12 Ways To Compliment A Woman
Posted by: Simcha Whitehill
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9:30AM, Wednesday January 13th 2010
Gifts are nice, but, baby, the best things in life are free. Especially when it comes to your special lady, compliments can go a long way, even longer than giving her a fancy pair of diamond earrings! OK, maybe not that far ... But seriously, making a woman feel wanted, appreciated, and totally gorgeous will make her the kind of happy money just can’t buy. So, save your dough, and try some of this sweet talk.
- Say Thank You: Tell her you couldn’t have done it without her. Whether it’s the birthday party she planned or just a supermarket run, let her know she’s important to you, and you’re grateful.
- Here’s Lookin’ At You: One ex-boyfriend, right before we had our first nakey times, told me I was his ideal-looking woman. I didn’t really believe him, but it was still sexy to hear and it definitely made me feel less inhibited. He did wind up proving he was a man of his word, but it would be indecent of me to tell you how.
- You-nique: When there’s no one else around, and it’s just the two of you talking, tell her you never met a girl like her before. If she thinks you mean it, she’ll turn to mush. Then follow it up with a kiss.
- Ask Her For Opinion/Advice: Whether it’s trouble at the office or a T-shirt purchase, if you ask her opinion she’ll think you care about what she thinks. We ladies love it when you want us for not just the body, but our brains too.
- All In The Family: If you tell a girl you think your family would adore her, you are guaranteed a big smile.
- Arm Candy: Tell her she’s gorgeous on the regular. There’s not a girl who doesn’t want to feel beautiful. If she feels stunning in your eyes, she’ll let you gaze away, even at the parts she’d normally hide.
- Fun, Fun, Fun: Let her know she is the life of the party. Whatever you’re doing is at its maximum fun-ness thanks to her.
- Spoon: If you always hold her when you go to sleep, she’ll soften like butter. Your reward will be morning sex.
- Outfitted: Always compliment what she’s wearing. This won’t just make her feel pretty in the moment, it’ll also help her know what you have an eye for and that you appreciate the way she conveys her personal style.
- Laugh Factory: If you find her jokes funny, and you laugh along at the right parts, she’ll know you get her sense of humor. That’s a sexy meeting of the minds.
- Be Chivalrous: Simple gestures show a gal that you want to give her your all. Sure, these moves might just be a façade when you first start dating, but deep down inside, she’ll know you’re considerate, well-mannered, and want to treat her right.
- Get Personal: Make a list of a few specific things you love about her. Memorize them. Then tell her them naturally, without acknowledging you ever wrote out this list. All those personalized acknowledgments will make her feel more than loved; she’ll feel understood. Just be weary of backhanded compliments like, “Before I met you, I just dated women for their looks. But I like you because you’re smart.” Compliment FAIL.
Tags: dating, love advice, compliments

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abbylyn
wrote on January 13, 2010 @ 4:24 PM
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If my guy ALWAYS spoons me as I'm sleeping, I get claustrophobic and end up shoving him away in my sleep. Personally, I'd rather have a light touch - curled up behind me, with a hand resting on my side or something.
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SueSue
wrote on January 13, 2010 @ 4:34 PM
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That's some kind of power - to know your bf is jerking off to you...damn, girl!
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AnitaBath
wrote on January 13, 2010 @ 4:39 PM
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Mmmmm, spoooooooning.Seriously though, if I hadn't been dating the guy for a while, I would totally not believe most of the things on this list and thought he had ulterior motives. Maybe I'm just suspicious, but I'd just think he was feeding me lines to get in my pants or something.
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Riley
wrote on January 13, 2010 @ 4:42 PM
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I'm going to start using #12 with random women I meet. This will all work out, I'm sure of it.
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CheeeeEEEEse
wrote on January 13, 2010 @ 4:46 PM
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@Riley: Or you'll be dead...either one.
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AnitaBath
wrote on January 13, 2010 @ 4:49 PM
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@Riley: If by "all work out" you mean "result in a restraining order", then of course it will.You have my support though. Let me know how it goes.
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meredith806
wrote on January 13, 2010 @ 4:49 PM
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Anitabath: That's how I am too, I'm overly cautious for a while when I first start dating someone, and don't let them get to me. This drove m current boyfriend insane, as I wouldn't take an compliments seriously lol. i believe him now ;-)As far as the list, pretty good. The one thing that makes me melt into a pile of slush is when It's the middle of the night, we're both already asleep and separated, and I feel him come up and wrap around me. I've never been able to actually sleep while cuddling before(limbs going numb, but for some reason we can both totally pass out together, and comfortably at that. I actually sleep better, very weird.
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Riley
wrote on January 13, 2010 @ 4:54 PM
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I plan on working it into innocuous conversations at crowded bars at first. Hard to get a drink in this place eh? Im going to wrangle myself to you later. What? Oh I sneezed. Thanks.At the very least I will build up a tolerance to pepper spray or get used to stun guns.
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CheeeeEEEEse
wrote on January 13, 2010 @ 4:58 PM
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@Riley: That's the spirit. Always look to the positives.
