What’s The Meanest Thing You’ve Done To A Dude?
Over at Tracie Egan’s blog One D At A Time, she writes about a recent fight she had with her fiance, in which she was left so enraged (and convinced that they were through) that she put his electric guitar in her bathtub and proceeded to pee on it over the course of a day. Oh, and she had her period too, “so it was extra destructive and stinky. The guitar, of course, is ruined.”
This anecdote is buried within a larger post about the Rihanna/Chris Brown scandal and she tells it as a way of conveying what it’s like to be both the offender and the offendee. And while the context of the post is sad—the image of Rihanna post-beating is at the bottom—this particular nugget made me almost wet myself. Haven’t we all done something out of control to the one we love/like in a crazy rage? I have. Years ago, when I was drunk and out on the town, the guy I loved (loved, like, madly) told me he had a new girlfriend—in a rage (he had waited to tell me this information until after I had taken an eight hour bus ride down to visit him in D.C.) I kind of, sort of, maybe shoved him into oncoming traffic. He didn’t get hurt at all, thank god, and somehow has forgiven me. We’re even friends! What’s the nuttiest thing you’ve ever done when you’ve been pissed at a significant other?

















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TOO_DOPE
wrote on February 25 2009 @ 12:46 pm: [report]
Revenge-F!@3ed my friend. : /
Kiki T
wrote on February 25 2009 @ 01:07 pm: [report]
way back on my 18th b-day, I went out my friends to dance, get drunk and pick up guys. I met this one guy, he was cute, sweet, nice and bought me drinks all night long. I was wasted when I was leaving and I wouldn’t give him my number, instead I told him where I was going to be in a few night and he would have to show up with a flower. dumb me—he came that night with a bouquet of a dozen red roses. it freaked me out, because i was actually at a show that the guy I was into was playing at…so to get out of it, i yanked another one of my guy friends and had him pretend to be my boyfriend and when he approached me I acted like I didn’t know him and when he was telling me where I met him, I just laughed and said I was on acid for the first time that night and I didn’t remember a thing.
Rosa
wrote on February 25 2009 @ 01:13 pm: [report]
My ex and I broke up after moving across the county together and dating for 3 years. He started dating his 19 year old neighbor 2 months later. A few weeks later on my birthday, after drinking about 5 too many cocktails, he showed up at my birthday dinner celebration, where I proceeded to cry and then throw my burrito across the restaurant and hit his new girlfriend in the head. Not my proudest moment.
Humble Bee
wrote on February 25 2009 @ 01:18 pm: [report]
I was in High school, and was a total nut job. It was my first love of course, and everyone told me he had cheated on me at a ditching party with some girl named Nancy. So I saw Nacy walking down quad looking at me with a satisfied look, and I just literally beat the sh!t out of her in the courtyard and once my the effing cheater came to see, I jumped on him too and was going all wacko, talking the most sh!t you could ever hear come out of someone’s mouth.
I specially beat up Nancy, she had braces and it looked like a freaking murder scene. He switched schools the following week because everyone teased him about getting his ass beat by a small girl. As for Nancy, she stayed for me to torment her through out high school and was always known as the girl who got the sh!t kicked out of her and couldn’t stip crying. NOw, i look back and think, “what an idiot” a total waste of man power. They didn’t deserve my time and were meant for eachother.
Erin G
wrote on February 25 2009 @ 01:20 pm: [report]
So he’s not a sig other but still…
This one guy I’d been into for a long time thought that he was the coolest sh*t on the face of the earth. I was fooled by his cool aura, I am not afraid to admit. He was spending this one particular evening with me, during a weekend we and our mass group of friends were spending in Daytona for Spring Break. I obviously was so enthralled I didn’t check myself, and realize that I was his trophy f*ck (to prove to his friends that he “could have anything he wanted”).
So the next night I screwed his cool-guy “protégé” in the backseat of a car. And the student totally surpassed the teacher.
par3
wrote on February 25 2009 @ 01:21 pm: [report]
too_dope: ditto. sigh. even tho i regret it now…
Dmun
wrote on February 25 2009 @ 01:22 pm: [report]
@Humble Bee
Waste of man power? How about, “I acted like a total psycho and was violent over an emotional outburst.”
