Why We Need The Knot
Posted by: Wendy Atterberry
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relationships
2:00PM, Wednesday December 17th 2008
Word around the blogosphere is that The Knot, the website devoted to obsessing over wedding and engagement details, may be tanking. Though I’ve heard it’s a helpful resource for brides, I’ve never had reason to visit it myself (even if I were engaged, I’d be more of an IndieBride), but I took the news of its possible doom as an excuse to check it out and see what I’d been missing. Holy moly, you guys, the site’s better than porn…especially for its awesome message boards! After the jump, some one my favorite messages from the boards, all of which are reason enough to hope this site stays strong and survives the recession.
I accidentally found out that my boyfriend has bought a ring for me. No telling when he is going to propose. But I am a little disappointed now because I really want to be completely surprised! And it truly was an accident.
I am divorced and have my old wedding band and engagement ring. A few months ago, my bf and I talked about our future and getting married. At that time, I told him that whenever he feels ready, he should take my old rings and trade them in toward new ones. I didn’t want to keep the old ones of course, and thought that would be the most useful way to get rid of them. I told him where they were (a drawer in my jewelry box that I literally NEVER open. Has only the really old jewelry that I don’t wear and don’t know why I keep in there.) and I left it at that. That was in October. On Friday when I was getting ready for work, I opened the drawer looking for a bracelet. At first I didn’t even think twice about the box missing. But a minute later, I realized I didn’t see it and went back to check if it was there. It wasn’t and the only thing I can think is that he took them to trade them in. Yes I know, he may have taken them now and not plan on doing anything for awhile. But I guess I just wish I knew absolutely nothing about what is potentially coming. I just wanted to vent a little bit about figuring it out. :(
Oh noes!! She accidently discovered her old rings missing from the jewelry box where she told her boyfriend he could find them! Who woulda thought a crazy mix-up like that could ever happen?! I just hope she can still manage to feign surprise when he pops the question. OMG, you do think he’s going to pop the question, right? I mean, the rings are missing!!!
BF and I have been together over 5 years (he is 31 and I am 27). I would love to get engaged this Christmas and have told BF that a ring is the only gift I want.
Around Thanksgiving weekend, I showed him a pic of a ring that I have been holding on to for about 7 years and he said that he really liked it. Well the pic disappeared a few days later and I found it in his wallet!! Good sign right? Well since I had never actually tried on the ring in person, I found a jeweler that had it this past weekend and it turns out I did not like it so much. Yesterday I was Christmas shopping by myself and I found a ring that I really REALLY loved! I called BF and left him a voicemail stating my excitement. Last night I convinced him to drive back to the store (25 miles away) so he could see it and see my love for it. He said “if it means that much to you, we’ll go see it”. I was so excited!!
When we got to the store, I showed it to him and he said he liked it as well, plus liked the fact that price was very very low due to holiday sales. What do you all think about this scenario?? This is coming from a man who did not want to discuss marriage up until the past 6 months ago and now he has the ring pic in his wallet and was willing to sit through me trying on rings??? Thanks!!!
Oh, the excitement!!! Of course he is going to propose! Wow, and to think that six months ago he wouldn’t even discuss marriage. That must have been difficult for his girlfriend who’s had her engagement ring picked out for 7 years (2 years longer than she’s known her boyfriend). Who cares that he’ll be proposing to a woman who snoops in his wallet, this is true love!! I mean, he drove 25 miles to a store for her and he’s willing to shell out for a new ring — a very, very low-priced one. If that isn’t a sign this is meant to be, I don’t know what is!
We have a family we are inviting and we’re addressing their save the date… one son does not live with them anymore, so he is getting his own std. Should we address his parents’ std with “Mr and Mrs. blahblah and Family” for his brother and sister who still live with them? Or since it is a std should we just address the parents?
This letter perfectly illustrates how awesome I think the idea of elopement is! Marry and keep your brain cells intact — brilliant!
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Annika Harris
wrote on December 17 2008 @ 02:10 pm: [report]
I didn’t realize brides could be so nutty until I watched a marathon of “Bridezilla.” This post shows me that these women really do exist.
