What’s The Juiciest Thing You’ve Learned Googling An Ex?
Posted by: Wendy Atterberry
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2:00PM, Monday December 15th 2008
Several years ago, fresh out of a long-term, live-in relationship, I started seeing a guy I met in a bar who was also on the rebound. I was searching for the antithesis of my ex, and as a well-traveled, charming, cocky med student, he fit the bill perfectly. He, on the other hand, seemed to be searching for someone exactly like his ex, a fellow med student who, I learned, loved strappy heels, expensive boutiques, and spoke with a Russian accent. Much to my rebound’s chagrin, I was nothing like his ex, despite his constant effort to mold me into something resembling her. “You’re totally still in love with her,” I accused him one afternoon for the umpteenth time after he recommended yet another store where she liked to shop. “You’re crazy!” he exclaimed again, something, in my vulnerable state, I was beginning to believe.
Long story short, the relationship finally imploded, he moved away, I moved on, and now I’m in a healthy, happy relationship with someone who rarely, if ever, mentions any of his exes. Still, curiosity and human nature gets the best of me from time to time, and loathe that I am to admit it, I’ve found myself Googling my ex’s name on a few occasions. Mostly, it’s the same boring medical articles he published before we even met that pop up in the search results, but most recently I was rewarded with a juicy link: his wedding registry. It wasn’t the fact that he’d just gotten married that I found interesting; it was the name of the bride I was most fascinated by. It was the very same woman I’d spent months being compared to, the same woman I always accused my ex-boyfriend of still being in love with. More than anything, that little bit of information affirmed for me that I wasn’t so crazy after all ... except for the fact that I spent as long as I did with a guy who wished I was someone else. Anyway, the whole thing got me wondering about other people’s Google habits, and what they may have discovered about old flames. Have you been guilty of Google-stalking an ex, and if so, what’s the most interesting tidbit you’ve found?
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sophie19
wrote on December 15 2008 @ 02:17 pm: [report]
Through web-stalking, I learned an ex was engaged to the girl who told him I was ugly (which he then told me…thanks). And a year later, after he stalked me on facebook, I learned that their wedding never happened. Ha!
vanya
wrote on December 15 2008 @ 02:41 pm: [report]
I googled an ex and found out that he became a born-again Christian and is now the senior pastor at a large evangelical Christian megachurch. That’s quite the 180ยบ from when I knew him years before… esp. considering his kinks
heathabee
wrote on December 15 2008 @ 02:54 pm: [report]
didn’t find anything too interesting…it was mostly stuff I knew. he made a website for a hobby when he was with me, and told me about selling it when we were no longer together (we remain friends), but I didn’t realize how many different website reference him for his work, and how big a deal it was that he sold his website.
par3
wrote on December 15 2008 @ 03:03 pm: [report]
my ex is dating the chick who made the sex tape with troy verner better known as MINI ME. im not even #&@$% you.
Kiri Anne
wrote on December 15 2008 @ 03:18 pm: [report]
My ex - an MD - got his MediCal license pulled. I’m wondering why? And how he now affords himself?!
Humble Bee
wrote on December 15 2008 @ 03:31 pm: [report]
My ex now works at a taco stand.
Muahahaha.
I KNEW he was a looser. Thank goodness he cheated on me.
ladyandtiger
wrote on December 16 2008 @ 12:49 am: [report]
i googled my ex to find out he had an impregnation fetish and joined a forum for it. explained a lot.
Demanda
wrote on December 16 2008 @ 01:13 am: [report]
Thanks to myspace I got dirt on TWO Ex’s
(Let’s just say that a bottle of Arbor Mist, PMS, and late night googling was the culprit on these)
1. He dumped me on NEW YEARS EVE…lamest reason ever…“We don’t have enough in common”
Not even three months after we split he marries a woman who is my age and the SAME NAME….uhhhh apparently she had enough in common w/ me
2. Several years back I dumped him because he had issues with my weight (went out for two years and was same size)
He gets married to a girl the following year that I was friends with. She has now gained so much weight she is bigger than me! HAH
Thank God I found a good one got married and still together 3 years later.
par3
wrote on December 16 2008 @ 05:32 am: [report]
honestly….though…. your exes aren’t dating the chick who made a sex tape with mini me- i got this one.
Michael
wrote on December 16 2008 @ 07:02 am: [report]
@par3 I agree, you got this one locked up. congrats…?
Lynn
wrote on December 16 2008 @ 10:32 am: [report]
Well, I keep in touch with most of my exes, at least to the point where I know the big things, like weddings or whatever. Facebook sure helps! But the rest I haven’t really bothered to google. So, prompted by this article, I googled one that I haven’t heard from in a while. We are facebook friends, so I do know that he finally found a girl who wants to marry him, and is from the same country he’s from (which I assume solves a lot of the problems he had with me, an independent American girl - he really hated that about me). But I’d never googled him until today. I just did, and I found his profile on a forum. No big deal, right? Except it’s a guy/car forum that my current boyfriend gets on just about every day. It’s weird to think they could be online buddies and have no idea what they have in common!
mmsva
wrote on December 17 2008 @ 07:53 pm: [report]
Dated a guy who totally hero worshiped his Dad—he never did anything wrong. Except cheat on my ex’s Mom, but he alway conveniently forgot about that and would be angry at me because I didn’t worship him also.
Background—My ex’s family had to flee the USA and move to a Central American Country because the father was teaching courses on how to “legally” pay lower taxes. According to my ex, it was totally unfounded and the IRS just didn’t like that he was able to “legally” find loopholes.
I googled my ex, who is a Jr, and found out that the Dad, the Sr, is wanted by Interpol for massive investor fraud. He had to flee the Central American country. One newspaper article even alluded to the fact that he may have been involved with the murder of a guy who was suppose to testify against him.