What Were You Thinking The First Time You Had Sex?

Keesh Mia
wrote on April 23 2009 @ 01:39 pm: [report]

When will this be over? I need a cigarette.

Bean's Girl
wrote on April 23 2009 @ 01:40 pm: [report]

“I thought this was supposed to be good??  Either he is really tiny or I’m so nervous I can’t feel a thing. Do not laugh…Do not laugh…Do not laugh.”

Alexa
wrote on April 23 2009 @ 01:41 pm: [report]

My guy lasted all of 45 seconds once he got inside me.  I was like, “Is that all there is to this?”

KHilton152
wrote on April 23 2009 @ 01:46 pm: [report]

Wow the light from that lamp is distracting….All this bleeding is making me nervous…

IrishErin
wrote on April 23 2009 @ 01:46 pm: [report]

“This is underwhelming. I thought I’d feel guilty. I don’t feel guilty. This is underwhelming.”

RichieRich
wrote on April 23 2009 @ 01:47 pm: [report]

It was uncomfortable.  We were in the front seat of my old Aspen overlooking a winery and I remember thinking, “This isn’t like the movies.  I thought this would be beautiful.”  She and I were very clumsy about the whole thing.

PS
wrote on April 23 2009 @ 01:52 pm: [report]

“I didn’t bleed. Am I still a virgin?” He was literally the size of a golf pencil. Of course at 17 I lacked social graces and an inner monologue. I said it out loud. To which he replied “Why do girls always ask me that?!?” I felt a lot better

subpar
wrote on April 23 2009 @ 01:53 pm: [report]

How about this—the first time I had sex, I thought I was being fingered until I realized both of his hands were in plain sight! HA.

cattgirl813
wrote on April 23 2009 @ 01:54 pm: [report]

My first time was with my first husband.  At the time, we were engaged and he was in the service.  I went to spend the weekend with him and had made a mixtape to help set the mood.  The one clear thought that stands out was, “Why the hell did I put the love theme from St. Elmo’s Fire (which is what was playing at the big moment) on this tape?”

misspixie
wrote on April 23 2009 @ 02:01 pm: [report]

“Ow…ow….ow..” (he was pretty big, so it was painful!).

doridori
wrote on April 23 2009 @ 02:06 pm: [report]

I was thinking… this hurts, it’s messy and I hope to God that that big drop of sweat running down his temple doesn’t hit me in the eye. Of course it hit me mid-thought. When I yowled, cause the sweat stung, he grunted and doubled his efforts until he finished approximatly 1 minute later. Sex got much better from there, but I can never remember if my eye hurt more than my va-jay jay or if my va-jay jay hurt more than my eye when it was all over.

Lynn
wrote on April 23 2009 @ 02:18 pm: [report]

I’m with April:

“OMG I can’t believe I am doing this. I should totally be using a condom. This is fun. This guy is so into me.  I can’t believe I am finally doing this.”

Also, I thought it was going to hurt a lot more than it did. And it felt different than I thought it would….but I still had a good time

Humble Bee
wrote on April 23 2009 @ 02:19 pm: [report]

wow, almost everyone had a bad experience. My first time, I felt a bit pressured, my bf at the time was very cute and had a lot a girlfriends before me, while I was an innocent virgin. lol. I told him I didnt want to do it, but he was so irresistable and experienced. Finally, after a bunch of days of fingering me, we did it. For 5 hours straight, no freaking lie. We did it aaaall day. Then after, he said. See, I told you it was worth it. I still to this day, have not found a person who can f*ck as long as he can. Unfortunately, he broke me heart to pieces. My first heartbreak ever. I remember hating him so much, now that I’m older, i’m totally over it. It was, after all, High school! I remember even fighting with the girl he cheated on me with, lol. I’m such a loser.

Humble Bee
wrote on April 23 2009 @ 02:21 pm: [report]

Oh, and I dont even remember thinking, it was just pure bliss, like, am I in a porno or what?

sklut
wrote on April 23 2009 @ 02:28 pm: [report]

It was after homecoming in a villa with a few people walking around us and while I was having my first time my best friend was behind the couch with one of my best guy friends doing the dirty too, we were not shy and talked to each other the entire time. “Brittany! This is a really bad idea… I don’t even know this kid!” “Oh whatever at least he’s cute!” I remember it hurt and after he got it in once or twice it slipped and then he just rubbed it against me the rest of the time… I think he was so drunk he didn’t actually notice, I was laughing. Hard.