No better than Chris Brown, really.
Dmun
wrote on February 25 2009 @ 01:27 pm: [report]
Well, since this is a “dick things girls have done” post, I’ll talk about what people have done to me.
One girl, in highschool, poured hand potion all over my lap—BEFORE SCHOOL—because I broke up with her.
And then she befriended another Ex. They plotted on me, mostly on my reputation. I didn’t really do anything other than break things off.
Another girl, again high school, tried to start the gay rumors and have her friends jump me.
Funny thing is, I was a total nerd in highschool and the only time I associated with other people (and not books) was when I dated them.
WinkyFace
wrote on February 25 2009 @ 01:33 pm: [report]
There was a guy I was casually seeing my junior year in college. He started acting very clingy and creepy, and one day he showed up my house unexpectedly, so I ran out the back door while my roommates distracted him and I basically hid from him at my neighbors’. From that day on, every time I saw him I’d turn and literally run the other direction. Poor guy would just stand there with a stunned look on his face. It was the most immature thing I think I’ve ever done, and now I look back on it and realize he was actually a nice guy and I was just a bitch.
yarngasm
wrote on February 25 2009 @ 03:20 pm: [report]
I told an ex-boyfriend in college that I needed him like I needed AIDS. The idiot still kept trying to do stuff to get back with me.
redhead722
wrote on February 25 2009 @ 03:27 pm: [report]
My ex always wanted to borrow my car. I would usually oblige. I was personally terrible at following the 2 hour parking limits in the city and got several tickets because of it. I also had gotten one for running a red light. While in a fight I told him that he owed me $200 for tickets he had gotten while borrowing my car. He gave it to me no questions asked, even though I had earned those tickets all by myself.
The same ex always left his #&@$% in my car. So during one fight I took his brand new soccer cleats off my back seat and donated them to poor kids who wanted to play soccer.
writergirl
wrote on February 25 2009 @ 03:37 pm: [report]
A guy asked me out…I thought he was joking so I laughed. The look on his face was just…sad. He was so crushed. That was 21 years ago and to this day, I still feel guilty.
ChoJinn
wrote on February 25 2009 @ 03:51 pm: [report]
For the record ladies, sleeping with a guy’s friend to get back at him is hilariously counterproductive. They will both be laughing at you over beers the next day. Think about it: if he cares so little for you in the first place, will he care when you, out of obvious spite, go after his friend?
@Humble Bee: yah, I’d keep that stuff to myself. <:/ Please don’t beat me up.
Humble Bee
wrote on February 25 2009 @ 04:03 pm: [report]
Okay people, that was 7 years ago! in HIGH SCHOOL.
I am not Chris Brown. lol.
I mean, am I the only person who has ever gotten into a fight in High School? Did I mention that I was a green belt in Jujitsu at the time also. I do feel terribly bad, and immature for it. Like I said, total waste of man power, I was just infuriated and not to mention I was about 14 years old. I’m pretty sure we’ve all done REALLY stupid things in our past. Some people are so judgemental. I like to read all your stories too, but damn don’t judge me like that. “No better than Chris Brown” hahaha. He’s an adult already, I wasn’t, dont compar me DMUN. “CHODJINN : yah, I’d keep that stuff to myself. <:/ Please don’t beat me up.” yeah, I’m really going to jump into the computer screen and beat you up. Don’t be ridiculous.
vanya
wrote on February 25 2009 @ 04:27 pm: [report]
I outed him. To his mother.
Wasn’t a lie, but I do realize it wasn’t exactly my place to say it. He shouldn’t have lied to her and pretended we were still together to cover up his gay relationship. Put me in a terribly awkward position when I ran into her and she assumed I was coming to the next family gathering with him. I didn’t feel like lying to her when she asked “Can’t you two work things out?”
gillybeans
wrote on February 25 2009 @ 04:37 pm: [report]
Kicked him in the balls. Immature, yes. Satisfying, yes.
Taurwen
wrote on February 25 2009 @ 05:33 pm: [report]
I’m kinda like writergirl. Someone who used to be my friend (and started to act like an ass towards me) asked me out. I thought he was joking so I laughed… Then I realized he was being serious and I laughed harder.
