled “Paint By Numbers”. The Chorus blared:
~You said it was love~
~I got what I need to get by~

Okay, I admit the text message was mean.

IAMME
wrote on May 22 2009 @ 09:27 am: [report]

My current bf’s ex said some horrible things to him when they were together, things I would never say to anyone, she told him he had a small penis (he doesnt), that he was fat, and stupid ect. but my very favorite she told him that he f’d like a walrus…...LOL The girl obviously watches way too much animal planet or something….

aries3_04
wrote on May 22 2009 @ 12:13 pm: [report]

“I need a guy with substance; someone who gives a s**t about politics” after he told me he voted for Bush in ‘04, not because he favored Bush, but because his dad told him to.

“If you want to date a girl with a huge rack, then I’ll find a guy with a dick, any size that’s bigger than yours.”

“Your life is a joke. You’re not special and you’re a hypocrite.”

Yep, I was mean but it was well deserved considering the many mean things Mr. Ex said to me beforehand.

jusme1234
wrote on May 22 2009 @ 05:28 pm: [report]

How bout this one….......
There is NOTHING you can do to make me love you, EVER!
n besides, I dont even like you.

KHilton152
wrote on May 24 2009 @ 07:37 am: [report]

I was dating a professor of mine in college and in the midst of an arguement I threatened to ruin his career. That really through him. I have no idea why I said it and I didn’t really mean it. I didn’t even really care about him that much but anger does crazy things to ya I guess.

wonder_bread
wrote on May 24 2009 @ 09:03 pm: [report]

Im really beginning to think you have a vagina bigger than mine”-

I thought i was dating a man not a woman. stop being so emotional thats my job.Make a decision and be assertive about it”

i love him to pieces though. he’s the greatest guy i know at the moment i jus wasn’t use to being with someone so in touch with their emotions but i got use to it

backyardriot
wrote on May 24 2009 @ 09:46 pm: [report]

I said this to a guy friend that I had a huge crush on, who turned out to be a loser. I was hanging out with him and he was a little drunk. He was going on how he drinks alone. He starting to piss me off and I say, “You drink alone because you are alone, and will always be alone.” Yeah, that made him shut up.

OhAshluv
wrote on May 24 2009 @ 11:21 pm: [report]

after a discussion about having children,I once told my ex, “your simple existence is argument enough for an abortion,there’s no reason for the world to be cursed with one more of you”

Bonus
wrote on May 25 2009 @ 03:01 am: [report]

Wow, many of these aren’t nearly as bad as some of the things the guys said. Some were still pretty nasty. I don’t think saying horrible things is something to be proud of, or to celebrate though.

Also, saying hurtful things at the end, or after the end, of a (emotionally close) relationship is not safe.

I like to read widely, including criminology publications. Probably the most dangerous time in a woman’s life is in the six months after a *close* relationship she was in has ended. That is, if the guy loves you. You don’t have to love him, it’s his love that makes a breakup equation (potentially) dangerous.

It takes a few things coming together, such as love/obsession + alcohol + male depression + proximity, etc. Gratuitous antagonism surely wouldn’t help the situation.

Bonus
wrote on May 25 2009 @ 03:14 am: [report]

Becktasm’s comments to a guy: “I f*cked your best friend. I hope you don’t mind.”

This is the most explosive comment I read. Under certain conditions, this would be an extremely dangerous & foolish thing to say to a man. Say other nasty things if you have to, but mixing sexual-jealousy in there is serious, especially if he has feelings for you.

feisty1
wrote on May 25 2009 @ 08:02 am: [report]

Hey Krissy,
I hear you about letting the guy know you can’t settle…I should have said that to my last guy. Instead I told the dbag he might be BiPolar and to quit yelling at like a child. He messed up, I wanted answers. I was calm and asked him not to lie about where he was all night. Who needs a control freak like that?! I AM WAY TOO GOOD FOR HIM!

secureblackmale
wrote on May 25 2009 @ 10:28 am: [report]

when will verbal and mental abuse be seen in the same light as physical?  why do women think its ok to injur, correct, or otherwise cripple a man in ANY way when its equally unacceptable for a man to do so to a woman?  what gives so many women the right and or necessity to correct others?  has our spiritual enlightenment become so low that even our women have become barbaric and proud?  at what point do we stop calling you guys our “better” halves when you apparently take more pride in harming others than even we do?

she gives him the business and a bloody nose - right on girl!

he gives her the business and a black eye - that sorry s.o.b?

how about we focus more on how to correct this stuff than how to perfect lashing out and aggrivating situations in the assumption that nothing more than “him crying” will happen.

PinkRanger
wrote on May 25 2009 @ 02:56 pm: [report]

@Secureblackmale:I definitely hear ya. But I don’t think its just women, its people in general. This thread just happens to be about what women say. Bit of an unfair generalization. Why don’t you go read the thread aobut the worst things men have said to women? Just as nasty.

I would say most women don’t think its ok to hurt someone physically or emotionally, but this is all the WORST things we’ve ever said, everyone has done things they regret, nobody is perfect. Its the point of the thread.

droptank
wrote on September 14 2009 @ 01:40 pm: [report]

We’re separated.

(To her lover and in front of her husband when her husband confronts them about their adulterous relationship.)