Ginger
wrote on April 23 2009 @ 02:44 pm: [report]

I was with a guy ten years older than me, very well-endowed, and unaware of the fact that I was a virgin.

So my thoughts were pretty sporadic.

“Ow, f***! F***! Ohmygod, I’m having sex. I am having sex. Right. Now. I am AWESOME! *internal celebratory dance* OW! Why didn’t I use tampons or masturbate more? Maybe it wouldn’t hurt so much if I had done that. Oh s***, maybe I should tell him so he takes it easy. But he might be weird if I tell him now. F***. God this hurts. And feels good. Hrm. I had no idea my legs could go back that far. I f*****g rock so hard right now.”

I also hadn’t eaten all day, so my blood sugar was low and I was all hyper from it.

Little Lamb
wrote on April 23 2009 @ 02:48 pm: [report]

“I hope we’re not in the poison ivy.”

We were in the poison ivy.  It was at a lake.

Rose
wrote on April 23 2009 @ 03:06 pm: [report]

“I wish I had washed my hair and taken a nap first.”  It was right after my wedding and I was exhausted and had cardboard hair from the hairspray.

bislane
wrote on April 23 2009 @ 03:12 pm: [report]

@Humble Bee: i don’t remember thinking anything, either. Just being really happy.

SociallyAlexander
wrote on April 23 2009 @ 03:37 pm: [report]

I thought, “Oh that was it?  No big deal”  Then I though, “I bet his girlfriend is going to be pissed.”

tina920
wrote on April 23 2009 @ 04:24 pm: [report]

When it was over, I remember thinking “That was an awful lot of pain for such little pleasure… We have to try it again, it didn’t work right”

Buhri
wrote on April 23 2009 @ 04:31 pm: [report]

“Holy #&@$% #&@$%! I’m having sex! Omg that stings and hurts ooooooh my god just get it over with already!!! Omg, sex, im actually having sex. REAL SEX!  wow, his sex face is that of a monkey. owwwwwww. im having sex! I wonder if his parents can hear us. who cares? im having sex!”

brackishfaun
wrote on April 23 2009 @ 04:39 pm: [report]

I was a bit tipsy at the time and all I remeber thinking is “i wish we could move down a bit so my head wasn’t banging against the wall.”

marshmallows
wrote on April 23 2009 @ 04:54 pm: [report]

The first time I had sex was definitely very clinical for me. I really wanted to and waited until I was 21, but the first time was just like a check list in my head: Does this hurt? No. Am I bleeding? No. Does this feel okay? Sure.

It wasn’t until the second time later that night that I said to myself, “Ok…I have to have an orgasm this time or I never will!” And I did and have basically had one every time since. I feel very lucky for that ability!

diabadass
wrote on April 23 2009 @ 04:54 pm: [report]

Um..he knows I just threw up, right? Sexy? Gross. OW!

resullins
wrote on April 23 2009 @ 05:02 pm: [report]

@ Little Lamb: HAHAHA HA! That’s funny!

I was thinking: This guys has very bad hair… do all guys make that face? If this doesn’t get better I’m going lez. Good God is he done yet? Hmmm… kinda small.

I waited a while before trying it again.

PinkRanger
wrote on April 23 2009 @ 05:26 pm: [report]

ow! I’m NOT doing this again!
heh. I changed my mind eventually hahaha.

loveitlala
wrote on April 23 2009 @ 05:32 pm: [report]

Wow, I’m having sex.  Feels weird.  Eh, I don’t like this.  When is this going to be over?  Why isn’t he done yet? 

Afterwards I was really excited I finally did it.