Perceptible
wrote on December 17 2008 @ 02:16 pm: [report]
These are too scary. (But totally funny at the same time.) You have to wonder if they later read their posts and think, wtf was I thinking?!
wouldntitbenice
wrote on December 17 2008 @ 02:32 pm: [report]
Meh. I’m getting married in August, and I have discovered my fare share of bride-tripe on The Knot, Weddingbee, and yes even IndieBride. If you decide to have a wedding, you’re not automatically a moron. If you, the author, aren’t getting married than stick to what you know. And if you, anyone else, are getting married, I’m sure you’re smart enough to screen your wedding resources for relevance to your needs.
Personally, I think the Knot has a great wedding to-do checklist.
DoctorODoctor
wrote on December 17 2008 @ 02:54 pm: [report]
The Knot (and The Nest—the site for the newlyweds) can get CRAZY. Yes, there’s the regular bride and wedding stuff, but there’s also a friggin TON of b*tchiness, bullying, and trying to bring women to tears. Some of those boards are like reliving the nastiness of junior high all over again, only this time, they not only insult your looks, but your fiance, ring, wedding dress, family members, photos, career, and house.
I found a lot of help through the site when I was getting married a few years ago(budget tools, flower ideas, blah blah blah), but the crap that goes on on the message boards totally ruined the site for me.
stephanerd
wrote on December 17 2008 @ 02:54 pm: [report]
Some of the messages on The Knot’s bulletin boards have definitely alarmed me.
I can’t snark too much, though…I got some fabulous vendor suggestions for my own wedding by posting a few SOS-type messages.
Claire Zulkey
wrote on December 17 2008 @ 03:58 pm: [report]
When I got engaged I swore I wouldn’t go on the Knot. that promise lasted about a week. It was helpful for some things (etiquette, hotel recommendation on the messages boards for our wedding night) but the to-do list is sort of on crack. It recommended you get your cake something like 4-6 months but a lot of bakeries don’t take orders earlier than say a month ahead of time.
I don’t go on the Nest, however, just because I have far fewer questions about post-wedding life other than the occasional “WTF?”
vanya
wrote on December 17 2008 @ 05:08 pm: [report]
I found extremists on both The Knot and IndieBride. Guess it comes with the stress-filled territory or something.
gillybeans
wrote on December 17 2008 @ 05:13 pm: [report]
Heh heh. STD.
Sonic
wrote on December 17 2008 @ 05:17 pm: [report]
Dude, I LOVE theknot.com! It makes me happy to see all those radiant couples together and to see the variety of options for cakes, rings, etc. These bridezillas…I don’t even know. It’s annoying.
eden
wrote on December 17 2008 @ 07:22 pm: [report]
My bridezilla solution is to have our wedding outside on a mountain, with just close family and friends, then a big party when we return. No place settings, corsage, smoked-salmon appetizers bullcrap, just me and my man in a gorgeous setting.
Beckie23
wrote on December 17 2008 @ 09:37 pm: [report]
Coming from a single-and-loving-it. The knot and wedding maddness is simply annoying. It’s your day, not ours. So I crack up looking at the Knot. You brides want other people to take part in the madness and such of your day. We’re there for the open bar. We love you, as the bride (or groom), but your day is simply a way to party.
vanya
wrote on December 17 2008 @ 09:42 pm: [report]
Has anyone read that article on The Onion: “Wedding Enjoyed By No One But Bride”?? That was hilarious!
http://www.theonion.com/content/node/38555
DancerNinja
wrote on December 18 2008 @ 01:35 am: [report]
Yeah, those messages seem trite and airheaded, but something to me, the ever cynical, the single and thankful, the crude as all get out, thinks ragging on them in this fashion is kinda uncouth. That said, the prices and stress people dole out on rings and wedding plans could be better spent investing in a first house or mutual fund. I think having engagement AND wedding bands is over the top anyways.
Claire Zulkey
wrote on December 18 2008 @ 09:05 am: [report]
Yep, buying a house before the wedding AND merging our bank accounts together was a great way to put the wedding band (as in jewelry) thing into perspective for me.
Amelia
wrote on December 18 2008 @ 09:24 am: [report]
@Claire Zulkey I love your avatar. Best Wife Swap EVER.
Claire Zulkey
wrote on December 18 2008 @ 11:24 am: [report]
Thanks Amelia. Someone once told me that I shouldn’t use it because “you’re so much cuter than that in real life.” Kind of funny except that it must mean that I SORT of look like Margeurite then??