Dianna T
wrote on February 25 2009 @ 06:29 pm: [report]
I onced walked out in the middle of a date because a guy was working my nerves so bad.
retro chic
wrote on February 25 2009 @ 07:17 pm: [report]
For the deserving, it’s served up cold. They hate that. Otherwise it’s better to not bother at all. Better to walk. They hate that too, but keeps things from getting extreme. Adds to the entertainment and satisfaction value with friends over champagne. The keepers are repentant.
Titi
wrote on February 25 2009 @ 08:28 pm: [report]
While I think that breaking a guy’s heart is probably the worst thing I’ve ever done, I did treat an ex badly and I still regret it this day. I cheated frequently, but he stuck around anyway. I’d leave the country for weeks at a time without notice (once to visit another ex). We loved each other, but fought a lot. I also threw out ALL of his porn in an epic fit of rage(he’s freakishly into porn and watched it daily, so I’m talking several garbage bags worth—hundreds of DVDs and VHS, it took him over a decade to collect it). Then I left him and broke his heart. It was many years ago, but I still feel very badly. I was a huge bitch to him. He didn’t deserve that.
Tamara
wrote on February 25 2009 @ 09:13 pm: [report]
If I ever did that to my boyfriends guitar I don’t think there would be anywhere for me to run or hide. The worst thing I’ve ever done to a guy was well, I stabbed him in the face. I was young really young and had crush. He used this to his advantage and told all of his guys friends that I was easy, essentially one of them offered to walk me home and tried to rape my face. I confronted the douchebag, he pushed the issue and somehow he ended up with a knife in his face. I’m a little fuzzy on details as it was many years ago and I lost my temper (which I’m in very good control of now), but his face healed and he never learned his lesson.
He called me the otherday in fact.
Chelle
wrote on February 25 2009 @ 09:18 pm: [report]
I’ve done a ton of rotten things to guys. So many that I warn them ahead of time if they want to date me. I have a bad temper. However, with my most recent ex, the meanest thing I did to him was break up with him. I’ve been trying to behave and it’s working so far. When I was a teenager, I cheated on my ex with 3 of his friends (they were my friends too and I only slept with one of them) while he was grounded. My other ex pissed me off so badly I punched him in the face and broke his nose (one of many mean things I did to that one ‘cause he was pretty mean himself). One thing I have never done and never would even consider doing is damaging ANYONE’S guitar. That’s one of the worse things you could ever do to a musician. It’s like killing someone’s dog. If anyone ever did that to me they better hope I never see them again, EVER.
Erin G
wrote on February 25 2009 @ 10:10 pm: [report]
Tamara: Jesus girl! Why wouldn’t you stab the guy who tried to RAPE you?! Why the attack the crush?
HumbleBee: No worries girl, you’re not alone. I was 17 and punched a guy in the middle of a lecture on WWII for calling me a bitch. Bitch nothin’! He deserved it and I’ll stand by it. He’d been verbally harassing me all school year. I came back from suspension and got ‘thank yous’ from quite a few people.
I think us women are a little repressed, no? lol We’re all so violent!
Backliteyes
wrote on February 25 2009 @ 10:32 pm: [report]
Cheated, came clean, and broke off an engagement. I obviously wasn’t ready, didn’t value what I had enough, or both. It was the most rotten thing to do. I feel terrible about it on a pretty regular basis.
carol v.a.
wrote on February 26 2009 @ 01:54 pm: [report]
During our first date, he was totally dull. I couldn’t wait for it to be over. He was the one who asked me out, but he would barely talk! I ordered whatever food I could eat the quickest, had no dessert and got out as fast as I could. Back on the road in his car, he asked if I wanted to drive around and see the million dollar homes in the neighborhood. What? I said no thanks, thats the kind of thing my mom likes to do. Did I mention he was old enough to be my dad? Oh, it was disgusting. Later that week, he comes up to me and says, ‘I was wondering if I could see you again this weekend’. What? I didn’t know I was a display to be looked at! I could barely keep a straight face. He saw the look and said ‘Well call me’ I said sure and later threw his number away. I never once spoke to him again and whenever he saw me, he would get that sad puppy look in his eyes. Another guy who was about 4 years younger than me came to introduce himself with his mom in tow! He didn’t say a word, and Mommy Dearest did the questioning. (sigh)either they’re too old or too young.