I love sex now

Yellow
wrote on April 23 2009 @ 05:37 pm: [report]

“The amount he’s sweating cannot be normal. Gross. Stop sweating on me! In my eyes! I remember someone describing sex as ‘wet’, but this was not what I was imagining”.

moobush
wrote on April 23 2009 @ 05:47 pm: [report]

“HOW DO I DO THIS?!?! HOW DO I TELL HIM WITHOUT SOUNDING TOO EXPERIENCED?? omg it’s in, omgomgomg”

yeah, that’s basically what i can remember :/
(i posted this reply in the wrong post;)

Syrupnhoney
wrote on April 23 2009 @ 06:05 pm: [report]

OMG i’m so damn lucky.
I brought it up to my boyfriend who never pressured me at all after we had been dating for forever….then I changed my mind a billion times (sometimes miliseconds before we had sex) and that effing fabulous man never bitched…. then he finally said “lets just take sex off the table and not worry about it anymore…i don’t want you to feel like its something you have to do…I would be lucky to be able to stay with you like this forever…we don’t need to have sex” and after that I, of cours, jumped his bones. lol afterwords I was thinking “wow that wasn’t scary at all that was effing fantastic!”

:):):):):):)

Chelle
wrote on April 23 2009 @ 06:08 pm: [report]

“Yay! We’re finally doing it! Wow, he knows what he’s doing. I still think he’s a virgin even thought he says he’s not. The story about the bowl of condoms is just too far-fetched. Okay, this hurts a little but I’ll just relax because it’s supposed to. The more we do it the less it will hurt and it will be awesome. I hope I don’t bleed all over the place. I don’t want to have to clean up the mess.” It turned out I didn’t bleed the first time but I did the second time. I thought that was weird. I was the one to convince my then boyfriend that we should do it. I was ready! By the way, I probably think ENTIRELY too much during sex. Still, 10 years later. Sometimes I have to meditate and clear my head so that I don’t.

CheeeeEEEEse
wrote on April 23 2009 @ 06:25 pm: [report]

@Chelle: It’s like when you smoke pot, you don’t get high the first time….

writergirl
wrote on April 23 2009 @ 06:32 pm: [report]

“Isn’t this supposed to hurt?  Huh.  Guess that’s another lie they tell you so you won’t have sex…”

It didn’t hurt.  At all.  And I didn’t bleed.  Incredible orgasm though

Chelle
wrote on April 23 2009 @ 06:47 pm: [report]

@CheeeeEEEEse-LOL! Good one.

lilrockgoddess4u
wrote on April 23 2009 @ 07:00 pm: [report]

I had an older guy who knew what he was doing, it hurt a little, but not really bad.  It was great.  I just wish I actually cared for the guy, but oh well it was still a good time.

msu.umich
wrote on April 23 2009 @ 07:01 pm: [report]

“oh my god i think he’s killing me”

lanceypantsy
wrote on April 23 2009 @ 07:08 pm: [report]

i think i thought. “this hurts a lot” and “When’s it over?”

dolita
wrote on April 23 2009 @ 07:23 pm: [report]

I lost it to a guy fifteen years older than me after a Nine Inch Nails concert (Don’t worry! We were best friends and I was 18!) I don’t really remember what I was thinking other than “Wow I’m having sex” but then he suddenly got up and I thought “Oh I didn’t know people stop for rests!” And then he said “Don’t hate me” and I realized he was stopping because he felt guilty about it. *sigh*

MsLiberal
wrote on April 23 2009 @ 08:02 pm: [report]

@msu.umich - lol. 

Me: “OWW. Holy crap this hurts. Holy crap holy crap.  Wow, this is kinda like an extension of making out.  Not so bad.  Ow ow ow. Jesus this hurts.  I think this might feel good if it didn’t hurt so much.  Oh good he’s done.”

Katrina
wrote on April 23 2009 @ 08:42 pm: [report]

“Hey, this isn’t as awkward as I thought it would be…So this is sex. Hm, not bad.” Of course, it got better later, LOL.

DigitalBath
wrote on April 23 2009 @ 08:59 pm: [report]

“Wow, all those drinks definitely helped me here…wait…did she just ask me to choke her???”

november82
wrote on April 23 2009 @ 09:06 pm: [report]

“this taking a really long time, this hurts, no it feels good, no weight it hurts, damn this is taking a long time, did the air mattress just pop? yes, yes it did”

wild-ting
wrote on April 24 2009 @ 05:56 am: [report]

“How can I get out of this? I don’t really want to do this!”

