Top Ten Ways Women Take Things Up A Notch
Posted by: Wendy Atterberry
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relationships
1:00PM, Monday March 9th 2009
Ask Men U.K. had an interesting article recently on the top ten ways a guy could take a relationship “down a notch” when he doesn’t want to necessarily end it — or, you know, give up regular sex — but just “slow things down a little.” AM tells its readers, “The trick is cooling things down without turning her off” and then gives ten ways to navigate such a “delicate situation.” They suggest having group dates (10), which will makes things feel “less like you’re in a relationship and more like you’re ‘just hanging out,’” not to introduce her to any of your friends (9) , call less often (7), do it-‘n-dash (2), go on vacation without her (1), and just act like an overall jerk (4). Call me crazy, but if a guy really wants is a friends-with-benefits relationship, why not just ask for one? Why go to the big expense of flying to Phoenix alone for the weekend just to prove some point when a conversation would have the same effect? Anyway, we ladies have a few “tricks” of our own. After the jump, the top ten ways we “creatively” take things “up a notch.”
1. Leave a box of tampons in your bathroom
2. Bake a cake for your birthday
3. Change our Facebook status to “in a relationship”
4. Invite you and another couple over for “game night”
5. Give you a nickname on our blog
6. Ask you to go car shopping with us
7. Become Facebook friends with your sister
8. Take you to our cousin’s wedding
9. Buy you a hat from Urban Outfitters
10. Wear one of your shirts to bed
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hawaiianpeach
wrote on March 9 2009 @ 01:18 pm: [report]
I am guilty of three of those on the list! Great minds…
EastCoastMale
wrote on March 9 2009 @ 01:29 pm: [report]
ugh…goodness. The UK article was for total POC men (probably the same type that believe in “neg-ing” and the crock that comes along with it) and yes, if they just want sex and arent into a woman on a relationship level just talk it out, dont resort to such BS. Thankfully this post is meant in good fun as well, I know I would stand up like a member of the 300 against any of these signs if they were unwanted =)
Humble Bee
wrote on March 9 2009 @ 01:31 pm: [report]
I asked my ex for a friends with benefits relationship only, but I think it might be too soon. He is still emotionally attached to me, while I just miss his penis. I guess when one person is still emotionally “there” a friends only base is hard to achieve. I wanted to have sex on saturday so I asked him if we could “go out”; he automatically wanted to take me to dinner and whatnot, i just told him, “umm let’s just go to your house…” so I can do it-‘n-dash. lol. Why is it so easy for guys to break things off and ask for friends with benefits, but when women try to do it, guys want a relationship, want you all for themselves or it just seems wrong. Like if women shouldn’t be asking for sex only.
That list of taking things up a notch just seems like a clingy girl to me, except for the cousin’s wedding and the car shopping. The rest is just a girl trying to “claim” her man, but I see your point and I can see those tricks working.
becktasm
wrote on March 9 2009 @ 01:47 pm: [report]
Hahaha my boyfriend did all of those ‘take it up a notch” things with me. Except for the tampons in my bathroom (obv, though he did leave beer in my fridge) and wearing my shirt to bed. Also, replace “cousin’s wedding” with “fraternity alumni formal”. Po-tay-to, po-tah-to.
EastCoastMale
wrote on March 9 2009 @ 01:57 pm: [report]
Humble
I dont know that many guys personally who do a FWB with an EX at least. An FWB arrangement is easier to setup from the get go in theory, still it is hard to keep it that way for an infinite amount of time. Personally, if I am broken up with someone I see no need to keep them as a friend. Once you know someone a certain way, even if they are caring and supportive you cant look at them as just a friend as the same way you could if you hadnt been together.
Sassyfrass
wrote on March 9 2009 @ 04:28 pm: [report]
#9 How did you know!?! I thought that was such a sly, semingly non-committal gift. I almost bought one for this jerk I am hopelessly attracted to. That is, until I saw an entire Facebook album of him with some fat chick.
hellosunrise
wrote on March 9 2009 @ 10:47 pm: [report]
i baked a cake for my boyfriend for his birthday one year. he thought it was cute :/
Lynn
wrote on March 10 2009 @ 08:44 am: [report]
I baked a cake for my BF before we even started dating! Of course, I made it his favorite flavor so he’d know how awesome I am and want to bang me
EastCoastMale
wrote on March 10 2009 @ 08:58 am: [report]
Lynn
I am pleasantly surprised to hear a woman talk openly about alterior baking motives. Guess he got to have his cake and eat it too =)
Lynn
wrote on March 10 2009 @ 02:01 pm: [report]
He did! it worked! It was all baking and banging for many months before we actually started *dating*
EastCoastMale
wrote on March 12 2009 @ 07:59 am: [report]
hey nothing wrong with that..might even leave a little icing on your lips from the baking for use later =)