Lauralicious
wrote on February 26 2009 @ 06:38 pm: [report]
@Erin G - No lie! We all need to speak our minds a bit more, it would seem…or take up kickboxing classes.
And Tamara…please please PLEASE feel free to stab rapists in the face. This is perfectly acceptable behavior, and I thank you.
Mira
wrote on February 26 2009 @ 08:13 pm: [report]
I broke my ex’s heart (although I forewarned him 6 months prior to the incident that I was leaving him when I graduated from college) by going on a last minute trip with a famous guy from my past. I completely damaged his ego… even though he knew that I didn’t want to be with him anymore.
Linz
wrote on February 26 2009 @ 10:01 pm: [report]
She said he tried to rape her face. I think she means he tried to shove his tongue down her throat without warning.
Dmun
wrote on February 27 2009 @ 12:51 am: [report]
Just to let you know, Chris Brown is 19. He’s a kid too.
And if a male talked about beating the crap out of a cheater then beating the crap out of the girl who cheated, it’d be pretty bad. ESPECIALLY as a trained jujitsu type brawler.
Alison Wonderland
wrote on February 27 2009 @ 12:54 am: [report]
I was been rape kissed once. The guy was my friends frat brother, we were at one of their parties. He was drunk and it was gross. :Shudder:
Alison Wonderland
wrote on February 27 2009 @ 01:09 am: [report]
While I’m here: I head-butted a past BF and gave him a gushing bloody nose. At the time it was an accident- but now I’d do it again in an instant.
“I was been”... Awesome.
titsmagee
wrote on February 27 2009 @ 10:18 am: [report]
Maybe the worst thing I’ve done was to this guy I dated but didn’t really like. He was kind of a douche and he was constantly pressuring me to have sex with him. So one day after I had broken up with him (on Valentine’s Day), I was at his house to get some of my stuff back and he kissed me. I went with it and told him I was ready to have sex with him. I got him all, ahem, hot ‘n bothered, took his clothes off, and when he was ready and raring to go, I wordlessly left his house. The next day he unfriended me on facebook and blocked me on aim. HILARIOUS.
One Big Voice
wrote on February 27 2009 @ 11:59 am: [report]
Revenge is overrated. Those who take revenge will get the reputation of being a psycho. For example, Lily Allen and Carrie Underwood. Great singers, beautiful women, they both seem like decent people, BUT ... Lily apparently thinks it’s OK to hire goons to beat up your ex and ransack his apartment. Does that really make you “Smile”? If a guy did that, people would want his head on a pike! And Carrie, trashing a man’s ride and carving your name into the leather seats is probably not the best way to deal with a cheater—or avoid a trip to the police station.
The worst I’ve done is give exes a rant, listing all the things I dislike about them—physically: actually, you DO look fat in your favorite dress, and it’s not the fault of the dress, it’s your fat ass!
And behaviorally: you are lousy in bed because ...
Trust me, if done right, this is VERY satisfying. Just make sure that the relationship is really “over” and you will not likely be seeing them ever again!
Humble Bee
wrote on February 27 2009 @ 12:21 pm: [report]
I agree one big voice. Revenge is totally overrated, when i thought it was cool, I was a mere 14 years old. Now that i’m an adult, I would never get “revenge” on anyone, its so stupid and immature. I would just walk away and not give them the time of day, and its even more satisfying because you know they’re breaking their heads trying to figure out why you left them.
titsmagee
wrote on February 27 2009 @ 03:25 pm: [report]
I must point out that completely ignoring them and not giving a reason why you left doesn’t facilitate growth on their part. While revenge is not helpful, people do learn from relationships and knowing why someone doesn’t want to be with them will help them correct errors in behavior.
Jill
wrote on February 27 2009 @ 05:58 pm: [report]
I feel absolutely terrible, but once I threw a glass of water at my exboyfriend when we were fighting. It hit his zippo in his pocket and shattered everywhere, even tore up his sweatshirt. That was during my crazy year when I threw things every day, but never at someone. I’m glad I’m sane again and I still can’t believe he forgave me.