Naneenya
wrote on April 24 2009 @ 06:44 am: [report]

“Hm, well, that was… okay… and in a Motel 6, very classy, self. Very classy.”

brittaholic
wrote on April 24 2009 @ 07:08 am: [report]

My thoughts were “that’s it?” and I almost asked if it was in. Ya. It was.
Thankfully my experiences have gotten better since…

Ninaka
wrote on April 24 2009 @ 07:11 am: [report]

“Did I remember to put the stove off?”

Oliveira
wrote on April 24 2009 @ 07:51 am: [report]

“I so wish we were not listening to [Pet Shop Boys’] Behaviour right now. #&@$%. How do I do that? Damn. What if I hurt him? Ugh. I can’t see anything! I must be doing it wrong. Can it be over please?”

(It was the first time for each of us, plus he had a major case of catholic guilt making him switch off the light and play loud music so that God doesn’t hear.)

Abraham Lloyd
wrote on April 24 2009 @ 09:21 am: [report]

I was in the Army, stationed at Ft. Sam Houston in San Antonio.  This private (“Emmm”) and I had been flirting for a few weeks, and our company had the weekend off.  Back then, the entire company would rent out blocks of rooms in San Antonio’s “seedy” hotel district and party for two days straight before returning to the base on Sunday evening.  The parties were fairly crazy.  Lots of drinking / room jumping.

Well, my buddies and I drank ourselves into oblivion to the point that I had passed out by 11:00pm.  Around midnight, one of my friends (Moss, I think it was) wakes me up by slapping me in the face and screams “Em. is looking for you!  Wake up!”  He knew I was a virgin (I was 18).  So, he woke me up, helped me change, gave me two cups of coffee, and stuck a toothbrush in my mouth because my breath smelled like MadDog 20/20.  This entire time, he kept muttering “Dude—she’s coming to see you; don’t f@ck this up!”

Em. was 23 and from Virginia.  Cute, petite, short, and very mouthy.  Even when we were away from the base, she would call me “Private Lloyd” which I thought was kind of hot.  Well, we end up meeting up outside.  I brought her to my room, we started to make out, and then poof.  I passed out. 

The next morning, I asked her if we had sex, and she laughed.  She said, “No.  You fell asleep about two minutes after we got naked”.  Not even thinking about what I was saying, I replied “Well, I guess I’m still a virgin then.”  Well, she thought the idea of being my first was hot.  We had sex that morning, and while I certainly didn’t know what I was doing, I was grateful that she did.

pennymayo
wrote on April 24 2009 @ 11:01 am: [report]

i think age was a really important factor. I was in college and started dating my best friend. We were already really comfortable with each other so when it came to being physical it was more natural than awkward. That said, the first time was still pretty clumsy. but mostly it was “HOLY CRAP THIS IS FINALLY HAPPENING. oh. OH. OH that’s nice. OMG. That’s really nice. OMG. OMG. THIS IS FINALLY HAPPENING.”

bittermelon
wrote on April 24 2009 @ 11:11 am: [report]

We were laughing almost the whole time cuz he kept slipping out (we were both virgins and clueless) and we were making body fart sounds rubbing against each other. Good times.

bogart4017
wrote on April 24 2009 @ 01:10 pm: [report]

I remember being a teen and this older woman (i never knew what they saw in me) was very very curious about me sexually. She had to be in her early to mid 30’s. I finally borrowed someone’s house who was at work and we made love in the dark. I thought i did it wrong because she had a real loud orgasm and then a crying jag. She couldve at least tell me that would be a common reaction in some women. To this day (almost 30yrs later) it still freaks me out when it happens.

SourBall
wrote on April 24 2009 @ 01:29 pm: [report]

“So *this* is how my sister got scabies!”

Lynn
wrote on April 24 2009 @ 02:44 pm: [report]

@bogart - what?? that would freak me out to. I can’t say I’ve ever cried after an O….an ex BF did a couple times, but it was just a 2-3 tears and he was done (because “it meant so much to him” or something else equally as gay). If it was full-on crying, I would be scarred.

retro chic
wrote on April 24 2009 @ 03:09 pm: [report]

How can I forget? By senior HS graduation (my hold-out goal), my hormones were a-raging and I was sweatin’ it out like a preschooler doing the peepee dance. Then, *finally*… the deed. I remember thinking, “Aaah, Thank you god, thank you god. Oh, thank you… I didn’t think I’d make it!” Was as much primal, as sexual… but with a better ::shiver::

chloe16
wrote on April 24 2009 @ 04:22 pm: [report]

