Tufts University To Outlaw Sexiling Roommates
Posted by: Wendy Atterberry
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11:30AM, Tuesday September 29th 2009
Tufts University just passed a new rule I wish my alma mater had passed when I was still a student: no sex in the dorms when a roommate is present. Anticipating what the students call “sexile” — or exiling your roommate when you want to get busy — the college also made a rule that sexual activity can not interfere with a roommate’s privacy, study habits or sleep. Wait, isn’t having your privacy, study habits and sleep interfered with sort of a rite of passage in college? Anyway, just how they plan to enforce these rules is anyone’s guess. Clip above. [via CNN]
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CheeeeEEEEse
wrote on September 29 2009 @ 10:50 am: [report]
Unenforceable, as well as being easily deniable. Technically they are adults and deserve some modicum of privacy.
QTGirl
wrote on September 29 2009 @ 10:51 am: [report]
I was an RA at Tufts back in the day. It is a huge roomie problem at most schools. There isn’t any logical non-humiliating way to enforce this.
bumbler
wrote on September 29 2009 @ 10:54 am: [report]
I guess it would have to be based on student complaints but unless the RAs catch them in the act it could quickly devolve into she said/she said or he said/he said quagmires.
_jsw_
wrote on September 29 2009 @ 11:11 am: [report]
I think the only real way to enforce this rule and to provide sufficient evidence would be to install webcams in each room, monitored by a team of volunteers just like the <a >Border Patrol</a> uses.
That would likely force college sex back to the cars and bathroom stalls where it belongs.
_jsw_
wrote on September 29 2009 @ 11:13 am: [report]
Let’s try that link again: Border Patrol.
Not that it really matters, even if it doesn’t work this time. Google “border patrol webcam”.
casablancas
wrote on September 29 2009 @ 11:30 am: [report]
Thank god I don’t go to Tufts. Maybe it’s different there, but here it’s really not that big of a deal to be sexiled. And if it does become a problem, roommates just work it out themselves. Having our roomie contracts helps in a conflict, too. Eh.
tabby
wrote on September 29 2009 @ 11:36 am: [report]
While I would have been grossed out if my roommate had sex in our bunk beds while I was in it, I don’t that that kind of rude behavior is the norm. As for having to be sexiled every now and then, well, that is just a part of living in a dorm. Or a tiny apartment. So long as there is some sort of code item on the door or a planned sexile before hand, who cares?
Katrina
wrote on September 29 2009 @ 12:12 pm: [report]
I would not, if I had a roomie (I’m an RA so I’m forced to be solo), mind if she asked me earlier in the day to be absent later. I think it’s just a courtesy thing - give the roomie a bit of a heads-up though. Last year I came back to my room and couldn’t figure out why my key wouldn’t work. It was because my roommate’s half-naked boyfriend was holding the lock on the other side to prevent me from busting in on their fun XD
alleigh25
wrote on September 29 2009 @ 12:42 pm: [report]
My roommate last year was excited about the prospect of being sexiled (I didn’t really care). As long as your roomie knows to expect it, and isn’t sexiling you all the time, I don’t really think it’s that big of a deal. I know sometimes the couches in the lounge were all taken up by girls who’d been sexiled and had nowhere else to sleep (and one guy, who seemed to be the only guy in the hall who got routinely sexiled), and if I were them I’d probably get a bit annoyed. But roommate agreements and RAs are there for a reason, if it becomes a problem.
How do they actually expect to enforce this rule? It doesn’t really seem doable.
Arsenic
wrote on September 29 2009 @ 01:37 pm: [report]
This is ridiculous. People will just start having more sex in public, and as my mom lives a block from tufts and walks our dogs up there…
Arsenic
wrote on September 29 2009 @ 01:39 pm: [report]
Ohhh… ok, I get it now… whoops, nevermind.
bogart4017
wrote on September 29 2009 @ 01:53 pm: [report]
Sounds like i missed something by renting an apartment when i was in college.I thought hallways in coed colleges were routinely monitored?
fallonthecity
wrote on September 29 2009 @ 05:13 pm: [report]
Thank god I never had to share a bedroom in a dorm…
alleigh25
wrote on September 30 2009 @ 03:07 pm: [report]
@bogart4017—I don’t know about any other schools…mine’s a liberal arts school, with a pretty good emphasis on the ‘liberal.’ But the few coed halls we have aren’t “monitored” at all, except that they have an RA at the end of the hall like every other hall does. Same for coed buildings without coed halls. I’m not entirely sure what you mean by monitored, exactly, but how it works here is…you do what you want, the RA is there if anyone complains (which very rarely happens). There were enough overnight guests in my hall last year that I can definitely attest to the fact that nobody really cared (though I don’t know if that’s the case anywhere else).