0rion
wrote on February 27 2009 @ 07:41 pm: [report]
My exes have done some pretty awful #&@$% to me (cheating with not one, but 2 guys…small dick rumour, sabatoging future relationships etc) but I would never even consider getting all jujitsu on someone, or stabbing someone, or punching someone, or pushing someone into traffic, or outing a homosexual(especially this one, thats low). I’m seriously shocked, and quite disgusted by most of this. Why is it OK for women to do this? Reverse the gender and half of you would be in jail on domestic abuse charges.
On the other hand, the burrito thing was pretty funny.
CheeeeEEEEse
wrote on February 28 2009 @ 02:36 am: [report]
Who doesn’t like a flying burrito?
Sabina
wrote on February 28 2009 @ 10:48 am: [report]
I simply walked pass them by like they don’t exist. And when they say ‘Hi,’ to me I go, ‘I’m sorry, how’d you know my name? Have we met before? I don’t think so.’ Smile and walk away like I’m on a cat walk. Yes, quite bitchy and some might even say uncivilized and immature but you know what? Who cares, at least I am being honest.
sexbunni23
wrote on February 28 2009 @ 04:20 pm: [report]
UMMMMM 1 time i thought my bf cheated on me n so i pulled a Angela Bassett in Waiting to Exhale when she found out her husband of 11 yrs was leaving her 4 a white woman and she burnt his car n clothes. However i found out later he didnt cheat so all that was for later if he cheats on me he still doesntkno it was me tho hehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehe
LaGiulia
wrote on March 1 2009 @ 10:24 am: [report]
Am I the only one who, when offended, retreats into frosty silence and simply will not speak to you? I’ve never doen anything unforgivable out of revenge, but maybe I just never was offended enough. That makes me lucky, I suppose. Or just very forgiving.
searchingwithin
wrote on March 1 2009 @ 10:49 am: [report]
Many, many years and lessons ago, I was in a relationship with a guy who decided to take up with someone else while I was out of town, without a word to me. I just came back and they were together. So I lured him home to my bed one night when I saw him out without her. He left a necklace at my house that he always wore, so the next time I saw them together I walked up, handed it to him, and told him he left it on my nightstand the other night, turned and walked away to leave him there to face the music.
kristy1584
wrote on March 3 2009 @ 10:44 am: [report]
I dont think Ive ever done anything too bad to a guy. I punched a guy in the face once (we werent dating) he constantly groped me on a regular basis (ie grabbed my ass or chest) so one day I just punched him in the face he came to school the next day with a swolled cheek. As far as doing something mean to someone I was in a relationship with, nothing bad. I do have a terrible temper and Id throw things all the time but not directly at him just in general but it scared him. Im the type that when Im pissed I shut my mouth. My current boyfriend hates that though bc I wont tell him why im pissed. I tend to say mean things out of anger so now Im silent until Ive cooled off enough to talk about. Silent treatment is much more effective and not dangerous!
scb197
wrote on March 3 2009 @ 08:49 pm: [report]
yarngasm i’m still laughing at yours. hilarious.
Tamara
wrote on March 6 2009 @ 10:19 pm: [report]
@ Erin G - I didn’t have a knife at the time, trust me I would have stabbed his ass too. The knife was a gift after the fact, I still have it, it’s a prized possession.
eden
wrote on March 7 2009 @ 10:29 pm: [report]
I bought myself a Kinder Surprise and didn’t buy my fiancé one. I still feel pretty about it, tbh.
badger
wrote on March 9 2009 @ 03:20 pm: [report]
My ex used a very creative approach on a previous ex bf. He had dumped her for her younger sister a week before they were to move in together. She had given up her apartment and even bought a car for the planned commute; not to mention the emotional shock. The sister moved in with the ex in the new apartment. About a year later she (my ex) mailed a pair of very crusty panties to the ex bf while he was on a business trip. She included an unsigned note about a “great time and looking forward to more time together, in the meantime here’s something to remember me by.”. She knew that sis would open the package. Apparently sis is a natural street fighter and worked him over before she moved out.