I remember being really scared. You get all this advice from other people. I also remember it hurt a little not bad. And it was good and now amazing. Can’t get any better than this. Glad I waited and it was with someone I love. I know Im old fashioned.

mikeyellenlee
wrote on April 24 2009 @ 04:32 pm: [report]

I remember thinking, “I wonder if anyone can see us on this roof…”

MaeBelle
wrote on April 24 2009 @ 07:31 pm: [report]

Ouch…

Tamara
wrote on April 24 2009 @ 10:58 pm: [report]

“Why the hell does Ray Liotta have to be on now? My moms ex looked like him, ew…ok, sex.” I lost my virginity to Heartbreakers, and after we discovered I was allergic to latex. Fun was had all around.

SummerLane
wrote on April 25 2009 @ 10:38 am: [report]

“I’m really drunk. This is it? Really? Why can’t I feel anything? Am I THAT drunk or is he that small? Oh my god, everyone down stairs is going to know…Is he done yet? This is akward. I’m drunk.”

Drank entirely too much at a high school party and my friend came into the bathroom to see if i was ok (b/c I had been throwing up! EW!) and he put the moves on me. By that point I was curious and was tired of being a virgin and couldn’t care less who my first time was with.

Scout05877
wrote on April 26 2009 @ 12:08 pm: [report]

“Yep. Hurts as much as I thought it would. Is it gonna hurt like this every damn time? #&@$%…it’s gonna hurt to pee later.”

Gozer
wrote on April 26 2009 @ 01:46 pm: [report]

I did it with my first gf in college. The entire time I was thinking “this isn’t all that great…” and “Dear GOD let her be enjoying this.” 45 minutes later we were done and I gave up on trying to finish.

becca215
wrote on April 26 2009 @ 02:30 pm: [report]

First thought “Is he in yet?” Second thought “I waited for *this*?!”

LostInStars
wrote on April 27 2009 @ 10:46 am: [report]

I was crying because it hurt so much and he looked so sad that he was hurting me. I remember thinking about how much I loved him and how BAD it hurt. Dude Where’s My Car was playing in the background. We’re still together.

LostInStars
wrote on April 27 2009 @ 10:48 am: [report]

Oh, and he didn’t realize it hurt girls the first time because his previous girlfriend had lied about being a virgin. The blood surprised him too.

nlvwal
wrote on April 27 2009 @ 11:14 am: [report]

I was 15, he was considerably older than me and experienced. I loved him very much so I finally gave in to him.  I had never even seen a penis before (but had felt it hard with my hands) so I really didn’t know what was going to happen and when it did I was thinking omg! This hurts so bad! He is so big! I was trying to scoot away from him going higher and higher in the bed but he kept pulling me to him and saying it will be ok just let me get it all the way in. He was very caring and he finally did but I don’t remember much after that.  All I remember is the pain and thinking I will never enjoy this part of sex! I got over that once we did it a few more times

GreenAura
wrote on April 27 2009 @ 01:17 pm: [report]

“ouch, ouch, ouch…okay thats not so bad…geez, this headboard is kinda loud…why am I listening to Eminem?...please don’t let it be too messy…mmmm, I kinda like this now…done already? I was just starting to like it!”

Lynn
wrote on April 27 2009 @ 02:41 pm: [report]

nlvwal - uh, wow. He kind of sounds like a dick.

mezicanlol
wrote on April 27 2009 @ 04:05 pm: [report]

We’d done just about everything but actual sex… (outer course, bjs, hand jobs… fingering..) So when we got to actually doing it, we had been together for like 5 mos…. We were at his place, in his bed… In the midst of getting it on (me without my pants and just a really long shirt) his mom bangs on the locked door… She didn’t see my legs were naked, and just told him that they were gonna have a*serious* conversation later… So, he got creative and said “the garage!” and got the futon, a cover and a pillow and we went downstairs to the garage… I was hella freaking nervous… And then I also felt hella janky cuz we were gonna do it in the garage… So we get there, make out and junk… and we commence to take our pants and stuff off…. He wanted the lights on, but I was really insecure about my body so I said no.. He told me we could wait if I wanted to (but I wasn’t gonna back down now!) ... Anyway, we do the deed. During the deed: ” Hmm… I guess being wet helps… good thing he’s wearing a condom.. F**k!!! Why does it have to be that big!!! LOL!!! he doesn’t know where the glory hole is…. No! Not in there! S**t! ... OoOoOoOoOoO… This feels really nice… Oh god, it feels so f**king great!!! Oh, ouch, okay got a little too excited there.. kinda stung a little… Done? Man… I hope he can come up in a few more minutes…”
He did. I went home, had cold pizza and told my 2 bffs…. I told my mom we watched movies with the family… LOL!