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Yarn&Glue
wrote on January 13, 2010 @ 5:50 PM
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So, how do I relay this list to my boyfriend?
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MoodyhotDecember
wrote on January 13, 2010 @ 5:55 PM
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i'm sure most guys jerk off to women they find attractive especially when they know theres a chance they could get with her. Doesn't surprise me at all.
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LostInStars
wrote on January 13, 2010 @ 5:57 PM
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@Yarn&Glue;: I'm shameless, when I want my boyfriend to read a Frisky article, I just forward it to him. :D
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Yarn&Glue
wrote on January 13, 2010 @ 6:00 PM
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@LostInStars: I've actually done that before, but it didn't work out too well. He just kinda laughed at me. I doubt he even read the whole thing. Oh well, I'll give it another try. :-P
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vanillalatte
wrote on January 13, 2010 @ 6:33 PM
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I wrote down a list of things I like about my boyfriend and at first I thought it was stupid at first. Writing them down brought me back to a lot of memories of us and it made me realize why I really do love him. He always jokes around teling me I dont know why you love me.. and I would just say oh you know i just do like a stupid girl. Now I see why and I plan on telling him. It really made me appreciate him more and not take him for granted.
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DandelionEyes
wrote on January 13, 2010 @ 8:43 PM
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@Yarn&Glue; I 'accidentally' leave them up on my laptop when I know he'll be using it or walk by.
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lafemmefatal
wrote on January 13, 2010 @ 10:18 PM
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Yeah, this should be on Maxium's website or something.
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notapalindrome
wrote on January 13, 2010 @ 11:31 PM
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I think it's so sad that women feel the need to even compile a list like this. Are men really so dense we need to spell out for them WHAT MAKES US HAPPY and then pound them over the head with it? I refuse to believe that. I was always under the impression that most men (though this could be me living in my own little utopia where men always smell good and never leave toothpaste clumps in the sink and always use whom and who correctly) were perfectly aware of how to make us happy or, conversely, how to piss us off...they just often refuse to implement these tactics. If I'm wrong, then I'll be the first to forward this list to every man I know, but I'd wager that most men who read this will finish it and be all, duh, I've known these things for years. And THAT, my friends, is how to spot a good man: he makes you happy without you having to explain to him HOW.
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notapalindrome
wrote on January 13, 2010 @ 11:32 PM
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Oh, also...spooning? Count me out. Almost always. It's way overrated, in my opinion.
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ScarlettTrinity
wrote on January 14, 2010 @ 6:25 AM
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@ notapalindrome- Hear hear!These are great for heart melting. I used to get all of the above from my ex. Especially 2, 3, 5, 6, and 12 (and maybe 13 too). They were so great to hear especially since it was unexpected. It made me uncomfortable at first though because I thought he just wanted in my pants but they were genuine at the time with no ulterior motives (or so I like to think). I made a list of all of them because I couldn't bring myself to get rid of them and I hope to hear them again some day. Ah, memories.
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HermannM
wrote on January 14, 2010 @ 8:36 PM
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I'm in line with notapalindrome on the value of this list. A few months ago, I commented that men don't know how to talk to women (http://tinyurl.com/y8a5rle) and vice versa. This article confirms that notion and steers men & women towards a pavlovian dynamic for getting along. Promoting a desired behavior is ultimately self-defeating in the long term. Shouldn't the point be to promote the underlying values that lead to successful long term relationships?
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Mr. Pickles
wrote on January 14, 2010 @ 10:15 PM
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Guys, don't do any of this if you date a hot girl. They've heard it all. Treat em like shit and they'll come begging back for more!
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cooldad
wrote on January 14, 2010 @ 11:51 PM
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If you love someone, these come naturally. Not liking spooning?! When I travel on business, I have order extra pillows to construct a new wife to spoon with. Can't fall asleep without it.
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AnitaBath
wrote on January 14, 2010 @ 11:53 PM
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@cooldad: I'd suggest investing in a body pillow (they're amaaazing), but that might be hard to bring along for business.
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Mr. Pickles
wrote on January 15, 2010 @ 12:17 AM
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@cooldad. Cmon, don't fuck it up for us all by saying things like that. You'll give all the women on this site false hope.
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sunrise
wrote on January 15, 2010 @ 12:26 AM
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I agree, if a man really cares abut a woman, then hopefully a lot of these things will come naturally. However, this would probably come in handy for a guy who is new to relationships, or maybe feels a little bit awkward or insecure, or isn't used to showing emotions.It's also just nice to read as a girl; it gives me the warm and fuzzies to think of a guy I like doing these for me :). It also reminds me to keep in mind what I need in terms of emotional reassurance, and what I don't want to do without.One thing to keep in mind, guys: PLEASE don't just use lists like this to get a girl to warm up to you, unless you really mean them and care about her... if you don't, then it just leads to her thinking you like her a lot more than you do, and being confused and hurt when you don't live up to her expectations, treat her like a jerk, dump her, etc.
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