Needless to say I was very careful when our relationship came to its end.
One Big Voice
wrote on March 9 2009 @ 04:37 pm: [report]
@ badger - I would have been way more angry at the sister if I was her.
You simply DO NOT poach your sibling’s partner. Makes every family get-together after that a little awkward, what with all the hatred between the two sibs. The cheater, on the other hand, can be erased from your life much easier.
Isn’t that what the saying “Bros before Hos” means? You don’t go after your Bro’s “Ho”. If she comes on to you, say no, and tell your Bro that his Ho is a “skank”, who needs to be “kicked to the curb”.
Women need an equivalent, catchy rhyming phrase. How about “Sisters before Misters”? Hmm, it rhymes, but it doesn’t insult all men like the guys version (women = hos? Thank you, gangsta-rap lyrics!).
How about: “Chicks before Pricks (or Dicks, natch)”?
“Broads before Clods”?
That one only works if you’re a character in a film noir movie: “See that sexy dame over there, with the skirt that goes an inch above her knees? Look at the gams on that broad!”
spanishdoll
wrote on March 9 2009 @ 07:48 pm: [report]
I like Chicks before Dicks…
Anyway, I’m with LaGiulia…I’m a very passive-agressive person (trying to work on it) and I find that my anger is usually shown through tight-lipped cold silence and lack of communication.
Frankly, though, for a guy who’s interested in keeping your adoration and your attention, completely ignoring them drives them up the wall. This is the way I handled a long-time douchebag crush and the ex-boyfriend who broke my heart. And they both kind of went a little crazy trying to get me to talk.
I can’t imagine ruining someone’s personal treasures or causing them to bleed profusely…but I guess nobody’s every cheated on me, so I won’t speak.
voxpulchrax
wrote on March 10 2009 @ 01:02 pm: [report]
wow.
maybe it’s just because i’ve never been dumped, but seriously ladies? such uncivilized behavior! you don’t think he might have a legitimate reason for leaving you? you’ve had good reasons for leaving boyfriends before: isn’t it possible that you might not be the most perfect woman on earth?
and even if he doesn’t have a good reason, it’s so much better just to get on with your life and show him you don’t need him at all. nothing gets to a guy like not feeling needed.
in short, revenge is immature. be classy please.
beautiful_disaster
wrote on March 10 2009 @ 07:55 pm: [report]
ok..so my freshman year in college I fell head over heels for this guy and even though we both liked each other he made everything difficult…he would reject me and flirt with girls in front of..just an idiot….
well now all of a sudden he wants to come back into my life and I don’t care for him so I reject him like 10 times every week and I believe this is karma for being such an A-hole!
amanda5810
wrote on March 11 2009 @ 08:59 am: [report]
My ex-fiancee and I were in college and had just moved in together in a one bedroom apartment and had only lived together for one month when he decided that he needed to “grow” and broke up with me. With 11 months still on the lease he moved out.
My revenge: When he came to get his things, I made sure to bring a police officer over to supervise the proceedings. Nothing ticks guys off more than making them think you don’t feel safe. Then, I threatened to take him to civil court to recoup my rent costs over the next 11 months. He didn’t want that, so he still pays 1/3 of my rent…for eleven months, that’s about $1500 dollars. Then I lost 20 pounds and started seeing a guy seven years older with a great job and house, got an internship in Washington D.C. and travelled after graduation.
Oh yeah, he still goes to college…his 6th year is coming up with no undergraduate degree received yet, and he’s already in 40K in debt. Glad we aren’t married.
Dominant
wrote on March 12 2009 @ 09:11 am: [report]
This one graphic designer girl I was with, was so clique with her graphic friends she only introduced me to 1 guy friend who was OK with an “outsider”. For the year we were together she was very into having pictures of herself. Her friends would use her as a model, but she kept a number of pictures around her room of herself.
This one weekend I took her to a nice hotel in the city, had dinner, and went back to the hotel late at night. She took my phone and started to take pictures of me, so in turn, I took some of her. (These are the ones you usually delete). A few months later, I found out she was cheating on me with this “friend”. In returning her things, I sent her, her sister, her new boyfriend, and BCC’d my friends with her pictures. If she was so obsessed with pictures of herself, she could take them back.