Tosh1111
wrote on April 28 2009 @ 12:06 am: [report]

I was older than most (24) when I lost my virginity. I was on vacation with my friend, and it was with his friend. We had to sneak around, so our friend wouldn’t know because we knew he wouldn’t exactly be pleased by how much we hit it off. That just made it even more exciting! I always thought I would be nervous, especially since I didn’t know the guy long, but I was strangely comfortable. He knew before we ever even kissed that I was a virgin. There was no pressure, and he didn’t even want to do it at first because he was afraid I would regret it. Once I convinced him I wouldn’t, it was amazing. He was so sweet! We did it in numerous positions for about 3 hours until I finally had to kick him out of my hotel room because I was afraid our friend would come looking for him. People are always saying how bad their first time was, but I’m lucky enough to say that mine was amazing. (And our friend still doesn’t know we did/do sneak around!)

openminded
wrote on April 28 2009 @ 12:32 am: [report]

I remember thinking “This kinda hurts but I wanna do it again!”

DelilahMeddows
wrote on April 28 2009 @ 10:18 am: [report]

I was 24 before I lost mine. The first time my guy and I tried, it hurt too badly for me to even go all the way through with it. And we tried for about an hour. He was so sweet about it, and he tried to be gentle. But I was so nervous, and so insecure, it just wasn’t working for us that night. A couple weeks later, in a spontaneous moment, we wound up on a friend’s living room floor. So I’m thinking, “Ow, ow, ow, this hurts so bad! How much longer?” I finally felt a pop that just felt like I’d been impaled with a giant stick clear up to my lungs. All the air was forced out of me, and just got caught in my throat. He went dead still, he looked so concerned for me. It was a truly unique pain that I’m so thankful I will never have to experience again. It wasn’t so bad after that. I was thinking, “I can’t believe I’m finally having sex, I’m so happy to be here with him. He’s the greatest.” He was so funny, later on he told me it was like trying to punch through mylar, like that stuff in balloons or kites. But man, did it make me laugh.

another_one_528
wrote on April 28 2009 @ 11:25 am: [report]

As it was starting, I was thinking, “Here we go…”  Later that night, I thought without much emotion at all, “Well, I’m not a virgin any more” and wondering what the big deal was.

roastchicken
wrote on April 28 2009 @ 06:35 pm: [report]

@DelilahMeddows: Wow, I was 24 when I lost my vcard too! Lol. I remember thinking, oooh this feels really good.

I didn’t bleed or anything like that. I was really wet before he actually put it in. Thank goodness for foreplay, because he was close to 8 in. I didn’t have pain during the act either, but the next day I was sore as hell, but a good sore I guess because I couldn’t wait to do it again.

Maybe he’s the reason I prefer a guy to be in the above average catagory when it comes to penis size..lmao

missduplicity
wrote on April 29 2009 @ 01:57 pm: [report]

...“Did he PLAN to have Boyz II Men playing in the background, or was that an unfortunate coincidence?” and “What am I doing losing my V-card to a man who listens to Boyz II Men?”

Shortly afterward, I was thinking, “Wow, I wonder if his parents are going to notice that we just busted his water bed.” They did.

Lola
wrote on April 30 2009 @ 10:56 am: [report]

dammit! why didn’t I wait to take the sheets off my bed til I actually left to go do laundry? Wow it hurt but I hoped it got better…. (it didn’t until waaaaaay later)

sossamonster
wrote on May 4 2009 @ 12:02 am: [report]

I don’t remember my first time, really. I remember the first time he went down on me and I was just thinking “oh, this is really happening.” I remember his dad almost walking in too haha.

