What To Do If He Doesn’t Believe In Marriage

divegirl
wrote on June 5 2009 @ 03:11 am: [report]

Personally I think if he doesn’t believe in marriage and you do, then he’s not the one for you.  Next thing you know, you’ll want kids and he won’t.  A recipe for disaster (and a lot of wasted time) down the road.  (Not that there’s anything wrong with not wanting kids…)

bogart4017
wrote on June 5 2009 @ 09:06 am: [report]

Agree with divegirl. You’re just wasting YOUR time messing with the fellas that don’t have that kind of future in mind. You are liable to grow old waiting for him to change. Throw him back. By the time he realizes his mistake you will have moved on. I’ve seen it happen too many times.

Lynn
wrote on June 5 2009 @ 01:12 pm: [report]

I’m with the previous commenters. If a guy doesn’t believe in marriage, that’s fine for him, but he’s not the guy for me. I think that, in general, the people who want to get married see marriage as a top priority. I wouldn’t stay with someone who I knew would never marry me.

LadyAlys
wrote on June 6 2009 @ 10:41 am: [report]

I think it depends on why he doesn’t want to get married.
If he wants to stay “available” because he’s not sure he
wants to be with you forever, or that he wants to have
the option to be with someone else if he wants to in the
future and feels that marriage would hinder that. Then he really isn’t ready to be in a long term committed relationship, and if you are, then maybe you aren’t meant to be together.  If though, he is just afraid that actually getting married will ruin everything because maybe all the marriages he’s seen have failed. Then maybe over time he’ll come to realize that not all marriages are that way, or maybe over time you’ll realize that you don’t have to have a document from the government to know that your love is real and you can be happy together.  Just my opinion.