That’s probably the meanest thing I’ve done in revenge.
Nice Eyes
wrote on March 12 2009 @ 03:46 pm: [report]
This is not something that I did but it happened to a friend of mine. Him and his girlfriend got into another fight but this time she took his MAC laptop and broke it over his head. The neighbors heard the yelling and called the cops. He had to sit in jail for a night. And to top it off she never apologized for it.
demi-angel
wrote on March 15 2009 @ 10:19 am: [report]
the absolute worst thing i’ve ever done to a guy is have him fall in love with me and break his heart.
so it started as just some online flirting and not long after he asked if i’d be his GF; not taking it seriously and thinking it would just stay as confidence boosting flirting(on both sides)i agreed. that was my first mistake.
it quickly became evident that he hadn’t taken it as light and casual as i had(he was in a different time zone, for goodness sake), and stupidly i still didn’t break it off.
anyways cut a few months later and i realize that i’m not only NOT in love with him, i’ve been so reluctant to break it off because he reminded me so much of my one guy friend that i was desperately in love with.
the worst part is that when i finally decided to end it, not only did i basically spew out the fact i never loved him, i’d used him, and even insinuated it had all been his fault for pursuing me in the first place,I made HIM break it off and probably made him feel guilty about it too.
as for any physical meanness, one of bf at the time’s ex started messaging me. she insulted me, calling me lots of wonderful names, and told me she was his fiance and i was the other woman and to get lost. naturally i was pissed but i asked him meet me at a coffee shop near my place so we could talk(i’d hoped being in a public place would help me calm down and keep my cool) unfortunately for him i still furious and irrational(2 things i am almost never) as he walked in. not even thinking i flung my scalding hot late right at his crouch and my normally horrible aim was dead on.
i felt horrible because it ended up not being true, and his “fiance” was actually just a spiteful ex wanting to get back together with him. fortunately he forgave my brief brush with insanity and we continued dating for a few months after that, but i would always get iced coffees when i was with him, even in the winter.
kannf1982
wrote on March 20 2009 @ 07:50 am: [report]
My long distance boyfriend of 4 years called me one night to tell me he was driving the five hours home to “make things right” because he had cheated on me. On his way up the courtyard to my apartment, i met him outside where i chucked my phone at his head. I aimed well and it broke into many pieces in the courtyard. Then I told him to find it and fix it. He crawled around in the darkness in the grass with his hood up, crying and trying to find the pieces to no avail, until one of the grounds keepers came out and mistook him for a crazy homeless person and told him to “get the hell out of here and find a shelter to sleep in.” So he came inside and apologize profusely for not being able to put it back together. I asked him to give me the details of his philandering, which were every bit as seedy and bad as I was hoping they weren’t.
He kept going on and on about what could he possibly do to make things right, he wants to fix this, etc, so I told him I had no money to pay for a replacement phone, and asked him to go to the ATM and get me $200. He went and returned and put the cash in my hand. He started to sit back down on the couch, and i said wait, you’re done here. we’re over. you can leave now. he looked stunned. So then he just stood there and said “what? this is it?” and i told him that he is a selfish sleazy bastard and he can **** off, so get the hell out of here. he bent down to pet my dog, which he loved, and i again stopped him, told him he didnt deserve to touch her, and to please leave.”
he left to drive the five hours home and I havent seen him since. I got up in the morning and went to the cell store and bought a replacement phone. mean? not sure. maybe he deserved it, maybe it was too harsh, but damn it felt good
mandyfay
wrote on April 12 2009 @ 10:15 pm: [report]
Okay I might possibly have you all beat. When a guy I was seeing called it off, I found out he was talking to a 17 year old (he is 33), I was so mad that I got on his myspace page and messaged all his friends that he was a child predator. I felt like I was really getting him back at the moment but then the next day after I cooled off I felt horrible. I tried to apoligize and make amends but he wasn’t having it and to this day he still won’t talk to me at all. I wish we could be friends. I am married now but I’d still like to be friends with him. I guess I did the unforgivable. Tell me what you think.