Having sex? All I can seem to remember is that it was normal and nothing out of the ordinary. I didn’t bleed or hurt or anything.

lizziewoo
wrote on May 4 2009 @ 09:07 am: [report]

ow ow ow ok maybe i should concentrate on what he’s saying, my name, he’s saying my name, maybe i should say his name back ... what is his name? it began with a t i remember that. ow this really hurts, will i have grass stains on my back? can the people in the houses around us see, ow is he not finished yet this isn’t good. hold on i’m actually having sex. woohoo, this isn’t what i thought it would be like, should i feel him inside me? what is his name??? ooo all done good i need more wine.

CuteCora
wrote on May 14 2009 @ 10:52 am: [report]

My 1st time was STUPID! It was with a guy I dated for 8 mths, Wass soo cute and I was sort of excited about the idea of it all happening..Clearly I got to excited for..well…. NOTHING.~ It was a little uncomfortable, alittle weird but it was NOT GOOD~ I remember thinking..this is what all my friends rave about..WTF is this and why does it suck, Although I did not have much time to think all considering he was but 2 min..I truly remember feeling like I got RIPPED OFF!

zannalee
wrote on May 19 2009 @ 10:37 pm: [report]

Check out http://www.defloweredmemoirs.com - stories by women about those first times.  They are hilarious to read!

rain
wrote on May 26 2009 @ 01:31 am: [report]

“Ok, so this is it, this is what i wanted, it’s what I asked for ... but how will he know where to put it? I’m not even sure myself! Oh, ok, he’s using his hand to guide himself, and… ok, wait for it.. any moment now… Oh god, that was it there, wasn’t it? yes, there it is, OMFG this is it, I’m losing my virginity RIGHT NOW, I’m no longer a virgin! That wasn’t so painful, but it doesn’t feel like what I thought it would… OMG OMG OMG I’m having SEX, omfg i have a PENIS inside me right now!!! what do I do? do I have to move or something? Omg, look at his face, he looks so cute, he looks so different right now, What? you want me to go on top? how does that work??!”

I also remember feeling suprized afterwards that I had been able to think clearly through out the whole thing. I’d always sort of thought that you sort of ‘buzz out’ into this dream like state of passion when you’re having sex with someone. I’ve since learned to relax, but it is hilarious really to remember that first time and all the thoughts that were racing through my head :D

bubblegum
wrote on May 28 2009 @ 02:32 am: [report]

My first time was with my first love.I was 17 and he was 19, and we were crazy about each other!
We had tried a few times, but I was too scared. He had done it before…
That day I went to his house thiking “ok, if it has to happen today, it will” We started making out and doin all kinds of sexy things. All of the sudden, my panties were gone and he was performing oral sex on me. I just closed my eyes and enjoyed it, until I felt something that wasn’t his tonge.
He was gentle and caring. He kept telling me how much he loved me. I cried afterwards, I was overwhelmed with love.
We stayed together during five more years, and he’ll always be the man I’ve ever loved the most.
I was lucky enough to say my first time was amazing, and every time after that. I had the best teacher

ot2b2009
wrote on May 28 2009 @ 03:50 am: [report]

My first time was about a week and a half ago and I remember distinctly thinking, “Okay, birds do this, bees to this—WHY IS THIS SO DIFFICULT TO FIGURE OUT???”  Guess that’s the curse of two older virgins going at it for the first time.

kmatter
wrote on June 19 2009 @ 08:12 am: [report]

i lost mine when i was 17… it was both of our first time, and i was kinda nervous and a little bit excited. my entire family had gone out of town that weekend, but i had to stay home because i had to work. and i called my bf and asked him to come stay the night… and i remember thinking, after the first time, cuz the first time hurt a little bit, that this was just a LOT of fun… and i was glad that my first time wasn’t just a quickie and it was with a guy i really cared about, cuz we’d been dating for a year and a half at that point in time… and yeah… it just keeps getting better

Queen Frostine
wrote on June 19 2009 @ 08:43 am: [report]

I was sixteen, my boyfriend and I had been trying to hold off for almost a year. It was getting impossible and frustrating. So one night, while heavy petting, we both felt like we were going to go insane if we had to zip back up and go home to another cold shower. So we just went for it.

At first it was shock, the sharpness and the stinging. I dug my fingernails into his shoulders and took deep breaths. Then when I realized that it was finally happening and the adrenaline over rode the pain, which slowly subsided. It felt exciting and hot and crazy. It began to feel good and I felt a huge release of sexual tension. I also remember hoping that the “rhythm method” held up and worrying the parents would come home early (they didn’t). It lasted about fifteen minutes and then we spent the next hour wrapped up in a blanket together. I never noticed any blood. The last thing I remember is going home and wondering if my mother could tell just by looking at me…

Nat
wrote on June 30 2009 @ 05:55 pm: [report]

I guess I was quite lucky. I can remember that I was thinking that it had hurt a lot more than I thought it would, but that I loved him and that he had been really sweet. Also, I was quite glad he was staying over (My mom was away on a trip)

dancerr10
wrote on August 23 2009 @ 06:49 pm: [report]

@Syrupnhoney: that’s so cute! luckyyy

CaitRizz
wrote on August 25 2009 @ 11:45 pm: [report]

I can’t believe he doesn’t have sheets….I can’t believe I’m doing this with a hot Spanish stranger…..And I’m drunk….it doesn’t feel great..wait yes it does, it kinda does—oh, we’re done?

ciao
wrote on September 1 2009 @ 10:39 pm: [report]

I was 13… he was a couple years older and more experienced and it was pretty ouchh. About 10 minutes later, after alot of pain and thinking “when will this be over?! I thought sex was supposed to be good!” it finally WAS over. However, a couple of days later we did it again and it felt much better. And from there on, the rest is history… typical.

SarahMae
wrote on September 7 2009 @ 09:16 am: [report]

Being a lesbian and attempting to “experiment” with men,
The only thing that was going through my mind was how horrible it was and how insensitive he was being towards me.

what I remember most clearly was when it was over all he said was “Well, that was fun. See ya later.”

My first time with a woman though, was completely different(obviously) lol.. I couldn’t control myself and all i could think was how amazing it was and that I never wanted it to end. :p

bettyboo
wrote on September 7 2009 @ 10:11 am: [report]

bizarrely I was thinking about this earlier today, marveling at how I should remember more about what ought to have been a momentous moment..  I was 15, I’d been seeing him about 9 months and his parents were away, but as for how it felt etc, i have no idea..I seem to have lost all emotional connection to those moments as part of healing from the mess that relationship eventually became which is a shame as i know that at the time i was happy and in love and I’m sure at the time i felt good about it but the feelings seem to have got deleted..:O/ All i can remember thinking was that it had potential with a bit of practice and hoping i wouldn’t get pregnant..

Jitterbugs232
wrote on September 23 2009 @ 08:30 pm: [report]

Wasn’t as bad as I thought a little weird feeling. “Wow this is a long time, okay kinda hurts well its not so bad now and than bam its over.Did I get anything no not really well now I can always remember I had lost my vcard on my 21st birthday and even have a theme song for it (birthday sex)..”

rosin
wrote on November 16 2009 @ 07:50 pm: [report]

I really hadn’t planned on having sex that night… I was 23, had really just started dating this guy. He’d been deployed for the last couple of months, but we’d emailed often and I really liked him. Plus, he was a great kisser. We were making out, heavily, after a little jacuzzi action (and a little alcohol), and I realized that I really wanted to jump his bones. I let him know I was a virgin, and I could tell that it threw him a little (I guess I didn’t throw off virgin vibes, whatever that means:), but he was really smooth. He was older, and knew what he was doing, and although it definitely hurt, it also felt really good, and was a lot of fun. I know that sex can be awkward and a little funny, but all I remember thinking was, “Wow. This is great. Ow, but this is great.” I couldn’t have asked for a better first time.

sunara_rayne
wrote on November 17 2009 @ 03:14 pm: [report]

Well, considering the first two times we tried (on two separate occassions) we never actually “did” it…by the third time when it didn’t hurt anymore, absolutely nothing was accomplished other than the fact that it didn’t hurt anymore. And, being a two-pump-chump, it was over in less than fifteen seconds. I also didn’t bleed at all any of those times.

First thoughts:

Can’t believe I just did that here of all places…great, now my first memories will be attached to that rickety old couch. Gross. He didn’t even really look at me the whole time. I should have waited.